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15 Relationship Lessons That Ted Mosby Taught Us

15 Relationship Lessons That Ted Mosby Taught Us

Oh, Ted Mosby. From stolen blue French horns to bad shellfish puns, you have taught us so much. How I Met Your Mother may have ended this year (sad face), but the good ol’ Ted’s lessons will always stick with me.

After all, Ted took years to find “The One,” and often made some humorous mistakes along the way. But he never let his belief in love fade, and he finally found the one who loved him for the punny, slightly stuck-up, lovable grammar nazi he is.

Here’s what Schmosby taught us about love.

1. Don’t judge your loved ones based on their past.

Because this was college Ted:

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    2. After all, no matter where we are in life, everyone has one of those moments sometimes…

    …you know, the “two F” moments.

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      3. And sometimes, those moments can make us lose sight of who we are for a second.

      Or just make us into a flaky, somewhat frightening creature, like the authoritative-cool-guy professor.

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        4. But we all make mistakes.

        Because sometimes, they’re necessary.

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          5. And after those mistakes, we might doubt our ability to find love.

          And we may or may not react like this:

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            6. What we don’t realize at the time is that those moments can often lead us to the best things in life.

            If Ted hadn’t hit a major breaking point, Marshall never would have told Ted that he doesn’t really have a bacon allergy, and then he never would have tried bacon.

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              Enough said.

              7. And sometimes, what we think is an unbearable moment in our life can actually become something we are grateful for in the future.

              Originally, Ted would not walk 500 miles…

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                But then…

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                  8. But seriously, a lot of Ted’s mistakes have taught us a lot…like when you should say “I love you.”

                  For example, saying it on the night after you meet someone…

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                    …may lead to this reaction:

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                      9. But he also taught us to love deeply and without fear.

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                        10. Because it’s better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.

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                          11. But never let that love turn you into a doormat.

                          If someone totally screws you over, tell them off, Ted-style:

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                            Burn.

                            12. Because after all, you’ve got a lot to offer, and you shouldn’t be afraid to say it.

                            When someone says, “Everyone thinks they’re a good kisser,” you say:

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                              13. You deserve someone who appreciates you for who you are.

                              A perfect person doesn’t exist. A perfect person for you…that’s a different story.

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                                (And Ted has plenty of quirks.)

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                                  14. And that person will understand you through and through.

                                  That person will know to read between the lines.

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                                    …in fact, they may read between the lines too much.

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                                      15. Hold out until you find your lobster.

                                      And when you do find your Lebenslangerschicksalsschatz, celebrate.**

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                                        **I am probably the only supporter of the original HIMYM ending, but for those of you who aren’t, you’re welcome. ;)

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                                        13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do

                                        13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do

                                        Mentally strong people have healthy habits. They manage their emotions, thoughts, and behaviors in ways that set them up for success in life.

                                        Take a look at these 13 things that mentally strong people don’t do so that you too can become mentally stronger.

                                        1. They Don’t Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves

                                        Mentally strong people don’t sit around feeling sorry about their circumstances or how others have treated them. Instead, they take responsibility for their role in life and understand that life isn’t always easy or fair.

                                        2. They Don’t Give Away Their Power

                                        They don’t allow others to control them, and they don’t give someone else power over them. They don’t say things like, “My boss makes me feel bad,” because they understand that they are in control over their own emotions and they have a choice in how they respond.

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                                        3. They Don’t Shy Away from Change

                                        Mentally strong people don’t try to avoid change. Instead, they welcome positive change and are willing to be flexible. They understand that change is inevitable and believe in their abilities to adapt.

                                        4. They Don’t Waste Energy on Things They Can’t Control

                                        You won’t hear a mentally strong person complaining over lost luggage or traffic jams. Instead, they focus on what they can control in their lives. They recognize that sometimes, the only thing they can control is their attitude.

                                        5. They Don’t Worry About Pleasing Everyone

                                        Mentally strong people recognize that they don’t need to please everyone all the time. They’re not afraid to say no or speak up when necessary. They strive to be kind and fair, but can handle other people being upset if they didn’t make them happy.

                                        6. They Don’t Fear Taking Calculated Risks

                                        They don’t take reckless or foolish risks, but don’t mind taking calculated risks. Mentally strong people spend time weighing the risks and benefits before making a big decision, and they’re fully informed of the potential downsides before they take action.

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                                        7. They Don’t Dwell on the Past

                                        Mentally strong people don’t waste time dwelling on the past and wishing things could be different. They acknowledge their past and can say what they’ve learned from it.

                                        However, they don’t constantly relive bad experiences or fantasize about the glory days. Instead, they live for the present and plan for the future.

                                        8. They Don’t Make the Same Mistakes Over and Over

                                        Mentally strong people accept responsibility for their behavior and learn from their past mistakes. As a result, they don’t keep repeating those mistakes over and over. Instead, they move on and make better decisions in the future.

                                        9. They Don’t Resent Other People’s Success

                                        Mentally strong people can appreciate and celebrate other people’s success in life. They don’t grow jealous or feel cheated when others surpass them. Instead, they recognize that success comes with hard work, and they are willing to work hard for their own chance at success.

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                                        10. They Don’t Give Up After the First Failure

                                        Mentally strong people don’t view failure as a reason to give up. Instead, they use failure as an opportunity to grow and improve. They are willing to keep trying until they get it right.

                                        11. They Don’t Fear Alone Time

                                        Mentally strong people can tolerate being alone and they don’t fear silence. They aren’t afraid to be alone with their thoughts and they can use downtime to be productive.

                                        They enjoy their own company and aren’t dependent on others for companionship and entertainment all the time but instead can be happy alone.

                                        12. They Don’t Feel the World Owes Them Anything

                                        Mentally strong people don’t feel entitled to things in life. They weren’t born with a mentality that others would take care of them or that the world must give them something. Instead, they look for opportunities based on their own merits.

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                                        13. They Don’t Expect Immediate Results

                                        Whether they are working on improving their health or getting a new business off the ground, mentally strong people don’t expect immediate results. Instead, they apply their skills and time to the best of their ability and understand that real change takes time.

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