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15 Relationship Lessons That Ted Mosby Taught Us

15 Relationship Lessons That Ted Mosby Taught Us

Oh, Ted Mosby. From stolen blue French horns to bad shellfish puns, you have taught us so much. How I Met Your Mother may have ended this year (sad face), but the good ol’ Ted’s lessons will always stick with me.

After all, Ted took years to find “The One,” and often made some humorous mistakes along the way. But he never let his belief in love fade, and he finally found the one who loved him for the punny, slightly stuck-up, lovable grammar nazi he is.

Here’s what Schmosby taught us about love.

1. Don’t judge your loved ones based on their past.

Because this was college Ted:

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    2. After all, no matter where we are in life, everyone has one of those moments sometimes…

    …you know, the “two F” moments.

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      3. And sometimes, those moments can make us lose sight of who we are for a second.

      Or just make us into a flaky, somewhat frightening creature, like the authoritative-cool-guy professor.

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        4. But we all make mistakes.

        Because sometimes, they’re necessary.

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          5. And after those mistakes, we might doubt our ability to find love.

          And we may or may not react like this:

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            6. What we don’t realize at the time is that those moments can often lead us to the best things in life.

            If Ted hadn’t hit a major breaking point, Marshall never would have told Ted that he doesn’t really have a bacon allergy, and then he never would have tried bacon.

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              Enough said.

              7. And sometimes, what we think is an unbearable moment in our life can actually become something we are grateful for in the future.

              Originally, Ted would not walk 500 miles…

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                But then…

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                  8. But seriously, a lot of Ted’s mistakes have taught us a lot…like when you should say “I love you.”

                  For example, saying it on the night after you meet someone…

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                    …may lead to this reaction:

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                      9. But he also taught us to love deeply and without fear.

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                        10. Because it’s better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.

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                          11. But never let that love turn you into a doormat.

                          If someone totally screws you over, tell them off, Ted-style:

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                            Burn.

                            12. Because after all, you’ve got a lot to offer, and you shouldn’t be afraid to say it.

                            When someone says, “Everyone thinks they’re a good kisser,” you say:

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                              13. You deserve someone who appreciates you for who you are.

                              A perfect person doesn’t exist. A perfect person for you…that’s a different story.

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                                (And Ted has plenty of quirks.)

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                                  14. And that person will understand you through and through.

                                  That person will know to read between the lines.

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                                    …in fact, they may read between the lines too much.

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                                      15. Hold out until you find your lobster.

                                      And when you do find your Lebenslangerschicksalsschatz, celebrate.**

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                                        **I am probably the only supporter of the original HIMYM ending, but for those of you who aren’t, you’re welcome. ;)

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                                        Last Updated on August 20, 2018

                                        Quit Your Job If You Don’t Like It, No Matter What

                                        Quit Your Job If You Don’t Like It, No Matter What

                                        Do you know that feeling? The one where you have to wake up to go to your boring 9-5 job to work with the same boring colleagues who don’t appreciate what you do.

                                        I do, and that’s why I’ve decided to quit my job and follow my passion. This, however, requires a solid plan and some guts.

                                        The one who perseveres doesn’t always win. Sometimes life has more to offer when you quit your current job. Yes, I know. It’s overwhelming and scary.

                                        People who quit are often seen as ‘losers’. They say: “You should finish what you’ve started”.

                                        I know like no other that quitting your job can be very stressful. A dozen questions come up when you’re thinking about quitting your job, most starting with: What if?

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                                        “What if I don’t find a job I love and regret quitting my current job?”
                                        “What if I can’t find another job and I get in debt because I can’t pay my bills?”
                                        “What if my family and friends judge me and disapprove of the decisions I make?”
                                        “What if I quit my job to pursue my dream, but I fail?

                                        After all, if you admit to the truth of your surroundings, you’re forced to acknowledge that you’ve made a wrong decision by choosing your current job. But don’t forget that quitting certain things in life can be the path to your success!

                                        One of my favorite quotes by Henry Ford:

                                        If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got.

                                        Everything takes energy

                                        Everything you do in life takes energy. It takes energy to participate in your weekly activities. It takes energy to commute to work every day. It takes energy to organize your sister’s big wedding.

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                                        Each of the responsibilities we have take a little bit of our energy. We only have a certain amount of energy a day, so we have to spend it wisely.  Same goes for our time. The only things we can’t buy in this world are time and energy. Yes, you could buy an energy drink, but will it feel the same as eight hours of sleep? Will it be as healthy?

                                        The more stress there is in your life, the less focus you have. This will weaken your results.

                                        Find something that is worth doing

                                        Do you have to quit every time the going gets touch? Absolutely not! You should quit when you’ve put everything you’ve got into something, but don’t see a bright future in it.

                                        When you do something you love and that has purpose in your life, you should push through and give everything you have.

                                        I find star athletes very inspiring. They don’t quit till they step on that stage to receive their hard earned gold medal. From the start, they know how much work its going to take and what they have to sacrifice.

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                                        When you do something you’re really passionate about, you’re not in a downward spiral. Before you even start you can already see the finish line. The more focus you have for something, the faster you’ll reach the finish.

                                        It is definitely possible to spend your valuable time on something you love and earn money doing it. You just have to find out how — by doing enough research.

                                        Other excuses I often hear are:

                                        “But I have my wife and kids, who is going to pay the bills?”
                                        “I don’t have time for that, I’m too busy with… stuff” (Like watching TV for 2 hours every day.)
                                        “At least I get the same paycheck every month if I work for a boss.”
                                        “Quitting my job is too much risk with this crisis.”

                                        I understand those points. But if you’ve never tried it, you’ll never know how it could be. The fear of failure keeps people from stepping out of their comfort zone.

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                                        I’ve heard many people say, “I work to let my children make their dream come true”. I think they should rephrase that sentence to: “I pursue my dreams — to inspire and show my children anything is possible.” 

                                        Conclusion

                                        Think carefully about what you spend your time on. Don’t waste it on things that don’t brighten your future. Instead, search for opportunities. And come up with a solid plan before you take any impulsive actions.

                                        Only good things happen outside of your comfort zone.

                                        Do you dare to quit your job for more success in life?

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