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15 Relationship Lessons That Ted Mosby Taught Us

15 Relationship Lessons That Ted Mosby Taught Us

Oh, Ted Mosby. From stolen blue French horns to bad shellfish puns, you have taught us so much. How I Met Your Mother may have ended this year (sad face), but the good ol’ Ted’s lessons will always stick with me.

After all, Ted took years to find “The One,” and often made some humorous mistakes along the way. But he never let his belief in love fade, and he finally found the one who loved him for the punny, slightly stuck-up, lovable grammar nazi he is.

Here’s what Schmosby taught us about love.

1. Don’t judge your loved ones based on their past.

Because this was college Ted:

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    2. After all, no matter where we are in life, everyone has one of those moments sometimes…

    …you know, the “two F” moments.

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      3. And sometimes, those moments can make us lose sight of who we are for a second.

      Or just make us into a flaky, somewhat frightening creature, like the authoritative-cool-guy professor.

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        4. But we all make mistakes.

        Because sometimes, they’re necessary.

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          5. And after those mistakes, we might doubt our ability to find love.

          And we may or may not react like this:

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            6. What we don’t realize at the time is that those moments can often lead us to the best things in life.

            If Ted hadn’t hit a major breaking point, Marshall never would have told Ted that he doesn’t really have a bacon allergy, and then he never would have tried bacon.

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              Enough said.

              7. And sometimes, what we think is an unbearable moment in our life can actually become something we are grateful for in the future.

              Originally, Ted would not walk 500 miles…

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                But then…

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                  8. But seriously, a lot of Ted’s mistakes have taught us a lot…like when you should say “I love you.”

                  For example, saying it on the night after you meet someone…

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                    …may lead to this reaction:

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                      9. But he also taught us to love deeply and without fear.

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                        10. Because it’s better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all.

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                          11. But never let that love turn you into a doormat.

                          If someone totally screws you over, tell them off, Ted-style:

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                            Burn.

                            12. Because after all, you’ve got a lot to offer, and you shouldn’t be afraid to say it.

                            When someone says, “Everyone thinks they’re a good kisser,” you say:

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                              13. You deserve someone who appreciates you for who you are.

                              A perfect person doesn’t exist. A perfect person for you…that’s a different story.

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                                (And Ted has plenty of quirks.)

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                                  14. And that person will understand you through and through.

                                  That person will know to read between the lines.

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                                    …in fact, they may read between the lines too much.

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                                      15. Hold out until you find your lobster.

                                      And when you do find your Lebenslangerschicksalsschatz, celebrate.**

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                                        **I am probably the only supporter of the original HIMYM ending, but for those of you who aren’t, you’re welcome. ;)

                                        Featured photo credit: m__ervi via flickr.com

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                                        Last Updated on October 17, 2019

                                        How to Spend More Quality Time with Your Partner

                                        How to Spend More Quality Time with Your Partner

                                        You see your partner every single day. They are the first person you talk to in the morning and the last person you kiss goodnight.

                                        But does seeing each other day in and day out equal a healthy relationship? Not necessarily.

                                        Spending quality time with your partner is the best way to ensure your relationship stays healthy and strong. This means going above and beyond sitting together while you watch Netflix or going out for the occasional dinner. You deserve more from your relationship – and so does your spouse!

                                        What does quality time mean? It means spending time with your spouse without interruption. It’s a chance for you to come together and talk. Communication will build emotional intimacy and trust.

                                        Quality time is also about expressing love in a physical way. Not sex, necessarily (but that’s great, too!) but through hand-holding, cuddling, caressing, and tickling. Studies show that these displays of affection will boost partner satisfaction.[1]

                                        So how do you spend quality time with your partner? Here are 13 relationship tips on making the most out of your time with your partner.

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                                        1. Recognize the Signs

                                        If you want a healthy relationship, you have to learn how to recognize the signs that you need to spend more quality time together.

                                        Some telltale signs include:

                                        • You’re always on your phones.
                                        • You value friendships or hobbies over quality time with your spouse.
                                        • You aren’t together during important events.
                                        • You are arguing more often or lack connection.
                                        • You don’t make plans or date nights.
                                        • You’re not happy.

                                        If you are experiencing any of these relationship symptoms, know that quality time together can reverse the negative effects of the signs above.

                                        2. Try New Things Together

                                        Have you ever wanted to learn how to play an instrument or speak another language? How about skydive or ballroom dance?

                                        Instead of viewing these as solo hobbies and interests, why not involve your partner?

                                        Trying new activities together builds healthy relationships because it encourages spouses to rely on one another for emotional and physical support.

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                                        Shared hobbies also promote marital friendship, and the Journal of Happiness Studies found that marital satisfaction was twice as high for couples who viewed each other as best friends.[2]

                                        3. Schedule in Tech-Free Time

                                        Your phone is a great way to listen to music, watch videos, and keep up-to-date with friends and family. But is your phone good for your relationship?

                                        Many couples phone snub, or ‘phub’, one another. Studies show that phubbing can lower relationship satisfaction and increase one’s chances of depression.[3]

                                        Reduce those chances by removing distractions when spending quality time together and showing your partner they have your full attention.

                                        4. Hit the Gym as a Couple

                                        One way you can spend more time together as a couple is by becoming workout partners. Studies show that couples are more likely to stay with their exercise routine if they work out together.[4] Couples also work out harder than they would solo. One study found that 95 percent of couples who work out together maintained weight loss compares to the 66 percent of singles who did.[5]

                                        Join a gym, do at-home couples’ workouts, try couples yoga, hit the hiking trails, or get your bikes out. No matter which way you choose to exercise, these healthy activities can promote a healthy relationship.

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                                        5. Cook Meals Together

                                        Pop open a bottle of wine or put some romantic music on while you get busy – in the kitchen, of course!

                                        One of the best relationship tips for spending quality time together when you both have busy schedules is to cook meals together.[6]

                                        Spice things up and try and prepare a four-course meal or a fancy French dish together. Not only is this a fun way to spend your time together, but it also promotes teamwork.

                                        If all goes well, you’ll have a romantic date night meal at home that you prepared with your four hands. And if the food didn’t turn out the way you’d hoped, you are guaranteed to have a laugh and create new memories together.

                                        6. Have a Regular Date Night

                                        Couples experience a greater sense of happiness and less stress when they are spending quality time together.[7] One of the biggest relationship tips for a healthy partnership is to include a date night in your weekly routine.

                                        The National Marriage Project found that having a weekly date night can make your relationship seem more exciting and helps prevent relationship boredom.[8] It also lowers the probability of divorce, improves your sex life, and increases healthy communication.

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                                        Some great ideas for what to do on your date night include:

                                        • Have a movie marathon – Gather up your favorite flicks and cuddle up on the couch.
                                        • Play games together – Cards, board games, video games, and other creative outlets are a fun way to spend quality time together.
                                        • Recreate your first date – Go back to that restaurant and order the same meal you did when you first got together. You can spice up your evening by pretending you’re strangers meeting for the first time and see how sexy the night gets.
                                        • Plan a weekend getaway – There’s nothing better than traveling with the one you love.
                                        • Dinner and a movie – A classic!
                                        • Try a new restaurant – Make it your mission to rate and try all of the Mexican restaurants/Irish pubs/Italian trattorias in your area.
                                        • Have a long sex session – Intimacy promotes the release of the oxytocin hormone which is responsible for a myriad of great feelings.[9]

                                        Here’re even more date night ideas for your reference: 50 Unique and Really Fun Date Ideas for Couples

                                        Final Thoughts

                                        The benefits of spending quality time together are endless. Here are just some of the ways it can contribute to a healthy relationship:

                                        • Improves emotional and physical intimacy
                                        • Lowers divorce rates
                                        • Improves communication
                                        • Reduces marital boredom
                                        • Bonds couples closer
                                        • Improves friendship
                                        • Boosts health
                                        • Reduces stress

                                        These are all excellent reasons to start making date night a regular part of your week.

                                        It’s easy to have a healthy relationship when you set aside dedicated time to share with your spouse. Try new things together, make your spouse your workout buddy, and look for innovative ways to be close and connected.

                                        These relationship tips will bring great benefits to your marriage.

                                        Featured photo credit: Allen Taylor via unsplash.com

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