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15 Reasons You Should Never Lose Your Childhood Best Friends

15 Reasons You Should Never Lose Your Childhood Best Friends

Keeping in touch with your childhood best friends can be a wonderful decision. Not only will you have someone who understands you better than most, you’ll have forged a very special relationship. Childhood best friends have a unique perspective on your life, and understand you in special ways. Your favorite games and pranks may be long gone, but your mutual trust and support remains. It’s time to dust off your pixelated video games, and grab your ball and bat—there are some things about you only childhood best friends will understand.

They make us keep a childlike trust

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    Nothing is quite as pure as childhood trust. Childhood best friends teach us how important a genuine friendship is.

    They ignored your awkward stage

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      Childhood best friends inherently know how important it is to ignore awkward qualities. After all, they helped you through those tricky preteen years.

      They know your family

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        Childhood best friends also know your quirks and struggles better than anyone, since they’ve spent a lot of time with your family.

        They know your hometown

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          Likewise, your childhood best friends are likely from the same hometown. This means they’ve seen how far you’ve come, so you don’t have to explain it.

          They support you no matter what

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            Childhood best friends understand how to be supportive, since they saw you through some of your most turbulent years.

            They push you to be better

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              At the same time, however, childhood best friends always know when we need a little push to be our best.

              They get you through challenges

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                Childhood best friends also understand what it takes to overcome some of the toughest challenges in life. From awkward moments to heartbreaks, your childhood best friends are there through it all.

                They’ve shared true bonding experiences with you

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                  This means your childhood best friends have bonds with you that other people will likely never come close to.

                  You never need to give them a summary of your life

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                    You never need to waste time explaining your life, because your childhood best friend lived it, too.

                    They never make you feel embarrassed

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                      And since they’ve been there through it all, they know how to not embarrass you. You’ve done enough of that on your own.

                      They love your quirks

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                        Though some people might be put off by your eccentricities, the true childhood best friend loves them.

                        Their house is your house

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                          Childhood best friends know they can walk in without knocking, and you know you can do the same at your place.

                          They hate the same people

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                            Since childhood best friends have a front row seat to your ups and downs, they know why certain people drive you crazy.

                            They’re like an extra memory bank

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                              Childhood best friends understand the importance of telling a story right, and will always fill in the blanks when you forget details.

                              They reminisce with you

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                                Similarly, childhood best friends are always there when you need to get nostalgic about the good old days.

                                Featured photo credit: Ten friends do a selfie in the park via shutterstock.com

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                                Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

                                Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

                                How often have you said something simple, only to have the person who you said this to misunderstand it or twist the meaning completely around? Nodding your head in affirmative? Then this means that you are being unclear in your communication.

                                Communication should be simple, right? It’s all about two people or more talking and explaining something to the other. The problem lies in the talking itself, somehow we end up being unclear, and our words, attitude or even the way of talking becomes a barrier in communication, most of the times unknowingly. We give you six common barriers to communication, and how to get past them; for you to actually say what you mean, and or the other person to understand it as well…

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                                Think about it this way, a simple phrase like “what do you mean” can be said in many different ways and each different way would end up “communicating” something else entirely. Scream it at the other person, and the perception would be anger. Whisper this is someone’s ear and others may take it as if you were plotting something. Say it in another language, and no one gets what you mean at all, if they don’t speak it… This is what we mean when we say that talking or saying something that’s clear in your head, many not mean that you have successfully communicated it across to your intended audience – thus what you say and how, where and why you said it – at times become barriers to communication.[1]

                                Perceptual Barrier

                                The moment you say something in a confrontational, sarcastic, angry or emotional tone, you have set up perceptual barriers to communication. The other person or people to whom you are trying to communicate your point get the message that you are disinterested in what you are saying and sort of turn a deaf ear. In effect, you are yelling your point across to person who might as well be deaf![2]

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                                The problem: When you have a tone that’s not particularly positive, a body language that denotes your own disinterest in the situation and let your own stereotypes and misgivings enter the conversation via the way you talk and gesture, the other person perceives what you saying an entirely different manner than say if you said the same while smiling and catching their gaze.

                                The solution: Start the conversation on a positive note, and don’t let what you think color your tone, gestures of body language. Maintain eye contact with your audience, and smile openly and wholeheartedly…

                                Attitudinal Barrier

                                Some people, if you would excuse the language, are simply badass and in general are unable to form relationships or even a common point of communication with others, due to their habit of thinking to highly or too lowly of them. They basically have an attitude problem – since they hold themselves in high esteem, they are unable to form genuine lines of communication with anyone. The same is true if they think too little of themselves as well.[3]

                                The problem: If anyone at work, or even in your family, tends to roam around with a superior air – anything they say is likely to be taken by you and the others with a pinch, or even a bag of salt. Simply because whenever they talk, the first thing to come out of it is their condescending attitude. And in case there’s someone with an inferiority complex, their incessant self-pity forms barriers to communication.

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                                The solution: Use simple words and an encouraging smile to communicate effectively – and stick to constructive criticism, and not criticism because you are a perfectionist. If you see someone doing a good job, let them know, and disregard the thought that you could have done it better. It’s their job so measure them by industry standards and not your own.

                                Language Barrier

                                This is perhaps the commonest and the most inadvertent of barriers to communication. Using big words, too much of technical jargon or even using just the wrong language at the incorrect or inopportune time can lead to a loss or misinterpretation of communication. It may have sounded right in your head and to your ears as well, but if sounded gobbledygook to the others, the purpose is lost.

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                                The solution: Simplify things for the other person to understand you, and understand it well. Think about it this way: if you are trying to explain something scientific to a child, you tone it down to their thinking capacity, without “dumbing” anything down in the process.[4]

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                                Emotional Barrier

                                Sometimes, we hesitate in opening our mouths, for fear of putting our foot in it! Other times, our emotional state is so fragile that we keep it and our lips zipped tightly together lest we explode. This is the time that our emotions become barriers to communication.[5]

                                The problem: Say you had a fight at home and are on a slow boil, muttering, in your head, about the injustice of it all. At this time, you have to give someone a dressing down over their work performance. You are likely to transfer at least part of your angst to the conversation then, and talk about unfairness in general, leaving the other person stymied about what you actually meant!

                                The solution: Remove your emotions and feelings to a personal space, and talk to the other person as you normally would. Treat any phobias or fears that you have and nip them in the bud so that they don’t become a problem. And remember, no one is perfect.

                                Cultural Barrier

                                Sometimes, being in an ever-shrinking world means that inadvertently, rules can make cultures clash and cultural clashes can turn into barriers to communication. The idea is to make your point across without hurting anyone’s cultural or religious sentiments.

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                                The solution: Communicate only what is necessary to get the point across – and eave your personal sentiments or feelings out of it. Try to be accommodative of the other’s viewpoint, and in case you still need to work it out, do it one to one, to avoid making a spectacle of the other person’s beliefs.[6]

                                Gender Barrier

                                Finally, it’s about Men from Mars and Women from Venus. Sometimes, men don’t understand women and women don’t get men – and this gender gap throws barriers in communication. Women tend to take conflict to their graves, literally, while men can move on instantly. Women rely on intuition, men on logic – so inherently, gender becomes a big block in successful communication.[7]

                                The problem: A male boss may inadvertently rub his female subordinates the wrong way with anti-feminism innuendoes, or even have problems with women taking too many family leaves. Similarly, women sometimes let their emotions get the better of them, something a male audience can’t relate to.

                                The solution: Talk to people like people – don’t think or classify them into genders and then talk accordingly. Don’t make comments or innuendos that are gender biased – you don’t have to come across as an MCP or as a bra-burning feminist either. Keep gender out of it.

                                And remember, the key to successful communication is simply being open, making eye contact and smiling intermittently. The battle is usually half won when you say what you mean in simple, straightforward words and keep your emotions out of it.

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