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11 Types Of Friends You Will Have In Your Lifetime

11 Types Of Friends You Will Have In Your Lifetime

You will have many types of friends in your lifetime. Each will make an impression and in some unique way move you along your path towards your future. Hundreds, if not thousands, of people will flow through your daily life, some quickly, like a gust of wind, and others hold on, like pillars of strength. Each one of these people will make an impression. Here are the 11 types of friends you will have in your lifetime, broken down in easy to remember titles.

The Gopher

You may not admit it, but we all have them. These are the friends who do much more for us than we do for them. They are the “Go-Fers.” They get you coffee, they bring your breakfast, they watch your kids when you can’t get a baby-sitter. They show their friendship by doing things for you.

The Eclipse

This is a flash in the pan, beautiful, but ultimately gone before you know it. An eclipse happens only every few years and you’ll remember him or her forever because he or she was so perfect. But ultimately, like this friendship, he or she is gone too soon, leaving only a memory in the wake.

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The Coin Flip

Sure they are flaky, but when you do hang out with them, they are a ton of fun. They will cancel on you. They will no-call, no-show. They will leave when a better offer comes around. But when they are around, life is more interesting.

The Shoulder

Sometimes you need a shoulder to cry on, and this friend is perfect. You can complain about your job, relationship, or just a bad day and they will listen. They give advice, pat you on the shoulder, and then tell you their troubles. This often isn’t your best friend, or really even a close friend (because those are often the people you are complaining about!), but they are a great sounding board.

The Skipper

The skipper is the friend who makes everything happen. They are the captain of the crew and make sure everyone gets to wherever they are going. In the olden days, before cell phones, these friends were the most important, as they had the phone numbers memorized and their house was usually the hub. While the cell phone has removed some of their responsibility, the skipper still makes the final decisions on when and where.

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The Experiment

These are the friends who make no sense from the outside, and often seem pretty strange in hindsight. These are the “phase” friends. Whether it’s when you went Emo in high school or crazy in college, these friends were the one’s who spent time with you at your most rebellious moments.

The Flames

While similar to the eclipse, these stay around a little longer. Flames burn bright, but ultimately “flame out.” The majority of the exes go here, as well as those great friends from the past that ended with a blow-up. These are the friends who often shape you the most.

The Bestie

Some will go through many besties, others will keep one from diapers to diapers, but the bestie is there for the long run. These friends are the ones you remember when telling stories and who shaped your life into what it is today. They are the friends you’ll never forget.

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The Lego

These are the friends of your youth, who you love dearly, but who you ultimately out-grow. You will always view them fondly and the conquests of your youth, just like the size of the Lego castle, grow with time and age.

The Fam

Sometimes your friends are given to you at birth. Siblings, cousins, family friends. These are the friends who will be with you no matter what. These are your friends whether you like it or not.

The One

There may be many “The Ones,” but these are the ying to your yang. The jelly to your peanut butter. The star to your sky. They make life worth living. The One is who you will spend the rest of your life with, your soul-mate, your true love.

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Are there more types of friends that I’ve missed? Do you have friends that fit in each group? Tell us in the comment section below!

Featured photo credit: photography.andreas via flickr.com

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Kyle Robbins

Kyle is the founder of Branding Beard. He writes about communication tips on Lifehack.

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Last Updated on October 16, 2019

5 Powerful Ways for Building Fulfilling Relationships

5 Powerful Ways for Building Fulfilling Relationships

We all have relationships. We have acquaintances, relatives, colleagues, neighbors and friends. However, for a large percentage of us, many of these relationships are not fulfilling.

They are unfulfilling because they lack real strength; and they lack real strength because they lack real depth.

Unfortunately, in today’s society, we tend to have shallow, superficial relationships with others, and it’s extremely hard for this kind of relationships to provide anything more than faint satisfaction.

I’d like to show you, based on my experience as a communication and confidence coach, how you can add a significant amount of depth, and thus strength, to your relationships and make your social life a whole lot more meaningful.

Here’re 5 simple yet powerful ways for meaningful relationships building:

1. Meet More People

This is an apparent paradox, but the quality of the people you meet has considerably to do with the quantity of people you meet.

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If you don’t know a lot of people and you barely meet one or two new people every season of the year, considering the variety of individuals out there, you won’t meet very often people who are a good match with you in terms of personality, interests and values.

And since this natural match plays a huge part in building strong relationships, you’ll just as seldom have the opportunity to develop strong relationships.

Conversely, if you go out a lot, you meet a lot of new people and you constantly expand your social circle, you’re much more likely to meet people you match up well with, and these people have a tremendous potential to become good friends, reliable partners, etc.

This is why it’s important to meet more people.

2. Talk about the Things That Matter To You

A relationship becomes the strongest when two people discover they believe in the same things and have similar interests. It’s these commonalities regarding values and interests that create the strongest emotional connection.

I’ve noticed that many people keep conversations shallow. They talk about trivial stuff such as the weather, what’s on TV, the lives of various movie stars, but they rarely talk about what really matters to them in life. This is a mistake from my perspective, because it’s the perfect method for a relationship to not develop.

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Talk about the things that truly matter to you and give others a chance to know what you care about and what you believe in. If they believe in the same things and they care about the same things, they’ll eagerly let you know. Thus you’ll find meaningful common ground and you’ll feel more connected.

3. Express Vulnerability

Many people try to come off as perfect. They don’t talk about their failures, they hide their shortcomings and they never say anything that could embarrass them.

This is all just a facade though. You may appear perfect to some, but you know you’re not perfect and they know that too. You’re only human and humans have flaws.

However, by hiding your flaws, what you do succeed in is appearing cold and impersonal. You seem like a marble statue rather than a real person. And this makes it very hard for anyone to connect with you emotionally.

Humans connect with other humans, not with ideals. Keep this in mind and don’t be afraid to let your vulnerability and your humanity show. This is what takes a relationship to the next level.

Take a look at this article and find out Why Showing Vulnerability Actually Proves Your Strength.

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4. Have Integrity

Integrity, as I see it, is the alignment between your thoughts, your words and your actions. When you say what you think and you do what you said you’ll do, you have integrity.

This is a crucial trait because if you have integrity, people can trust you. They can trust you to give them an honest feedback, even when it’s hard to shallow, and they can trust you to keep your promises.

This trust is one of the central pillars of a strong relationship, both in your personal and your professional life. So, as challenging as it can be sometimes, always try to have integrity.

Be honest with the people around you, even when this will initially hurt them. It’s more important for them to trust you than to not feel hurt. And always do what you promised. Even better, think twice before you promise anything, and only promise what you really can and you are willing to do.

5. Be There for Others

Another central pillar of strong relationships is support. Connections between people grow sturdy if they can rely on each other for support when it’s needed, whether that support means a few kind words or several massive actions.

Of course, you can’t be there for everybody, all the time. Your time, energy and other resources are limited. But what you can do is identify the genuinely important people in your life and then seek to be there as much as possible, at least for them.

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Your support will help them practically, and it will comfort them emotionally; which makes one hell of a difference in a relationship.

The Bottom Line

With the right mindset and the right behavior, you can strengthen a wide range of relationships in your life and advance them as far as they can be advanced.

And with strong relationships, not only that you feel more fulfilled, but you feel more connected to the entire world. You feel that your life has real value, you have more fun and you live in the moment. An entire world of opportunities opens up in front of you.

Then your task is to simply walk through the open doors.

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