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Every Woman Should Thank Herself For These Incredible Things

Every Woman Should Thank Herself For These Incredible Things

Men adore us. Guys want us. Children look up to us and the world takes a bow. We all know that as women, we have been told how special we are time and again: a guy’s dream before marriage and a husband’s pride after; a father’s reason for smile ; a mother’s comfort in sadness; a friend’s matchmaker; a bestie’s medicine for hangover; and a child’s solace for distress. But then there are times that we ourselves don’t know what we are capable of and the daily stuff that we do makes us exceptional.

It’s time to give yourself some credit that you deserve instead of demanding it from others. So sit back and relax: you are accused and guilty. It’s conviction time!

1. Their beauty.

You are the fairer sex. Trust me it is not easy to look so lovely each day when you wake up in the morning or by the end of the night. But whatever you do, you do it best! Give yourself the benefit of doubt and love the efforts you put forth when it comes to monthly facials, pedicures, waxes and haircuts. Love the nail art sessions, and all the fitness exercises you do. Remember: if guys love you for the way you look, why shouldn’t you yourself do the same?

2. Their forgiveness.

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    You are the epitome of love and forgiveness. You might get mad, but it hardly takes you a moment to return back to your usual self. Trust me: it is not so easy to be so patient and forgive your friends, brother, husband and children for the times they hurt you or say something harsh. You are quick in putting things on the back burner and forgiving. Well, that’s an impressive trait, I say!.

    3. Their everyday, tiring efforts.

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      Going to work, attending classes, giving a presentation, doing the laundry or the dishes, dropping the kids off for school, preparing a sumptuous dinner, vacuuming or tending to the plants—it’s amazing how much a woman can achieve in a single day and can still manage to look lovely. Sometimes, we take the women in our lives for granted or forget to tell them how lucky we are for the thankless efforts they do daily. If no one else appreciates you, do it yourself. Take a day off, sit in the park and revel in your glory.

      4. The warmth they bring into the household.

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        From a girl’s sweet laughter, to her sister’s scurrying around playfully to catch her, to her mother’s soothing morning prayer; from warm hot food cooked by her to a wife washing her lover’s hair; from the early morning cardamon tea she makes for her father-in-law to the shawl she gets for her grandmother, it’s amazing that you yourself don’t realize at times how much the people around you change in your presence.

        5. Their undying love and sacrifices for their family.

        From spending all her salary to get her mother the best clothes, to getting her little brother the latest gadget; from spoiling her son with all the sweet meats and rich food, to remembering her husband’s doctor’s appointment—a women’s love for her siblings, parents, in-laws, friends and cousins is always heart warming. She gets up early morning to cook a surprise breakfast for you and sleeps after you have already drifted off. She never ceases to make herself available when you need her.

        6. Their multi-tasking attitude.

        She can chop onions and cry for a friend’s break up over the phone. She can put make up on and reply to your texts. She can bake a cake right and get you your evening cup of coffee. She can work on an assignment and watch a movie simultaneously. One can only wonder how she gets so much done with such perfection. Girl, you are truly a wonder woman!

        7. Their ability to push their chins up and carry on.

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          Had a fight with her boyfriend and it doesn’t show in the office meeting she led. Didn’t sleep a wink last night from the baby’s wails, but she looks radiant in the dress that she wore to the girl’s get-together. Yes, she might have gone through a hard divorce, but look at the way she lets her hair down at the party. The way her tears hide behind those big, black, lush eyelashes of hers, and how she still manages a smile. The way she always resurfaces back to normal even after a tragedy in her life is remarkable.

          8. Their willingness to follow their dreams, whether it be writing, research, music, dance, government, or fitness.

          Battling the dull humdrum of life, they swiftly move from one thing to another, not forgetting their own dreams in the     meantime. Some love to read endlessly, some write, others sing or dance, or spend hours researching a cure; and for       some, just being in the nature is enough. Acknowledge the wonderful quality that you have within you and take due credit for the juggling act of yours.

          9. Their ability to transform into super chefs.

          You were once a cooking novice who used to throw the onions from quite a distance just to avoid the oil sprinkling on your face or became frustrated when you burned the bread, or when the salad got way too messy. Now, you smile those days off; look at where you have come now. You have the hands of Midas or something as whatever you cook now is edible and healthy if not always very tasty. ;)

          10. The ability to lead a life of their own!
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            Your willingness to leave behind your family, friends, sometimes career, or even your home country is worth applauding. Many women take on huge financial, personal, and emotional responsibilities when they are with someone, even though they knew nothing of it before. The party animal girl is transformed into someone who turns off the lights at 10:30 p.m. as she now needs to wake up early to get to work or take the kids to school.

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            11. The ability to preserve their identities!

            I am me.

              Finally, you have the ability to have a separate identity. You recognize that you are a daughter, mother, wife, sister, boss, and lover, and you do not forget all that constitutes what it means to be a woman. At the same time, you have a separate identity, lifestyle, personal habits, and memories from growing up and things that you are dealing with in the present.

              We all know, as women or having women in our lives, that they are powerhouses of stamina and torchbearer in our lives. But the endurance, gratification, and the extent of our efforts are limitless and mind-boggling. The world is saying so and so should you: “Give yourself some credit, woman! Make those baths extra long. Feel the wind in your hair. Smell your coffee in the mornings and walk an extra mile. This is what makes you special. This makes you adored. Take the phone off the hook and leave your worries at the door.”

              Featured photo credit: Woman on Beach via puregreenwellness.com

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              12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

              12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

              Even the most charismatic people you know, whether in person or celebrities of some sort, experience days where they feel lost in life and isolated from everyone else.

              While it’s good to know we aren’t alone in this feeling, the question still remains:

              What should we do when we feel lost and lonely?

              Here are 12 things to remember:

              1. Recognize That It’s Okay!

              The truth is, there are times you need to be alone. If you’ve always been accustomed to being in contact with people, this may prove difficult.

              However, learning how to be alone and comfortable in your own skin will give you confidence and a sense of self reliance.

              We cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to become self reliant when we look for constant companionship.

              Learn how to embrace your me time: What Your Fear of Being Alone Is Really About and How to Get over It

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              2. Use Your Lost and Loneliness as a Self-Directing Guide

              You’ve most likely heard the expression: “You have to know where you’ve been to know where you’re going.”

              Loneliness also serves as a life signal to indicate you’re in search of something. It’s when we’re in the midst of solitude that answers come from true soul searching.

              Remember, there is more to life than what you’re feeling.

              3. Realize Loneliness Helps You Face the Truth

              Being in the constant company of others, although comforting sometimes, can often serve as a distraction when we need to face the reality of a situation.

              Solitude cuts straight to the chase and forces you to deal with the problem at hand. See it as a blessing that can serve as a catalyst to set things right!

              4. Be Aware That You Have More Control Than You Think

              Typically, when we see ourselves as being lost or lonely, it gives us an excuse to view everything we come in contact with in a negative light. It lends itself to putting ourselves in the victim mode, when the truth of the matter is that you choose your attitude in every situation.

              No one can force a feeling upon you! It is YOU who has the ultimate say as to how you choose to react.

              5. Embrace the Freedom That the Feeling of Being Alone Can Offer

              Instead of wallowing in self pity, which many are prone to do because of loneliness, try looking at your circumstance as a new-found freedom.

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              Most people are in constant need of approval of their viewpoints. Try enjoying the fact that  you don’t need everyone you care about to support your decisions.

              6. Acknowledge the Person You Are Now

              Perhaps you feel a sense of loneliness and confusion because your life circumstances have taken you away from the persona that others know to be you.

              Perhaps the new you differs radically from the old. Realize that life is about change and how we react to that change. It’s okay that you’re not who you used to be.

              Take a look at this article and learn to accept your imperfect self: Accept Yourself (Flaws and All): 7 Benefits of Being Vulnerable

              7. Keep Striving to Do Your Best

              Often those who are feeling isolated and unto themselves will develop a defeatist attitude. They’ll do substandard work because their self esteem is low and they don’t care.

              Never let this feeling take away your sense of worth! Do your best always and when you come through this dark time, others will admire how you stayed determined in spite of the obstacles you had to overcome.

              And to live your best life, you must do this ONE thing: step out of your comfort zone.

              8. Don’t Forget That Time Is Precious

              When we’re lost in a sea of loneliness and depression, it’s all too easy to reflect on regrets of past life events. This does nothing but feed negativity and perpetuate the situation.

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              Instead of falling prey to this common pitfall, put one foot in front of the other and acknowledge every positive step you take. By doing this, you can celebrate the struggles you overcome at the end of the day.

              9. Remember, Things Happen for a Reason

              Every circumstance we encounter in our life is designed to teach us and that lesson is in turn passed on to others.

              Sometimes we’re fortunate enough to figure out the lesson to be learned, while other times, we simply need to have faith that if the lesson wasn’t meant directly for us to learn from, how we handled it was observed by someone who needed to learn.

              Your solitude and feeling of lost, in this instance, although painful possibly, may be teaching someone else.

              10. Journal During This Time

              Record your thoughts when you’re at the height of loneliness and feeling lost. You’ll be amazed when you reflect back at how you viewed things at the time and how far you’ve come later.

              This time (if recorded) can give you a keen insight into who you are and what makes you feel the way you feel.

              11. Remember You Aren’t the First to Feel This Way

              It’s quite common to feel as if we’re alone and no one else has ever felt this way before. We think this because at the time of our distress, we’re silently observing others around us who are seemingly fine in every way.

              The truth is, we can’t possibly know the struggles of those around us unless they elect to share them. We ALL have known this pain!

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              Try confiding in someone you trust and ask them how they deal with these feelings when they experienced it. You may be surprised at what you learn.

              12. Ask for Help If the Problem Persists

              The feeling of being lost and lonely is common to everyone, but typically it will last for a relatively short period of time.

              Most people will confess to, at one time or another, being in a “funk.” But if the problem persists longer than you feel it should, don’t ignore it.

              When your ability to reason and consider things rationally becomes impaired, do not poo poo the problem away and think it isn’t worthy of attention. Seek medical help.

              Afraid to ask for help? Here’s how to change your outlook to aim high!

              Final Thoughts

              Loneliness and a sense of feeling lost can in many ways be extremely painful and difficult to deal with at best. However, these feelings can also serve as a catalyst for change in our lives if we acknowledge them and act.

              Above anything, cherish your mental well being and don’t underestimate its worth. Seek professional guidance if you’re unable to distinguish between a sense of freedom for yourself and a sense of despair.

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