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Every Woman Should Thank Herself For These Incredible Things

Every Woman Should Thank Herself For These Incredible Things

Men adore us. Guys want us. Children look up to us and the world takes a bow. We all know that as women, we have been told how special we are time and again: a guy’s dream before marriage and a husband’s pride after; a father’s reason for smile ; a mother’s comfort in sadness; a friend’s matchmaker; a bestie’s medicine for hangover; and a child’s solace for distress. But then there are times that we ourselves don’t know what we are capable of and the daily stuff that we do makes us exceptional.

It’s time to give yourself some credit that you deserve instead of demanding it from others. So sit back and relax: you are accused and guilty. It’s conviction time!

1. Their beauty.

You are the fairer sex. Trust me it is not easy to look so lovely each day when you wake up in the morning or by the end of the night. But whatever you do, you do it best! Give yourself the benefit of doubt and love the efforts you put forth when it comes to monthly facials, pedicures, waxes and haircuts. Love the nail art sessions, and all the fitness exercises you do. Remember: if guys love you for the way you look, why shouldn’t you yourself do the same?

2. Their forgiveness.

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    You are the epitome of love and forgiveness. You might get mad, but it hardly takes you a moment to return back to your usual self. Trust me: it is not so easy to be so patient and forgive your friends, brother, husband and children for the times they hurt you or say something harsh. You are quick in putting things on the back burner and forgiving. Well, that’s an impressive trait, I say!.

    3. Their everyday, tiring efforts.

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      Going to work, attending classes, giving a presentation, doing the laundry or the dishes, dropping the kids off for school, preparing a sumptuous dinner, vacuuming or tending to the plants—it’s amazing how much a woman can achieve in a single day and can still manage to look lovely. Sometimes, we take the women in our lives for granted or forget to tell them how lucky we are for the thankless efforts they do daily. If no one else appreciates you, do it yourself. Take a day off, sit in the park and revel in your glory.

      4. The warmth they bring into the household.

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      4 generations of women

        From a girl’s sweet laughter, to her sister’s scurrying around playfully to catch her, to her mother’s soothing morning prayer; from warm hot food cooked by her to a wife washing her lover’s hair; from the early morning cardamon tea she makes for her father-in-law to the shawl she gets for her grandmother, it’s amazing that you yourself don’t realize at times how much the people around you change in your presence.

        5. Their undying love and sacrifices for their family.

        From spending all her salary to get her mother the best clothes, to getting her little brother the latest gadget; from spoiling her son with all the sweet meats and rich food, to remembering her husband’s doctor’s appointment—a women’s love for her siblings, parents, in-laws, friends and cousins is always heart warming. She gets up early morning to cook a surprise breakfast for you and sleeps after you have already drifted off. She never ceases to make herself available when you need her.

        6. Their multi-tasking attitude.

        She can chop onions and cry for a friend’s break up over the phone. She can put make up on and reply to your texts. She can bake a cake right and get you your evening cup of coffee. She can work on an assignment and watch a movie simultaneously. One can only wonder how she gets so much done with such perfection. Girl, you are truly a wonder woman!

        7. Their ability to push their chins up and carry on.

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          Had a fight with her boyfriend and it doesn’t show in the office meeting she led. Didn’t sleep a wink last night from the baby’s wails, but she looks radiant in the dress that she wore to the girl’s get-together. Yes, she might have gone through a hard divorce, but look at the way she lets her hair down at the party. The way her tears hide behind those big, black, lush eyelashes of hers, and how she still manages a smile. The way she always resurfaces back to normal even after a tragedy in her life is remarkable.

          8. Their willingness to follow their dreams, whether it be writing, research, music, dance, government, or fitness.

          Battling the dull humdrum of life, they swiftly move from one thing to another, not forgetting their own dreams in the     meantime. Some love to read endlessly, some write, others sing or dance, or spend hours researching a cure; and for       some, just being in the nature is enough. Acknowledge the wonderful quality that you have within you and take due credit for the juggling act of yours.

          9. Their ability to transform into super chefs.

          You were once a cooking novice who used to throw the onions from quite a distance just to avoid the oil sprinkling on your face or became frustrated when you burned the bread, or when the salad got way too messy. Now, you smile those days off; look at where you have come now. You have the hands of Midas or something as whatever you cook now is edible and healthy if not always very tasty. ;)

          10. The ability to lead a life of their own!
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            Your willingness to leave behind your family, friends, sometimes career, or even your home country is worth applauding. Many women take on huge financial, personal, and emotional responsibilities when they are with someone, even though they knew nothing of it before. The party animal girl is transformed into someone who turns off the lights at 10:30 p.m. as she now needs to wake up early to get to work or take the kids to school.

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            11. The ability to preserve their identities!

            I am me.

              Finally, you have the ability to have a separate identity. You recognize that you are a daughter, mother, wife, sister, boss, and lover, and you do not forget all that constitutes what it means to be a woman. At the same time, you have a separate identity, lifestyle, personal habits, and memories from growing up and things that you are dealing with in the present.

              We all know, as women or having women in our lives, that they are powerhouses of stamina and torchbearer in our lives. But the endurance, gratification, and the extent of our efforts are limitless and mind-boggling. The world is saying so and so should you: “Give yourself some credit, woman! Make those baths extra long. Feel the wind in your hair. Smell your coffee in the mornings and walk an extra mile. This is what makes you special. This makes you adored. Take the phone off the hook and leave your worries at the door.”

              Featured photo credit: Woman on Beach via puregreenwellness.com

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              Last Updated on November 15, 2018

              Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

              Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

              What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

              As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

              The Success Mindset

              Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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              The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

              The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

              The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

              How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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              How To Create a Success Mindset

              People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

              1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

              How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

              A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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              There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

              2. Look For The Successes

              It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

              3. Eliminate Negativity

              You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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              When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

              4. Create a Vision

              Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

              If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

              An Inspirational Story…

              For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

              What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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