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10 Things Extremely Boring People Do

10 Things Extremely Boring People Do

Everybody knows one, maybe a handful if you’re unlucky: boring people seem to be omnipresent, and while they’re certainly not harmful, they can be dull, dreary, and not very good company in any circumstance. Is it the fact that they seem to be self-involved and self-directed? Is it that boring people never seem to want to try anything new, even if it’s just a song or a film or somewhere different for lunch? Or is it that boring people never seem to be good at telling a story?

Whatever it is, here’s a top-ten guide to what the extremely boring people of the world always seem to do. Take it as a cautionary tale to avoid doing the same.

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1. They always talk about themselves – and only themselves

Boring people always seem to find themselves the most interesting point of conversation. They never think about what might be interesting to other people, or about the issues or viewpoints of the rest of the world. Boring people just can’t get beyond the viewpoint that if it doesn’t immediately effect them or their immediate family, then it can’t be of note. Nothing is worse than a boring person who cannot stop but talk about themselves, or always manages to circle the conversation back around to their views and opinion.

2. They never expand their personal horizons

Boring people always stay stuck in their ‘hinterlands’ – their own personal, psychological and physical boundaries. They never try anything new, or adventurous, or potentially amazing for fear of failing somehow or for finding that they don’t like the aim of their experiment. It never occurs to a boring person that they would connect more with different people and different experiences and improve their quality of life by expanding their horizons.

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3. They cannot tell a good joke

Yawn. There’s a reason boring people are never called upon as the jokers and the fun-makers of any office party or social setting. Boring people just cannot tell a good joke to save their lives, largely because they don’t engage themselves in any situations that allow them to experience something fun. They spend too much time in the same old routines, with the same old stuff day in day out. When the greatest joke you have in your arsenal is something you pulled out of your cracker last Christmas, then you need to revise your priorities to avoid becoming one of the boring people.

4. They never practise or use empathy

Boring people are pretty bad on the empathy scale, always failing to see things from someone else’s point of view. Oh, they might well understand that someone else has a different point of view, but in terms of actually stepping inside someone else’s shoes and feeling… well, anything, boring people have their work cut out for them. For them, their world begins and ends at their front door and office, ensuring that the chance to go out and experience a modicum of empathy for anyone else is sadly, low at best.

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5. They never have a real opinion on anything

Yes, boring people can’t express a real opinion on anything. They have no real passions or loves in their lives, and, as the sign of a life well and truly being ruined, they spend no time in getting informed about anything of real worth. The events of the world pass them by completely, and this is of no consequence to the boring individual.

6. They stay in the exact same routine every day

The same routine, day in day out. Is there anything more depressing? Well, for the boring person, they never consider to try something new or expand their horizons. They wake up at the same time every day, eat the same stuff, do the same stuff, and just never want to change anything, even down to having something different for breakfast that day.

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7. They never do anything fun in their lives

Not that this going without saying, but boring people just never have any fun. They never explore what truly makes them happy and what makes them tick – therefore they spend all time either working or doing stuff that they don’t enjoy doing. They never consider that life is supposed to be fun and full of enjoyment, and instead put it off in lieu of working non-stop. Boring people never stop to smell the flowers, and that’s truly sad more than anything.

8. They complain about their lives

Boring people never, ever stop complaining about their lives, and how everything seems to be going wrong for them. Boring people never consider how things might be for other people listening, and how lucky they may actually be, especially when compared to other people who are enduring worse and yet remain upbeat, positive and engaged in life to the fullest. The popular social media trend ‘first world problems’ seems to come to mind here.

9. They cannot tell a good story

Is there anything worse than boring people telling stories? Well, in a social setting no, because boring people have no real concept of what kind of story is fascinating and brilliant and hilarious, and what kind of story and manner of storyteling makes watching paint dry seem like a rollercoaster ride. Boring people never consider what they’re saying and how it will affect other people on an emotional level, particularly in terms of enjoyment.

10. They never express passion for anything

Boring people just never explore their own passions or desires, and so are left unfulfilled. Imagine if they’d got a chance to actually do some introspection and discover tastes, passions, and loves that they might as well possess. Boring people are stuck in the conventions of widespread, mainstream society, and never delve into what is different and unusual and unique, in order to cultivate their happiness.

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Last Updated on March 14, 2019

7 Questions to Ask in a Job Interview That Will Impress the Interviewer

7 Questions to Ask in a Job Interview That Will Impress the Interviewer

Recruiters might hold thousands of interviews in their careers and a lot of them are reporting the same thing—that most candidates play it safe with the questions they ask, or have no questions to ask in a job interview at all.

For job applicants, this approach is crazy! This is a job that you’re going to dedicate a lot of hours to and that might have a huge impact on your future career. Don’t throw away the chance to figure out if the position is perfect for you.

Here are 7 killer questions to ask in a job interview that will both impress your counterpart and give you some really useful insights into whether this job will be a dream … or a nightmare.

1. What are some challenges I might come up against this role?

A lesser candidate might ask, “what does a typical day look like in this role?” While this is a perfectly reasonable question to ask in an interview, focusing on potential challenges takes you much further because it indicates that you already are visualizing yourself in the role.

It’s impressive because it shows that you are not afraid of challenges, and you are prepared to strategize a game plan upfront to make sure you succeed if you get the job.

It can also open up a conversation about how you’ve solved problems in the past which can be a reassuring exercise for both you and the hiring manager.

How it helps you:

If you ask the interviewer to describe a typical day, you may get a vibrant picture of all the lovely things you’ll get to do in this job and all the lovely people you’ll get to do them with.

Asking about potential roadblocks means you hear the other side of the story—dysfunctional teams, internal politics, difficult clients, bootstrap budgets and so on. This can help you decide if you’re up for the challenge or whether, for the sake of your sanity, you should respectfully decline the job offer.

2. What are the qualities of really successful people in this role?

Employers don’t want to hire someone who goes through the motions; they want to hire someone who will excel.

Asking this question shows that you care about success, too. How could they not hire you with a dragon-slayer attitude like that?

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How it helps you:

Interviewers hire people who are great people to work with, but the definition of “great people” differs from person to person.

Does this company hire and promote people with a specific attitude, approach, worth ethic or communication style? Are the most successful people in this role strong extroverts who love to talk and socialize when you are studious and reserved? Does the company reward those who work insane hours when you’re happiest in a more relaxed environment?

If so, then this may not be the right match for you.

Whatever the answer is, you can decide whether you have what it takes for the manager to be happy with your performance in this role. And if the interviewer has no idea what success looks like for this position, this is a sign to proceed with extreme caution.

3. From the research I did on your company, I noticed the culture really supports XYZ. Can you tell me more about that element of the culture and how it impacts this job role?

Of course, you could just ask “what is the culture like here? ” but then you would miss a great opportunity to show that you’ve done your research!

Interviewers give BIG bonus point to those who read up and pay attention, and you’ve just pointed out that (a) you’re diligent in your research (b) you care about the company culture and (c) you’re committed to finding a great cultural fit.

How it helps you:

This question is so useful because it lets you pick an element of the culture that you really care about and that will have the most impact on whether you are happy with the organization.

For example, if training and development is important to you, then you need to know what’s on offer so you don’t end up in a dead-end job with no learning opportunities.

Companies often talk a good talk, and their press releases may be full of shiny CSR initiatives and all the headline-grabbing diversity programs they’re putting in place. This is your opportunity to look under the hood and see if the company lives its values on the ground.

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A company that says it is committed to doing the right thing by customers should not judge success by the number of up-sells an employee makes, for instance. Look for consistency, so you aren’t in for a culture shock after you start.

4. What is the promotion path for this role, and how would my performance on that path be measured?

To be clear, you are not asking when you will get promoted. Don’t go there—it’s presumptuous, and it indicates that you think you are better than the role you have applied for.

A career-minded candidate, on the other hand, usually has a plan that she’s working towards. This question shows you have a great drive toward growth and advancement and an intention to stick with the company beyond your current state.

How it helps you:

One word: hierarchy.

All organizations have levels of work and authority—executives, upper managers, line managers, the workforce, and so on. Understanding the hierarchical structure gives you power, because you can decide if you can work within it and are capable of climbing through its ranks, or whether it will be endlessly frustrating to you.

In a traditional pyramid hierarchy, for example, the people at the bottom tend to have very little autonomy to make decisions. This gets better as you rise up through the pyramid, but even middle managers have little power to create policy; they are more concerned with enforcing the rules the top leaders make.

If having a high degree of autonomy and accountability is important to you, you may do better in a flat hierarchy where work teams can design their own way of achieving the corporate goals.

5. What’s the most important thing the successful candidate could accomplish in their first 3 months/6 months/year?

Of all the questions to ask in a job interview, this one is impressive because it shows that you identify with and want to be a successful performer, and not just an average one.

Here, you’re drilling down into what the company needs, and needs quite urgently, proving that you’re all about adding value to the organization and not just about what’s in it for you.

How it helps you:

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Most job descriptions come with 8, 10 or 12 different job responsibilities and a lot of them with be boilerplate or responsibilities that someone in HR thinks are associated with this role. This question gives you a better sense of which responsibilities are the most important—and they may not be what initially attracted you to the role.

If you like the idea of training juniors, for example, but success is judged purely on your sales figures, then is this really the job you thought you were applying for?

This question will also give you an idea of what kind of learning curve you’re expected to have and whether you’ll get any ramp-up time before getting down to business. If you’re the type of person who likes to jump right in and get things done, for instance, you may not be thrilled to hear that you’re going to spend the first three months shadowing a peer.

6. What do you like about working here?

This simple question is all about building rapport with the interviewer. People like to talk about themselves, and the interviewer will be flattered that you’re interested in her opinions.

Hopefully, you’ll find some great connection points that the two of you share. What similar things drive you head into the office each day? How will you fit into the culture?

How it helps you:

You can learn a lot from this question. Someone who genuinely enjoys his job will be able to list several things they like, and their answers will sound passionate and sincere. If not….well, you might consider that a red flag.

Since you potentially can learn a lot about the company culture from this question, it’s a good idea to figure out upfront what’s important to you. Maybe you’re looking for a hands-off boss who values independent thought and creativity? Maybe you work better in environments that move at a rapid, exciting pace?

Whatever’s important to you, listen carefully and see if you can find any common ground.

7. Based on this interview, do you have any questions or concerns about my qualifications for the role?

What a great closing question to ask in a job interview! It shows that you’re not afraid of feedback—in fact, you are inviting it. Not being able to take criticism is a red flag for employers, who need to know that you’ll act on any “coaching moments” with a good heart.

As a bonus, asking this question shows that you are really interested in the position and wish to clear up anything that may be holding the company back from hiring you.

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How it helps you:

What a devious beast this question is! On the surface, it looks straightforward, but it’s actually giving you four key pieces of information.

First, is the manager capable of giving you feedback when put on the spot like this? Some managers are scared of giving feedback, or don’t think it’s important enough to bother outside of a formal performance appraisal. Do you want to work for a boss like that? How will you improve if no one is telling you what you did wrong?

Second, can the manager give feedback in a constructive way without being too pillowy or too confrontational? It’s unfair to expect the interviewer to have figured out your preferred way of receiving feedback in the space of an interview, but if she come back with a machine-gun fire of shortcomings or one of those corporate feedback “sandwiches” (the doozy slipped between two slices of compliment), then you need to ask yourself, can you work with someone who gives feedback like that?

Third, you get to learn the things the hiring manager is concerned about before you leave the interview. This gives you the chance to make a final, tailored sales pitch so you can convince the interviewer that she should not be worried about those things.

Fourth, you get to learn the things the hiring manager is concerned about period. If turnover is keeping him up at night, then your frequent job hopping might get a lot of additional scrutiny. If he’s facing some issues with conflict or communication, then he might raise concerns regarding your performance in this area.

Listen carefully: the concerns that are being raised about you might actually be a proxy for problems in the wider organization.

Making Your Interview Work for You

Interviews are a two-way street. While it is important to differentiate yourself from every other candidate, understand that convincing the interviewer you’re the right person for the role goes hand-in-hand with figuring out if the job is the right fit for you.

Would you feel happy in a work environment where the people, priorities, culture and management style were completely at odds with the way you work? Didn’t think so!

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