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10 Things Every Indecisive Person Wants To Tell You

10 Things Every Indecisive Person Wants To Tell You

Every decision whether basic or not is a hard decision. Many people can’t relate with that. They may think we are sly, coy, or simply trying to buy time. But we are not. We are simply stuck with trying to make the right and perfect decision. All through this process we wish people could understand us and relate with our challenges.

1. We want to be absolutely sure

We are indecisive and since making those major decisions is a nightmare we want to be absolutely sure before we dive in. We may burn time and exhaust resources in the process, but it’s okay, we will be more comfortable with ourselves at the end of the day when we have double checked and triple checked.

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2. We want to seek every person’s opinion before we make a decision

It is not simply about us. We want to be informed in the process before making that decision. We ask everyone who may offer us advice, the barber, our aunt, our uncle, our granddad, our parents… sometimes the list can be pretty exhaustive.

3. We might just want to end up not deciding after all

Well we don’t have to decide every time right? Or rather: we shouldn’t decide every time. Not deciding and just sticking it out can be so cool because every decision takes all our effort.

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4. We wish some decisions were simply made for us by someone else

Yes. Like what to eat, what to wear and what to engage our energies in. We don’t always have a mind of our own so sometimes it is so much easier for someone else to help us through the ordeal of making the right decisions.

5. We sometimes wonder if we really made the right decision

As much as the decision we have made seems great, we never think it was the best or it was good enough. We always look back at the other options we should have taken. Could there have been a better one?

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6. We don’t want to feel guilty

At the end of the day we are simply trying to protect our conscience. We do not want to be at the end of the stick where we are to be blamed for the decisions we made or the actions we had to take.

7. We feel accomplished when we make the right decision

We have a sense of pride when we make a decision that offers us great results. After all one great decision could give birth to other great decisions. It is something we simply have to get used to, trying to make the right decision as quick as possible.

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8. We love having people around

It is better for us to have people around us. This is why we cling to friends. Because they make our life easier when it comes to making all those heavy decisions and even the easy ones too. The only difficult part is making the decision on which friends will be ideal and helpful to us.

9. We are sometimes terrified

Please don’t take this the hard way. We can be terrified about making those major decisions sometimes. Whether it is marriage, career or college, we really get so afraid we can wait for ages to make that decision. And it is not as if we suspend the thought of it. We actually are always thinking about it.

10. We are always having options

Life for us is full of options. We are never stuck with one route or one plan. We always have options which can be mentally exhausting as we are just cooking up alternatives or other channels in our heads. It would be so easy to stick to one set of doing things but living with so many options seems so much better.

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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