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10 Things Every Indecisive Person Wants To Tell You

10 Things Every Indecisive Person Wants To Tell You

Every decision whether basic or not is a hard decision. Many people can’t relate with that. They may think we are sly, coy, or simply trying to buy time. But we are not. We are simply stuck with trying to make the right and perfect decision. All through this process we wish people could understand us and relate with our challenges.

1. We want to be absolutely sure

We are indecisive and since making those major decisions is a nightmare we want to be absolutely sure before we dive in. We may burn time and exhaust resources in the process, but it’s okay, we will be more comfortable with ourselves at the end of the day when we have double checked and triple checked.

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2. We want to seek every person’s opinion before we make a decision

It is not simply about us. We want to be informed in the process before making that decision. We ask everyone who may offer us advice, the barber, our aunt, our uncle, our granddad, our parents… sometimes the list can be pretty exhaustive.

3. We might just want to end up not deciding after all

Well we don’t have to decide every time right? Or rather: we shouldn’t decide every time. Not deciding and just sticking it out can be so cool because every decision takes all our effort.

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4. We wish some decisions were simply made for us by someone else

Yes. Like what to eat, what to wear and what to engage our energies in. We don’t always have a mind of our own so sometimes it is so much easier for someone else to help us through the ordeal of making the right decisions.

5. We sometimes wonder if we really made the right decision

As much as the decision we have made seems great, we never think it was the best or it was good enough. We always look back at the other options we should have taken. Could there have been a better one?

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6. We don’t want to feel guilty

At the end of the day we are simply trying to protect our conscience. We do not want to be at the end of the stick where we are to be blamed for the decisions we made or the actions we had to take.

7. We feel accomplished when we make the right decision

We have a sense of pride when we make a decision that offers us great results. After all one great decision could give birth to other great decisions. It is something we simply have to get used to, trying to make the right decision as quick as possible.

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8. We love having people around

It is better for us to have people around us. This is why we cling to friends. Because they make our life easier when it comes to making all those heavy decisions and even the easy ones too. The only difficult part is making the decision on which friends will be ideal and helpful to us.

9. We are sometimes terrified

Please don’t take this the hard way. We can be terrified about making those major decisions sometimes. Whether it is marriage, career or college, we really get so afraid we can wait for ages to make that decision. And it is not as if we suspend the thought of it. We actually are always thinking about it.

10. We are always having options

Life for us is full of options. We are never stuck with one route or one plan. We always have options which can be mentally exhausting as we are just cooking up alternatives or other channels in our heads. It would be so easy to stick to one set of doing things but living with so many options seems so much better.

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Last Updated on September 12, 2019

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

Even the most charismatic people you know, whether in person or celebrities of some sort, experience days where they feel lost in life and isolated from everyone else.

While it’s good to know we aren’t alone in this feeling, the question still remains:

What should we do when we feel lost and lonely?

Here are 12 things to remember:

1. Recognize That It’s Okay!

The truth is, there are times you need to be alone. If you’ve always been accustomed to being in contact with people, this may prove difficult.

However, learning how to be alone and comfortable in your own skin will give you confidence and a sense of self reliance.

We cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to become self reliant when we look for constant companionship.

Learn how to embrace your me time: What Your Fear of Being Alone Is Really About and How to Get over It

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2. Use Your Lost and Loneliness as a Self-Directing Guide

You’ve most likely heard the expression: “You have to know where you’ve been to know where you’re going.”

Loneliness also serves as a life signal to indicate you’re in search of something. It’s when we’re in the midst of solitude that answers come from true soul searching.

Remember, there is more to life than what you’re feeling.

3. Realize Loneliness Helps You Face the Truth

Being in the constant company of others, although comforting sometimes, can often serve as a distraction when we need to face the reality of a situation.

Solitude cuts straight to the chase and forces you to deal with the problem at hand. See it as a blessing that can serve as a catalyst to set things right!

4. Be Aware That You Have More Control Than You Think

Typically, when we see ourselves as being lost or lonely, it gives us an excuse to view everything we come in contact with in a negative light. It lends itself to putting ourselves in the victim mode, when the truth of the matter is that you choose your attitude in every situation.

No one can force a feeling upon you! It is YOU who has the ultimate say as to how you choose to react.

5. Embrace the Freedom That the Feeling of Being Alone Can Offer

Instead of wallowing in self pity, which many are prone to do because of loneliness, try looking at your circumstance as a new-found freedom.

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Most people are in constant need of approval of their viewpoints. Try enjoying the fact that  you don’t need everyone you care about to support your decisions.

6. Acknowledge the Person You Are Now

Perhaps you feel a sense of loneliness and confusion because your life circumstances have taken you away from the persona that others know to be you.

Perhaps the new you differs radically from the old. Realize that life is about change and how we react to that change. It’s okay that you’re not who you used to be.

Take a look at this article and learn to accept your imperfect self: Accept Yourself (Flaws and All): 7 Benefits of Being Vulnerable

7. Keep Striving to Do Your Best

Often those who are feeling isolated and unto themselves will develop a defeatist attitude. They’ll do substandard work because their self esteem is low and they don’t care.

Never let this feeling take away your sense of worth! Do your best always and when you come through this dark time, others will admire how you stayed determined in spite of the obstacles you had to overcome.

And to live your best life, you must do this ONE thing: step out of your comfort zone.

8. Don’t Forget That Time Is Precious

When we’re lost in a sea of loneliness and depression, it’s all too easy to reflect on regrets of past life events. This does nothing but feed negativity and perpetuate the situation.

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Instead of falling prey to this common pitfall, put one foot in front of the other and acknowledge every positive step you take. By doing this, you can celebrate the struggles you overcome at the end of the day.

9. Remember, Things Happen for a Reason

Every circumstance we encounter in our life is designed to teach us and that lesson is in turn passed on to others.

Sometimes we’re fortunate enough to figure out the lesson to be learned, while other times, we simply need to have faith that if the lesson wasn’t meant directly for us to learn from, how we handled it was observed by someone who needed to learn.

Your solitude and feeling of lost, in this instance, although painful possibly, may be teaching someone else.

10. Journal During This Time

Record your thoughts when you’re at the height of loneliness and feeling lost. You’ll be amazed when you reflect back at how you viewed things at the time and how far you’ve come later.

This time (if recorded) can give you a keen insight into who you are and what makes you feel the way you feel.

11. Remember You Aren’t the First to Feel This Way

It’s quite common to feel as if we’re alone and no one else has ever felt this way before. We think this because at the time of our distress, we’re silently observing others around us who are seemingly fine in every way.

The truth is, we can’t possibly know the struggles of those around us unless they elect to share them. We ALL have known this pain!

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Try confiding in someone you trust and ask them how they deal with these feelings when they experienced it. You may be surprised at what you learn.

12. Ask for Help If the Problem Persists

The feeling of being lost and lonely is common to everyone, but typically it will last for a relatively short period of time.

Most people will confess to, at one time or another, being in a “funk.” But if the problem persists longer than you feel it should, don’t ignore it.

When your ability to reason and consider things rationally becomes impaired, do not poo poo the problem away and think it isn’t worthy of attention. Seek medical help.

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Final Thoughts

Loneliness and a sense of feeling lost can in many ways be extremely painful and difficult to deal with at best. However, these feelings can also serve as a catalyst for change in our lives if we acknowledge them and act.

Above anything, cherish your mental well being and don’t underestimate its worth. Seek professional guidance if you’re unable to distinguish between a sense of freedom for yourself and a sense of despair.

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