Every decision whether basic or not is a hard decision. Many people can’t relate with that. They may think we are sly, coy, or simply trying to buy time. But we are not. We are simply stuck with trying to make the right and perfect decision. All through this process we wish people could understand us and relate with our challenges.
1. We want to be absolutely sure
We are indecisive and since making those major decisions is a nightmare we want to be absolutely sure before we dive in. We may burn time and exhaust resources in the process, but it’s okay, we will be more comfortable with ourselves at the end of the day when we have double checked and triple checked.
2. We want to seek every person’s opinion before we make a decision
It is not simply about us. We want to be informed in the process before making that decision. We ask everyone who may offer us advice, the barber, our aunt, our uncle, our granddad, our parents… sometimes the list can be pretty exhaustive.
3. We might just want to end up not deciding after all
Well we don’t have to decide every time right? Or rather: we shouldn’t decide every time. Not deciding and just sticking it out can be so cool because every decision takes all our effort.
4. We wish some decisions were simply made for us by someone else
Yes. Like what to eat, what to wear and what to engage our energies in. We don’t always have a mind of our own so sometimes it is so much easier for someone else to help us through the ordeal of making the right decisions.
5. We sometimes wonder if we really made the right decision
As much as the decision we have made seems great, we never think it was the best or it was good enough. We always look back at the other options we should have taken. Could there have been a better one?
6. We don’t want to feel guilty
At the end of the day we are simply trying to protect our conscience. We do not want to be at the end of the stick where we are to be blamed for the decisions we made or the actions we had to take.
7. We feel accomplished when we make the right decision
We have a sense of pride when we make a decision that offers us great results. After all one great decision could give birth to other great decisions. It is something we simply have to get used to, trying to make the right decision as quick as possible.
8. We love having people around
It is better for us to have people around us. This is why we cling to friends. Because they make our life easier when it comes to making all those heavy decisions and even the easy ones too. The only difficult part is making the decision on which friends will be ideal and helpful to us.
9. We are sometimes terrified
Please don’t take this the hard way. We can be terrified about making those major decisions sometimes. Whether it is marriage, career or college, we really get so afraid we can wait for ages to make that decision. And it is not as if we suspend the thought of it. We actually are always thinking about it.
10. We are always having options
Life for us is full of options. We are never stuck with one route or one plan. We always have options which can be mentally exhausting as we are just cooking up alternatives or other channels in our heads. It would be so easy to stick to one set of doing things but living with so many options seems so much better.
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