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10 Signs That They’re Toxic Persons, Even Though You Don’t Feel Like It

10 Signs That They’re Toxic Persons, Even Though You Don’t Feel Like It

They’re Controlling

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    A sizable indicator that someone is a toxic person is if they are overly controlling. Though many of us have controlling tendencies, there’s a difference between someone who likes things tidy and someone who tries to manipulate the people close to them. If you feel somebody trying to pull your strings the person in question is probably not the best for you.

    They’re Jealous

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      Another way someone can be a toxic force in your life is by being constantly jealous of your accomplishments. The people you are closest to in life should be overjoyed each time you succeed, so if you feel like you can never share good news with this person that should be a red flag.

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      They Lie

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        Unsurprisingly, toxic persons are often frequent liars. Whether this person is telling large or little lies, it doesn’t matter. If you frequently catch someone lying to others, there’s a strong chance they are also lying to you. People who have the greatest positive effect on us are people we can trust, so keeping someone who is dishonest around will inevitably be a drain on you.

        They Play The Victim

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          Another way toxic persons can be harmful is by always playing the victim. Although these people may be convincing as to why a situation is far worse for them, if someone constantly claims to be the worst affected by life it can be a sign they are not good for you. Someone who is toxic will consistently ask others to give more than they themselves are willing to give.

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          They Gossip

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            Another hallmark of toxic persons is a zest for gossip that’s a little too strong. Not only does overly frequent gossip show that someone will rarely converse with you about things of substance, gossip is also usually fiction. If you are constantly around someone who’s a constant gossip it is likely they have the same lack of respect for you. Not only that, only talking about other people is tiresome and boring in the long run, so you are probably better off without them.

            They’re Greedy

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              Another way toxic persons negatively affect our lives is by being greedy. If someone close to you only has regard for what they gain in every situation, you are likely the one who will be constantly shortchanged. This might not bug you at first, but over time, getting the short end of the stick will take its toll.

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              They Always Come First

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                In a similar way, toxic persons usually only consider themselves. If the person in question never seems to find time for you (but you are constantly willing to help them), it’s a huge indicator that their time is more important to them. Another way someone only considers themselves is with a lack of concern for your well-being. If you frequently check in on them to see how they’re doing, but they show little to no regard for your state of wellness, it’s likely an unhealthy situation.

                They’re Negative

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                  Being overly negative and judgmental is another way toxic persons give themselves away. No matter what you try and do with this person, it will always be less than what they wanted. Especially when unforeseeable problems arise, this person will complain to no end, let it completely ruin their day, and predictably blame you too. No matter how well an evening goes, it will always be too busy, too expensive, too much traffic, not enough fun, or not exciting enough. When you find someone’s negativity consistently interferes with your ability to have a good time, it’s likely time to move on.

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                  They’re Arrogant

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                    Similarly, toxic persons are often also very arrogant. They will see themselves as the smartest person in the room, and the only person capable of carrying out tasks. Perhaps their constant negativity stems from this arrogance, as it seems they always know the “right” way to do things. A person can only handle so much ego, so if you find yourself consistently put down next to this person, chances are they are an overall negative force for you.

                    They’re Always Right

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                      Finally, toxic persons frequently try to dominate every conversation. Since they think they are the smartest person in the room, everyone else must be wrong. With toxic persons, small, humorous conversations will quickly escalate into violent arguments. You can also forget about them ever considering your point of view since their point of view is fact. When somebody sees a conversation as a challenge they must win it’s nearly impossible to have a healthy relationship. In this way, moving on from friends who are toxic is crucial in life to feel self-assured, free, and capable.

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                      Last Updated on June 13, 2019

                      How to Quit Your Boring Life and Start Living an Interesting One

                      How to Quit Your Boring Life and Start Living an Interesting One

                      Think you have a boring life?

                      The definition of boring is dull or not interesting. Maybe you’ve been doing the same thing and living the same life for too long, or maybe your daily routine is limiting your growth and happiness. Whatever your reason is, the following list of 20 things can definitely make any day more interesting. Some of them are silly, while some are more meaningful, so hopefully just reading the list makes your life less boring and sparks your creativity.

                      Let’s dive in the list to quit your boring life and start living an interesting (and meaning) one!

                      1. Channel Your 7-Year-Old Self

                      What would he or she want to do right now? Color? Paint? Run around outside? Play dress up? Eat with your hands? Play that instrument hiding in the back of your closet that you haven’t touched in years?

                      Just because you’re a grown up doesn’t mean any of this stuff will be less enjoyable than you remember it. Give yourself permission to play.

                      2. Go Play with Kids

                      Speaking of little kids, if you have your own or access to any (in a non-creepy way, like they’re your niece or your best friend’s kid, you get the idea) go play with them!

                      They didn’t create an entire show called Kids Say The Darndest Things because kids aren’t hilarious. They also keep things so simple, and we can really stand to be reminded of this and stop allowing ourselves to get bogged down in boring details.

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                      3. Order a Hot Dog

                      While you’re eating it, Google: “What’s in a hot dog?” You decide whether or not you want to finish it.

                      4. For the Ladies: Wear Your Sexiest Lingerie Under Your Work Clothes

                      Your “little secret” will leave you feeling anything but boring all day!

                      5. Play Cell Phone Roulette

                      You’ll need at least one buddy for this. Scroll through the contacts in your phone, stop on a random one and call the person.

                      You could spark an incredible catch up session or be incredibly awkward. Neither are boring.

                      6. Fill out a Pack of Thank-You Cards

                      Give them to random people who probably don’t get thanked too often for doing what they do ever day.

                      Ideas: police officers, librarians, servers, baristas, cab drivers, sanitation workers, teachers, people behind any check out counter, receptionists, your friends, the guy at the falafel stand, etc.

                      7. Sign up for a Class in Something You’ve “Always Wanted to Do”, or Something That Makes You Really Uncomfortable

                      Ideas: pole dancing, salsa lessons, improv, pottery, cooking, knitting (yup, there are classes for this, too!), karate, boxing, something techy like the workshops they run in Apple stores, get Rosetta Stone and learn that language you’ve always wanted to speak, etc.

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                      What’s good about joining an interest class is that you will also meet new people!

                      8. Interview Your Grandparents About Their Lives

                      You can bet they’ve had some crazy experiences you probably never knew about.

                      9. Get up on Stage at an Open Mic Night

                      Whether you’re funny or not, get up on stage and just talk funny. And if you’re not, memorize a few of your favorite jokes and tell those!

                      10. Do Something for Someone Else That You Wish Someone Would Do for You

                      We all have a few ideas on this list. I promise you will feel amazing after and anything but bored.

                      11. Start a DIY Project in Your Home

                      It doesn’t have to be super complicated. If you need ideas, there’re plenty on Pinterest. Or you can also check out these 30 Awesome DIY Projects that You’ve Never Heard of.

                      12. Plan a Weekend Trip or an All-Out Vacation

                      This will give you something to look forward to.

                      Even if you don’t have the time or money to go on a vacation, plan for a staycation, which is same fun and relaxing!

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                      13. People Watch

                      Find a bench in a crowded area (centers of transportation like airports, bus stops and train stations are great for this!) and just observe.

                      People are infinitely interesting.

                      14. Eat Something You’ve Never Eaten Before

                      Bonus points if it’s a random fruit or veggie.

                      15. Dance

                      You can get your friends together for a night on the town or just pull up a video on YouTube and bust a move from your own living room.

                      If you’re feeling extra brave, you can even dance in public and get other people involved.

                      16. Go to YOUTUBE and Search “Funny Pets” or “Funny Babies”

                      This is also a great quickie ab workout as you will be laughing hysterically.

                      17. Pick up a Book and Start Reading

                      Check out the NY Times Best Sellers lists and grab a new book you can get lost in.

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                      18. Step Away from the Computer and Go Get Some Time with People You Care About in Real Life

                      Facebook stalking doesn’t count as real social interaction. You can even share this post with your friends and vote on which one you’d like to do together!

                      19. Check out a Museum You’ve Never Been to Before

                      OK, depending on your interests, this one might actually be boring. If you love learning, art or different cultures though, this one is for you!

                      20. Write a List of Things You Desire and Truly Want

                      This is a great way to help you figure out the real reason why you’re feeling bored about your life. Maybe you haven’t really done things that you truly enjoy? Maybe what you’ve wanted to do all the time has been left behind?

                      Think about the list of things you really want to do, and ask yourself why you aren’t doing these things (yet). Then start taking your first step to make what you want happen.

                      Now go make your life interesting and live your dream life!

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