Best friends are meant to be real, ride or die persons that will be forever close to you. You can eat an entire pizza with a best friend and be so original about it. You are completely free with your best friend. Even when say silly things or bullshit, you understand each other.
But there are times you hear something from a friend and you have to know if the person has always been a friend. These statements can kill your self-confidence and be spiteful. Here are ten sentences your best friend will never say to you.
1. “No you can’t borrow that”
Best friends share stuff. There are times you will need the other person to help you through a night or a day out – not being able to borrow something from a friend means the person is not a true friend in the first place.
2. “I don’t care”
This sentence implies a lot – it means you should leave them alone and that there are better things to do than listening to what your friend has to say.
3. “Why are you calling me at this hour?”
It will be better for you to suggest a sentence that shows you are willing to come over and talk, rather than question why you have been called at 4am. You are BFFs – you should be there for each other during any time of the day.
4. “I can’t stand who you are dating”
There are times it is better to be silent about your opinion, and then there are the times when your BFF is in a relationship with someone who he/she cares about. Although you don’t have to lie about your feelings, you have to be mindful of how you talk about with your negative feelings. Be concerned about your friend feels but never stand in the way.
5. “Are you really going to eat all of that?”
When you start questioning the diet of your best friend it means you want to upset your friendship. You should understand your friend’s nutritional decisions and not play the devil’s advocate.
6. “You can’t do it.”
You are never in the position to say this, because your statement means that no matter how much he/she tries they won’t be good enough. You may have good intentions and not want your friend to live under any illusions but you are simply not the judge of their life!
7. “I told you but you just won’t listen.”
Either you mean that your friend is deaf or you are much better than he/she. When things go wrong, you should show you are willing to help rather than criticize. Your friendship is not a competition and it is not about who is winning or losing.
8. “Your family drives me crazy.”
This sentence is a gut punch and it could hurt really badly. Your friend’s family is part of his/her identity. Sure, family can drive a wedge between you and your friend but you should learn to adjust and adapt.
9. “Your new hairdo is totally amaze!”
If something is not right, it would be better you just said it. If your BFF says amaze rather than amazing it means the person is trying to be sarcastic. A true friend does not need to lie to you. If you have made a mistake then they will help you correct it.
10. “You are wrong.”
You are wrong simply means you are stupid, worthless and do not know anything. Whatever assumptions your BFF is making it is better for you be working from the same direction. A better sentence would be that, “I would have thought that…”, “My understanding is that…”
There are a lot of sentences that can hurt a friendship. It is better for you to be aware of what you say to your friends than to act on instinct. If it does spill out accidentally, make sure to quickly take it back.
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