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10 Reasons Why You Should Stop Making Plans

10 Reasons Why You Should Stop Making Plans

Life is about taking chances and you know what ruins such a chance? Plans. Plans. And today, I give you 10 reasons why it’s time for you to drop your pen and stop making plans to live your life full with chances!

1. Plans are just an illusion.

By making plans, you just create an illusion of control to yourself. You must be flexible enough to put a plan aside, especially if things don’t go the way you think they will. Plans are OK to work on, but really, a complete plan is illusory and rarely comes out the way you think it will.

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2. Plans skew perspective

What you imagine may not be what you see. Plans may alter your viewpoint, creating confusion to yourself. How you view your plan may look perfect, but as we go, the real form which will differ may change you point of view towards it.

3. Plans are solely guesses

No way can a person be so sure about their plans. They are merely hypothesis that you draw from your point of view. Plans are often laid out while you make guesses about what will be best to happen and how will it happen. In other words, they are not something solid and they are just possibilities you created for yourself that may or may not happen.

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4. Plans may blind you

You are often so fixated with your mind, carrying out your plan that perhaps you would have overlooked some other better options. Chances are there will be a whole new opportunity presented in front of your eyes but with plans that blinded your vision, you might just walked pass it. Before you know it, you had just missed that hard-to-get kind of opportunity.

5. Waste of time and energy

While laying out the whole plan, you definitely have to invest your time and energy in order to lay out what is on your mind.  You will also be wasting your time making assumptions and guesses that may or may not happen. Draining your energy thinking and keeping track of your plan can become exhausting.

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6. Source of unnecessary stress

Life is stressful enough to lead everyone in hope for a good rest, uninterrupted. Making plans would not make life easier by any chance. You may just end up gaining more stress compared to those that spend their free time with leisure and rest instead of making plans. With plans, you will feel anxious and you will be worry with fear that your plan may fail. How stressful will this be?

7. Party-spoilers

You rejected almost all invitations to have fun in order to keep your plan going. You are too concentrated on your plans and you literally zoned out all the fun around you. Even when you decided to just let yourself loose, guilt surrounds you with the thought that you have a plan to keep going. With all these restrictions, how are plans fun?

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8. Loss of the creative mind

After struggling with the mind and self, you finally managed to come out with a plan. You are satisfied with what you came out with and would definitely protect it. But what if as you go, something else comes up, a better way of doing it, a more unique way of solving a problem or achieving a goal? As you locked yourself with the plan, you will lock away the creative side in you with fear of taking chances.

9. Disappointments

Face the facts. Plans do not bring that much of satisfaction to you. Most of the time they will lead you to disappointment, pulling you down. It doesn’t always work the way you want and the outcome may not always be how you imagined it to be. Why would you want to fall into this pit of disappointment when the life away from plans is much more fun?

10. Give yourself a break!

This is the ultimate reason for not having any plans. Kick all the pens and papers away, free your mind and just lay back. Throw all the plans behind and enjoy the luxurious carefree life. Not having a plan means granting yourself the ability to do nothing at all.

Featured photo credit: Keith Williamson via flickr.com

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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