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10 Reasons Why You Should Not Stop Being True To Yourself

10 Reasons Why You Should Not Stop Being True To Yourself

It’s all too easy to fall into the ensnaring trap of always trying to please other people over valuing what makes YOU great. To climb out of that depressing pit, read these ten reasons you should always stay true to yourself.

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    1. Being someone other than yourself never pays off in the end.

    The number one thing you need to remember is that pretending to be someone else, even if you or others consider that someone else an improvement, never concludes with positive results. You have to make a true change to become a better person, not just pretend to be one.

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      2. You won’t be able to please everyone.

      You just won’t. If anything, the harder you try to make everyone happy, the less likely they’ll end up satisfied with your efforts. People can sense when you’re being fake, so instead of that try embracing sincerity by being true to yourself.

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      3. You don’t know what other people want.

      Even if you think you know what others want from you, you’re probably wrong. Unless people have outright told you the problems they have with you, an uncommon occurrence, you’ll at best be playing a guessing game.

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        4. Other people don’t really know what they want, either.

        Even if someone does give you a guideline describing what they want you to change about yourself, heeding their advice to the letter likely won’t leave them appeased. Most people don’t actually know what they want, let alone know how to communicate their wishes and desires in ways someone else can understand.

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          5. People will respect you more.

          When your co-workers and family members and friends and enemies see you being true to yourself, they’ll be impressed with your ability to stick to your guns. By not acting different because certain people want you to, you demonstrate a rare integrity that others can’t help but take notice of.

          6. People will LIKE you more.

          As mentioned above, sincerity is much better received than when you’re not being true to yourself. Even if they can’t put a finger on why, many people will enjoy your company more if you’re being the real you, not a monkey dancing around for their amusement.

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            7. You’ll be happier.

            Obviously, being true to yourself is the best choice in regards to your overall self-esteem. There’s little as depressing as pretending to be someone you’re not because you don’t believe people will respond well to the true you. Avoid that crippling pitfall.

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            8. Life will be easier

            By not constantly trying to be different things for different people, life will get a lot simpler very quickly. Imagine not having to “act” nearly as much as you do now, sharing your true self with others whether they like it or not. Sounds nice, doesn’t it? So go do it.

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              9. You have to look at yourself in the mirror every day.

              You don’t wake up each morning and see another person’s reflection gazing back at you. You’re the person you have to spend the most time with, which makes you the head judge of your value. You might be currently judging yourself on what other people think of you, but you won’t be at peace until you value being true to yourself above almost anything else.

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                10. You’ll further uncover the real you.

                By pretending to be things you’re not, you have less time to uncover who you are deep down inside. Life is far too short, and uncovering what makes us unique and special is an extremely long process. Don’t slow that process down further by failing to be true to yourself. Hopefully, you’ve now realized that staying true is far and away the best thing for you.

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                Last Updated on October 16, 2019

                5 Powerful Ways for Building Fulfilling Relationships

                5 Powerful Ways for Building Fulfilling Relationships

                We all have relationships. We have acquaintances, relatives, colleagues, neighbors and friends. However, for a large percentage of us, many of these relationships are not fulfilling.

                They are unfulfilling because they lack real strength; and they lack real strength because they lack real depth.

                Unfortunately, in today’s society, we tend to have shallow, superficial relationships with others, and it’s extremely hard for this kind of relationships to provide anything more than faint satisfaction.

                I’d like to show you, based on my experience as a communication and confidence coach, how you can add a significant amount of depth, and thus strength, to your relationships and make your social life a whole lot more meaningful.

                Here’re 5 simple yet powerful ways for meaningful relationships building:

                1. Meet More People

                This is an apparent paradox, but the quality of the people you meet has considerably to do with the quantity of people you meet.

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                If you don’t know a lot of people and you barely meet one or two new people every season of the year, considering the variety of individuals out there, you won’t meet very often people who are a good match with you in terms of personality, interests and values.

                And since this natural match plays a huge part in building strong relationships, you’ll just as seldom have the opportunity to develop strong relationships.

                Conversely, if you go out a lot, you meet a lot of new people and you constantly expand your social circle, you’re much more likely to meet people you match up well with, and these people have a tremendous potential to become good friends, reliable partners, etc.

                This is why it’s important to meet more people.

                2. Talk about the Things That Matter To You

                A relationship becomes the strongest when two people discover they believe in the same things and have similar interests. It’s these commonalities regarding values and interests that create the strongest emotional connection.

                I’ve noticed that many people keep conversations shallow. They talk about trivial stuff such as the weather, what’s on TV, the lives of various movie stars, but they rarely talk about what really matters to them in life. This is a mistake from my perspective, because it’s the perfect method for a relationship to not develop.

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                Talk about the things that truly matter to you and give others a chance to know what you care about and what you believe in. If they believe in the same things and they care about the same things, they’ll eagerly let you know. Thus you’ll find meaningful common ground and you’ll feel more connected.

                3. Express Vulnerability

                Many people try to come off as perfect. They don’t talk about their failures, they hide their shortcomings and they never say anything that could embarrass them.

                This is all just a facade though. You may appear perfect to some, but you know you’re not perfect and they know that too. You’re only human and humans have flaws.

                However, by hiding your flaws, what you do succeed in is appearing cold and impersonal. You seem like a marble statue rather than a real person. And this makes it very hard for anyone to connect with you emotionally.

                Humans connect with other humans, not with ideals. Keep this in mind and don’t be afraid to let your vulnerability and your humanity show. This is what takes a relationship to the next level.

                Take a look at this article and find out Why Showing Vulnerability Actually Proves Your Strength.

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                4. Have Integrity

                Integrity, as I see it, is the alignment between your thoughts, your words and your actions. When you say what you think and you do what you said you’ll do, you have integrity.

                This is a crucial trait because if you have integrity, people can trust you. They can trust you to give them an honest feedback, even when it’s hard to shallow, and they can trust you to keep your promises.

                This trust is one of the central pillars of a strong relationship, both in your personal and your professional life. So, as challenging as it can be sometimes, always try to have integrity.

                Be honest with the people around you, even when this will initially hurt them. It’s more important for them to trust you than to not feel hurt. And always do what you promised. Even better, think twice before you promise anything, and only promise what you really can and you are willing to do.

                5. Be There for Others

                Another central pillar of strong relationships is support. Connections between people grow sturdy if they can rely on each other for support when it’s needed, whether that support means a few kind words or several massive actions.

                Of course, you can’t be there for everybody, all the time. Your time, energy and other resources are limited. But what you can do is identify the genuinely important people in your life and then seek to be there as much as possible, at least for them.

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                Your support will help them practically, and it will comfort them emotionally; which makes one hell of a difference in a relationship.

                The Bottom Line

                With the right mindset and the right behavior, you can strengthen a wide range of relationships in your life and advance them as far as they can be advanced.

                And with strong relationships, not only that you feel more fulfilled, but you feel more connected to the entire world. You feel that your life has real value, you have more fun and you live in the moment. An entire world of opportunities opens up in front of you.

                Then your task is to simply walk through the open doors.

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