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10 Reasons Why You Should Not Stop Being True To Yourself

10 Reasons Why You Should Not Stop Being True To Yourself

It’s all too easy to fall into the ensnaring trap of always trying to please other people over valuing what makes YOU great. To climb out of that depressing pit, read these ten reasons you should always stay true to yourself.

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    1. Being someone other than yourself never pays off in the end.

    The number one thing you need to remember is that pretending to be someone else, even if you or others consider that someone else an improvement, never concludes with positive results. You have to make a true change to become a better person, not just pretend to be one.

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      2. You won’t be able to please everyone.

      You just won’t. If anything, the harder you try to make everyone happy, the less likely they’ll end up satisfied with your efforts. People can sense when you’re being fake, so instead of that try embracing sincerity by being true to yourself.

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      3. You don’t know what other people want.

      Even if you think you know what others want from you, you’re probably wrong. Unless people have outright told you the problems they have with you, an uncommon occurrence, you’ll at best be playing a guessing game.

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        4. Other people don’t really know what they want, either.

        Even if someone does give you a guideline describing what they want you to change about yourself, heeding their advice to the letter likely won’t leave them appeased. Most people don’t actually know what they want, let alone know how to communicate their wishes and desires in ways someone else can understand.

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          5. People will respect you more.

          When your co-workers and family members and friends and enemies see you being true to yourself, they’ll be impressed with your ability to stick to your guns. By not acting different because certain people want you to, you demonstrate a rare integrity that others can’t help but take notice of.

          6. People will LIKE you more.

          As mentioned above, sincerity is much better received than when you’re not being true to yourself. Even if they can’t put a finger on why, many people will enjoy your company more if you’re being the real you, not a monkey dancing around for their amusement.

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            7. You’ll be happier.

            Obviously, being true to yourself is the best choice in regards to your overall self-esteem. There’s little as depressing as pretending to be someone you’re not because you don’t believe people will respond well to the true you. Avoid that crippling pitfall.

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            8. Life will be easier

            By not constantly trying to be different things for different people, life will get a lot simpler very quickly. Imagine not having to “act” nearly as much as you do now, sharing your true self with others whether they like it or not. Sounds nice, doesn’t it? So go do it.

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              9. You have to look at yourself in the mirror every day.

              You don’t wake up each morning and see another person’s reflection gazing back at you. You’re the person you have to spend the most time with, which makes you the head judge of your value. You might be currently judging yourself on what other people think of you, but you won’t be at peace until you value being true to yourself above almost anything else.

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                10. You’ll further uncover the real you.

                By pretending to be things you’re not, you have less time to uncover who you are deep down inside. Life is far too short, and uncovering what makes us unique and special is an extremely long process. Don’t slow that process down further by failing to be true to yourself. Hopefully, you’ve now realized that staying true is far and away the best thing for you.

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                Last Updated on June 19, 2019

                6 Ways to Be a Successful Risk Taker and Take More Chances

                6 Ways to Be a Successful Risk Taker and Take More Chances

                I’ve stood on the edge of my own personal cliffs many times. Each time I jumped, something different happened. There were risks that started off great, but eventually faded. There were risks that left me falling until I hit the ground. There were risks that started slow, but built into massive successes.

                Every risk is different, but every risk is the same. You need to have some fundamentals ready before you jump, but not too many.

                It wouldn’t be a risk if you knew everything that was about to happen, would it? Here’re 6 ways to be a successful risk taker.

                1. Understand That Failure Is Going to Happen a Lot

                It’s part of life. Everything we do has failure attached to it. All successful people have stories of massive failure attached to them. Thinking that your risk is going to be pain free and run as smooth as silk is insane.

                Expect some pain and failure. Actually, expect a lot of it. Expect the sleepless nights with crazy thoughts of insecurity that leave you trembling under the covers. It’s going to happen, no matter how positive you are about the risk you are about to take.

                When failure hits, the only options are to keep going or quit. If you expect falling into a meadow of flowers and frolicking unicorns, then you’re going to immediately quit once you realize that getting to that meadow requires you to go through a rock filled cave filled with hungry bats.

                2. Trust the Muse

                Writing a story isn’t a big risk. It’s really just a risk on my time. So when I start writing a story, I’m scared it will be time wasted. Of course, it never really is. Even if the story doesn’t turn out fabulous, I still practiced.

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                When I’ve taken risks in my life, the successful ones always seemed to happen when I followed the muse. Steven Pressfield describes the muse,

                “The Muse demands depth. Shallow does not work for her. If we’re seeking her help, we can’t stay in the kiddie end. When we work, we have to go hard and go deep.”

                The muse is a goddess who wants our attention and wants us to work on our passion.

                If you’re taking a risk in anything, it’s assumed that there is some passion built up behind that risk. That passion, deep inside you, is the muse. Trust it, focus on it, listen to it.

                The most successful articles and stories I write are the ones I’ve focused all my attention on. There were no interruptions during their creative development. I didn’t check my phone or go watch my Twitter feed. I was fully engaged in my work.

                Trust the muse, focus your attention on your risk, let the ideas and path develop themselves, and leave the distractions at the side of the road.

                3. Remember to Be Authentic

                Taking a risk and then turning into something you’re not, is only going to lead to disaster. Whether you are risking a new relationship or new opportunity, you must be yourself throughout the entire process.

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                How many times have you acted like you loved something just because the men or woman you just started going out with loved it?

                For example, I’m not an office worker. I have an incredibly hard time working in a confined timeline (ie. 9-5). That’s why I write. I can do it whenever the mood strikes, I don’t have somebody breathing down my neck, telling me that I’m five minutes late, or missed a comma somewhere. I don’t have to walk on eggshells wondering if what I’m writing will get me fired or make me lose a promotion. I can just be myself, period.

                One girlfriend didn’t understand that. She believed solely in the 9-5 motto, specifically something in human resources because that was a very stable job. I was scared for my future, but I stuck with the relationship because of my own insecurities and acted like I would do it to make her happy.

                Here’s a tip: NEVER take away from your happiness to make somebody else satisfied (note I didn’t say happy).

                Making somebody else happy will make you happy. Doing something to satisfy somebody is murder on your soul.

                4. Don’t Take Any Risks While You’re Not Clearheaded

                I’d been considering the risk for a couple weeks. It all sounded good. I was 22 and I could be rich in a couple of years. That’s what they were selling me, anyways.

                One night, while at a house party with some friends, I found myself at a computer. A couple of my friends were standing nearby and asked me what I was doing. I told them I was considering starting my own business and it was only going to cost me $1,500.

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                Of course, when a bunch of drunk people are surrounded by more drunk people, things get enthusiastic. It sounded like the best business venture in the world to everybody, including me. So I signed up and gave them my credit card number.

                A few painful months and close to $4,000 dollars lost later, I quit the business. I was young and fell into the pyramid scheme trap. It was an expensive drunk decision.

                Drinking heavily and making decisions has a proven track record of failure. So when you have something important to decide, don’t let your emotions take over your brain.

                5. Fully Understand What You’re Risking

                It was the start of my baseball comeback. I got a tryout with a professional scout and killed it. After the tryout, he talked to my girlfriend and myself, making sure we understood I would be gone for up to 6 months at a time. That strain on the relationship could be tough.

                We understood. I left to play ball, chose to stay in the city I played in, and a year later we broke up. Not because of baseball, see point 3 above. Taking big risks can have massive impacts on everything in your life from relationships to money. Know what you’re risking before you take the risk.

                If you believe the risk will be worth it or you have the support you need from your family, then go ahead and make the leap.

                You can get more guidance on how to take calculated risks from this article: How to Take Calculated Risk to Achieve More and Become Successful

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                6. Remember This Is Your One Shot Only

                As far as we know officially, this is our one shot at life, so why not take some risks?

                The top thing people are saddened by on their deathbeds are these regrets. They wish they did more, asked that girl in the coffee shop out, spoke out when they should have, or did what they were passionate about.

                Don’t regret. Learn and experience. Live. Take the risks you believe in. Be yourself and make the world a better place.

                Now go ahead, take that risk and be successful at it!

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