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10 Reasons Why You Should Not Stop Being True To Yourself

10 Reasons Why You Should Not Stop Being True To Yourself

It’s all too easy to fall into the ensnaring trap of always trying to please other people over valuing what makes YOU great. To climb out of that depressing pit, read these ten reasons you should always stay true to yourself.

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    1. Being someone other than yourself never pays off in the end.

    The number one thing you need to remember is that pretending to be someone else, even if you or others consider that someone else an improvement, never concludes with positive results. You have to make a true change to become a better person, not just pretend to be one.

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      2. You won’t be able to please everyone.

      You just won’t. If anything, the harder you try to make everyone happy, the less likely they’ll end up satisfied with your efforts. People can sense when you’re being fake, so instead of that try embracing sincerity by being true to yourself.

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      3. You don’t know what other people want.

      Even if you think you know what others want from you, you’re probably wrong. Unless people have outright told you the problems they have with you, an uncommon occurrence, you’ll at best be playing a guessing game.

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        4. Other people don’t really know what they want, either.

        Even if someone does give you a guideline describing what they want you to change about yourself, heeding their advice to the letter likely won’t leave them appeased. Most people don’t actually know what they want, let alone know how to communicate their wishes and desires in ways someone else can understand.

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          5. People will respect you more.

          When your co-workers and family members and friends and enemies see you being true to yourself, they’ll be impressed with your ability to stick to your guns. By not acting different because certain people want you to, you demonstrate a rare integrity that others can’t help but take notice of.

          6. People will LIKE you more.

          As mentioned above, sincerity is much better received than when you’re not being true to yourself. Even if they can’t put a finger on why, many people will enjoy your company more if you’re being the real you, not a monkey dancing around for their amusement.

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            7. You’ll be happier.

            Obviously, being true to yourself is the best choice in regards to your overall self-esteem. There’s little as depressing as pretending to be someone you’re not because you don’t believe people will respond well to the true you. Avoid that crippling pitfall.

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            8. Life will be easier

            By not constantly trying to be different things for different people, life will get a lot simpler very quickly. Imagine not having to “act” nearly as much as you do now, sharing your true self with others whether they like it or not. Sounds nice, doesn’t it? So go do it.

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              9. You have to look at yourself in the mirror every day.

              You don’t wake up each morning and see another person’s reflection gazing back at you. You’re the person you have to spend the most time with, which makes you the head judge of your value. You might be currently judging yourself on what other people think of you, but you won’t be at peace until you value being true to yourself above almost anything else.

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                10. You’ll further uncover the real you.

                By pretending to be things you’re not, you have less time to uncover who you are deep down inside. Life is far too short, and uncovering what makes us unique and special is an extremely long process. Don’t slow that process down further by failing to be true to yourself. Hopefully, you’ve now realized that staying true is far and away the best thing for you.

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                Last Updated on March 5, 2021

                Science Says People Who Talk To Themselves Are Geniuses

                Science Says People Who Talk To Themselves Are Geniuses

                I talk a lot to myself. It helps me to keep my concentration on the activity on hand, makes me focus more on my studies, and gives me some pretty brilliant ideas while chattering to myself; more importantly, I produce better works. For example, right now, as I am typing, I am constantly mumbling to myself. Do you talk to yourself? Don’t get embarrassed admitting it because science has discovered that those who talk to themselves are actually geniuses… and not crazy!

                Research Background

                Psychologist-researcher Gary Lupyan conducted an experiment where 20 volunteers were shown objects, in a supermarket, and were asked to remember them. Half of them were told to repeat the objects, for example, banana, and the other half remained silent. In the end, the result shown that self-directed speech aided people to find the objects faster, by 50 to 100 milliseconds, compared to the silent ones.

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                “I’ll often mutter to myself when searching for something in the refrigerator or the supermarket shelves,” said Gary Lupyan.

                This personal experience actually made him conduct this experiment. Lupyan, together with another psychologist, Daniel Swigley, came up with the outcomes that those to talk to oneself are geniuses. Here are the reasons:

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                It stimulates your memory

                When you are talking to yourself, your sensory mechanism gets activated. It gets easier on your memory since you can visualize the word, and you can act accordingly.[1]

                It helps stay focused

                When you are saying it loud, you stay focused on your task,[2] and it helps you recognise that stuff immediately. Of course, this only helps if you know what the object you are searching looks like. For example, a banana is yellow in colour, and you know how a banana looks like. So when you are saying it loud, your brain immediately pictures the image on your mind. But if you don’t know what banana looks like, then there is no effect of saying it loud.

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                It helps you clarify your thoughts

                Every one of us tends to have various types of thoughts. Most make sense, while the others don’t. Suppose you are furious at someone and you feel like killing that person. Now for this issue you won’t run to a therapist, will you? No, what you do is lock yourself in a room and mutter to yourself. You are letting go off the anger by talking to yourself, the pros and cons of killing that person, and eventually you calm down. This is a silly thought that you have and are unable to share it with any other person. Psychologist Linda Sapadin said,[3]

                “It helps you clarify your thoughts, tend to what’s important and firm up any decisions you are contemplating.”

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