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10 Reasons Why Introverts Are More Likely To Be Successful

10 Reasons Why Introverts Are More Likely To Be Successful

When it comes to success, it’s easy to see why people who are more outgoing would be thought of as more likely to be successful. They’re typically the ones to speak up when they have an idea, and they’re often able to communicate with a certain degree of confidence.

But despite how outgoing and confident extroverts can be, there are several reasons why introverts are more likely to be successful.

1. They’re Always Listening

Everyone knows that introverts are typically quiet people, and this is especially true when they’re around a large group of people.

So what are they doing when they’re around a bunch of people? Well, they’re actually listening. Introverts can sit in the middle of a large group of people where many different conversations are occurring and tune into any individual conversation.

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If you’re looking for someone who takes listening to others very seriously, introverts are the kind of people you’re looking for.

2. They Think Things Through

Introverts don’t just jump into things without thinking. They’re naturally cautious, especially with anything that involves risk. Introverts tend to plan ahead as much as possible because they don’t want to be surprised by anything that could be negative. This can be a valuable trait for an organization who wants someone who exercises wisdom and plans ahead.

3. They’re Observant

Not only do introverts make great listeners, they’re mindful of their environment and the things happening around them. Because they’re observant, they’re able to notice both the mistakes and successes of others and pick up on what to do and what to avoid in order to be successful.

4. They’re Self-Aware

Introverts are relentlessly self-aware, almost always thinking about the way they are being perceived by others. Most introverts want to be taken seriously, and for that reason, they’re careful about how they portray themselves. They’re not likely to take part in any activity that will embarrass themselves or someone they work for.

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5. They Weigh Their Words

Introverts don’t jump into public conversations lightly. Because they’re likely to stumble over their words if they’re forced to suddenly enter conversations, introverts are constantly listening and thinking through what could be said in a conversation.

They choose their words carefully, so you know when an introvert is speaking, they’re carefully weighing their words in hopes of communicating something important when they have an opportunity.

6. They’re Sensitive

This can be a strength or a weakness depending upon how an introverted person utilizes their sensitivity, but the strength lies in introverts taking the things they do and the relationships they’re involved in very seriously.

Because they feel deeply, they’re more likely to be in tune with how others are feeling. This can be a valuable asset for someone who is a leader, because they’ll be considerate of the needs of the people under them.

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7. They’re Creative

It’s no surprise that introverts tend to be more introspective than extroverts, able to spend hours thinking about various topics.

Because introverts are highly experienced thinkers, they tend to be more creative. They’re always imagining and making connections. Author J.K. Rowling is an introvert who was able to imagine one of the most beloved stories in literature with her Harry Potter series and its vivid characters and story world.

8. They’re Independent

Part of what makes introverts so creative is their ability to work hard on their own. While they can be valuable members of a team, their preference is often to work alone.

Rowling’s Harry Potter series spans seven novels, and each one is complex in the story it describes, which means Rowling had to spend many hours working independently to craft her story. Introverts can be trusted to complete tasks that involve only one person.

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9. They’re Trustworthy

Have some information you need to share, but you don’t want it to spread widely? Because introverts tend to be more introspective and careful about things, they’re less likely to be sharing other people’s’ secrets.

Because they tend to take the relationships they’re in very seriously and they worry about how they’re perceived, they’re likely to be more reliable and more trustworthy.

10. They’re Great Communicators

President Barack Obama has been said to be an introvert, yet he’s someone who has to communicate on a regular basis to large crowds of people, and he does it well.

Many people are surprised that introverts actually make great public communicators. The reason is that they spend a lot of time in preparation to make sure they’re giving their best performance possible and are perceived well by their peers.

Introverts may not be the most outgoing of people, but it turns out that being outgoing isn’t really necessary for them. Using the inherent strengths listed above, introverts are often able to achieve greater levels of success.

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Last Updated on May 21, 2019

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

Example 1

You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

Example 2

You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

Example 3

You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

Example 4

You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

  • Understand your own communication style
  • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
  • Communicate with precision and care
  • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

1. Understand Your Communication Style

To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

2. Learn Others Communication Styles

Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

“How do you prefer to receive information?”

This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

3. Exercise Precision and Care

A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

“Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

The Bottom Line

When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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