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Last Updated on January 12, 2021

100 Inspiring Questions That Make You Think About Your Life

100 Inspiring Questions That Make You Think About Your Life

What makes successful people resilient and persistent in achieving their goals and desires?

He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how. – Voltaire

In just a few words, Voltaire has answered.

Successful people take and effort to ask the right questions that drive them to answer that adds meaning to their purpose.

The more questions you ask yourself, the more you learn about yourself. It keeps you curious and grateful for life and its challenges. Your innate drive to question yourself and find answers will keep you on the path to self-growth and let you take motivated efforts to accomplish your goals.

When you know the why, the whats and hows will become clearer. And you will find all your answers only when you seek them by asking questions.

Questions that make you think are like fuel to critical thinking and problem-solving. If you cannot stop to ask questions, you will never find better ways and that will be the end of growth.

If you want to keep moving ahead, self-assessment and clarity are much required. Having the right questions will always help you have a clearer vision towards your aspirations and dreams.

Here is a compilation of 100 questions that make you think and help you get started on the path to wisdom:

Questions on Self-Reflection

Remember wisdom favors those who seek it. Everything in your life starts with you. Understanding your innate abilities, fears, desires, insecurities, and feelings is necessary to deal with them effectively. Introspect yourself and see where you stand.

1. How would you describe yourself?

2. Do you think your dreams are a reflection of something deeper within your mind?

3. How old do you feel?

4. What are the things that you do but don’t like doing?

5. What are the things you like to do but haven’t been doing?

6. How often do you zone out?

7. What are the things you are proud of?

8. What are the things that make you feel scared?

9. What makes you happy?

10. Do you feel introverted or extroverted?

11. What are the things you are most thankful for?

12. Who are you most thankful for?

13. Who are the people you trust?

14. What do you want to change in yourself?

15. What is that you like the most about yourself?

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16. What one thing would you want a second chance with?

17. Do you love yourself?

18. What is the ideal version of yourself you want to be?

19. What little things make you happy?

20. Who do you enjoy being around with?

21. What do you fear the most?

22. What are the things you think you should let go of?

Questions on Behavior

Our habits, behavior patterns and how we communicate with others have a lot to say about our efficiency in any project we take up. Simple routine habits like the time you wake up every day are capable of impacting your productivity every day.

Getting an insight into your own behavior will help you understand why you feel what you feel, and how helpful or harmful it is to your growth and success.

23. How do you show your emotions — anger, sadness or happiness?

24. Which everyday routine you are better off without?

25. What do you do when you feel lost?

26. How do you celebrate your happiness and success?

27. How well do you communicate with others?

28. How well do you sleep?

29. Do you eat healthily and on time?

30. Does your work interfere with your personal life? How do you balance work and personal life?

31. How do you spend your leisure time?

32. What activities relax you?

33. What activities make you feel anxious?

34. What habits do you want to break and which ones do you want to cultivate?

Questions on Future Aspirations and Goals

Goals are like the lighthouses that guide one’s life. If they are vague and have no particular importance, you may keep wandering the sea of confusion and end up wondering what you did wrong.

Your goals need to be aligned with the long term big picture that you have for your life. Maybe if you start asking the right questions, you will get the answer to where you actually want to be.

35. What are your passions?

36. If you won the lottery today, how would you be in 5 years?

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37. What work would you like to do if it’s not paid and there are no restrictions on time and resources?

38. What’s the best reality you wish for and how does it compare to your present?

39. What do you expect from your career? A promotion, raise, satisfaction or everything?

40. Are you on the job which aligns to your goals?

41. Which one event in your life has been the biggest so far?

42. What would you like to be the experience you want to share your mentees or children with?

43. How far do you think you are from achieving your big dreams?

44. What would you do if you had just a year left to live?

45. What advice would you give to your past-self 5 years ago?

46. And what do you think your future self would advise you?

47. What is the biggest priority in your life right now?

48. What is your biggest regret in your life?

49. How do you plan to deal with your regrets and successes? Do you stop trying or do you keep working for it?

50. What is your ideal career?

51. Do you want to retire? If yes, how and when?

52. How do you measure success?

53. What resolutions do you often take?

54. How many goals have you accomplished?

55. Do you have unfinished projects you have always wanted to be done?

56. How much help did you provide your loved ones in achieving their goals?

57. How many of your goals have you achieved?

58. Did you get to have the time resources you needed to complete your goals?

59. What are your immediate goals?

60. What do you need to get your goals completed?

61. Are your deadlines realistic and motivating?

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62. What will be your reaction if you have accomplished a goal and vice versa?

63. What limitations are you facing in achieving your goals?

64. What steps are you taking to tackle these limitations?

Questions on Growth

Every experience, whether successful or not, teaches us something. It could be in the form of skills, knowledge, life lessons, relationships, and social interactions.

It is necessary to gauge your growth in both personal and career space in every experience you undertake so as to be aware of your capabilities and build your self-confidence.

You should also be aware of what works for you and what doesn’t when it comes to developing your skills.

65. What makes anything interesting to learn for you?

66. What are the things that you wish you are good at?

67. What actions do you regret the most?

68. What inaction or missed opportunity that you regret?

69. What do you usually say to yourself when you fail at something?

70. What experiences improved your self-confidence?

71. What do you think can improve your self-confidence?

72. How would you describe your last year in three words? And what would be the three words for your coming year?

73. What new skills did you learn last year?

74. What do you plan to learn in the coming days?

75. What are the mind blocks and difficulties that you overcame last year?

76. What are the things you wish to experience and learn about?

77. Which decision of yours turned out to be the best?

78. Which decision did not work out as you hoped? And why do you think that is?

79. What do you think you need to improve on?

80. What do you think you are really good at?

Questions on Beliefs

The way we shape our lives is very much dependent on our moral values and beliefs. One who believes honesty is paramount will not stoop low to cheat and lie to earn money.

Their meanings of success would differ from that of a con artist. The decisions you take in your life, the goals you set for yourself are all dependent on your belief system.

81. Do you believe in the concept of love at first sight?

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82. What does doing good deeds mean to you?

83. What do you prefer — live to work or work to live?

84. What do you think makes life meaningful?

85. What do you think makes anything right or wrong?

86. What do you think is better — being the biggest fish in a small pond or a small fish in a big pond?

87. What do you think inspires you?

88. What are the most important things to you in life?

89. What are your values?

90. How do you prioritize your goals and desires in life?

91. Do you believe in networking and connections to learn from peers and mentors?

92. What beliefs are holding you back from progress and which ones are helping you?

Questions on Motivation

If you cannot find yourself enjoying what you do, chances are your motivation for that job is quite weak. But not all work is jolly even if it means it will get you to achieving your big dreams.

Finding a way to motivate yourself through all the grunt work required is crucial to achieving your goals. And that also requires some self-digging.

93. What does the present mean to you?

94. When do you feel the most motivated?

95. Which methods help your motivation?

96. What makes you discouraged in pursuing your desires?

97. What are the things you do that make you lose track of time?

98. Who has had a positive impact on your life?

99. Who demotivates you?

100. What opportunities are you looking out for? How prepared are you to take up if that opportunity arrives?

Remember, the wise never stop asking questions especially to themselves. Once you have the answers, you can be rid of self-doubt and get to working your dreams to reality with conviction and undeterred commitment.

If you want to understand yourself more so as to start living the life you want, these articles can help you:

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Last Updated on February 22, 2021

Self-Introspection: 5 Ways To Reflect And Live Happily

Self-Introspection: 5 Ways To Reflect And Live Happily

I think we can all agree that we could all use a bit more happiness in our lives, especially when we are isolated from others and in the middle of a global pandemic. Although watching Netflix, taking walks, exercising, and video chatting with friends all bring us moments of happiness, they feel temporary—they are fleeting.

At the end of the day, when we lay our heads down on the pillow, we are still stuck in our own heads—ruminating negative thoughts, the argument with our partner, friend, or coworker we keep replaying in our head, our constant self-judgment “you’re not enough” conversation that we have back and forth, fear, and hopelessness. Then we wake up and do it all over again. Can you relate?

The good news is that there is a simple practice that can help. Introspection and mindfulness (self-introspection) can actually increase your happiness permanently.[1]

What Is Introspection?

To begin, we have to first define and understand the word “introspection.”

Dictionary.com defines introspection as:[2]

observation or examination of one’s own mental and emotional state, mental processes, etc.; the act of looking within oneself.

Introspection is a thinking, analytical process. It is the deliberate process of reflection. We don’t do this because frankly, it isn’t easy and it takes a lot of work!

Many people are often caught in the state of reaction and ego and do not actually take the time to reflect. They are clouded by emotions and are unable to see things clearly. For introspection to be helpful and effective, it requires self-awareness and the ability to put aside the ego and the need to be “right.”

Let me share an example from one of my clients.

Mandy has a long stressful day working from home while juggling her kids’ distance learning, goes grocery shopping, and comes home and begins to prepare dinner. Helping the kids complete their homework while cooking dinner, her husband comes home and plops himself on the couch. He turns on the TV and begins laughing at the sitcom that he’s watching.

Mandy is a bit annoyed and wished her husband would help out, but she holds her tongue knowing that he needs to unwind from his long day too. After dinner, Mandy gives the kids a bath, reads them a book, and puts them to bed. She finally has a chance to sit down for the first time in hours and asks her husband if he could help clean up and do the dishes. He says, “I’ll do it later honey.”

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A few hours later, the dishes are still not done, he’s still watching TV, and Mandy begins feeling irritated, angry, and resentful. After all, this seems to happen quite frequently. She mentions the dishes again and he responds with an annoyed tone and harshly says, “I ALREADY told you, I will do it later.”

Mandy gets angry and begins to complain about how she has to do everything around the house and that he never helps with the kids. It turns into a full-blown argument and she retreats to her bedroom fuming. Mandy replays the argument over and over in her head and goes to bed stressed, angry, and in tears.

Introspection Alone Is Not Enough

Introspection uses a lot of “why” questions. “Why am I angry?” “Why do I feel this way?” with the well-intentioned goal of understanding self. The problem with this is that it keeps us trapped in our own perspective and oftentimes, in the past.

Introspection also has no clear direction of where it could go depending on what you’re looking at, how you’re looking at it, and where you’re looking.

As my mentor and friend Dave Potter eloquently put it:

“Introspection is like looking through the microscope and the slides keep changing.”

Introspection is the tool, the process—like in Dave’s analogy, it is the microscope. The slides (self, emotions, thoughts) keep changing.

Another downfall of introspection is that it is very ego-focused and self-centered and often results in either:

  1. Growing the ego and reinforcing the need to be “right” – In the previous example, Mandy can observe her emotions of anger and resentment and understand why she feels the way she does. She gathers evidence and past experiences and understands that this anger and resentment comes from years of feeling this way. Examining her feelings and experiences further causes her to feel even more entitled to her feelings of anger.
  2. Causes self-judgment, self-blame, and suppressing of emotions – Mandy can observe her emotions of anger and resentment and understand why she feels the way she does but feels bad. She tells herself “I shouldn’t be angry,” “I overreacted,” “I was stressed and I took it out on him,” etc., and begins judging herself, blaming herself, and ends up feeling even worse.

So, if introspection alone is not helpful, what else do we need? A touch of mindfulness (self-introspection)!

What Is Mindfulness?

There are many definitions for mindfulness, but I define it as non-judgemental, present moment awareness. Mindfulness opens our minds to observe our thoughts and feelings, acknowledging and accepting them without judgment.

To put more simply, it’s not about fixing or changing your thoughts or emotions but about noticing and accepting them as is.

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So, how does this help exactly?

Let me first start by saying that mindfulness is a practice, meaning it is not an innate, automatic behavior or process that we do. It is a practice—it takes practice. It is a learnable skill and actually doesn’t take much time at all.

Mindfulness is the practice of bringing attention to the emotion that comes up, not identifying it as part of self but simply noticing it and getting curious. When there is curiosity, there is no space for judgment. When there is no judgment, acceptance is much easier to follow.

It’s kind of a funny thing. When we are not so tied to our perspective and clouded by our emotions, it opens up a horizon of possibilities. We can see things as an observer, remove ourselves from our identity of the emotion, the intense feeling, and can take a step back. When we can do this, the emotion no longer has a hold on us.

Many research studies show that mindfulness meditation is effective at reducing stress and can improve physical and mental health by changing the brain and biology in positive ways.[3] Researchers reviewed more than 200 studies of mindfulness among healthy people and found that mindfulness-based therapy was especially effective for reducing stress, anxiety, and depression.

As someone who was diagnosed with “Recurrent Major Depressive Disorder” since high school with many trips to the ER and inpatient stays at a psych unit, I have not had another recurrent depressive episode since I began practicing mindfulness and meditation. It has saved my life, and I am truly grateful.

Five Ways to Practice Self-Introspection

You may be wondering, “Great! How do I do this?” As someone who may be new at self-introspection, there are some key points to keep in mind to set you up for success.

1. Set Up Your Ideal Environment

As I mentioned before, “mindfulness is a practice” and it takes practice. Think of it as the rehearsals before the big show, the basketball scrimmages, or batting cage practices before the big game.

When we practice something, we make progress and become prepared for “the big game or show,” which is your life. Although mindfulness doesn’t necessarily require sitting and meditating for 30 minutes a day, this definitely helps train us to be still. When you are still, you are with yourself, your mind, and you can practice noticing the thoughts, the sounds, and the sensations.

This requires a quiet space without distractions or stimulation where you can be alone and undisturbed. Some noises or sensations are unavoidable, but trying to meditate, self-reflect, or think about things while the kids are running around, the TV blaring, or people talking is not an ideal environment.

If you have kids or a family and it is difficult to have alone time, waking up 30 minutes earlier in the morning, sitting in the car, or even while in the shower is an option. You might have to get creative. If you have difficulty sitting still, you could do a walking/moving meditation. If you feel stuck, being in nature and outdoors somehow helps bring us back to stillness.

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2. Journaling

Journaling is underrated. If you take a look at the most successful people in the world, thought leaders, and entrepreneurs such as Oprah, Warren Buffet, Einstein, and many others, they all have this in common: they journal.

Journaling has many benefits including increasing awareness and improving memory, self-confidence, communication skills, and self-expression. It also helps us keep organized, on track, and motivated.

What I personally love most about journaling is going back and seeing where I was just one year ago, what I was going through, the challenges, the learnings, and fast-forwarding to now—celebrating how much I’ve grown.

As one of my mentors, Ben Hardy, said, “You make progress on what you track”. Wouldn’t you want to make progress on yourself, your goals, your life?

Here are some helpful tips and ideas:

  • Free write any thoughts, emotions, feelings that come up. Keep writing for one to two pages—just a free-flow stream of consciousness, not allowing yourself to think. The first few paragraphs will be very conscious, but continuing to write another two pages nonstop allows for the unconscious to come through. You will be surprised at what you find.
  • If you are going through a really tough time and are unable to separate yourself from the situation or feelings (staying stuck in your story), try writing from a 3rd person’s perspective. This allows for more openness and perspective.
  • Use your journal as your to-do list for the day. Set goals and outcomes for the day. Set an intention for the day.
  • Journal your wins. Write down the things you’re most proud of accomplishing. We tend to not celebrate our wins and quickly look for the next big thing. Stop. Take a step back and celebrate your daily or weekly wins. You deserve some acknowledgment, don’t you?
  • Journal on grateful moments. There are so many things to be grateful for but we often write them down as a list. This is slightly different and a slight deviation but I like to journal “gratitude moments.” It’s a moment in which you can close your eyes and almost re-experience it. For example, the moments when I’m outside sitting on my patio drinking my coffee, feeling the warmth of the sun on my face. Take the time to engage in that positivity and all of the feelings that accompany it.

3. Use Positive Words and Phrases

We often identify with our feelings as if our feelings are who we are. We say things like “I am angry,” which keeps us identified with the emotion of anger making it difficult to let go.

We are not the emotions we experience, rather we are the experiencer of our emotions. Although we understand this in concept, our languaging and the words we use perpetuates the identification of the emotion.

As a Master Practitioner of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), I believe that language and the words we use affect how we experience the world. So, although we know that we are not our emotions, we speak as if we are—”I am angry”. Case in point.

If we want to use language that is congruent with our beliefs that we are not our emotions as well as a common mindfulness practice, we can use phrases such as “I notice that I am experiencing anger.” This allows for almost like a third person’s perspective and disconnects you from the emotion.

4. Ask Yourself Empowering Questions

Making a slight change to how you ask yourself questions while doing self-introspection makes a world of difference. Instead of asking yourself “why” questions, ask “what” questions.

Instead of asking “why do I feel so angry?” ask “what is that I am feeling?” “what do I notice?” “what is it exactly that I am upset about?” See how that opens up possibilities?

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Asking “why” questions also has an underlying sense of judgment. Imagine if your child accidentally broke a vase. Your automatic response might be “Why did you do that?” The child doesn’t know what happened but knows that you are angry and starts crying. Instead, if you asked “What happened here?”, they might be able to explain that the ball bounced and accidentally hit the vase. Asking “what” questions opens the possibility for understanding, empathy, and compassion at a deeper level.

5. Focus on the Good for Just a Little Bit Longer

A relationship psychology study by John Gottman of the University of Washington found that it takes at least five positive interactions to make up for just one negative one.[4] This means that negative interactions or thoughts have generally five times the impact than positive ones. Well, this is bad news and rings all too true, doesn’t it?

Rick Hanson Ph.D., psychologist and author of Buddha’s Brain: The Practical Neuroscience of Happiness, Love, and Wisdom, has a saying:

“The mind is like Velcro for negative experiences and Teflon for positive ones.”

By ruminating on the negative, we strengthen the neural pathways for negativity and tend to see the world in this light. I bet you know these type of people in your life—the “Debbie Downers” and people who are always complaining, negative, pessimistic, and down about the world.

Fortunately, it doesn’t have to be this way. We can almost counteract this by simply taking in the good for just a little bit longer. We can literally change the neurotransmitters in our brain to look for good things.

Rick Hanson says,

“Really savor the good. In other words, the way to remember something is to make it intense, felt in the body, and lasting. That’s how we give those neurons lots and lots time to fire together so they start wiring together. So rather than noticing it and feeling good for a couple of seconds, stay with it. Relish it, enjoy it, for 10, 20, or 30 seconds, so it really starts developing neural structure.”

I had the honor of interviewing Rick on this technique specifically to increase happiness. You can watch it below.

And this is how we can begin to rewire our brains for positivity, joy, gratitude and overall become a happier person.

Final Thoughts

Introspection does not come naturally. Even if you have a great mindset and a positive attitude, introspection can still be difficult. For introspection to be effective, it requires mindfulness and awareness. If you follow the points in this article, it will give you a great place to start. From there, it is just practice.

The combination of both introspection and mindfulness (or self-introspection) is the perfect recipe for creating lasting happiness—no matter the circumstances.

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Reference

[1] Positive Psychology: 7 Great Benefits of Mindfulness in Positive Psychology
[2] Dictionary.com: Introspection
[3] American Psychological Association: Mindfulness meditation: A research-proven way to reduce stress
[4] The Gottman Institute: The Magic Relationship Ratio, According to Science

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