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Last Updated on January 12, 2021

Invest In The Right Type Of Intelligence

Invest In The Right Type Of Intelligence
Intelligence is highly priced anywhere you go. People with high IQ are often sought after in the working world and well thought of. In the past, intellectual ability (IQ) seemed to be the determining factor for whether a person was selected in top schools or at big corporations. These days however, emotional intelligence has risen in rank and could almost, if not, be more important in determining one’s potential.Simply putting, is it good to only be book smart, or is it better to be street smart? What kind of intelligence will actually help you survive well in today’s cut throat society? More and more jobs and industries are valuing emotional intelligence over technical or intellectual capabilities because this is how management sieves out the crème de la crème.

So if emotional intelligence (EI) is so valued, wouldn’t you want to know where you stand on the scale? In fact, unlike IQ, EI can be learned and improved over time. So try this test to see where you stand.

What Is Emotional Intelligence?

The Global Emotional Intelligence Test (GEIT) is based on Daniel Goleman’s four quadrant Emotional Intelligence Competency Model (2002).

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Emotional intelligence is the ability to recognise, understand and manage emotions in ourselves and others. Goleman divides Emotional Intelligence into four clusters or quadrants known as of Self-Awareness, Self-Management, Social Awareness and Relationship Management (also popularly known as “people skills”).

To read in detail what each cluster reflects after you have completed the test, click here.

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The GEIT

    The GEIT uses 40 questions which are derived from the Global EI Capability Assessment instrument, which contains 158 items.

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    The GEIT, is a forced-choice psychological test which requires you to chose one statement in each pair of statements that describes you best. For each pair of statements, select the statement that best applies to you. It usually takes about 10 minutes to complete the test.

    Why is Emotional Intelligence Important?

    Goleman’s (1998) findings indicated that Emotional Intelligence contributes 80 to 90% of the competencies that distinguish outstanding leaders from average leaders. Some of the behaviors identified include:
    – The ability to recognise and understand their own moods, emotions and drives as well as their effect on others;
    – The ability to control or redirect disruptive impulses, moods and to think before acting;
    – The passion to work for reasons beyond money or status and the propensity to pursue goals with energy and persistence;
    – The ability to understand the emotional makeup of other people and the skill in treating people according to their emotional reactions; the proficiency in managing relationships, building networks and the ability to find common ground and build rapport.

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    You Can Train Up Your EI but Not Your IQ

    In professional and technical fields, the typical entry-level threshold IQ is 110 to 120. It is generally considered that your IQ, which is largely genetic, will change little from childhood. Since everyone is in the top 10% or so of intelligence, IQ itself offers relatively little competitive advantage.

    EI on the other hand can be learned at any age. Growing your competency in EI is not easy or quick, as it takes perseverance in the process of critical self-evaluation, commitment to improvement and of course behavioural practice. It is also important to note, that competence in Emotional Intelligence does not necessarily increase with age as you might expect. Some people may learn from life’s experiences, but many do not.

    By taking the GEIT, you will have better awareness of where you stand with your EI and this will serve as a guide to which EI areas you are doing well in and those which perhaps you need to focus on for development.

    Take the Global Emotional Intelligence Test here.

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    Last Updated on January 15, 2021

    How to Cope With the Stages of Grief and Heal After Loss

    How to Cope With the Stages of Grief and Heal After Loss

    The death of a loved one is, unfortunately, something most of us have experienced or will experience at some point in our lives, but grief and loss are not felt only when someone passes away. You may move through the stages of grief quickly or slowly, and you may even find yourself moving back to a stage you thought you had passed. People grieve differently, and there is no correct way to grieve in any situation.

    A close friend or family member moving away, a divorce or breakup, loss of a job, as well as a number of other life experiences can cause feelings of grief or loss. Coping with loss is one of the most stressful and difficult things we have to deal with in life, but it is an experience everyone can relate to.

    The Stages of Grief

    The five stages of grief—denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance—are related to the common emotions we go through when we experience loss. This grief model was identified by psychiatrist Elisabeth Kübler-Ross in 1969[1].

    However, because everyone is different, there is no “standard” way to react to grief and loss.[2]

    Some people will wear their emotions on their sleeves and be outwardly emotional. Others will experience their grief more internally, and may not cry. You should try not to judge how a person experiences grief, as each person will experience it differently.

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    Stages of grief

      Stage 1: Denial

      The feeling of shock when you first find out about a loss can lead to thinking, “This isn’t real.” This is a temporary way to deal with the rush of overwhelming emotion and a defense mechanism for your mind.[3]

      Stage 2: Anger

      Feelings of frustration and helplessness take hold during this stage. Thoughts like “It’s not fair” can be common. Even being angry at your loved one who died for “leaving you behind” is natural. This anger can spill over into your close relationships, and you can find yourself getting angry at those around you for no apparent reason.

      Stage 3: Bargaining

      During this stage, you are constantly thinking about what you could have done to prevent the loss. Thoughts of “What if…” and “If only…” replay in the mind. You might also try to bargain with a higher power in hopes of reversing the loss.

      Stage 4: Depression

      This stage brings the deep sadness you feel as you realize the loss is irreversible. You think about how your life will be affected by the loss. Crying, loss of appetite, feelings of loneliness, and unusual sleeping patterns are all signs of depression.

      Stage 5: Acceptance

      You accept the loss, and although you’re still sad, you slowly start to move on with your life and settle in to your new reality.

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      The stages of grief don’t have to be in this order, and you might not experience all stages. There is also no set time period for grieving, and some people take longer to heal than others.

      How to Heal From Grief and Loss

      When you’re experiencing those heartbreaking feelings and the stages of grief, it’s hard to believe that you’ll eventually heal, but you really will. Here are some ways to help the healing process:

      1. Confront the Painful Emotions

      Try not to bottle up your emotions. Allow yourself to express how you feel. It’s a healthy part of the grieving process.[4]

      If you’re not ready to get together with friends and family to talk about how you’re feeling, you can work with your emotions through mindful meditation, which can help create space for you to take a look at what you’re feeling and why.

      2. Talk About It

      When you’re ready and have entered the final stages of grief, talking to someone about the way you are feeling can be very helpful in starting the healing process. Often, people want to isolate themselves while grieving, but being around friends and family can help. Talking can also help you to confront your emotions if you have been unable to.

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      3. Keep up With Your Routine

      Loss can make you feel like your world has been turned upside down. As you move through the stages of grief, getting through your daily routine may feel more difficult, which can cause you to put self-care to the side. Keeping up with your routine can help bring back some normality and ensure you are showing yourself love and consideration.

      4. Take Care of Yourself

      When you are grieving and depressed, simple things like eating become an afterthought, and sleeping may become difficult. Taking care of yourself and your health will help with the healing process.

      While you may not do everything you were doing before your loss, try to do one act of self-care each day. It can be taking a long bath, going for a walk, making a nice meal, or even practicing a hobby once you feel ready. It doesn’t have to be anything complicated; it just needs to be something that makes you feel good.

      5. Don’t Make Any Major Decisions

      Grief clouds the ability to make sound decisions.[5] Try to postpone making any big decisions for a while or get guidance from close friends or family if you can’t put it off.

      Grief may also make you feel like making major changes to your life, such as quitting a job or ending a relationship. Try to remember that now is not the best time to make these changes, and hold off further consideration until you have moved through all of the stages of grief.

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      The Bottom Line

      It is important to heal after a loss so that you can get on with life. There is no set time period for grieving, but if you feel that your grief isn’t getting better, and you are unable to accept the loss, it might be time to seek advice from a mental health professional.

      In the meantime, accept that now is a difficult time, but that it will get better. Time will inevitably help and make the pain less powerful. One day, you will wake up and realize the pain is simply a small echo in the back of your mind and that you have successfully moved through each of the stages of grief. It’s time to get back to your life.

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