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Seven Relaxation Techniques when You Are Stressed Out

Seven Relaxation Techniques when You Are Stressed Out

Adulthood can be very stressful, and we would all avoid the rigors of adulthood if we could. Thinking about paying bills, keeping in touch with family and friends, meeting deadlines at work, and simply keeping on top of everything can quickly wear a person out. But the truth is, we don’t have a choice but to grow up and be responsible; the best we can hope to do is to keep all aspects of our lives as balanced as possible.

From a fellow stressed out adult, here are seven ways to kick back and not feel guilty about it.

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1. Do yoga

Have you ever seen a stressed out yogi? Probably not. They all look calm with glowing, well-hydrated skin and few worries. You could be like that too. You may not be a fan of spiritual mumbo jumbo and muttering “ohm” in a class full of people may not sound appealing to you, but it does keep you sane. Take an hour off your weekend routine of binge watching bad tv and drag a friend along to a nearby yoga class. Yoga will keep you relaxed,[1] fit and beautiful. Stretching out is good fun too. And if you are a young misanthrope, put YouTube to good use and learn yoga by yourself. If you want to be adventurous, stock up on incense sticks, scented candles, potpourri, scented oils, and herbs. Sort out the feng shui in your home by rearranging everything in a way that perfectly suits you. Install some mood lights and saturate yourself in sweet scented paradise as you stretch.

2. Take a walk

This may seem like pretty basic advice and a one-size-fits-all answer to any health-related question, but it works. Walking has significant benefits[2] that even you, a dedicated elevator person, can’t knock. Gather your thoughts as you walk through your favorite park and take in the scenery. If walking alone is boring, then listen to music if you like, stop and talk to strangers and learn their stories. Walking is easy, does not require any special fitness gear and will leave you feeling refreshed. Doesn’t hurt that you get to knock off a few calories too.

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3. Take a bath

You’ve seen it on TV. Overworked woman lights candles, pours a glass of wine, pulls her hair back and slides into a welcoming bubble bath. But relaxing baths[3] aren’t just for beautiful women in movies, give those sore muscles a much-needed break and soak in a nicely scented bath. Throw in some bath bombs for added oomph! Don’t forget your candles and wine!

4. Meditate

Sitting cross-legged and taking a breather is honestly the easiest way to feel relaxed and one of the best too. You don’t even have to sit cross-legged; you can meditate in just about any position that’s comfortable for you. Recently, there have been a lot of studies on brain activity during meditation.

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I won’t bore you with the specifics, but meditating has way too many advantages to ignore. It does not just relieve stress; it helps you focus—reduces your heart rate, lowers blood pressure,[4] helps you get rid of negative thoughts and helps you sleep fitfully. And that’s just a few of the benefits you get by meditating. It may seem like a lot of work at first, but you’ll get used to it and be a guru in no time at all. So set aside at least 20 minutes out of your incredibly busy day, Just stay still and let your mind be at peace.

5. Slow down

Work emails keep piling up, and your kids have to visit the dentist. You’ve had way too many sleepless nights thinking about your presentation, and you have that meeting with an investor that you can’t afford to miss. Yes, you have a lot on your plate, but you can’t handle them if you’re laying in a hospital bed somewhere so SLOW DOWN and if you have the guts, tell your boss to chill on the emails.

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6. Get a hobby

This may seem counterintuitive, especially if you see it as getting more work on top of the work you already have piled up. But a hobby is a different kind of work. One you enjoy doing. Without an employer breathing down your neck. It doesn’t have to be anything serious. Gardening, sewing, and reading are great options. If you are the athletic type, try joining your local swim, basketball or football team. If not, try knitting and interior decor. Hobbies are great and a productive[5] way to escape from real life struggles.

7. Just chill

Chill is not just a word potheads use when other people act up around them. It should be the number one word in your vocabulary and a mantra for you.

No matter what you have to do to satisfy other people, remember to make yourself a priority and set aside some time to relax. Hire a masseuse/masseur, go to the spa, take a Zumba class, pig out, turn off your alarm and sleep for as long as you want. Just live.

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Last Updated on February 15, 2019

Why Is Goal Setting Important to a Truly Fulfilling Life?

Why Is Goal Setting Important to a Truly Fulfilling Life?

In Personal Development-speak, we are always talking about goals, outcomes, success, desires and dreams. In other words, all the stuff we want to do, achieve and create in our world.

And while it’s important for us to know what we want to achieve (our goal), it’s also important for us to understand why we want to achieve it; the reason behind the goal or some would say, our real goal.

Why is goal setting important?

1. Your needs and desire will be fulfilled.

Sometimes when we explore our “why”, (why we want to achieve a certain thing) we realize that our “what” (our goal) might not actually deliver us the thing (feeling, emotion, internal state) we’re really seeking.

For example, the person who has a goal to lose weight in the belief that weight loss will bring them happiness, security, fulfillment, attention, popularity and the partner of their dreams. In this instance, their “what” is weight-loss and their “why” is happiness (etc.) and a partner.

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Six months later, they have lost the weight (achieved their goal) but as is often the case, they’re not happier, not more secure, not more confident, not more fulfilled and in keeping with their miserable state, they have failed to attract their dream partner.

After all, who wants to be with someone who’s miserable? They achieved their practical goal but still failed to have their needs met.

So they set a goal to lose another ten pounds. And then another. And maybe just ten more. With the destructive and erroneous belief that if they can get thin enough, they’ll find their own personal nirvana. And we all know how that story ends.

2. You’ll find out what truly motivates you

The important thing in the process of constructing our best life is not necessarily what goals we set (what we think we want) but what motivates us towards those goals (what we really want).

The sooner we begin to explore, identify and understand what motivates us towards certain achievements, acquisitions or outcomes (that is, we begin moving towards greater consciousness and self awareness), the sooner we will make better decisions for our life, set more intelligent (and dare I say, enlightened) goals and experience more fulfilment and less frustration.

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We all know people who have achieved what they set out to, only to end up in the same place or worse (emotionally, psychologically, sociologically) because what they were chasing wasn’t really what they were needing.

What we think we want will rarely provide us with what we actually need.

3. Your state of mind will be a lot healthier

We all set specific goals to achieve/acquire certain things (a job, a car, a partner, a better body, a bank balance, a title, a victory) because at some level, most of us believe (consciously or not) that the achievement of those goals will bring us what we really seek; joy, fulfilment, happiness, safety, peace, recognition, love, acceptance, respect, connection.

Of course, setting practical, material and financial goals is an intelligent thing to do considering the world we live in and how that world works.

But setting goals with an expectation that the achievement of certain things in our external, physical world will automatically create an internal state of peace, contentment, joy and total happiness is an unhealthy and unrealistic mindset to inhabit.

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What you truly want and need

Sometimes we need to look beyond the obvious (superficial) goals to discover and secure what we really want.

Sadly, we live in a collective mindset which teaches that the prettiest and the wealthiest are the most successful.

Some self-help frauds even teach this message. If you’re rich or pretty, you’re happy. If you’re both, you’re very happy. Pretty isn’t what we really want; it’s what we believe pretty will bring us. Same goes with money.

When we cut through the hype, the jargon and the self-help mumbo jumbo, we all have the same basic goals, desires and needs:

Joy, fulfilment, happiness, safety, peace, recognition, love, acceptance, respect, connection.

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Nobody needs a mansion or a sport’s car but we all need love.

Nobody needs massive pecs, six percent body-fat, a face lift or bigger breasts but we all need connection, acceptance and understanding.

Nobody needs to be famous but we all need peace, calm, balance and happiness.

The problem is, we live in a culture which teaches that one equals the other. If only we lived in a culture which taught that real success is far more about what’s happening in our internal environment, than our external one.

It’s a commonly-held belief that we’re all very different and we all have different goals — whether short term or long term goals. But in many ways we’re not, and we don’t; we all want essentially the same things.

Now all you have to do is see past the fraud and deception and find the right path.

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