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3 Ways That Can Quickly Turn A Coward Into A Confident Person

3 Ways That Can Quickly Turn A Coward Into A Confident Person

Is your level of self-confidence high enough to motivate you towards achieving greatness? Do you need some help to turn that feeling of cowardice into a sense of great confidence? Confidence is a state of mind and it’s helpful when you perform daily habits that help lead your mind in the right direction. Luckily for you, this transformation from zero to a ten is as easy as changing how you begin each day.

If you find yourself feeling more fearful than self-assured, these three simple steps are exactly what the doctor ordered.

1. Create a Daily Confidence Habit

Every morning, start off with imagining a binary task. Binary, the language of computers, has only two characters: 0 and 1. There is no interpretation for anything else other than 0 and 1. If we imagine a task as binary, it has two outcomes: completed and incomplete.

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For example, the task can be to turn on a light switch. Maybe you tripped over your couch while the light was off. It doesn’t matter if you had failures along the way, if you successfully turned on the switch, you have completed the task and it is done. Black and white, no gray, very simple.

By forcing yourself to view something as a binary task and completing it each day, you program confidence into your daily habit. You can celebrate the small victories (saying hi to that guy or girl in the next cubical) instead of beating yourself up for the small failures (embarrassingly spilling coffee on yourself while you said hi). This trains your brain to overcome cowardice and to automatically go for it, even if the path may be ripe for failure.

2. Start Your Day With Inspiration

Scientists have been studying MRI scans of the brain in action to determine the effects of inspiration on learning. What did they find? “We feel, therefore we learn[1].”

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In the scans, brain activity is seen across multiple brain centers of someone engaged in an inspirational task, while a bored mind has very little activity at all. When inspired, oxygen cycles through the centers of your brain, increasing the possibility of finding pathways to weaker areas. This allows you to learn more, makes it easier to participate in creative activities, and boosts your confidence.

This is a groundbreaking discovery that can help you move from cowardice to confidence. If you can start your day with inspiration by reading a chapter from an empowering book, an excerpt from your favorite spiritual material, or an inspirational quote, then your brain will start working before you know it. Your feeling of self-worth will increase and the ability to learn more, be more creative, and take on the world will boost your confidence and set you up for success.

3. Choose to be Positive

The world famous Pike Place Fish Market in Seattle has an interesting philosophy on positivity[2]. They believe attitudes are chosen, not given. If you take responsibility for how you respond to what life throws at you, you can choose to be positive, even if the world around you feels very negative.

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Without a positive emotional atmosphere, you can quickly lose your flexibility and patience. You can become easily frustrated and less capable of dealing with the world around you, which will negatively impact your confidence. Choosing to keep your emotional environment positive will help you to maintain a higher self-confidence.

The easiest habit you can practice for maintaining positivity is to start the day with a positive message. Trade in your morning news program, which is often filled with bad news and scandals, for an uplifting podcast or audiobook. You will find yourself moving through your day with rose-colored glasses, seeing positivity all around you and exuding confidence as a result.

Set aside 10 to 30 minutes each morning to practice these habits. Commit to the routine every day for 30 days and it will become automatic. Be patient, stick to the routine, and you will be rewarded. Before you know it, you’ll be the ruler of confidence.

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Featured photo credit: Ryan McGuire / Pixabay via pixabay.com

Reference

[1]Brain Basics: Inspiration & Emotion
[2]Pike Place Fish Market: FISH!

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10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

The ability to take risks by stepping outside your comfort zone is the primary way by which we grow. But we are often afraid to take that first step.

In truth, comfort zones are not really about comfort, they are about fear. Break the chains of fear to get outside. Once you do, you will learn to enjoy the process of taking risks and growing in the process.

Here are 10 ways to help you step out of your comfort zone and get closer to success:

1. Become aware of what’s outside of your comfort zone

What are the things that you believe are worth doing but are afraid of doing yourself because of the potential for disappointment or failure?

Draw a circle and write those things down outside the circle. This process will not only allow you to clearly identify your discomforts, but your comforts. Write identified comforts inside the circle.

2. Become clear about what you are aiming to overcome

Take the list of discomforts and go deeper. Remember, the primary emotion you are trying to overcome is fear.

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How does this fear apply uniquely to each situation? Be very specific.

Are you afraid of walking up to people and introducing yourself in social situations? Why? Is it because you are insecure about the sound of your voice? Are you insecure about your looks?

Or, are you afraid of being ignored?

3. Get comfortable with discomfort

One way to get outside of your comfort zone is to literally expand it. Make it a goal to avoid running away from discomfort.

Let’s stay with the theme of meeting people in social settings. If you start feeling a little panicked when talking to someone you’ve just met, try to stay with it a little longer than you normally would before retreating to comfort. If you stay long enough and practice often enough, it will start to become less uncomfortable.

4. See failure as a teacher

Many of us are so afraid of failure that we would rather do nothing than take a shot at our dreams.

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Begin to treat failure as a teacher. What did you learn from the experience? How can you take that lesson to your next adventure to increase your chance of success?

Many highly successful people failed plenty of times before they succeeded. Here’re some examples:

10 Famous Failures to Success Stories That Will Inspire You to Carry On

5. Take baby steps

Don’t try to jump outside your comfort zone, you will likely become overwhelmed and jump right back in.

Take small steps toward the fear you are trying to overcome. If you want to do public speaking, start by taking every opportunity to speak to small groups of people. You can even practice with family and friends.

Take a look at this article on how you can start taking baby steps:

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The Number One Secret to Life Success: Baby Steps

6. Hang out with risk takers

There is no substitute for this step. If you want to become better at something, you must start hanging out with the people who are doing what you want to do and start emulating them. (Here’re 8 Reasons Why Risk Takers Are More Likely To Be Successful).

Almost inevitably, their influence will start have an effect on your behavior.

7. Be honest with yourself when you are trying to make excuses

Don’t say “Oh, I just don’t have the time for this right now.” Instead, be honest and say “I am afraid to do this.”

Don’t make excuses, just be honest. You will be in a better place to confront what is truly bothering you and increase your chance of moving forward.

8. Identify how stepping out will benefit you

What will the ability to engage in public speaking do for your personal and professional growth? Keep these potential benefits in mind as motivations to push through fear.

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9. Don’t take yourself too seriously

Learn to laugh at yourself when you make mistakes. Risk taking will inevitably involve failure and setbacks that will sometimes make you look foolish to others. Be happy to roll with the punches when others poke fun.

If you aren’t convinced yet, check out these 6 Reasons Not to Take Life So Seriously.

10. Focus on the fun

Enjoy the process of stepping outside your safe boundaries. Enjoy the fun of discovering things about yourself that you may not have been aware of previously.

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