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3 Ways That Can Quickly Turn A Coward Into A Confident Person

3 Ways That Can Quickly Turn A Coward Into A Confident Person

Is your level of self-confidence high enough to motivate you towards achieving greatness? Do you need some help to turn that feeling of cowardice into a sense of great confidence? Confidence is a state of mind and it’s helpful when you perform daily habits that help lead your mind in the right direction. Luckily for you, this transformation from zero to a ten is as easy as changing how you begin each day.

If you find yourself feeling more fearful than self-assured, these three simple steps are exactly what the doctor ordered.

1. Create a Daily Confidence Habit

Every morning, start off with imagining a binary task. Binary, the language of computers, has only two characters: 0 and 1. There is no interpretation for anything else other than 0 and 1. If we imagine a task as binary, it has two outcomes: completed and incomplete.

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For example, the task can be to turn on a light switch. Maybe you tripped over your couch while the light was off. It doesn’t matter if you had failures along the way, if you successfully turned on the switch, you have completed the task and it is done. Black and white, no gray, very simple.

By forcing yourself to view something as a binary task and completing it each day, you program confidence into your daily habit. You can celebrate the small victories (saying hi to that guy or girl in the next cubical) instead of beating yourself up for the small failures (embarrassingly spilling coffee on yourself while you said hi). This trains your brain to overcome cowardice and to automatically go for it, even if the path may be ripe for failure.

2. Start Your Day With Inspiration

Scientists have been studying MRI scans of the brain in action to determine the effects of inspiration on learning. What did they find? “We feel, therefore we learn[1].”

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In the scans, brain activity is seen across multiple brain centers of someone engaged in an inspirational task, while a bored mind has very little activity at all. When inspired, oxygen cycles through the centers of your brain, increasing the possibility of finding pathways to weaker areas. This allows you to learn more, makes it easier to participate in creative activities, and boosts your confidence.

This is a groundbreaking discovery that can help you move from cowardice to confidence. If you can start your day with inspiration by reading a chapter from an empowering book, an excerpt from your favorite spiritual material, or an inspirational quote, then your brain will start working before you know it. Your feeling of self-worth will increase and the ability to learn more, be more creative, and take on the world will boost your confidence and set you up for success.

3. Choose to be Positive

The world famous Pike Place Fish Market in Seattle has an interesting philosophy on positivity[2]. They believe attitudes are chosen, not given. If you take responsibility for how you respond to what life throws at you, you can choose to be positive, even if the world around you feels very negative.

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Without a positive emotional atmosphere, you can quickly lose your flexibility and patience. You can become easily frustrated and less capable of dealing with the world around you, which will negatively impact your confidence. Choosing to keep your emotional environment positive will help you to maintain a higher self-confidence.

The easiest habit you can practice for maintaining positivity is to start the day with a positive message. Trade in your morning news program, which is often filled with bad news and scandals, for an uplifting podcast or audiobook. You will find yourself moving through your day with rose-colored glasses, seeing positivity all around you and exuding confidence as a result.

Set aside 10 to 30 minutes each morning to practice these habits. Commit to the routine every day for 30 days and it will become automatic. Be patient, stick to the routine, and you will be rewarded. Before you know it, you’ll be the ruler of confidence.

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Featured photo credit: Ryan McGuire / Pixabay via pixabay.com

Reference

[1] Brain Basics: Inspiration & Emotion
[2] Pike Place Fish Market: FISH!

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Last Updated on October 16, 2019

5 Powerful Ways for Building Fulfilling Relationships

5 Powerful Ways for Building Fulfilling Relationships

We all have relationships. We have acquaintances, relatives, colleagues, neighbors and friends. However, for a large percentage of us, many of these relationships are not fulfilling.

They are unfulfilling because they lack real strength; and they lack real strength because they lack real depth.

Unfortunately, in today’s society, we tend to have shallow, superficial relationships with others, and it’s extremely hard for this kind of relationships to provide anything more than faint satisfaction.

I’d like to show you, based on my experience as a communication and confidence coach, how you can add a significant amount of depth, and thus strength, to your relationships and make your social life a whole lot more meaningful.

Here’re 5 simple yet powerful ways for meaningful relationships building:

1. Meet More People

This is an apparent paradox, but the quality of the people you meet has considerably to do with the quantity of people you meet.

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If you don’t know a lot of people and you barely meet one or two new people every season of the year, considering the variety of individuals out there, you won’t meet very often people who are a good match with you in terms of personality, interests and values.

And since this natural match plays a huge part in building strong relationships, you’ll just as seldom have the opportunity to develop strong relationships.

Conversely, if you go out a lot, you meet a lot of new people and you constantly expand your social circle, you’re much more likely to meet people you match up well with, and these people have a tremendous potential to become good friends, reliable partners, etc.

This is why it’s important to meet more people.

2. Talk about the Things That Matter To You

A relationship becomes the strongest when two people discover they believe in the same things and have similar interests. It’s these commonalities regarding values and interests that create the strongest emotional connection.

I’ve noticed that many people keep conversations shallow. They talk about trivial stuff such as the weather, what’s on TV, the lives of various movie stars, but they rarely talk about what really matters to them in life. This is a mistake from my perspective, because it’s the perfect method for a relationship to not develop.

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Talk about the things that truly matter to you and give others a chance to know what you care about and what you believe in. If they believe in the same things and they care about the same things, they’ll eagerly let you know. Thus you’ll find meaningful common ground and you’ll feel more connected.

3. Express Vulnerability

Many people try to come off as perfect. They don’t talk about their failures, they hide their shortcomings and they never say anything that could embarrass them.

This is all just a facade though. You may appear perfect to some, but you know you’re not perfect and they know that too. You’re only human and humans have flaws.

However, by hiding your flaws, what you do succeed in is appearing cold and impersonal. You seem like a marble statue rather than a real person. And this makes it very hard for anyone to connect with you emotionally.

Humans connect with other humans, not with ideals. Keep this in mind and don’t be afraid to let your vulnerability and your humanity show. This is what takes a relationship to the next level.

Take a look at this article and find out Why Showing Vulnerability Actually Proves Your Strength.

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4. Have Integrity

Integrity, as I see it, is the alignment between your thoughts, your words and your actions. When you say what you think and you do what you said you’ll do, you have integrity.

This is a crucial trait because if you have integrity, people can trust you. They can trust you to give them an honest feedback, even when it’s hard to shallow, and they can trust you to keep your promises.

This trust is one of the central pillars of a strong relationship, both in your personal and your professional life. So, as challenging as it can be sometimes, always try to have integrity.

Be honest with the people around you, even when this will initially hurt them. It’s more important for them to trust you than to not feel hurt. And always do what you promised. Even better, think twice before you promise anything, and only promise what you really can and you are willing to do.

5. Be There for Others

Another central pillar of strong relationships is support. Connections between people grow sturdy if they can rely on each other for support when it’s needed, whether that support means a few kind words or several massive actions.

Of course, you can’t be there for everybody, all the time. Your time, energy and other resources are limited. But what you can do is identify the genuinely important people in your life and then seek to be there as much as possible, at least for them.

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Your support will help them practically, and it will comfort them emotionally; which makes one hell of a difference in a relationship.

The Bottom Line

With the right mindset and the right behavior, you can strengthen a wide range of relationships in your life and advance them as far as they can be advanced.

And with strong relationships, not only that you feel more fulfilled, but you feel more connected to the entire world. You feel that your life has real value, you have more fun and you live in the moment. An entire world of opportunities opens up in front of you.

Then your task is to simply walk through the open doors.

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