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The Cold Hard Facts About Cold Calling

The Cold Hard Facts About Cold Calling

Truth be told, sales is one of the hardest careers to master. Natural charisma and extroversion will only take you so far. If you want to succeed, one must constantly develop their sales skills. It is a constant tug of war between oneself to push forward past the incognito, past the potential rejection (which is often), and past the common phrase, “No, not interested”.

Take it from me, sales is all I really know. I come from a long line of natural-born sales people. My father, my mother, my brother, and my sister are sales professionals, all of them and they are great ones at that. I guess one might say it is in our blood, yet, as anyone in sales will tell you, it takes more than that. Sales is a craft that is perfected only by hours and hours of working on it.

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Cold Calling In Sales

One of the most difficult aspects of sales is the “cold call”. I learned this quite early in my sales career and it really does not get any easier, you just get better and more comfortable with it. Like many things in life, it is all a matter of perception. I used to dread cold calling. It was incredibly daunting, and it made up 90% of what I do! I have always been in a “huntress role” thus, I am constantly in positions where I have to drum up new business. Call lists, drop-ins, networking, and new connections is what I do. I used many different approaches, in many different ways, in a few different roles thousands of times. I have failed, succeeded, lost, and triumphed through the years yet still, no matter how many times I cold called, I could not shake that sinking feeling I had in the pit of my stomach. Although, I fought and pushed through it time and time again, when I stopped to think about it, well, I dreaded it! Then one day, not so long ago, something changed.

Cold Calling Is About Perception

It was my perception. All this time I had been looking at the cold calling aspect of my profession through the wrong lens. My come to Jesus moment is tattooed in my brain, and it went down exactly like this: my little daughter was very nervous about going to summer camp. She had been to camp before, but this was a new camp. She did not know anyone and none of her school friends would be there. She was going in cold. Right away, I sprang into motion because I could relate to her apprehension and her situation so well. As I started my pep talk on how to go right up to people and make new friends, I stopped and looked at her little serious face as she swallowed the lump in her throat and said to me, “But Mommy…they are strangers.” To which I simply replied: “Strangers are just friends we haven’t met yet.”

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And that was it. It dawned on me. If I looked at everything like that with my cold calls, whether in person and or on the phone, my dread and fear would go away! It’s just a causal conversation with a new potential friend. My daughter smiled at me, and as we walked into the camp, she hugged me and said, “I’m going to meet some new friends.”

Important Truths About Cold Calling

It does not have to be that cold

It’s all about perception. Remember my come to Jesus moment? The moment I shifted my mental paradigm to think of people we don’t know as friends we are going to make instead of strangers, that was all it took. When you change your lens, you change your life.

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Don’t be so hard on yourself

I can write a book on this one! Be generous and gentle with yourself. Did one person pick up your call today after your 49th call of the day? That’s actually a win! Did you get one reply to the 32 emails you sent today? Congratulations! Don’t focus on the no’s and the non reply’s. Believe me, it’s counter-productive and will essentially kill your spirit. Celebrate the victories, big and small!

Be real and be yourself

When you think about it, really who else can you be? Be yourself. If you put on a mask or a fake persona, it just won’t come across as real. You will come across as uncomfortable and make whomever you are speaking with feel awkward. You do not need to be anyone but you. People deal with people they like and they can only like the real you. Have fun and enjoy the ride.

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Happy selling!

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Elisabeth Marmugi

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Last Updated on September 23, 2020

Do What You Love and Love What You Do to Achieve More

Do What You Love and Love What You Do to Achieve More

Are you waking up each day looking for that perfect thing, activity, or job that will make your life work? Or, maybe you are looking for that perfect relationship. Once you “get” this new thing that will allow you to do what you love, you are sure that you will be happy forever.

In reality, life doesn’t work like that, and we would probably get bored if it did. There is likely no one thing, experience, or activity that will keep you feeling passionate and engaged all the time. What’s important is staying connected to what you love and continuing to grow in the process.

Here, we’ll talk about how to get started doing what you love and achieving more in life through the motivation it brings. Doing this doesn’t have to take a long time; it just takes determination and energy.

Most People Already Know Their Passion

So many people walk around in life “looking for” their passion. They look for it as if true passion is some mysterious thing that is difficult to find and runs away once you find it. However, the problem is rarely lack of passion.

Most of us already know what we love to do. We know what excites us, even if we haven’t done it for years. Instead, we focus on what we think we “must” do.

For example, maybe you love building model cars or painting pet portraits. Yet, each day you work a completely unrelated job and make no time for the activity you already know you love. The truth is you probably don’t need to find your passion; you just need to start doing what you already know you’re passionate about[1].

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No Activity Is Exciting All the Time

Even people who are living their dream lifestyle or working their dream job don’t love it all the time. Every job or lifestyle has parts of it that we won’t like.

Let’s say your dream is to become an actress, and you succeed. You may not enjoy the process of auditioning and facing rejection. You may experience moments of boredom when you practice your lines over and over again. But the overall experience is totally worth it.

Most of life is like that. Don’t set yourself up for disappointment by demanding that life be perfect all the time. If things were perfect and easy, you would ultimately stop learning and growing, and life would begin to lack even more meaning in that case.

Be grateful for both the good and bad moments as they are both entirely necessary if you genuinely want to do what you love and love what you do.

Doing What You Love May Not Be Easy

Living a life you love is unlikely to be easy. If it was, you would not grow very much as a person. And, if you think about a great book or movie, the growth of the main character is what matters most.

What if the challenges you meet along your path to living a life you love were designed to make you grow as a person? You may actually start looking forward to challenges instead of dreading them. An easy life hardly ever makes a compelling story.

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If you struggle to overcome challenges, try writing them down each time you encounter one. Then, write down three ways you could tackle it. Try one, and if it doesn’t work, try another. This way, you’ll learn what does and doesn’t work for you.

How to Do What You Love

There are many small steps you can take to ensure you are making time to do the things you love. Start with these, and you’ll likely find that you’re already on the right track.

1. Choose Your Priorities Wisely

Many people claim they want to do something, yet they don’t do it. The truth is they might not really want to do it in the first place[2].

We all end up following through on what matters most to us. We make decisions moment by moment about what we need to focus on. What we choose to do is what we deem most important in our lives.

If there is something you claim you want to do but you don’t do it, try asking yourself how much you really want it or where it’s currently placed on priority list. Are there other things you want more?

Be honest with yourself: what you currently do each day is a reflection of your priorities. Recognize that you can change your priorities at any time.

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Make a list of your priorities. Really take the time to think this through. Then, ask yourself if what you are doing each day reflects them. For example, if you believe your top priority is spending more time with your family, but you consistently take on extra hours at work, you’re not really prioritizing things in the way you think you are.

If this is happening, it’s time to make a change.

2. Do One Small Thing Each Day

As stated above, doing what you love doesn’t have to mean finding that perfect job that makes you want to jump out of bed in the morning. If you want to do what you love, start with one small thing each day.

Maybe you love reading a good book. Take ten minutes before bed to read.

Maybe you love swimming. Get a membership at the local YMCA, and go there for thirty minutes after work each day.

Dedicating even a short amount of time to something that brings you joy each day will improve your life overall. You may find that, over time, a career path related to what you love to do pops up. After doing the thing you love each day, you’ll be more than prepared to take it on when the opportunity arises.

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If you need help making time for your passions, check out this article to get started.

3. Prepare to Make Sacrifices

If you are an exceptionally busy person (aren’t we all?), you may have to make sacrifices in order to make space for the things you are passionate about. Maybe you take on less extra hours at the office or take thirty minutes away from another hobby in order to develop another that you enjoy.

Looking at your priority list will help you decide what can get put on the back burner and what can’t. Remember, do this thinking about what will help you feel good about how you’re spending your time. 

For example, if you love writing but rarely make time for it, consider getting up 30 minutes earlier than normal. Or instead of browsing your phone for 30 minutes before bed, you can write instead. There is always a way to find time for what you love.

Final Thoughts

If you love what you do, each day becomes a joyful adventure. If you don’t love what you are doing, life feels like a chore. The best way to achieve success is to design a life you love and live it every day.

Remember, doing something you love doesn’t have to include big gestures or time-consuming projects. Start small and grow from there.

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