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One Small Act Can Hugely Improve Your Quality of Life

One Small Act Can Hugely Improve Your Quality of Life

“It’s just another manic Monday”, goes the song. Despite it being an old one, we whole-heartedly agree. Life in metros and cities has become unbelievably busy and chaotic. All of us want to have it all; and we are in a perpetual hurry to get to the top. To stop would be shameful and to hurry and be harried is glamorous, so we play up the fact that we are always busy.

Incessant hurry often leads us to make mistakes– personally and professionally. We often don’t have enough time for those closest to us who most need our attention. In our blind rush we can end up causing incidents and accidents. We miss life’s special little moments by not having time for anybody, including ourselves. This in turn leads to more stress, frustration, and regret.

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When in doubt, pause.

We all know that stress can lead to bad decisions. Whenever you are in a chaotic frame of mind, be it those looming deadlines or that last-minute get-together, pause. This self-prescribed recess is a break for you to breathe, put things into perspective, and prioritize. A pause will give you constructive time to pull together your thoughts and yourself, allowing you to best deal with any situation in a manner that’s logical, sensible, and proactive.

What do I do when I pause?

We’re so used to filling up all of our waking hours with frenetic activity that a pause can leave us feeling lost. We are not sure what to do when we pause. The thing is, when you pause you more or less do nothing. While we are not advising you to sit and stare into a vast nothingness, a “take five” means just that: a self-imposed recess of five to ten minutes in which you can breathe, count till 100, have a cuppa, take a walk, practice mindful breathing, or meditate.

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How will a pause help?

Pausing helps you pull together your thoughts and not get carried away by emotions. In any situation, taking a break from running in circles that take you nowhere can help you channel your emotions into thoughts and words, helping you figure out the whys and the wherefores in a clear, calm manner.

When faced with a situation that seems insurmountable, a pause can help you reach a solution or an enlightened approach. It gives you much-needed time to think through jumbled thoughts and emotions to reach what you need; a calm mind and heart. A pause is not procrastination. Procrastination is the utter avoidance of things due to fear or is simply a lackadaisical attitude, while a pause is a proactive step that you take in order to avoid becoming part of the problem. Procrastination is you not wanting to face a situation at all, and a bid to run away from it indefinitely. A pause is the first step taken to actively solve a problem that helps you clear your mind and reach a rational, well-thought-out decision.

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For how long should I pause?

While we’d love to say that you should pause for as long as you need, with so much to do in such little time that’s not a possibility. From a 10-minute meditation break to a one-hour salon session, a pause is what you need to empower yourself. It needs to refresh you to better cope with your situation.

Take just long enough to pep talk yourself into facing the monster of the day or hour to the best of your abilities. Don’t let doubt enter your pause. A pause is your way of professing self-love and cheering yourself on, come what may.

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Last Updated on January 21, 2020

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

How to Motivate People Around You and Inspire Them

If I was a super hero I’d want my super power to be the ability to motivate everyone around me. Think of how many problems you could solve just by being able to motivate people towards their goals. You wouldn’t be frustrated by lazy co-workers. You wouldn’t be mad at your partner for wasting the weekend in front of the TV. Also, the more people around you are motivated toward their dreams, the more you can capitalize off their successes.

Being able to motivate people is key to your success at work, at home, and in the future because no one can achieve anything alone. We all need the help of others.

So, how to motivate people? Here are 7 ways to motivate others even you can do.

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1. Listen

Most people start out trying to motivate someone by giving them a lengthy speech, but this rarely works because motivation has to start inside others. The best way to motivate others is to start by listening to what they want to do. Find out what the person’s goals and dreams are. If it’s something you want to encourage, then continue through these steps.

2. Ask Open-Ended Questions

Open-ended questions are the best way to figure out what someone’s dreams are. If you can’t think of anything to ask, start with, “What have you always wanted to do?”

“Why do you want to do that?”

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“What makes you so excited about it?”

“How long has that been your dream?”

You need this information the help you with the following steps.

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3. Encourage

This is the most important step, because starting a dream is scary. People are so scared they will fail or look stupid, many never try to reach their goals, so this is where you come in. You must encourage them. Say things like, “I think you will be great at that.” Better yet, say, “I think your skills in X will help you succeed.” For example if you have a friend who wants to own a pet store, say, “You are so great with animals, I think you will be excellent at running a pet store.”

4. Ask About What the First Step Will Be

After you’ve encouraged them, find how they will start. If they don’t know, you can make suggestions, but it’s better to let the person figure out the first step themselves so they can be committed to the process.

5. Dream

This is the most fun step, because you can dream about success. Say things like, “Wouldn’t it be cool if your business took off, and you didn’t have to work at that job you hate?” By allowing others to dream, you solidify the motivation in place and connect their dreams to a future reality.

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6. Ask How You Can Help

Most of the time, others won’t need anything from you, but it’s always good to offer. Just letting the person know you’re there will help motivate them to start. And, who knows, maybe your skills can help.

7. Follow Up

Periodically, over the course of the next year, ask them how their goal is going. This way you can find out what progress has been made. You may need to do the seven steps again, or they may need motivation in another area of their life.

Final Thoughts

By following these seven steps, you’ll be able to encourage the people around you to achieve their dreams and goals. In return, you’ll be more passionate about getting to your goals, you’ll be surrounded by successful people, and others will want to help you reach your dreams …

Oh, and you’ll become a motivational super hero. Time to get a cape!

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