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2 Killer Tips You Should Master When Setting Goals For The New Year

2 Killer Tips You Should Master When Setting Goals For The New Year

As another year is coming to its end, we couldn’t help but seeing the year to come as a chance for a new beginning, a blank slate on which we can write new stories, and hopefully, ones with happy endings. Sometimes, however, we are so desperate to start over, erase the past year, and reach some idealistic, out-of-our-reach goals, that we get frustrated and disappointed if we fail. We want to meet so many great, life-changing goals that we don’t stop to think what is really important. We only focus on the outcome that we believe will make us happy and fulfilled, but what is more important is the journey itself and what we learn about ourselves in the process.

Before setting goals, take a good look at what you’ve learned in the previous year

The most important thing we should all focus on is to work on ourselves, and to constantly ask ourselves how we can be better, happier people. Getting a bigger salary, buying a new car, or starting a romantic relationship may be good things, but may not make you as happy as you think. Before setting goals that you feel are necessary for making you a happier person, you need to look deep down and embrace what you have learned about yourself in the previous year, both positive and negative. You need to dig deep and see what you need to improve so as to achieve personal growth.

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Before setting your goals, you need to rethink whether you are making them for the right reasons. If you are unhappy at work, getting a bigger salary is not going to make you feel better in a longer run. You need to reflect on why you feel miserable at your job, and what you can do to change that. Only when you take a good look at situations that made you feel bad, you will know what aspects of your life you should change and only then you can set the right goals.

Cherish all the experiences, good and bad, and celebrate how far you’ve come

When you reflect on how far you’ve come, you can see what you are capable of, and what your strengths and weaknesses are. Realizing that makes it possible for you to see where you can improve and thus make new goals that you feel confident you will achieve.

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When stopping to think about the past year and all the experience you’ve had, it’s easy to focus on how you may have failed to meet the goals you planned. When you do that, however, you miss out on seeing the lessons these “failures” can teach. Failures make us learn something and realize what we can do to make our lives better. So, when you reflect on your journey, don’t run away from failures, rather look at them as something positive, as something that made you who you are now, something that made you stronger.

There were definitely situations thought the past year when you had to make a leap and step out of your comfort zone, so make sure to give yourself the credit you deserve. Reward yourself for being so brave to do things you wouldn’t dream of doing before since that’s a huge step forward in your life and should be celebrated.

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For the year to come, don’t base your goals on the negative emotions you have now, base them on the positive feelings you want to have when you achieve them. Above all, set yourself up for success! Don’t set some big goal you want be able to achieve and then feel bad – set smaller goals that will eventually lead to a bigger life change.  Once you check off your list one small goal at a time, you will gain a sense of completion. Crossing smaller items off the list promotes positive energy, and that in the end will help you to become a happier, better person.

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Last Updated on December 9, 2019

5 Simple Ways to Relieve Stress Effectively

5 Simple Ways to Relieve Stress Effectively

Everyone experiences mental stress at one time or another. Maybe you’re starting a new career, job, or business, or you feel incredibly overwhelmed between work, parenting, and your love life (or a lack of it). It could even be that you simply feel that you have way too much to do and not enough time to do it,  plus, on top of everything, nothing seems to be going the way it should!

Yup, we all experience mental stress from time-to-time, and that’s okay as long as you have the tools, techniques and knowledge that allow you to fully relieve it once it comes.

Here are 5 tips for relieving mental stress when it comes so you can function at your best while feeling good (and doing well) in work, love, or life:

1. Get Rationally Optimistic

Mental stress starts with your perception of your experiences. For instance, most people get stressed out when they perceive their reality as “being wrong” in some way. Essentially, they have a set idea of how things “should be” at any given moment, and when reality ends up being different (not even necessarily bad), they get stressed.

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This process is simply a result of perception and can be easily “fixed” by recognizing that although life might not always be going as YOU think it should, it’s still going as it should—for your own benefit.

In fact, once you fully recognize that everything in your life ultimately happens for your own growth, progress, and development—so you can achieve your goals and dreams—your perception works in your favor. You soon process and respond to your experience of life differently, for your advantage. That’s the essence of becoming “rationally optimistic.”

The result: no more mental stress.

2. Unplug

Just like you might need to unplug your computer when it starts acting all crazy, you should also “unplug” your mind.

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How on earth do you unplug your mind? Simple: just meditate.

It isn’t nearly difficult or complicated as some people think, so, if you don’t already meditate, give it a try. Whether you meditate for 5 minutes, 30 minutes, or 2 hours, this is a surefire way to reduce mental stress.

Meditation has been scientifically proven to relax your body (resulting in less mental stress), while also reducing anxiety and high blood pressure.

3. Easy on the Caffeine

Yes, we know, we know—everyone loves a nice java buzz, and that’s okay, but there’s a fine line between a small caffeine pick-me-up and a racing heart and mind that throws you into a frenzy of mental stress.

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Try giving up caffeine for a while and see how you feel. And, if that’s completely out of the question for you, at least try to minimize it. You might find that lots of your mental stress mysteriously “disappears” as your caffeine intake goes down.

4. Attack Mental Stress Via the Back Door

That’s right: your body and mind are part of the whole being, and are constantly influencing and affecting each other. If you’re experiencing a lot of mental stress, try to reduce it by calming your body down—a calm body equals a calmer mind.

How do you calm your body down and reduce physical stress? A  great way to reduce physical stress (thereby reducing mental stress) is to take natural supplements that are proven to reduce stress and anxiety while lifting your mood. Three good ones to look into are kava-kava, St John’s wort, and rhodiola rosea:

  • Kava-kava is a natural plant known to have mild sedative properties, and you should be able to find it at your natural health food store or vitamin store. It’s available in capsules or liquid extract form.
  • St John’s wort is a natural flower used to treat depression. Again, it’s found at your local health store in capsules or liquid. Because it uplifts mood (enabling you to see the brighter side of all experiences) it helps relieve mental stress as well.
  • Rhodiola rosea is a natural plant shown to reduce stress and uplift mood, and Russian athletes have been using it forever. Like the other two supplements mentioned, rhodiola rosea can be found at your natural health store in capsule or liquid form.

While these supplements are all natural and can be very helpful for most people, always check with your health care provider first as they can cause side-effects depending on your current health situation etc.

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5. Good Old-Fashioned Exercise

This tip has been around forever because it works. Nothing relieves mental stress like running, kickboxing—you name it. Anything super-physical will wipe out most of your mental stresses once the exercise endorphins (happy chemicals) are released into your brain.

The result: mental stress will be gone!

So, if you’re feeling overwhelmed or just plain stressed, try using some of the above tips. You can even print this out or save it to refer to regularly.

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