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10 Signs You’ve Been Doing Well In 2016 Though You Don’t Think So

10 Signs You’ve Been Doing Well In 2016 Though You Don’t Think So

On the face of it, you may think 2016 isn’t a good year at all, considering what’s happening all around the world and on a personal level, it may seem that there’s just nothing special about 2016 from any other years. But then again, it’s your attitude towards life that matters and you may have overlooked certain things if you don’t think you’ve been doing well this year. You may have debts to pay off, but you don’t live malnourished and below the poverty line. You may not have found your soul mate yet, but there are certainly people in your life whose presence you treasure.

So here’s a list of top ten things to be grateful for and a sure sign that your life is on the right track.

1. You’re still alive!

And that, my dear reader, is nothing short of a miracle. You are alive right now in the 21st century at a very exciting time in the history of mankind and there’s nowhere else you’d rather be. You are alive and every day you can feel the sun shine on your face and breathe fresh air and experience the wonders of the natural world around you. You’re alive and aware and that’s all that matters.

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2. You have a roof over your head

Wherever you are, whether it’s a tiny rented room of an apartment or a penthouse, you have a place to call home. No matter how bad the day there’s always a special place you can return to relax and rejuvenate yourself.

3. You’re loved

When you call your parents, you know they’ll always be there for you. When you meet up with your friends, you know there are some people with whom you can share your darkest secrets. You have someone in your life who’s always got your back.

4. You have food and water

You don’t have to worry about how or when you’ll be able to afford your next meal. You don’t have to steal or scourge for leftovers to satiate your hunger. You have access to healthy food and clean water and that’s a privilege so many people in the world lack.

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5. You tried to improve yourself

You know you’re not perfect, but hey you tried your best and made resolutions and that’s what counts.

6. You failed but kept going

Yes, you’ve had setbacks but each failure is a stepping stone to success and the fact that you’re still trying proves that you haven’t let past defeats take you down,

7. You forgive others

There are people in your life you’d rather avoid, but instead of wasting your time and plotting revenge, you’ve chosen to let go and move on.

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8. You forgive yourself

Many of us know how to forgive others but when it comes to forgiving ourselves, we may need a little help from our friends. But at the end of the day, you know who you are, despite your shortcomings and you choose to live a better life and that’s a very good sign.

9. You have clothes

You may not have a celebrity’s wardrobe, but you have clothes that make you look and feel great or those that evoke special memories. You have breezy clothes for summer and woolen scarf to keep you warm in winter.

10. You dream big

And no matter what you’ve not stopped dreaming and you’re still here, doing what you can to make your dreams come true and that is the biggest sign that you’re exactly where you’re supposed to be.

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So congratulations! You’ve lived a great year. Keep focusing on the bright side. The world is still beautiful and now’s your time to make it an even better place to live in.

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5 Rules for Overcoming Adversity and Emotional Pain

5 Rules for Overcoming Adversity and Emotional Pain

“Some people choose to see the ugliness in this world, the disarray. I choose to see the beauty. To believe there is an order to our days. A purpose.” – from the popular show, “Westworld”

It’s different for us all. My personal quest for purpose began with five stages of grief and one startling realization that everything’s endlessly fragile. Adversity, as it happens by rule, found me terribly unprepared, so I decided to take my time. Today, I can honestly say that I’ve grown.

Ugliness and beauty, good and evil, pain and laughter – everything in the universe consists of two forces that are opposing but complementary. In the face of difficulty, that is the only mantra you need.

Here’s how I learned it and why you should too, with five simple rules.

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1. Embrace the Complexity

Quite insidiously, adversities come in all shapes and sizes. Paralyzing physical disabilities, mind-wracking mental problems, ruthless emotional havocs, all leading to the same painful acknowledgement: all the beauty in the world cannot possibly make up for the ugliness that surrounds us. Shattered to pieces, helpless and bare naked, we sit in our therapy chairs, apologizing for being so negative.

Eventually, what it all comes down to is the nature of negative emotion. Our positives overshadow our negatives, thus wrongly teaching us that the road to well-being is paved with nothing but positive feelings and thoughts. How utterly wrong!

“If you’re not failing every now and then, it’s a sign you’re not doing anything innovative”, Woody Allen said.

It’s a classic “learn from your mistakes” rule, but in this case, it implies growing from negative experiences. Make peace with your negativities and embrace beauty and ugliness alike! Accepting this marvellously complex world just as it is will allow you to find purpose in adversity and meaning in misery.

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2. Find Balance, Regain Control

Still, accepting adversity is only the first step toward eventual victory. One can endure only so much trauma in life; if we’re not prepared to deal with difficulties in a productive way, even the minor setbacks can get us off track. Our strengths come from learning, and the best way to learn is through a series of trials and errors. Just like phases of grief or stages of drug addiction, adversities suggest a disabling loss of control, so find your way to regain it.

Some call it the coping mechanism; for others, it’s a spiritual will. However you choose to name yours, know that not all supporting systems are equally beneficial, though each is effective in its own way. Escapism was mine, but it only helped me retain the illusion of beauty. It wasn’t until I opened up toward the ugliness and accepted the naked truth that I was finally free. Whether you choose to dwell in art, religion and spiritualism, thus feeding your resilience from within or to reach out to others for help, choose wisely.

Whatever the means, the second rule is a golden one: find your inner balance and stick to it. Eventually, it will lead you out of the vicious circle.

3. Fight with Patience

My bargaining turned in depression with a single touch. Fearless and free, my dance instructor timidly put her hands on my shoulders and I realized, for the first time, just how tense, stiff and cloistered I was. And just like that, I started letting go. Adversities have their sneaky ways, but in my experience, becoming aware is what hurts the worst. It took me a year to recover from this little moment of self-discovery, and I know remember it as the edge of the rabbit hole.

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Some sufferings are impossible to console; I know that now. The only way to get through is to, well, get through. Depression and despair are only the beginning of the excruciatingly unnerving process that ravages the mind and shrivels the soul, and once they strike, there is no easy way back. So, fight them with patience. When your head starts spinning and your feet lose ground, go to your happy place. Over there, you’ll be reminded that nothing is forever, not even our little existential psychosis.

Take a deep breath and say “om”. When things cannot be combated, they have to be endured, so practice patience and learn to let go. Finally, keep repeating to yourself that this too shall pass.

4. Keep Swimming

Nothing is impossible, in the end. Your negative thoughts will gently pour into your positive ones, just as two streams come together to become a river. In the event of the inevitable disaster, one can only be as calm as still water. Suffering teaches patience, and the latter gives rise to flexibility. Ultimately, what is life than a series of unfortunate events and a handful of bright moments in between? If adversities are impossible to avoid, than learn to glide through as smoothly and patiently as water does with rocks.

Even if spirituality isn’t exactly your cup of tea, you have to admit that this is one solid metaphor. Staying adaptable in the face of change will soothe your panic attacks and keep you sane and sober-blooded. Even if you fail, you’ll know exactly how to breathe and face what’s in front of you once it eventually strikes again. Stay calm and visualize a better tomorrow; if anything else, it will give you strength to dive deep and weather the storm. And, in case there’s somebody’s hand to reach out to, grab it firmly and don’t let go.

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Being flexible against adversities takes a lot of learning, just as staying brave demands a lot of courage. It’s a long, arduous step-by-step routine, and you can reach the end only by swimming on. Persist, even when you fall.

5. Never Stop Searching for Inspiration

And, if it’s a guidance you need, where else to seek it than in experiences of others? Find it in art, in people around you, in chance encounters. The pure beauty of perseverance can be discovered where you expect it the least, so never stop searching for inspiration. If self-help literature soothes your pains and clears your mind, don’t let cynics discourage you. Your path toward reconciliation is nobody’s but yours to choose.

Ever heard of Nick Vujicic? Or Nando Parado? Inspiring people sound their yawps over the roofs of the world, sometimes voiceless, sometimes limbless, sometimes both. Born without arms, Jessica Cox became the most unusual certified pilot in the world, and you can rarely see her without a smile on her face. If you’ve already ripped all of your bucket lists and said goodbye to your dreams and plans, meet Sean Swarner, who’s officially became the first cancer survivor to climb Mount Everest. The stories just go on.

Make your own guidebook! Pen down your positive thoughts, cover your walls with quotes and devise your personal mantras. Whenever things get hard, they’ll be there to remind you of what you need to do. It’s the simplest of all life hacks, and one of the most effective ones.

Find beauty in the world, but never stay blind for its ugliness. However daunting, adversities and emotional pain challenge our inner strength, thus making us resilient and allowing us to grow. As soon as you recognize them as the wind in your sails instead of the devastating storm, the purpose will become simple and clear.

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