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5 Ways To Bring Out The Best In You

5 Ways To Bring Out The Best In You

Success for many people may be high performance, making a good and steady income or becoming wealthy, consistently doing the greater good for others, or simply just having inner peace within oneself. With life’s ebbs and flows, it can be challenging to become successful, no matter what your definition of success may be. Many people tend to become stuck in confusion of how to even begin to get to the level of success in which they want to be. However, there are some tips you can apply to help you get started.

1. Inventory Your Talents

In order to be successful at something, you need to perform well. Every person has something they are good at doing, whether it is taking care of others, performing specific duties that require certain skills, or remaining calm while being under pressure. You can also inventory your talent by asking people who are close to you to reveal what it is that they think you are good at doing. You can also ask those you care for what they think makes you unique and special. Finding perspective from others is a great tool to try!

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2. Think of Your Childhood

Take some time to relax, close your eyes, and think back to your younger days. Reflect on the times you were the happiest, think about the things you loved doing, and contemplate about how you felt when you were doing them. In addition to this, think about when you were younger (or even now), what you didn’t want to stop doing when you were told to switch to a new task. Ask yourself, “Why do I want to keep doing this? What precisely makes me enjoy it so much?”

3. Be a Dreamer

Surely, you have spent time just thinking about how you wish your life could be. We all do, even when we are seemingly in a good place in our lives. Successful people want more; they want to reach even higher. Using meditation each morning as you awaken, or at night before you go to sleep, will help clear your mind and open it up for accepting new thoughts. Dreaming big gives hope to anyone who wants to achieve more, and eventually those dreams will enable you to find a way to make good things happen!

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4. Be Daring

It is imperative to take risks in order to achieve your goals and to become what you want to be. You may have to be proactive in your search for a better life and reach out to others. You may have to apply for a new job, decide to go back to school, or start a business and step out of your comfort zone. This may make you anxious and uncomfortable, but, with all risks, it is necessary. Take that leap of faith and a deep breath, and go for it.

Unleashing and holding tight to something you love to do, either as a means of income or for sheer enjoyment, can be done with a little persistence towards yourself. It may take time to find what makes your excitement grow as you do something productive, but it is most definitely a realistic goal to set for yourself. Living your life, day to day, should bring you satisfaction and joy. After all, you deserve nothing less!

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5. Realize That Victory Is Near

Many people think that success for them is so far away and they get overwhelmed easily by thinking about it. When you have worked on your goals for a while but things don’t seem to be working for you, you might feel like giving up or at least frustrated. Usually ,when this happens, you are just two millimeters away from victory. This is one of the beautiful lessons I learned from Tony Robbins at his UPW event in Australia. Tony called this the “2-millimeter shift“. He explained that all you need is a little shift in your strategy or mindset in order to maintain the momentum to achieve the outcome that you are after. So when things are not working and you are stuck, just remember that victory is near and all you need is to find that tiny shift.

When you realize that the success you want is within your reach, you will keep going and utilizing more of your potential and resources to help you achieve your goals.

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Last Updated on July 23, 2019

5 Steps To Move Out Of Stagnancy In Life

5 Steps To Move Out Of Stagnancy In Life

In the journey of growth, there are times when we grow and excel. We are endlessly driven and hyped up, motivated to get our goals.

Then there are times when we stagnate. We feel uninspired and unmotivated. We keep procrastinating on our plans. More often than not, we get out of a rut, only to get back into another one.

How do you know if you are stagnating? Here are some tell-tale signs:

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  • If you have been experiencing chronic procrastination on your goals
  • If you don’t ever feel like doing anything
  • If you keep turning to sleep, eating, games, mindless activities and entertainment for comfort
  • If you know you should be doing something, but yet you keep avoiding it
  • If you have not achieved anything new or significant now relative to 1 month, 2 months or 3 months ago
  • If you have a deep sense of feeling that you are living under your potential

When we face stagnation in life, it’s a sign of deeper issues. Stagnation, just like procrastination, is a symptom of a problem. It’s easy to beat ourselves over it, but this approach is not going to help. Here, I will share 5 steps to help you move out of this stagnation. They won’t magically transform your life in 1 night (such changes are never permanent because the foundations are not built), but they will help you get the momentum going and help you get back on track.

1. Realize You’re Not Alone

Everyone stagnates at some point or another. You are not alone in this and more importantly, it’s normal. In fact, it’s amazing how many of my clients actually face the same predicament, even though all of them come from different walks of life, are of different ages, and have never crossed paths. Realizing you are not alone in this will make it much easier to deal with this period. By trying to “fight it”, you’re only fighting yourself. Accept this situation, acknowledge it, and tell yourself it’s okay. That way, you can then focus on the constructive steps that will really help you.

2. Find What Inspires You

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Stagnation comes because there isn’t anything that excites you enough to take action. If you don’t have a habit of setting goals, and instead just leave yourself to daily mundanes, it’s not surprising you are experiencing stagnation. What do you want to do if there are no limitations? If you can have whatever you want, what will it be? The answers to these questions will provide the fuel that will drive you forward.

On the other hand, even if you are an experienced goal setter, there are times when the goals you set in the past lose their appeal now. It’s normal and it happens to me too. Sometimes we lose touch with our goals, since we are in a different emotional state compared to when we first set them. Sometimes our priorities change and we no longer want to work on those goals anymore. However, we don’t consciously realize this, and what happens is we procrastinate on our goals until it compounds into a serious problem. If that’s the case for you, it’s time to relook into your goals. There’s no point in pursuing goals that no longer inspire you. Trash away your old goals (or just put them aside) and ask yourself what you really want now. Then go for them.

3. Give Yourself a Break

When’s the last time you took a real break for yourself? 3 months? 6 months? 1 year? Never? Perhaps it’s time to take a time-out. Prolonged working can cause someone to become disillusioned as they lose sight of who they are and what they want.

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Go take some extended leave from work. A few days at bare minimum; a few weeks or months will be great. Some of my ex-colleagues have quit their jobs and took months out to do some self-reflection. Of course, some of us might not have that luxury, so we can stick to a few weeks of leave. Go on a trip elsewhere and get away from your work and your life. Use this chance to get a renewed perspective of life. Think about your life purpose, what you want and what you want to create for your life in the future. These are big questions that require deep thinking over them. It’s not about finding the answers at one go, but about taking the first step to finding the answers.

4. Shake up Your Routines

Being in the same environment, doing the same things over and over again and meeting the same people can make us stagnant. This is especially if the people you spend the most time with are stagnant themselves.

Change things around. Start with simple things, like taking a different route to work and eating something different for breakfast. Have your lunch with different colleagues, colleagues you never talked much with. Work in a different cubicle if your work has free and easy seating. Do something different than your usual for weekday evenings and weekends. Cultivate different habits, like exercising every day, listening to a new series of podcasts every morning to work, reading a book, etc (here’s 6 Proven Ways To Make New Habits Stick). The different contexts will give you different stimulus, which will trigger off different thoughts and actions in you.

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When I’m in a state of stagnancy, I’ll get a sense of what’s making me stagnate. Sometimes it’s the environment I’m in, sometimes it’s the people I’ve been hanging out with, sometimes it’s my lifestyle. Most of the times it’s a combination of all these. Changing them up helps to stir myself out of the stagnant mode.

5. Start with a Small Step

Stagnation also comes from being frozen in fear. Maybe you do want this certain goal, but you aren’t taking action. Are you overwhelmed by the amount of work needed? Are you afraid you will make mistakes? Is the perfectionist in you taking over and paralyzing you?

Let go of the belief that it has to be perfect. Such a belief is a bane, not a boon. It’s precisely from being open to mistakes and errors that you move forward. Break down what’s before you into very very small steps, then take those small steps, a little step at a time. I had a client who had been stagnating for a long period because he was afraid of failing. He didn’t want to make another move where he would make a mistake. However, not wanting to make a mistake has led him to do absolutely nothing for 2-3 years. On the other hand, by doing just something, you would already be making progress, whether it’s a mistake or not. Even if you make a supposed “mistake”,  you get feedback to do things differently in the next step. That’s something you would never have known if you never made a move.

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