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Four Approaches the Most Successful Leaders use to Connect with Coworkers

Four Approaches the Most Successful Leaders use to Connect with Coworkers

The whole point of being an effective leader in the workplace is to connect with the members of your team in such a way that motivates them to give you their all. Get this right and your coworkers will provide you with an endless stream of massive productivity and success. Get it wrong and your days as the leader around the office may be numbered.

To make sure you connect with people in your workplace in the most effective way, you are going to have to develop a few strategies that help people accept you as their leader and give you the respect and cooperation that you deserve. With that in mind, here are a few strategies that can take you from being on the outside to being tightly connected with every coworker on your team.

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Give Genuine Praise.

If you want to get the attention of your team members and get them on your side, giving them genuine compliments will do the trick. No one likes to go through life not being noticed for the tremendous effort they put into their work. Leaders who refuse to give genuine praise for good work send the message that their coworkers are not able to please them no matter how much effort they put forth. Leaders who take the time to notice an honest effort and hand out praise when it is deserved without coming off “plastic” in the process, already have the respect and loyalty of their coworkers. A hand-written note is still one of the best ways to send praise to a coworker when you want them to know you were truly impressed with something they did.

Everyone has Their Price.

While most leaders try hard to motivate their coworkers to let them in, they often ignore a simple rule that works every time. That rule is that you have to give in order to get. If you want to get your coworkers to connect with you, you must be willing to give something to motivate this.

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This may sound like a bribe and it should not be mistaken for anything less. Bribing your coworkers is a very effective way to not only build a tight connection, but to make them depend on that connection as well. You just have to ask probing questions to learn the things you can do for them to motivate them to want to connect with you.

Give them the right incentives and the connection will be rock solid. Knowing these motivating triggers can also help push a lagging member of your team into high gear performance mode. Never underestimate the sheer raw power of a good bribe to get what you want out of your team members.

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A Leader Can be Fun, Too.

People are highly attracted and motivated by fun experiences. When people are having loads of fun the vibe is truly contagious. A leader should be able to make their coworkers feel like connecting with them is fun to do as much as possible.

If you are a stick in the mud around your coworkers, they will not feel invited or comfortable around you. If you are loads of fun, yet able to maintain a professional air while making them laugh and enjoy themselves at work, they will see you as the leader that deserves their attention- not the leader from whom they recoil.

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Get Down to Business.

When it comes to advancing your skills as a leader who properly connects with your team, obtaining senior leadership training and experience is a key method of improving how you reach out to your coworkers and make a meaningful connection. Often this level of training can be facilitated at a leadership team development retreat, where you and your team have an opportunity to not only bond, but also learn to function more cohesively by learning new skill sets like conflict resolution, effective problem solving, and business planning strategies. These skills will help improve the overall performance and productivity of your team around the office.

Connecting with the coworkers on their team is something that every leader will have to do at some point in their career. While some members of the team will be easier to connect with than others, it is important to realize that a broad spectrum of approaches works to connect with a wide variety of people. Just because one approach fails to get your coworkers to open up and give you their best, that does not mean another approach will be met with failure. Since good leaders conquer where others fail, you must be willing to try a lot of things to make that connection happen and get your team operating like a well-oiled machine.

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Last Updated on September 20, 2018

How to Be Happy at Work and Find Fulfillment in Your Career

How to Be Happy at Work and Find Fulfillment in Your Career

If you’re going to spend 1/3 of our life at work, you should enjoy it, right?

Trust me, I know that’s easier said than done. Difficult coworkers, less-than-desirable tasks, or even just being in the wrong position can all lead to a lack of enjoyment and fulfillment in your work.

But what if I told you it doesn’t have to be this way? Or better yet, if you struggle with all of the above (and then some), what if I told you that enjoying your work and finding fulfillment regardless of those obstacles is possible?

Don’t believe me? I don’t blame you because I was there too. Before implementing the tips below, I struggled to get through each day, much less find real fulfillment, in the office. Now, even after the toughest days on the job, I still come away with feelings of pride, accomplishment, and fulfillment. The best news is, so can you.

If you’re ready to make those hours count and find happiness and fulfillment in the office, then read on to find out how to be happy at work and find fulfillment in your career:

1. Discover the root(s) of the problem

For this first step, we’ll need to think back to 8th-grade physics (humor me). We all know Newton’s 3rd law, “for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.” When you think about it, the same can be said outside of physics, and we see this law play out in our daily lives, day after day.

Simply put, all the issues we deal with in the office (and life in general) affect us in a noticeable way.

If you’re appreciated at work, like the work you do and receive frequent praise, promotions, or raises, then this will probably have an altogether positive effect on your life in the office.

But what if we reverse this? What if you feel under appreciated, get passed up for promotions, or get denied raises? This is sure to affect the way you feel at work on a negative level.

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So, before you can implement the steps of feeling happy and fulfilled at work, we first have to discover the reasons why you don’t feel that way already.

Think about it, write a list, or make a mental note. Run through all the reasons you’re dissatisfied in the office, and don’t hold back. Knowing the exact obstacles you’re facing will make overcoming them that much easier.

In fact, as a side-challenge to this article, I recommend picking the top three reasons contributing to your dissatisfaction at work and using the following tips to tackle them.

2. Practice gratitude for an instant uplift

Did you know the simple act of feeling grateful can increase your happiness and make you more fulfilled at work?[1]

Well, it’s true, and it’s scientifically proven.

Dr. Lisa Firestone notes that practicing gratitude “reminds us of what we lacked in the past.” Meaning, it serves as both a boost to happiness and a bit of a wake-up call that things have been or could be, much worse.

Trying to conjure up feelings of gratitude can seem almost impossible when your work situation seems bleak, but hear me out: There are incredibly easy ways to get started and it doesn’t involve trying to “force” yourself to feel grateful about things that stress you out.

For an instant pick-me-up, try this:

Find a loose piece of paper, a blank sticky note, or anything you can write on, be it physical or digital. List just three things that you are absolutely without-a-doubt thankful for in your life.

Now here’s the trick: Don’t just list what you’re grateful for, you have to list why you’re grateful for them, too.

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For example, simply saying “I’m grateful for my kids” will probably make you feel good, sure, but what if we could amplify the warm, fuzzy feeling into real, lasting motivation?

Instead, write the reason you’re so thankful for your children. Is it because they make you laugh and forget about other stressors? Or maybe they help to remind you of why you go to work every day in the first place?

Whatever your reasons may be, jot them down and keep your list somewhere you can see it while you work. A quick glance at your gratitude list throughout the day can provide powerful, positive motivation to keep going.

Bonus:

If you can find just three things to be thankful for that specifically relate to your job, and list why those things make you grateful, your list can also help you find fulfillment in your work itself which can give you an even bigger boost of positivity throughout the day.

3. Take meaningful time for yourself

We all know creating a strong work-life balance can be crucial to feeling satisfied in our jobs, but rarely do we ever address how we’re spending our time outside of work.

Many of us survive a 9-hour work day and commute home only to find ourselves busy with our personal to-do lists, running a household, and taking care of a child (or 2 or 3, and so on).

If you spend all your time working, whether in the office or within your household, you’re going to feel drained at some point. This is why setting meaningful time for yourself every day is highly important.

Look, I get it: I don’t know anyone in the working world who can shun all responsibility for a 3-movie marathon or happy hour with friends whenever they feel like it. But finding time for yourself, be it just 30 minutes to an hour, can really make a difference in how you feel at work.

This works because you’ll have time to actually relax and let the day’s stress melt away while you enjoy something just for you. The to-do lists and stressors will still be there after you’re refreshed and ready to tackle them.

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No time for me-time? Try this:

If you have a busy household, you’ll need to capitalize on a block of time you know will be completely uninterrupted. The easiest way to do this: try waking up 30 minutes to an hour earlier than usual (or push bedtime back an hour if you’re a night owl, like me) and take time to do something you enjoy.

This could be reading with a cup of tea, catching up on Facebook, spending time on a passion project—anything! As long as it’s meaningful to you, it works!

Bonus:

Starting your day with meaningful time for yourself can set you up to have a positive mood that lasts well into office hours, and having your me-time in the evening can give you something positive to look forward to during the day.

4. Get productive and feel accomplished

Don’t you just love the feeling of checking the last item off of a hefty to-do list? That’s because self-motivation can be a huge driver of positivity and success.

When we accomplish something, no matter how small, it makes us feel good, plain and simple. Applying this tactic to your daily work can be the motivator you need to find fulfillment during the daily office grind.

While there are tons of steps to get more done at work, I’ll share my personal favorite: Prioritizing.

Now, many people handle prioritizing differently. Some like to tackle the little tasks first so they can spend focused time on the big to-dos. Others like to knock out the big items first and get to the smaller ones when they can.

No matter which camp you’re in, you may be missing one crucial step: Time management.

So how’s this work? When you factor in the amount of time your priorities will take, it can transform your productivity ten-fold.

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Say you have three top priorities for the day. You might jump into the smaller ones or the bigger ones depending on your preferred method, and then find yourself out of time and bringing work home with you at the end of the day.

This is prevented when you factor in time. Knowing how long each item will take, or deliberately setting specific blocks of time for your priorities can help you accomplish more in the same 8-9 (or 12) hours that you typically spend at work.

Try this:

Take a look at your priorities and consider how long they should take. Pop into your Google calendar (or Filofax, whatever works for you) and schedule time to work on your priority items around any important meetings or events of the day.

The most important thing to remember is to stick to your dedicated time.

Often, when we know exactly how long we have to work on something (and honor this time limit), we’re motivated to get more done on time to avoid taking work home at the end of the day.

The bottom line

There’s no need to waste 1/3 of our lives feeling unsatisfied at work. Luckily, you now have the tools to get started, take back your time, and become happy and fulfilled at work again.

The only question is — which tip will you try first?

Featured photo credit: Ellyot via unsplash.com

Reference

[1]Psychology Today: The Healing Power of Gratitude

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