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4 Things you Can do to Become your Own Life Coach

4 Things you Can do to Become your Own Life Coach

Everybody needs a champion. In the midst of life’s ups and downs, ebbs and flows, a champion is there to pull you up along the way and force you to go further; to not give up. Obstacles happen along the path of life, and without that voice to keep your drive determined and steady, moving forward can be a difficult thing to do. Many people hire life-coaches to help them with short and long-term goals, especially if they are getting ready to make a change in their lives. But did you ever think that you could be your own life coach and your biggest fan? Here are some ways in which you can become your own life coach and become successful in your journeys.

#1. Identify Areas of Improvement

You have probably been thinking about finding a life coach or wondering what you can do to better yourself. In that case, the first step to take is to reflect upon yourself, honestly, about what you can improve. Perhaps you want to improve your health by exercising more, or improve your finances by strategizing a budget that you can really stick to, or even making a career change. Whatever you want to improve in your life, make a list and focus on the items, one at a time.

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#2. Recognize Your Challenges

While you will need to focus on your strengths to make any changes in your life, it is equally important to recognize your weaknesses, or challenges. Being honest with yourself and acknowledging your challenges are both crucial in developing a plan of action. For example, if you feel you fall short in willpower, your inner-coach will need to address that challenge in order to make you resist the temptation of giving in. We all have challenges, but with the right mindset and strategies, they are able to be overcome. That is where you, as your own life coach, come in. Your role is to be honest with yourself and remain positive with an “I can do it!” attitude and steamroll right over those recognizable weaknesses in order to achieve the change you want to see, or be!

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#3. Educate Yourself

An educated mind is such a powerful mind, and doing research and learning about different tactics you can apply to your daily life, tactics that work for you, can help you reach your improvement goals. Finding information on how to deal with challenges, how to adopt a positive mindset and keep it going, and how to set specific short-term goals to reach your dream can help you along the way. As your own life coach, taking the time to learn as much as you can about what you need to do in order to make an important change (or changes) in your life will be beneficial.

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#4. Learn From Others

Listen to or read about other individuals that have changed their life for the better. Learn from them. Life coach Tony Robbins said that the surest way to become successful is to model someone who is already successful.  Many people who have achieved a major life goal are very proud and are open to sharing their story. Many people also give tips and methods they used to help them along the way. You can also learn from their mistakes to help you in your decision-making process as you make your way in your journey. Of course, recognizing that your needs are different and unique to you is important; however, it is still nice to hear stories of inspiration from others that have succeeded.

Being your own life coach will bring you closer to your inner-self and give you the strength you never knew you had. Being intrinsically motivated to attain your new life goals will give you a sense of inner peace and happiness within yourself, which will in turn shine through for others to see!

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

You may also want to read: How to Stop the Negative Spin of Thoughts, Emotions and Actions.

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