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4 Things you Can do to Become your Own Life Coach

4 Things you Can do to Become your Own Life Coach

Everybody needs a champion. In the midst of life’s ups and downs, ebbs and flows, a champion is there to pull you up along the way and force you to go further; to not give up. Obstacles happen along the path of life, and without that voice to keep your drive determined and steady, moving forward can be a difficult thing to do. Many people hire life-coaches to help them with short and long-term goals, especially if they are getting ready to make a change in their lives. But did you ever think that you could be your own life coach and your biggest fan? Here are some ways in which you can become your own life coach and become successful in your journeys.

#1. Identify Areas of Improvement

You have probably been thinking about finding a life coach or wondering what you can do to better yourself. In that case, the first step to take is to reflect upon yourself, honestly, about what you can improve. Perhaps you want to improve your health by exercising more, or improve your finances by strategizing a budget that you can really stick to, or even making a career change. Whatever you want to improve in your life, make a list and focus on the items, one at a time.

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#2. Recognize Your Challenges

While you will need to focus on your strengths to make any changes in your life, it is equally important to recognize your weaknesses, or challenges. Being honest with yourself and acknowledging your challenges are both crucial in developing a plan of action. For example, if you feel you fall short in willpower, your inner-coach will need to address that challenge in order to make you resist the temptation of giving in. We all have challenges, but with the right mindset and strategies, they are able to be overcome. That is where you, as your own life coach, come in. Your role is to be honest with yourself and remain positive with an “I can do it!” attitude and steamroll right over those recognizable weaknesses in order to achieve the change you want to see, or be!

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#3. Educate Yourself

An educated mind is such a powerful mind, and doing research and learning about different tactics you can apply to your daily life, tactics that work for you, can help you reach your improvement goals. Finding information on how to deal with challenges, how to adopt a positive mindset and keep it going, and how to set specific short-term goals to reach your dream can help you along the way. As your own life coach, taking the time to learn as much as you can about what you need to do in order to make an important change (or changes) in your life will be beneficial.

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#4. Learn From Others

Listen to or read about other individuals that have changed their life for the better. Learn from them. Life coach Tony Robbins said that the surest way to become successful is to model someone who is already successful.  Many people who have achieved a major life goal are very proud and are open to sharing their story. Many people also give tips and methods they used to help them along the way. You can also learn from their mistakes to help you in your decision-making process as you make your way in your journey. Of course, recognizing that your needs are different and unique to you is important; however, it is still nice to hear stories of inspiration from others that have succeeded.

Being your own life coach will bring you closer to your inner-self and give you the strength you never knew you had. Being intrinsically motivated to attain your new life goals will give you a sense of inner peace and happiness within yourself, which will in turn shine through for others to see!

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The Gentle Art of Saying No

The Gentle Art of Saying No

No!

It’s a simple fact that you can never be productive if you take on too many commitments — you simply spread yourself too thin and will not be able to get anything done, at least not well or on time.

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But requests for your time are coming in all the time — through phone, email, IM or in person. To stay productive, and minimize stress, you have to learn the Gentle Art of Saying No — an art that many people have problems with.

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What’s so hard about saying no? Well, to start with, it can hurt, anger or disappoint the person you’re saying “no” to, and that’s not usually a fun task. Second, if you hope to work with that person in the future, you’ll want to continue to have a good relationship with that person, and saying “no” in the wrong way can jeopardize that.

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But it doesn’t have to be difficult or hard on your relationship. Here are the Top 10 tips for learning the Gentle Art of Saying No:

  1. Value your time. Know your commitments, and how valuable your precious time is. Then, when someone asks you to dedicate some of your time to a new commitment, you’ll know that you simply cannot do it. And tell them that: “I just can’t right now … my plate is overloaded as it is.”
  2. Know your priorities. Even if you do have some extra time (which for many of us is rare), is this new commitment really the way you want to spend that time? For myself, I know that more commitments means less time with my wife and kids, who are more important to me than anything.
  3. Practice saying no. Practice makes perfect. Saying “no” as often as you can is a great way to get better at it and more comfortable with saying the word. And sometimes, repeating the word is the only way to get a message through to extremely persistent people. When they keep insisting, just keep saying no. Eventually, they’ll get the message.
  4. Don’t apologize. A common way to start out is “I’m sorry but …” as people think that it sounds more polite. While politeness is important, apologizing just makes it sound weaker. You need to be firm, and unapologetic about guarding your time.
  5. Stop being nice. Again, it’s important to be polite, but being nice by saying yes all the time only hurts you. When you make it easy for people to grab your time (or money), they will continue to do it. But if you erect a wall, they will look for easier targets. Show them that your time is well guarded by being firm and turning down as many requests (that are not on your top priority list) as possible.
  6. Say no to your boss. Sometimes we feel that we have to say yes to our boss — they’re our boss, right? And if we say “no” then we look like we can’t handle the work — at least, that’s the common reasoning. But in fact, it’s the opposite — explain to your boss that by taking on too many commitments, you are weakening your productivity and jeopardizing your existing commitments. If your boss insists that you take on the project, go over your project or task list and ask him/her to re-prioritize, explaining that there’s only so much you can take on at one time.
  7. Pre-empting. It’s often much easier to pre-empt requests than to say “no” to them after the request has been made. If you know that requests are likely to be made, perhaps in a meeting, just say to everyone as soon as you come into the meeting, “Look guys, just to let you know, my week is booked full with some urgent projects and I won’t be able to take on any new requests.”
  8. Get back to you. Instead of providing an answer then and there, it’s often better to tell the person you’ll give their request some thought and get back to them. This will allow you to give it some consideration, and check your commitments and priorities. Then, if you can’t take on the request, simply tell them: “After giving this some thought, and checking my commitments, I won’t be able to accommodate the request at this time.” At least you gave it some consideration.
  9. Maybe later. If this is an option that you’d like to keep open, instead of just shutting the door on the person, it’s often better to just say, “This sounds like an interesting opportunity, but I just don’t have the time at the moment. Perhaps you could check back with me in [give a time frame].” Next time, when they check back with you, you might have some free time on your hands.
  10. It’s not you, it’s me. This classic dating rejection can work in other situations. Don’t be insincere about it, though. Often the person or project is a good one, but it’s just not right for you, at least not at this time. Simply say so — you can compliment the idea, the project, the person, the organization … but say that it’s not the right fit, or it’s not what you’re looking for at this time. Only say this if it’s true — people can sense insincerity.

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