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4 Things you Can do to Become your Own Life Coach

4 Things you Can do to Become your Own Life Coach

Everybody needs a champion. In the midst of life’s ups and downs, ebbs and flows, a champion is there to pull you up along the way and force you to go further; to not give up. Obstacles happen along the path of life, and without that voice to keep your drive determined and steady, moving forward can be a difficult thing to do. Many people hire life-coaches to help them with short and long-term goals, especially if they are getting ready to make a change in their lives. But did you ever think that you could be your own life coach and your biggest fan? Here are some ways in which you can become your own life coach and become successful in your journeys.

#1. Identify Areas of Improvement

You have probably been thinking about finding a life coach or wondering what you can do to better yourself. In that case, the first step to take is to reflect upon yourself, honestly, about what you can improve. Perhaps you want to improve your health by exercising more, or improve your finances by strategizing a budget that you can really stick to, or even making a career change. Whatever you want to improve in your life, make a list and focus on the items, one at a time.

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#2. Recognize Your Challenges

While you will need to focus on your strengths to make any changes in your life, it is equally important to recognize your weaknesses, or challenges. Being honest with yourself and acknowledging your challenges are both crucial in developing a plan of action. For example, if you feel you fall short in willpower, your inner-coach will need to address that challenge in order to make you resist the temptation of giving in. We all have challenges, but with the right mindset and strategies, they are able to be overcome. That is where you, as your own life coach, come in. Your role is to be honest with yourself and remain positive with an “I can do it!” attitude and steamroll right over those recognizable weaknesses in order to achieve the change you want to see, or be!

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#3. Educate Yourself

An educated mind is such a powerful mind, and doing research and learning about different tactics you can apply to your daily life, tactics that work for you, can help you reach your improvement goals. Finding information on how to deal with challenges, how to adopt a positive mindset and keep it going, and how to set specific short-term goals to reach your dream can help you along the way. As your own life coach, taking the time to learn as much as you can about what you need to do in order to make an important change (or changes) in your life will be beneficial.

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#4. Learn From Others

Listen to or read about other individuals that have changed their life for the better. Learn from them. Life coach Tony Robbins said that the surest way to become successful is to model someone who is already successful.  Many people who have achieved a major life goal are very proud and are open to sharing their story. Many people also give tips and methods they used to help them along the way. You can also learn from their mistakes to help you in your decision-making process as you make your way in your journey. Of course, recognizing that your needs are different and unique to you is important; however, it is still nice to hear stories of inspiration from others that have succeeded.

Being your own life coach will bring you closer to your inner-self and give you the strength you never knew you had. Being intrinsically motivated to attain your new life goals will give you a sense of inner peace and happiness within yourself, which will in turn shine through for others to see!

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Last Updated on July 16, 2019

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

7 Ways to Get Rid of Negative Energy and Become Positive

Negativity affects ourselves and everyone around us. It limits our potential to become something great and live a fulfilling, purposeful life. Negativity has a tangible effect on our health, too. Research has shown that people who cultivate negative energy experience more stress, more sickness, and less opportunity over the course of their lives than those who choose to live positively.

When we make a decision to become positive, and follow that decision up with action, we will begin to encounter situations and people that are also positive. The negative energy gets edged out by all positive experiences. It’s a snowball effect.

Although negative and positive thoughts will always exist, the key to becoming positive is to limit the amount of negativity that we experience by filling ourselves up with more positivity.

Here are some ways to get rid of negativity and become more positive.

1. Become Grateful for Everything

When life is all about us, it’s easy to believe that we deserve what we have. An attitude of entitlement puts us at the center of the universe and sets up the unrealistic expectation that others should cater to us, our needs, and our wants. This vain state of existence is a surefire way to set yourself up for an unfulfilled life of negativity.

People living in this sort of entitlement are “energy suckers”–they are always searching for what they can get out of a situation. People that don’t appreciate the nuances of their lives live in a constant state of lacking. And it’s really difficult to live a positive life this way.

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When we begin to be grateful and appreciate everything in our lives–from the small struggles that make us better, to the car that gets us from A to B every day–we shift our attitude from one of selfishness, to one of appreciation. This appreciation gets noticed by others, and a positive harmony begins to form in our relationships.

We begin to receive more of that which we are grateful for, because we’ve opened ourselves up to the idea of receiving, instead of taking. This will make your life more fulfilling, and more positive.

2. Laugh More, Especially at Yourself

Life gets busy, our schedules fill up, we get into relationships, and work can feel task oriented and routine-driven at times. Being human can feel more like being a robot. But having this work-driven, serious attitude often results in negative and performance oriented thinking.

Becoming positive means taking life less seriously and letting yourself off the hook. This is the only life that you get to live, why not lighten up your mood?

Laughter helps us become positive by lightening our mood and reminding us not to take life so seriously. Are you sensitive to light sarcasm? Do you have trouble laughing at jokes? Usually, people who are stressed out and overly serious get most offended by sarcasm because their life is all work and no play.

If we can learn to laugh at ourselves and our mistakes, life will become more of an experiment in finding out what makes us happy. And finding happiness means finding positivity.

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3. Help Others

Negativity goes hand in hand with selfishness. People that live only for themselves have no higher purpose in their lives. If the whole point of this world is only to take care of yourself and no one else, the road to a long-term fulfillment and purpose is going to be a long one.

Positivity accompanies purpose. The most basic way to create purpose and positivity in your life is to begin doing things for others. Start small; open the door for the person in front of you at Starbucks or ask someone how their day was before telling them about yours.

Helping others will give you an intangible sense of value that will translate into positivity. And people might just appreciate you in the process.

4. Change Your Thinking

We can either be our best coach or our best enemy. Change starts from within. If you want to become more positive, change the wording of your thoughts. We are the hardest on ourselves, and a stream of negative self talk is corrosive to a positive life.

The next time you have a negative thought, write it down and rephrase it with a positive spin. For example, change a thought like, “I can’t believe I did so horribly on the test–I suck.” to “I didn’t do as well as I hoped to on this test. But I know I’m capable and I’ll do better next time.”

Changing our self-talk is powerful.

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5. Surround Yourself with Positive People

We become most like the people that we surround ourselves with. If our friend group is full of negative energy-suckers and drama queens, we will emulate that behavior and become like them. It is very difficult to become more positive when the people around us don’t support or demonstrate positive behavior.

As you become more positive, you’ll find that your existing friends will either appreciate the new you or they will become resistant to your positive changes. This is a natural response.

Change is scary; but cutting out the negative people in your life is a huge step to becoming more positive. Positive people reflect and bounce their perspectives onto one another. Positivity is a step-by-step process when you do it solo, but a positive group of friends can be an escalator.

6. Get into Action

Negative thoughts can be overwhelming and challenging to navigate. Negativity is usually accompanied by a “freak-out” response, especially when tied to relationships, people and to worrying about the future. This is debilitating to becoming positive and usually snowballs into more worry, more stress and more freak-outs.

Turn the negative stress into positive action. The next time you’re in one of these situations, walk away and take a break. With your eyes closed, take a few deep breaths. Once you’re calm, approach the situation or problem with a pen and pad of paper. Write out four or five actions or solutions to begin solving the problem.

Taking yourself out of the emotionally charged negative by moving into the action-oriented positive will help you solve more problems rationally and live in positivity

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7. Take Full Responsibility, Stop Being the Victim

You are responsible for your thoughts.

People that consistently believe that things happen to them handicap themselves to a victim mentality. This is a subtle and deceptive negative thought pattern. Phrases like “I have to work” or “I can’t believe he did that to me” are indicators of a victim mentality. Blaming circumstances and blaming others only handicaps our decision to change something negative into something positive.

Taking full responsibility for your life, your thoughts and your actions is one of the biggest steps in creating a more positive life. We have unlimited potential within to create our own reality, change our life, and change our thoughts. When we begin to really internalize this, we discover that no one can make us feel or do anything. We choose our emotional and behavioral response to people and circumstances.

Make positive choices in favor of yourself.

“Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habit. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny” ― Lao Tzu

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