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12 Signs That You Really Need a Life Coach

12 Signs That You Really Need a Life Coach

Successful people have sworn by life coaches for years, but a lot of people are still hesitant to hire one. A life coach can help you figure out what you want to do with your life and, more importantly, they can help you figure out how to do it. Many people think that they don’t need help and that they can do everything by themselves. The truth is that it always helps to have support, especially the support of an experienced professional who can aid you in getting where you want to be without wasting any excess time or money.

Here are 12 major signs that you may be in need of a life coach:

1. You Feel Lost

One thing that life coaches are great at is helping people find their way when they are feeling lost and confused. If you have come to a point where you don’t know who you are or what you want, working with a life coach is the perfect starting point for your new life journey.

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2. You Doubt Yourself

If you are doubting yourself, a life coach can work with you and help you to find some clarity. Much of the time we know what we want deep down inside, but we become confused by the world around us and the many “shoulds” that may enter our lives on a daily basis. A life coach can help you realize what your dreams are as well as the best way you can reach them.

3. You Have A Vision, But No Clear Plan

There are times where you may have a goal or vision, but have no clue as to how to achieve it. It is a life coach’s job to guide you through the steps of creating a plan of action so that you can get to where you want to be. A lot of great ideas go unrealized due to a lack of organization and clarity, and the world misses out every time.

4. You Want To Change Your Profession

If you’re looking to break out of your day job and start your own business or enter a new field, the expert guidance of a life coach can give you the confidence and assurance you need to take the necessary leap.

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5. You Need To Improve Your Health

If your health could use some attention and renovating, you may want to hire a health coach. Health coaches can help you plan out your meals and determine which foods will benefit you and which are hurting your body. If you want to get into shape fast, it’s best not to go it alone.

6. You Tend to Forget Things

If you’re always forgetting to do things like pick up the dry cleaning or take out the trash, are you really going to trust yourself wholeheartedly with your future? Having a life coach will help you stay responsible and keep you on track with your goals and dreams.

7. You Don’t Always Follow Through

If you need someone to help keep you accountable, an online life coach is the best person to have at your side. If you tend to give up or downplay the importance of some of your obligations, you may want to have someone there to remind you to finish what you started and help you to stay motivated.

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8. You’re a Procrastinator

Being a procrastinator is never going to get you where you want to be. Reaching your goals takes discipline, action, and it calls for getting things done on time and keeping to your schedule. A life coach can help you change your patterns of behavior and break your habit of procrastinating so that you can move forward and live the life you want.

9. You Don’t Have a Lot of Time to Waste

Does anybody have time to waste these days? The fact of the matter is life can be hectic and people are busy. Wasting time going around in circles, trying to reach your goals, will only take up more of your precious time than you have to give. Working with a life coach will save you time by helping you find solutions faster and by keeping you on your path so that you can get to where you’re going as quickly as possible.

10. You Need to Make More Money

A common dilemma that people are running into is the need for more money when they are barely making enough to survive. It can be difficult to break into your dream job when you are depending on the steady income that your current job provides. A life coach, however, can help you make the money you’re looking for while you do something that you love. They can direct you to resources and provide you with the insight you need to go in a rewarding and profitable direction. It’s a win-win situation.

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11. You are Susceptible to Stress

If you’re someone who becomes easily stressed or frustrated, trying to do things on your own, without any support, will only add to your frustration. You will save yourself a lot of energy, and you will prevent stress and burning yourself out by hiring a life coach to be your support along the way to achieving your goals. Not only will a life coach shed some clarity onto your path, but they can also show you relaxation techniques and exercises to help you deal with your stress.

12. Your Self-Confidence Could Use a Boost

One of the greater benefits of working with a life coach is that a life coach can help you develop your self-confidence. Life coaches work with you on self-assertion and support you as you take risks that make your life better and help your dreams come true. They show you that you are just as worthy of success as anybody else and they stay by your side as you gather the experience you need to believe in yourself and become more self-confident.

If any of the above sounds like you, it may be time to look into hiring a life coach. Many of the most successful people on the planet have had life coaches and continue to receive support from professional consultants. You can only benefit from the services a life coach has to offer, and you will get to where you want to be more quickly when you have someone to lean on for friendship and guidance.

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10 Success Principles for Living Your Dream Life

10 Success Principles for Living Your Dream Life

Are you stressed out and overwhelmed, wishing you had more time to do the things that really matter? Are you ready to do something better, something special in your life or your career?

You were born with a gift that no one else in the world can express like you. When you dance to your own music, you naturally develop your innate abilities and excel in work and life. You are a total rock star. But when you live someone else’s idea of who you should be, it throws off your groove.

Many people—maybe you—stopped following their dreams way too early in life because their talents were ignored, minimized, or shamed. They didn’t have the chops to win an American Idol competition or nab an Olympic gold medal, so they stopped expressing their inborn gifts altogether.

You don’t need to be an award winner to rock your life. Living your dream life is about discovering your superpowers and feeling vibrant and joyful when you use them. It’s about owning what makes you unique and finding like-minded people to support you.

Here are 10 success principles to help you live a rich and rewarding life on your terms that have worked with thousands of people in my workshops and will work for you, too.

1. Get a Hobby to Move Closer to Your Dreams

If you never became a professional dancer or a world-renowned author, it does NOT mean you should stop dancing or writing! These activities make you come alive, even if you “only” do them as favorite pastimes.

Engaging in a hobby is one of the most important success principles you can follow to move closer to your dreams.

When you try something creative for the first time or in a long while, you begin to see opportunities at work and in life that you were unaware of before. You also feel happier and more energized, according to a recent study from New Zealand.[1]

Some of my most burned-out executive clients reinvigorated their careers by discovering a creative outlet that refueled them after the workday ended. Research at San Francisco State University shows that having a hobby lowers stress and helps you succeed at work.[2]

So, give yourself permission to try new things and revisit old passions you gave up long ago. Setting aside just one hour a week for personal exploration can significantly change your life.

Who knows? Your creative outlet could transform into a thriving business or lead to a new profession down the road.

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2. Focus on Your Strengths, Not Your Weaknesses

Did you know that you are more likely to succeed when you develop your natural strengths rather than work on your weaknesses? The problem is that you probably don’t know where your true talents lie.

Here are a few options to help you discover your unique strengths. You can:

  • Take the VIA Character Strengths Survey[3]
  • Try Gallup’s CliftonStrengths Assessment[4]
  • Answer a few Superpower Questions

Once you understand what makes you tick, you can use these skills at work and your personal life to get more done in less time. If you boost your unique abilities through practice and study, you can accelerate your career and become a leader in a field that matters to you. It’s worth investing in yourself this way.

3. Jumping off a Cliff is NOT Required

Here’s the deal: most people are too afraid to change. When participants first come to my workshops, they tell me they have mouths to feed, bills to pay, and fear that if they follow their dreams, someone will get hurt.

The old saying “leap and the net shall appear” does not comfort them. Because they are hesitant to plunge into the unknown, they believe their only option is to stay put where they are in life. Can you relate?

You do not have to sacrifice the life you have now to start a new one. I was a psychology professor by day and singer by night for years before I transitioned into a full-time music career.

Just take a little time out each week to do what enlivens you through a hobby, volunteer work, etc. Get a feel for it.

Is it what you really want? If so, increase the time you spend doing it and make the transition when the time feels right.

4. Give Your Inner Critic Some Love

The main culprit that keeps you from stepping outside your comfort zone and getting the life of your dreams is KCRP or K-CRAP – the radio station that plays 24/7 in your head. The moment you try to do something interesting with your life it slaps you down with such chart-topping killer hooks as “Who do you think you are?” and “You’ll never be good enough!”.

Have you ever noticed that KCRP’s mean-spirited DJ sounds like your parents, teachers, bosses, and other authority figures who shut you down creatively? These folks don’t need to stifle you any longer (although they often still do) because your inner critic does it for them. That keeps you stuck in a rut.

To break free, try thinking of this DJ as a gruff old grandfather who gives you crap to keep you safe. Remember, this grumpy grandpa is woefully out of touch with the times. So, his stern opinions don’t really matter much, do they? Give him a pat on the back for his good intentions, and put your focus back on what makes you come alive.

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This success principle will give you the courage to venture into the unknown where you can dance to the beat of your own drummer.

5. Embrace Your Inner Weirdo

Many of us don’t go after our dreams because we’re afraid folks will find out how odd or strange we are. But our little eccentricities often turn out to be our greatest strengths. Yes, it’s good to be quirky.

Odds are, you lost track of your true passions and talents before you were even old enough to know you were getting off-track. You became slowly “adulterated” by learning to:

  • Take on family roles that don’t match who you really are.
  • Spit back what teachers taught you in school rather than risk getting bad grades for being original.
  • Hide parts of yourself that don’t seem acceptable to certain social groups.

The price for fitting in is that you may wind up leading a life that doesn’t fit you all that well. Your true calling becomes clear when you embrace what makes you different from others and allow yourself to stand out from the crowd, even if it feels awkward.

Often, the very qualities you view as your flaws are your greatest gifts.

6. See the Bigger Picture to Find Your True Calling

I cannot stress the importance of this success principle enough. Your true calling is right in front of you. But you may miss it because you’re looking for it in the wrong place.

To “see” it clearly, try widening your point of view.

Case in point: Maria felt she needed to retire early from being a police detective, so she could travel abroad. I encouraged Maria to think of ways that she could continue to serve as a law enforcer (a career she loved) and travel overseas at the same time.

A few months later, Maria landed a job with the United Nations in Bosnia training the local police force to understand and embrace human rights procedures.

Like Maria, you are an everyday rock star capable of accomplishing greater things than you can imagine. Is what you’re looking for right in front of you, too? Do you have an inkling of what it may be?

Look beyond your day-to-day activities, your current job, and even the town you live in. View your life from an eagle’s perspective and be open to new possibilities.

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7. Try a Little Wish-List Magic

Pretend I’m your fairy godmother and I give you permission right now to be your most magnificent self. What kind of life would be music to your ears? It doesn’t matter whether it seems unattainable or even downright crazy. Write it down on a wish list.

Get quiet. Be honest. Think big.

What would you like your career, your relationships, your health, your finances, and your spiritual life to be like? Jot down enough details so that your wishes seem tangible to you. Then, look at this list every morning before you start your day and every night before you go to sleep.

Sounds silly? It’s not. It works! Permitting yourself to daydream about a rich and fulfilling life is the first step to manifesting it.

8. Take Breaks to Get Clues About Your Ideal Future

Did you know that working straight through to a deadline leads to diminishing returns? Research shows that taking a break for 15 minutes every 75 to 90 minutes can help you recharge, refresh your focus, and get more done in less time.[5]

Wait, it gets better! A Stanford study shows that walking increases your creative output increases by 60 percent. Doing repetitive activities such as walking, running, riding your bike, swimming, and sweeping allow solutions to problems to pop into your mind out of nowhere.[6]

What does this success principle have to do with creating your dream life?

These mini-breaks allow you to get vital clues for what to do next to attain your ideal future. Plus, you won’t waste precious time and energy getting lost in other people’s agendas.

9. Take Action on Your Inspired Ideas

Once an inspired thought pops into your mind, take action.

This is one of the most powerful success principles for turning your dreams into reality; the sooner the better. Whatever it is—from calling an old friend to taking a new route home—be sure to do it!

Pay attention to your oddball hunches. You need to go after what you want, not just dream about it. As comedian Jim Carrey warns,

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“You can’t just visualize and go eat a sandwich.”

10. Count Your Rockstar Moments

Still not sure you have what it takes to get your dream life? This final success principle is guaranteed to help.

Make a list of everything you’ve ever accomplished. As you read back through it, put a star next to each item, and let it sink in.

You’ll be pleasantly surprised by how good you’ll feel about yourself afterward. You’ll also see how effective you’ve been in the past at getting what you want. You’ve succeeded before, you can succeed again.

You already rock. You just need to own it. Trust me, you’ve got this!

Final Thoughts

Eleanor Roosevelt said,

“The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.”

Following these success principles will help you find the time and energy to do the things that really matter and live with clear intention.

By spending just one hour a week doing something you love, focusing on your strengths and achievements, embracing what makes you different, and acting on inspired ideas, you can create a life that is a perfect fit for you, step-by-step.

If you don’t have a clue about what your dream life could look like yet, don’t worry. Your heart knows. It has been “talking” to you for a long time. It’s just being muffled by KCRP, buried under a lot of “shoulds” and fear.

This article can also help you figure out the life you truly want to live: How to Get Motivated and Be Happy Every Day When You Wake Up.

Stand still, get quiet, and listen. It’s constantly telling you what you need to do to realize your own rockstar potential. It may be just a whisper now, but the more you pay attention to it, the louder it will get, and the easier it will be to follow.

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