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7 Proven Rules to Learn Any Language In Record Time

7 Proven Rules to Learn Any Language In Record Time

Learning a language is like learning any other skill.

There’s a steep learning curve in the beginning, rough moments throughout the journey, and most importantly, proven rules that you can follow.

Whether you want to learn how to code, how to speak a foreign language, or become a better public speaker, there are others who have already done it. By learning from their biggest mistakes and lessons, you can reach your end goal significantly faster than you would trying to learn everything yourself.

Today, we’ll share the 7 proven rules to learn any language in record time.

1. Start With the End Goal in Mind

If you don’t know where you want to end up, you’re not going to know where to go. Especially when things get tough.

This is why innovative entrepreneurs, inventors, and influencers require a massive vision that they can rely on during the worst times.

Make sure you have a meaningful purpose of why you want to learn a language. Is it to develop a deeper connection with your family, life partner, friends? Or maybe it’s because you want to advance your career by opening up new opportunities that would normally not be available today.

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Another important skill to learn is how to set goals that clarify your end goal. Here’s an example:

Bad goal: I want to learn a language so I can travel to Europe by next year.

Good goal: I want to learn how to speak Spanish so I can travel to Buenos Aires, Argentina by next summer.

Great goal: I will have a 15-minute conversation in Spanish with a native Argentinian person over coffee in a cafe in Buenos Aires on July 2017.

Notice how specific, visual, and deadline oriented the great goal is compared to the bad goal.

2. Pick the Right Language

In his blog post, Tim Ferriss mentioned that language learning is similar to picking up a sport. Most of us have already learned how to play a sport from our childhood days, just like how we know how to speak at least one language.

Picking the right language is not about the dream language you want to learn (although there is nothing wrong with that). In this case, we’re specifically talking about learning speed.

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Let’s say you were a professional tennis player. Chances are that learning how to play golf would be a much more transferable and easier skill to learn than learning how to play football.

The same thing applies for languages. If you already know how to speak English, learning Spanish, French, Portuguese, or any language from the latin family would be easier than trying to learn Mandarin.

By being aware of the language you already know, you can choose transferrable languages to help you accelerate your learning.

3. Follow a Proven Strategy

There’s no need to reinvent the wheel when you’re learning something new. For nearly any skill, there’s someone who has already achieved expert status.

“If you want to be successful, find someone who has achieved the results you want and copy what they do and you’ll achieve the same results.” -Tony Robbins

When it comes to languages, there is an abundance of resources you can find from the comforts of your home, including:

  • Language Blogs
  • Language Podcasts
  • Language Youtubers
  • Language Teachers

You can follow the strategies and tactics from any of these influencers who will help you shorten your learning curve.

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4. Allocate Time Everyday to Learn (15-30 minutes)

Nothing can be learned without the time commitment. Most of us have dozens of things that we are juggling throughout the day, from our work, social life, health, etc.

But all of us have 15 to 30 minutes to learn something if we make it a priority in our lives.

We’ve previously written how you can create more time to learn something new, but we’ll summarize it here for you:

  • Track your schedule: Start by tracking everything you’re doing during the day on your calendar. Even include leisure activities like hanging out with friends, eating, and watching Netflix. You’ll be surprised how much free time you have to spend on learning something new.

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    • Prioritization: Now that you have a better idea of how you’re spending the day. It’s about prioritizing what’s truly important to you. Start by ranking which of these you should be focusing on, and even start delegating/eliminating the ones you don’t need.
    • Optimization: Last is optimizing. There are three ways to optimize your schedule:
    1. Shorten your work tasks
    2. Cut out your least important free time
    3. Bundle your free times together

    5. Take Advantage of Complimentary Tools and Resources

    When it comes to language learning, there are hundreds of free to cheap tools and resources that you can use. These include:

    • Mobile apps
    • Books
    • Vocabulary tools
    • Language exchanges
    • & much more

    If you want to know all the resources available to you as a language learner, check out this complete guide to free language learning tools.

    6. Have Someone Teach You and Keep You Accountable

    If your goal is to learn faster, you’re going to need help.

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    This could be a personal friend, colleague, or a professional teacher that can keep you motivated and accountable throughout your journey.

    “If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go far, go together.”

    There are plenty of conversation exchanges you can check out to find a fellow language learning partner, or language tutoring platforms where you can connect with professional language teachers from the comforts of your home.

    While you may feel that going alone may be the best option when starting out, it’s rarely the sustainable option in the long-run. As every language learner will tell you, learning a language is a marathon, not a sprint.

    7. Just Keep Going

    Nearly every struggle or problem you have is temporary. With a little bit of sweat and persistence, you can overcome just about anything (without trying to preach the choir).

    Whenever you feel like quitting or giving up, remember that thousands of others have come before you, and have felt the exact same way. But the reason why they’ve gotten to the other side is because they overcame the pain, doubt, and fear despite what their brain was telling them. You can do the same.

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    Sean Kim

    Sean is the founder and CEO of Rype, a language learning app. He's an entrepreneur and blogger.

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    Published on May 4, 2021

    How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

    How To Spot Fake People (And Ways To Deal With Them)

    They say we are the average of the five persons we spend the most time with. For a minute, consider the people around you. Are they truly who your “tribe” should be or who you aspire to become in the future? Are they really genuine people who want to see you succeed? Or are they fake people who don’t really want to see you happy?

    In this article, I’ll review why it is important to surround yourself with genuine individuals—the ones who care, bring something to our table, and first and foremost, who leave all fakeness behind.

    How to Spot Fake People?

    When you’ve been working in the helping professions for a while, spotting fake people gets a bit easier. There are some very clear signs that the person you are looking at is hiding something, acting somehow, or simply wanting to get somewhere. Most often, there is a secondary gain—perhaps attention, sympathy, or even a promotion.

    Whatever it is, you’re better off working their true agenda and staying the hell away. Here are some things you should look out for to help spot fake people.

    1. Full of Themselves

    Fake people like to show off. They love looking at themselves in the mirror. They collect photos and videos of every single achievement they had and every part of their body and claim to be the “best at what they do.”

    Most of these people are actually not that good in real life. But they act like they are and ensure that they appear better than the next person. The issue for you is that you may find yourself always feeling “beneath” them and irritated at their constant need to be in the spotlight.

    2. Murky in Expressing Their Emotions

    Have you ever tried having a deep and meaningful conversation with a fake person? It’s almost impossible. It’s because they have limited emotional intelligence and don’t know how they truly feel deep down—and partly because they don’t want to have their true emotions exposed, no matter how normal these might be.

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    It’s much harder to say “I’m the best at what I do” while simultaneously sharing “average” emotions with “equal” people.

    3. Zero Self-Reflection

    To grow, we must accept feedback from others. We must be open to our strengths and to our weaknesses. We must accept that we all come in different shapes and can always improve.

    Self-reflection requires us to think, forgive, admit fault, and learn from our mistakes. But to do that, we have to be able to adopt a level of genuineness and depth that fake people don’t routinely have. A fake person generally never apologizes, but when they do, it is often followed with a “but” in the next breath.

    4. Unrealistic Perceptions

    Fake people most often have an unrealistic perception of the world—things that they want to portray to others (pseudo achievements, materialistic gains, or a made-up sense of happiness) or simply how they genuinely regard life outside themselves.

    A lot of fake people hide pain, shame, and other underlying reasons in their behavior. This could explain why they can’t be authentic and/or have difficulties seeing their environment for the way it objectively is (both good and bad).

    5. Love Attention

    As I mentioned earlier, the biggest sign that something isn’t quite right with someone’s behavior can be established by how much they love attention. Are you being interrupted every time you speak by someone who wants to make sure that the spotlight gets reverted back to them? Is the focus always on them, no matter the topic? If yes, you’re probably dealing with a fake person.

    6. People Pleaser

    Appreciation feels nice but having everyone like you is even better. While it is completely unrealistic for most people to please everyone all the time, fake people seem to always say yes in pursuit of constant approval.

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    Now, this is a problem for two reasons. Firstly, these people are simply saying yes to things for their own satisfaction. Secondly, they often end up changing their minds or retracting their offer for one reason or another (“I would have loved to, but my grandmother suddenly fell ill.”), leaving you in the lurch for the 100th time this year.

    7. Sarcasm and Cynicism

    Behind the chronic pasted smile, fake people are well known for brewing resentment, jealousy, or anger. This is because, behind the postcard life, they are often unhappy. Sarcasm and cynicism are well known to act as a defense mechanism, sometimes even a diversion—anything so they can remain feeling on top of the world, whether it is through boosting themselves or bringing people down.

    8. Crappy friend

    Fake people are bad friends. They don’t listen to you, your feelings, and whatever news you might have to share. In fact, you might find yourself migrating away from them when you have exciting or bad news to share, knowing that it will always end up one way—their way. In addition, you might find that they’re not available when you truly need them or worse, cancel plans at the last minute.

    It’s not unusual to hear that a fake person talks constantly behind people’s backs. Let’s be honest, if they do it to others, they’re doing it to you too. If your “friend” makes you feel bad constantly, trust me, they’re not achieving their purpose, and they’re simply not a good person to have around.

    The sooner you learn to spot these fake people, the sooner you can meet meaningful individuals again.

    How to Cope With Fake People Moving Forward?

    It is important to remind yourself that you deserve more than what you’re getting. You are worthy, valuable, precious, and just as important as the next person.

    There are many ways to manage fake people. Here are some tips on how to deal with them.

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    1. Boundaries

    Keep your boundaries very clear. As explained in the book Unlock Your Resilience, boundaries are what keep you sane when the world tries to suffocate you. When fake people become emotional vampires, make sure to keep your distances, limit contact, and simply replace them with more valuable interactions.

    2. Don’t Take Their Behavior Personally

    Sadly, they most likely have behaved this way before they knew you and will continue much longer after you have moved on. It isn’t about you. It is about their inner need to meet a void that you are not responsible for. And in all honesty, unless you are a trained professional, you are unlikely to improve it anyway.

    3. Be Upfront and Honest About How You Feel

    If your “friend” has been hurtful or engaged in behaviors you struggle with, let them know—nicely, firmly, however you want, but let them know that they are affecting you. If it works, great. If it doesn’t, you’ll feel better and when you’re ready to move on, you’ll know you tried to reach out. Your conscience is clear.

    4. Ask for Advice

    If you’re unsure about what you’re seeing or feeling, ask for advice. Perhaps a relative, a good friend, or a colleague might have some input as to whether you are overreacting or seeing some genuine concerns.

    Now, don’t confuse asking for advice with gossiping behind the fake person’s back because, in the end, you don’t want to stoop down to their level. However, a little reminder as to how to stay on your own wellness track can never hurt.

    5. Dig Deeper

    Now, this one, I offer with caution. If you are emotionally strong, up to it, guaranteed you won’t get sucked into it, and have the skills to manage, perhaps you could dig into the reasons a fake person is acting the way they do.

    Have they suffered recent trauma? Have they been rejected all their lives? Is their self-esteem so low that they must resort to making themselves feel good in any way they can? Sometimes, having an understanding of a person’s behavior can help in processing it.

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    6. Practice Self-Care!

    Clearly, putting some distance between the fake person and yourself is probably the way to go. However, sometimes, it takes time to get there. In the meantime, make sure to practice self-care, be gentle with yourself, and compensate with lots of positives!

    Self-care can be as simple as taking a hot shower after talking to them or declining an invitation when you’re not feeling up to the challenge.

    Spotting fake people isn’t too hard. They generally glow with wanna-be vibes. However, most often, there are reasons as to why they are like this. Calling their behavior might be the first step. Providing them with support might be the second. But if these don’t work, it’s time to stay away and surround yourself with the positivity that you deserve.

    Final Thoughts

    Remember that life is a rollercoaster. It has good moments, tough moments, and moments you wouldn’t change for the world. So, look around and make sure that you take the time to choose the right people to share it all with.

    We are the average of the five people we spend the most time with, so take a good look around and choose wisely!

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