Why me? We all ask ourselves this question at some point. Life is like a beautiful but blemished creature, not perfect, but still you don’t want to look away. We human kind seemingly only see the blemishes at times.
When the trying and misunderstood troubles swell like the menacing clouds of great storms we seldom recognize the life, the growth that comes after the storm subsides. Instead we shake our heads and ask ourselves why me? The questions that we ask ourselves determine how we will perform during our various tests. So the next time you wonder “why” instead wonder “why not me?”.
Overcoming selfishness has Lasting Rewards.
When we wonder why the fates, or the universe, or karma, or God or whoever else could possibly allow misfortune into our paths has chosen us, we show how crippled we are with entitlement. In America especially we as a people have glaring entitlement issues. This “why me” type of question sheds light on that truth even when we alone in ourselves know it. What makes us so much better than anyone else that we believe bad things should not happen to us?
Instead of adopting selfishness in our life’s philosophy we can change our key questions that we ask ourselves simply by asking “why not me?” My son was diagnosed with autism and when I asked myself that question “why not me?”, I began to deal with the disorder properly. I started seeing autism as a formidable foe that another family may not been able to handle. A formidable foe but not a stumbling block.
Why not me? Why can’t I conquer this challenge? Why can’t my son achieve greatness? Why can’t I learn to see autism as a blessing? Why isn’t autism a gift? Remove selfishness from every equation and suddenly our negatives become our positives.
The Question “Why Me” Makes Us Consider Our Lives In The Worst Way.
Misfortune visits everyone. Difficulties in life do not respect your person or bank account or heritage they just come to everyone. At one time or another, you will face aspects of life that you do not want to face.
The sooner we realize that we will inevitably be confronted with pain, loss, and discouraging, sometimes unbelievable circumstances of all shapes and sizes the better. The key questions we choose in our lives, will either help us to deal with that sobering idea much better or lead us into a self deprecating world view.
When we ask “Why me?” We have to answer the question. Whether consciously or true or unconsciously and false, we will start to find our own faults that we plug into our “reasons” for why generally negatively viewed occurrences have occurred in our lives.
For example, that parents whose children suffer from varying disorders often believe their child have these disorders because of their own life decisions but that is often times not the case.
We must guard ourselves from falling victim to the blame and guilt-ridden game. No one is perfect, but that doesn’t mean that those faults in turn evolve into the negatives our lives face in the future. When we ask “Why me?” the answers eventually become “…because of me.”
The Wisdom of Solomon
Let us be reminded of what wise Solomon taught. “But time and chance happeneth to them all.” Solomons lesson remains true not just with parents but with everyone else as well. Time and chance make the decisions not our superstitious doubts, or our fears, or our failures.
When we let go of our selfishness by asking ourselves key questions like “Why not me?”, we embark down the path of solutions. Once we realize that bad happens to every single person without rhyme or reason, then avoiding self-deprication and selfish question like “Why me?”, makes sense. If we reject that notion, then the path of selfishness and problems grooves deeper.