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How to raise your spiritual and emotional IQ

How to raise your spiritual and emotional IQ

spiritual and emotional IQ is the ability to see a bigger picture, to see cause and effect within your life at a level above what an average person would consider. We as human beings, tend to believe that we are destined to have life pan out a certain way. Our family and friends lives are similar to ours, so that’s our reality and we accept it. Sure there are some ‘lucky’ people out there achieving a lifestyle we could never envisage for ourselves, but you feel they’re different, special and blessed ?

But you know what? They’re not. They just have a higher spiritual and emotional intelligence that has allowed them to create their life beyond conventional limitations. I’m going to show you how you can achieve that too.

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So spiritual and emotional IQ means turning life on its head. Instead of walking around and looking at how you’re the victim of everything going on around you, take a look and ask – what if I could create anything and transform everything in my life? What if my own belief systems – my actions and decisions – are causing my life to be this way, in every capacity? What if I could gain a perspective that was high enough to change that?

The cause and effect relationship to life

Those with a spiritual IQ say there is a cause and effect relationship for everything that happens in the physical universe. When I started to increase my understanding of these concepts I could instantly see I was spending every resource I had to create what I really didn’t want in my life. Back then, I was complaining, I was angry, I was confused. If someone had come and said ‘why don’t you stop creating this life for yourself?’ I would have refused any responsibility.

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As you raise your spiritual and emotional IQ you start seeing a bigger piece of the world, which gives you a different perspective of these labels you’ve put on yourself. You can also see the cause and effect relationship that these things have in your life and to the results that you’re achieving. Often, these are not the results you want.

How you can change your life around today

This is how you can learn to see life through a different lens, and start recognizing limiting mindsets, and how to change them. The belief you can is the only prerequisite required for you to achieve it.

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  • Don’t do anything with the view you’re the victim of circumstances. Take control, take responsibility. Don’t buy into your own ‘poor me’ story.
  • Plug into some positive things that give you the perception the control is within you. Personal development books, podcasts, a community of positive people! Steer clear of those within your circle who are permanently playing the victim. They’ll only drag you down.
  • Tune into your own language. Listen to your internal dialogue, and word choices you make while conversing with others. Make sure it consists of I can, I want, I will. And not I can’t, I won’t, I want to BUT.

Anything the mind can see and believe, it can achieve

You don’t know how quickly things can change when you get on track spiritually, emotionally, and stop engaging in the drama. Make space in your mind for you to believe anything is possible then within that space; start to create exactly what you want:

Physically – in your life on a daily basis by your every day actions.

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Mentally – by what you’re putting into your mind and your internal conversations.

Visually – visualize your future and design it exactly how you want.

The possibilities are endless. Welcome to the journey towards your extraordinary life!

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The 10 Essential Habits of Positive People

The 10 Essential Habits of Positive People

Are you waiting for life events to turn out the way you want so that you can feel more positive about your life? Do you find yourself having pre-conditions to your sense of well-being, thinking that certain things must happen for you to be happier? Do you think there is no way that your life stresses can make you anything other than “stressed out” and that other people just don’t understand?  If your answer is “yes” to any of these questions, you might find yourself lingering in the land of negativity for too long!

The following are some tips to keep positive no matter what comes your way. This post will help you stop looking for what psychologists call “positivity” in all the wrong places!  Here are the ten essential habits of positive people.

1. Positive people don’t confuse quitting with letting go.

Instead of hanging on to ideas, beliefs, and even people that are no longer healthy for them, they trust their judgement to let go of negative forces in their lives.  Especially in terms of relationships, they subscribe to The Relationship Prayer which goes:

 I will grant myself the ability to trust the healthy people in my life … 

To set limits with, or let go of, the negative ones … 

And to have the wisdom to know the DIFFERENCE!

 2.  Positive people don’t just have a good day – they make a good day.

Waiting, hoping and wishing seldom have a place in the vocabulary of positive individuals. Rather, they use strong words that are pro-active and not reactive. Passivity leads to a lack of involvement, while positive people get very involved in constructing their lives. They work to make changes to feel better in tough times rather than wish their feelings away.

3. For the positive person, the past stays in the past.

Good and bad memories alike stay where they belong – in the past where they happened. They don’t spend much time pining for the good ol’ days because they are too busy making new memories now. The negative pulls from the past are used not for self-flagellation or unproductive regret, but rather productive regret where they use lessons learned as stepping stones towards a better future.

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4. Show me a positive person and I can show you a grateful person.

The most positive people are the most grateful people.  They do not focus on the potholes of their lives.  They focus on the pot of gold that awaits them every day, with new smells, sights, feelings and experiences.  They see life as a treasure chest full of wonder.

5. Rather than being stuck in their limitations, positive people are energized by their possibilities.

Optimistic people focus on what they can do, not what they can’t do.  They are not fooled to think that there is a perfect solution to every problem, and are confident that there are many solutions and possibilities.  They are not afraid to attempt new solutions to old problems, rather than spin their wheels expecting things to be different this time.  They refuse to be like Charlie Brown expecting that this time Lucy will not pull the football from him!

6. Positive people do not let their fears interfere with their lives!

Positive people have observed that those who are defined and pulled back by their fears never really truly live a full life. While proceeding with appropriate caution, they do not let fear keep them from trying new things. They realize that even failures are necessary steps for a successful life. They have confidence that they can get back up when they are knocked down by life events or their own mistakes, due to a strong belief in their personal resilience.

7. Positive people smile a lot!

When you feel positive on the inside it is like you are smiling from within, and these smiles are contagious. Furthermore, the more others are with positive people, the more they tend to smile too! They see the lightness in life, and have a sense of humor even when it is about themselves. Positive people have a high degree of self-respect, but refuse to take themselves too seriously!

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8. People who are positive are great communicators.

They realize that assertive, confident communication is the only way to connect with others in everyday life.  They avoid judgmental, angry interchanges, and do not let someone else’s blow up give them a reason to react in kind. Rather, they express themselves with tact and finesse.  They also refuse to be non-assertive and let people push them around. They refuse to own problems that belong to someone else.

9. Positive people realize that if you live long enough, there are times for great pain and sadness.

One of the most common misperceptions about positive people is that to be positive, you must always be happy. This can not be further from the truth. Anyone who has any depth at all is certainly not happy all the time.  Being sad, angry, disappointed are all essential emotions in life. How else would you ever develop empathy for others if you lived a life of denial and shallow emotions? Positive people do not run from the gamut of emotions, and accept that part of the healing process is to allow themselves to experience all types of feelings, not only the happy ones. A positive person always holds the hope that there is light at the end of the darkness.  

10. Positive person are empowered people – they refuse to blame others and are not victims in life.

Positive people seek the help and support of others who are supportive and safe.They limit interactions with those who are toxic in any manner, even if it comes to legal action and physical estrangement such as in the case of abuse. They have identified their own basic human rights, and they respect themselves too much to play the part of a victim. There is no place for holding grudges with a positive mindset. Forgiveness helps positive people become better, not bitter.

How about you?  How many habits of positive people do you personally find in yourself?  If you lack even a few of these 10 essential habits, you might find that the expected treasure at the end of the rainbow was not all that it was cracked up to be. How could it — if you keep on bringing a negative attitude around?

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I wish you well in keeping positive, because as we all know, there is certainly nothing positive about being negative!

Featured photo credit: Janaína Castelo Branco via flickr.com

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