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5 Tips To Increase Productivity At Home Without Sacrificing Quality Time With Your Kids

5 Tips To Increase Productivity At Home Without Sacrificing Quality Time With Your Kids

Putting a little bit of thought into your schedule can allow you to accomplish more at home while still spending quality time with your kids. You just have to look at things a little differently. Here are my 5 tips to do that.

1. Get up before your kids and take 5 minutes to do something for yourself.

Alone time can be precious when you’re a parent and can’t even go to the bathroom without someone interrupting you. If you want 5 minutes to yourself, try getting up before your kids and doing something just for you. Enjoy a cup of coffee with no interruptions. Read a book. Journal. Whatever you like to do, do that.

You don’t need to accomplish anything during this time to increase your overall productivity. You’ll have a better mindset going into the day and maybe even more patience with your kids. Just know that you may not always be able to get up before the kids, but when it works, it’s worth it.

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You may like it so much you decide to get up even earlier. If you want more inspiration for a morning routine, check out this article or this one.

2. Decide on a time each day to focus on your kids.

When you’re a busy working parent, you know that a lot of the time you do have with your kids, you’ve got other stuff going on too. You’re getting them ready to leave the house, making or eating dinner, working on homework, or giving baths. This isn’t usually quality time with your kids.

Take a look at your schedule and figure out when you’re with your kids and don’t have anything else you need to be doing. Make that your time for focusing on your kids.

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Do you have 30 minutes between when you get home and when you start making dinner? Is it 20 minutes after dinner? What about those 10 minutes while they’re eating breakfast? Whatever that time is for you, make a decision to use it to really focus on your kids. Don’t watch TV, check your phone, or put things away. Let all of those other tasks wait so that you can get some quality time in with your kids.

This sounds really easy, but it can actually be pretty hard.

3. If you see something that needs to get done (and you can do right away), do it.

When you’re with your kids but it’s not your “focus time,” don’t think you can’t pick up that toy and put it away because you’re watching your kids. You’ve had quality time with them and doing something else right now won’t take away from that.

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Completing tasks as soon as you notice them will keep them from piling up. This can be really helpful for increasing your productivity at home. Not only do things never even make it to your to-do list, but you don’t end up with an overwhelming mountain of tasks.

Some people have a 2-minute rule — if a task takes less than 2 minutes, do it. You don’t have to use that rule, but if that’s a good place for you to start, try it out.

4. If you see something that needs to get done and can’t do it right away, set yourself a reminder for a specific time.

There are some things you just won’t be able to do right away. That’s ok as long as you don’t just tell yourself you’ll do them “later.” That’s too vague. And for a parent, “later” never comes. You need to set a specific time and have a real plan for getting it done.

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As soon as you see or think of something, set a reminder in your phone. Make sure you put it for a time that you can realistically do that task. Then you can forget about it until the reminder goes off. You won’t have to keep thinking to yourself “I can’t forget to…” — you’ve already set yourself up to remember.

5. Evaluate whether you’re doing your household chores at the best time.

Don’t just do something on a certain day because that’s when you’ve always done it. Ask yourself if that’s really the best day/time to do it? Is there another time you could do it so you could have that time to focus on your kids?

I’ve gone to the grocery store on the weekend forever. I just realized the other day that if I don’t, we can have a leisurely weekend morning. I don’t have to leave the house at 7 am on Saturday just so I can be done grocery shopping early enough to actually have some fun before lunchtime. I can go to the store in the evening when the kids are in bed. This way I don’t have to sacrifice 2 hours of time with my kids on the weekend. It had never occurred to me before to even question whether that was the right time.

Just a few small tweaks can have a big impact on your day-to-day life. Try out these tips and let me know how they work for you!

Featured photo credit: Ed Gregory via stokpic.com

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Published on September 21, 2018

11 Smart Pieces of Advice to Help You Thrive as a Single Mother

11 Smart Pieces of Advice to Help You Thrive as a Single Mother

Becoming a mother is one of the most difficult challenges a woman can take on in her life. Whether this happens the “natural” way, with the help of science, or through adoption, being in charge of nurturing another human being is a herculean task to take on.

Typically, when we think about parenthood, we imagine two parents sharing the responsibility and having each other to lean on. However, according to the 2016 U.S. Census Bureau, 1 in 4 children under the age of 18 are being raised by a single mother.[1] This is a significant portion of the population that often gets overlooked.

If you are one of these mothers raising your children on your own, you are undoubtedly aware of the additional challenges that motherhood has placed upon you, including the constant struggle to find sufficient time, energy, money, and support.

For single mothers who find themselves bogged down by their daily responsibilities and struggle to stay afloat, don’t be fooled by the belief that you have to do all. It is possible to thrive and live as a single mother if you take advantage of all available resources and adjust your priorities based on your situation.

1. Find your community and ask for help

As the sole caretaker of your kids, going through the successes and struggles of parenthood can feel isolating and lonely. You have probably developed a strong sense of independence because you’ve had to go at it alone.

Being self-reliant is necessary in many situations that you have to face, but do not fool yourself into thinking that you don’t need support from others. If you have family nearby, strengthen your relationship with them by visiting and talking more often. Find time to catch up with old friends or co-workers, and don’t assume they don’t want to hang out if they are not parents themselves.

Would you prefer finding mom friends[2] who have more in common with you? Use resources like apps, Facebook groups, and community events to meet local moms in your area.

After you have established a support group that you can depend on, don’t be afraid to ask for help. It is NOT a sign of weakness or incompetency to admit you can’t do it all, and others are probably more willing to lend a hand than you think.

If you feel uncomfortable burdening others, suggest trading favors such as taking turns babysitting. Because after all, helping is each other is what community is all about.

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2. Make peace with the past

Before you can move forward, you must make peace with your past and not let it define you or rule your life. Whether your journey to single motherhood was through divorce, death, or never having a relationship the father, it is crucial that you leave behind the feelings of abandonment or betrayal you may be struggling with.

You cannot change the past and the hurt you had to endure, but you can use the strength that you gained from overcoming those obstacles to work towards making the best life for yourself and your child. Learn from the past but live in the present and look towards the future.

3. Make plans and set goals

The daily repetition of trying to balance work and home life can make you feel like you are on operating on autopilot. However, it is imperative to set goals for yourself and to keep working towards self-improvement.

In your personal life, you can set a fitness goal (train for a 5k), a reading goal (read 20 books in a year), or a travel goal (take a trip to Europe). At your job, you can set career goals such as gain leadership experience, get a promotion, or earn a degree or certificate.

Spend time creating a realistic plan to on how you can go about achieving these goals. Not only will working towards these goals make you a more well-rounded and successful person, they will bring more purpose and fulfillment to your life.

4. Look for role models

A great way to jump start your plans for the future is to find a role model or mentor who is further along in their life or career experience. This person can be a great resource when you need guidance on what types of goals to set for yourself and how to achieve them.

It’s also important to have people to turn to for encouragement during difficult seasons of life. Someone who has been through it before can provide the most genuine reassurance that tough times will get better and that staying positive is best approach.

5. Rethink your priorities

Single parents have twice as many responsibilities to take care of, so priorities and expectations must be adjusted accordingly.

Know that you are not superwoman and striving for a perfectly clean home, no dirty laundry, and home-cooked meals for your kids every day is not a reasonable expectation. It’s okay to take shortcuts sometimes, like serving your kids cereal for dinner or waiting until the next day to wash the dishes.

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Don’t compare yourself to anyone else and let go of the guilt that you feel for being the only parent that your kids can count on. Give yourself a break and don’t sweat the small stuff.

6. Make time for me time

Even though it can be difficult to find, making time for yourself is critical to maintaining your sanity and well-being. Without a built-in partner to take over, finding time to be away from the kids must be done intentionally and planned in advance.

If you are sharing custody, use the time away from your kids not only doing productive things but also making sure you are taking care of yourself. Sleep, exercise, and balanced diet are not things that can get pushed to the bottom of the priority list. Also make time for fun activities, such as hobbies and creative outlets.

Even though being a mother is the most important job you have, don’t let it be the only thing that defines you. Time for yourself is more difficult to find if you are the sole caretaker of your kids.

Use the resources that you have to devote time to self-care, and you and your kids will thank you for it in the long run.

7. Stay organized

With so many things to juggle, great organizational skills are an absolute must in order to keep everything moving smoothly. Use apps such as Mint for your finances, Mealime for meal planning, and Cozi as a family organizer for everything from appointments and shopping lists to after school activities.

Maintain constant contact if you are sharing custody so that it is clearly communicated who will be responsible for what when it comes to your kids. Follow consistent routines in the morning and nighttime so that your kids also know what to expect on a daily basis.

8. Be flexible (Don’t be a control freak)

Although it is important to be prepared and stay organized, things don’t always go according to plan.

When kids get sick and have to stay home or babysitters cancel at the last minute, allow for flexibility by having a contingency plan for childcare and with your employer.

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For example, make a list of people you can call when you need last minute childcare, or talk to your boss in advance about working from home when emergencies come up.

Most of all, don’t let unexpected changes stress you out and ruin your day.

9. Learn to say no (Don’t feel guilty)

Single mothers have limitations in time, energy and resources that families with two parents wouldn’t be able to understand. Because of these circumstances, it’s important you let go of feelings of guilt and stop trying to do everything and be everywhere.

You don’t have to say yes to every single birthday party your child is invited to. Your kids don’t have to be involved in sports and extracurricular activities every night of the week.

Limit the things you do to only the ones that are the most enjoyable and meaningful for you and your family. Doing more things does not make you a better mother; simply a more tired one.

10. Live within your means

When you have to raise your family on a single income, budgeting and spending within your means becomes more important than ever.

If you have outstanding debt that is accruing interest, make it a priority to pay those off as soon as possible. Outlining a budget is the best way to visualize how much money is being spent every month on various things and what is left over.

Find ways to save money on the necessities by looking for sales at the grocery store, buying some things secondhand, planning out meals.

After the necessary bills are paid, determine how much can be spent on luxury items such as eating out, vacations, and going to the movies.

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Don’t let finances be a source of anxiety for you and your family. Keep your bank account in good shape while teaching your kids how to spend money responsibly at the same time.

11. Spend quality time with your kids

The time you spend with your kids is so precious and much more limited as a single mother. Make the time that you spend with your kids count.

Rather than sitting in front of the TV, take them on fun and budget-friendly outings to the park, the playground, or a museum. Use meal times as the perfect excuse to ask them about what they are learning in school and the friends they spend time with.

When your kids ask you to play with them, look at it as a privilege and an opportunity to bond with them, rather than a distraction or waste of time. Be present when you are with them, with no work or multitasking on your mind. Your relationship with your kids will absolutely reap the benefits.

Final thoughts

Being a single mother is not an easy job. That’s why it’s important to use all the resources available to you in order to make this job a little bit easier.

Using technology, an organization system and a supportive community are just a few examples of things you should utilize to your benefit. It’s also important to shift your mindset and be more practical when it comes to things like priorities and finances.

Most of all, don’t forget about your own self care. Only when you take care of yourself can you best take care of the people you love.

Single mothers are some of the most hard-working people out there, and you deserve to have a happy and fulfilling life.

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