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Important Boundaries Empaths Should Set for Themselves in a Relationship

Important Boundaries Empaths Should Set for Themselves in a Relationship

Being an empath in a relationship can be extremely hard. Empaths have the innate ability to feel and perceive others. They’re like shock absorbers, having extremely permeable nervous systems and hyperactive reflexes.

Subconsciously, they mirror others desires, moods, and thoughts. Some people say empaths are highly sensitive, but it goes much deeper than emotions.

Set emotional boundaries.

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    Being the empath is wonderful in the beginning of a relationship. You’re able to emotionally connect with people on a level that not many can achieve. You see, empaths pick up emotions as fast as a radio picks up a station.

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    However, it becomes troublesome when the relationship goes on and you start feeling overwhelmed with your significant others emotions. While this is completely normal to go through, boundaries must be set in order to keep your relationship in good shape.

    As wonderful as it is to be connected with someone, it is also a pain. No one wants to deal with other peoples “stuff.” Everyone carries some baggage around, and as empaths, we pick up the baggage for them. You need to practice how to say “no” to those who come to you with their problems every day. Your mental health will zig zag across the room if you continue trying to fix others’ problems, and half the time, you won’t be able to fix them.

    Setting boundaries for yourself will help this. It might be hard at first, but please make sure you never take on more than you can handle. Sometimes, the best thing you can do for yourself to set boundaries is sit at home and do absolutely nothing. Clear your mind, and ignore the world for a day. Yoga and meditation is a great way for empaths to clear their head.

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    Don’t compromise yourself.

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      “You’re too emotional.” “Why do you freak out so easily?” “You need to calm down.” “I need space.” These are things that empaths hear daily, and while they might not bother you, they really hurt us. We can’t help that we’re emotional. In fact, in our minds, we’re not emotional enough. There is always going to be an abundance of emotions flowing through us, and whether you enjoy it or not, they’ll flow through you too. Chances are, the emotions we portray we pick up from you and your body language. We simply cannot help it.

      If you’re an empath and you hear these things daily, please understand that there is nothing you can do to fix this. Don’t start thinking to yourself “If I just cared less” or “If I wasn’t so emotional this wouldn’t happen.” You are unique. You are special, and it’s great that you’re so caring and empathetic.

      The partner you’re with doesn’t understand how your mind works, and that’s okay. What isn’t okay is when they say hurtful things and try to make you feel bad about yourself. Never compromise who/how you are for the sake of someone else.

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      Leave if you need to.

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        If your relationship is taking a toll and bringing you down more than it’s lifting you up, it’s time to leave. If your partner makes you feel small and insignificant, it’s time to leave. Will it be easy? Absolutely not. It’ll be one of the hardest things you’ll do.

        The amount of emotions you’ll feel when you stand up for yourself will almost be too hard to handle. However, think of how amazing you’ll feel once you let go of the one person who is making you feel awful about yourself.

        A partner is supposed to make you feel special. They’re supposed to lift your spirits when you’re down, and soar with you when you’re at your best. When they’re unsure of their emotions, it’s hard to be sure of your own.

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        If you don’t feel like you’re on top of the world with your partner, why are you with them? Remember, a relationship doesn’t have to be physical to be abusive. Mental abuse is just as bad, if not worse at times.

        If you’re unsure of whether or not you’re an empath, check out this test!

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        Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

        Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

        How often have you said something simple, only to have the person who you said this to misunderstand it or twist the meaning completely around? Nodding your head in affirmative? Then this means that you are being unclear in your communication.

        Communication should be simple, right? It’s all about two people or more talking and explaining something to the other. The problem lies in the talking itself, somehow we end up being unclear, and our words, attitude or even the way of talking becomes a barrier in communication, most of the times unknowingly. We give you six common barriers to communication, and how to get past them; for you to actually say what you mean, and or the other person to understand it as well…

        The 6 Walls You Need to Break Down to Make Communication Effective

        Think about it this way, a simple phrase like “what do you mean” can be said in many different ways and each different way would end up “communicating” something else entirely. Scream it at the other person, and the perception would be anger. Whisper this is someone’s ear and others may take it as if you were plotting something. Say it in another language, and no one gets what you mean at all, if they don’t speak it… This is what we mean when we say that talking or saying something that’s clear in your head, many not mean that you have successfully communicated it across to your intended audience – thus what you say and how, where and why you said it – at times become barriers to communication.[1]

        Perceptual Barrier

        The moment you say something in a confrontational, sarcastic, angry or emotional tone, you have set up perceptual barriers to communication. The other person or people to whom you are trying to communicate your point get the message that you are disinterested in what you are saying and sort of turn a deaf ear. In effect, you are yelling your point across to person who might as well be deaf![2]

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        The problem: When you have a tone that’s not particularly positive, a body language that denotes your own disinterest in the situation and let your own stereotypes and misgivings enter the conversation via the way you talk and gesture, the other person perceives what you saying an entirely different manner than say if you said the same while smiling and catching their gaze.

        The solution: Start the conversation on a positive note, and don’t let what you think color your tone, gestures of body language. Maintain eye contact with your audience, and smile openly and wholeheartedly…

        Attitudinal Barrier

        Some people, if you would excuse the language, are simply badass and in general are unable to form relationships or even a common point of communication with others, due to their habit of thinking to highly or too lowly of them. They basically have an attitude problem – since they hold themselves in high esteem, they are unable to form genuine lines of communication with anyone. The same is true if they think too little of themselves as well.[3]

        The problem: If anyone at work, or even in your family, tends to roam around with a superior air – anything they say is likely to be taken by you and the others with a pinch, or even a bag of salt. Simply because whenever they talk, the first thing to come out of it is their condescending attitude. And in case there’s someone with an inferiority complex, their incessant self-pity forms barriers to communication.

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        The solution: Use simple words and an encouraging smile to communicate effectively – and stick to constructive criticism, and not criticism because you are a perfectionist. If you see someone doing a good job, let them know, and disregard the thought that you could have done it better. It’s their job so measure them by industry standards and not your own.

        Language Barrier

        This is perhaps the commonest and the most inadvertent of barriers to communication. Using big words, too much of technical jargon or even using just the wrong language at the incorrect or inopportune time can lead to a loss or misinterpretation of communication. It may have sounded right in your head and to your ears as well, but if sounded gobbledygook to the others, the purpose is lost.

        The problem: Say you are trying to explain a process to the newbies and end up using every technical word and industry jargon that you knew – your communication has failed if the newbie understood zilch. You have to, without sounding patronizing, explain things to someone in the simplest language they understand instead of the most complex that you do.

        The solution: Simplify things for the other person to understand you, and understand it well. Think about it this way: if you are trying to explain something scientific to a child, you tone it down to their thinking capacity, without “dumbing” anything down in the process.[4]

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        Emotional Barrier

        Sometimes, we hesitate in opening our mouths, for fear of putting our foot in it! Other times, our emotional state is so fragile that we keep it and our lips zipped tightly together lest we explode. This is the time that our emotions become barriers to communication.[5]

        The problem: Say you had a fight at home and are on a slow boil, muttering, in your head, about the injustice of it all. At this time, you have to give someone a dressing down over their work performance. You are likely to transfer at least part of your angst to the conversation then, and talk about unfairness in general, leaving the other person stymied about what you actually meant!

        The solution: Remove your emotions and feelings to a personal space, and talk to the other person as you normally would. Treat any phobias or fears that you have and nip them in the bud so that they don’t become a problem. And remember, no one is perfect.

        Cultural Barrier

        Sometimes, being in an ever-shrinking world means that inadvertently, rules can make cultures clash and cultural clashes can turn into barriers to communication. The idea is to make your point across without hurting anyone’s cultural or religious sentiments.

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        The problem: There are so many ways culture clashes can happen during communication and with cultural clashes; it’s not always about ethnicity. A non-smoker may have problems with smokers taking breaks; an older boss may have issues with younger staff using the Internet too much.

        The solution: Communicate only what is necessary to get the point across – and eave your personal sentiments or feelings out of it. Try to be accommodative of the other’s viewpoint, and in case you still need to work it out, do it one to one, to avoid making a spectacle of the other person’s beliefs.[6]

        Gender Barrier

        Finally, it’s about Men from Mars and Women from Venus. Sometimes, men don’t understand women and women don’t get men – and this gender gap throws barriers in communication. Women tend to take conflict to their graves, literally, while men can move on instantly. Women rely on intuition, men on logic – so inherently, gender becomes a big block in successful communication.[7]

        The problem: A male boss may inadvertently rub his female subordinates the wrong way with anti-feminism innuendoes, or even have problems with women taking too many family leaves. Similarly, women sometimes let their emotions get the better of them, something a male audience can’t relate to.

        The solution: Talk to people like people – don’t think or classify them into genders and then talk accordingly. Don’t make comments or innuendos that are gender biased – you don’t have to come across as an MCP or as a bra-burning feminist either. Keep gender out of it.

        And remember, the key to successful communication is simply being open, making eye contact and smiling intermittently. The battle is usually half won when you say what you mean in simple, straightforward words and keep your emotions out of it.

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