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Important Boundaries Empaths Should Set for Themselves in a Relationship

Important Boundaries Empaths Should Set for Themselves in a Relationship

Being an empath in a relationship can be extremely hard. Empaths have the innate ability to feel and perceive others. They’re like shock absorbers, having extremely permeable nervous systems and hyperactive reflexes.

Subconsciously, they mirror others desires, moods, and thoughts. Some people say empaths are highly sensitive, but it goes much deeper than emotions.

Set emotional boundaries.

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    Being the empath is wonderful in the beginning of a relationship. You’re able to emotionally connect with people on a level that not many can achieve. You see, empaths pick up emotions as fast as a radio picks up a station.

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    However, it becomes troublesome when the relationship goes on and you start feeling overwhelmed with your significant others emotions. While this is completely normal to go through, boundaries must be set in order to keep your relationship in good shape.

    As wonderful as it is to be connected with someone, it is also a pain. No one wants to deal with other peoples “stuff.” Everyone carries some baggage around, and as empaths, we pick up the baggage for them. You need to practice how to say “no” to those who come to you with their problems every day. Your mental health will zig zag across the room if you continue trying to fix others’ problems, and half the time, you won’t be able to fix them.

    Setting boundaries for yourself will help this. It might be hard at first, but please make sure you never take on more than you can handle. Sometimes, the best thing you can do for yourself to set boundaries is sit at home and do absolutely nothing. Clear your mind, and ignore the world for a day. Yoga and meditation is a great way for empaths to clear their head.

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    Don’t compromise yourself.

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      “You’re too emotional.” “Why do you freak out so easily?” “You need to calm down.” “I need space.” These are things that empaths hear daily, and while they might not bother you, they really hurt us. We can’t help that we’re emotional. In fact, in our minds, we’re not emotional enough. There is always going to be an abundance of emotions flowing through us, and whether you enjoy it or not, they’ll flow through you too. Chances are, the emotions we portray we pick up from you and your body language. We simply cannot help it.

      If you’re an empath and you hear these things daily, please understand that there is nothing you can do to fix this. Don’t start thinking to yourself “If I just cared less” or “If I wasn’t so emotional this wouldn’t happen.” You are unique. You are special, and it’s great that you’re so caring and empathetic.

      The partner you’re with doesn’t understand how your mind works, and that’s okay. What isn’t okay is when they say hurtful things and try to make you feel bad about yourself. Never compromise who/how you are for the sake of someone else.

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      Leave if you need to.

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        If your relationship is taking a toll and bringing you down more than it’s lifting you up, it’s time to leave. If your partner makes you feel small and insignificant, it’s time to leave. Will it be easy? Absolutely not. It’ll be one of the hardest things you’ll do.

        The amount of emotions you’ll feel when you stand up for yourself will almost be too hard to handle. However, think of how amazing you’ll feel once you let go of the one person who is making you feel awful about yourself.

        A partner is supposed to make you feel special. They’re supposed to lift your spirits when you’re down, and soar with you when you’re at your best. When they’re unsure of their emotions, it’s hard to be sure of your own.

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        If you don’t feel like you’re on top of the world with your partner, why are you with them? Remember, a relationship doesn’t have to be physical to be abusive. Mental abuse is just as bad, if not worse at times.

        If you’re unsure of whether or not you’re an empath, check out this test!

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        How to Quit Your Boring Life and Start Living an Interesting One

        How to Quit Your Boring Life and Start Living an Interesting One

        Think you have a boring life?

        The definition of boring is dull or not interesting. Maybe you’ve been doing the same thing and living the same life for too long, or maybe your daily routine is limiting your growth and happiness. Whatever your reason is, the following list of 20 things can definitely make any day more interesting. Some of them are silly, while some are more meaningful, so hopefully just reading the list makes your life less boring and sparks your creativity.

        Let’s dive in the list to quit your boring life and start living an interesting (and meaning) one!

        1. Channel Your 7-Year-Old Self

        What would he or she want to do right now? Color? Paint? Run around outside? Play dress up? Eat with your hands? Play that instrument hiding in the back of your closet that you haven’t touched in years?

        Just because you’re a grown up doesn’t mean any of this stuff will be less enjoyable than you remember it. Give yourself permission to play.

        2. Go Play with Kids

        Speaking of little kids, if you have your own or access to any (in a non-creepy way, like they’re your niece or your best friend’s kid, you get the idea) go play with them!

        They didn’t create an entire show called Kids Say The Darndest Things because kids aren’t hilarious. They also keep things so simple, and we can really stand to be reminded of this and stop allowing ourselves to get bogged down in boring details.

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        3. Order a Hot Dog

        While you’re eating it, Google: “What’s in a hot dog?” You decide whether or not you want to finish it.

        4. For the Ladies: Wear Your Sexiest Lingerie Under Your Work Clothes

        Your “little secret” will leave you feeling anything but boring all day!

        5. Play Cell Phone Roulette

        You’ll need at least one buddy for this. Scroll through the contacts in your phone, stop on a random one and call the person.

        You could spark an incredible catch up session or be incredibly awkward. Neither are boring.

        6. Fill out a Pack of Thank-You Cards

        Give them to random people who probably don’t get thanked too often for doing what they do ever day.

        Ideas: police officers, librarians, servers, baristas, cab drivers, sanitation workers, teachers, people behind any check out counter, receptionists, your friends, the guy at the falafel stand, etc.

        7. Sign up for a Class in Something You’ve “Always Wanted to Do”, or Something That Makes You Really Uncomfortable

        Ideas: pole dancing, salsa lessons, improv, pottery, cooking, knitting (yup, there are classes for this, too!), karate, boxing, something techy like the workshops they run in Apple stores, get Rosetta Stone and learn that language you’ve always wanted to speak, etc.

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        What’s good about joining an interest class is that you will also meet new people!

        8. Interview Your Grandparents About Their Lives

        You can bet they’ve had some crazy experiences you probably never knew about.

        9. Get up on Stage at an Open Mic Night

        Whether you’re funny or not, get up on stage and just talk funny. And if you’re not, memorize a few of your favorite jokes and tell those!

        10. Do Something for Someone Else That You Wish Someone Would Do for You

        We all have a few ideas on this list. I promise you will feel amazing after and anything but bored.

        11. Start a DIY Project in Your Home

        It doesn’t have to be super complicated. If you need ideas, there’re plenty on Pinterest. Or you can also check out these 30 Awesome DIY Projects that You’ve Never Heard of.

        12. Plan a Weekend Trip or an All-Out Vacation

        This will give you something to look forward to.

        Even if you don’t have the time or money to go on a vacation, plan for a staycation, which is same fun and relaxing!

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        13. People Watch

        Find a bench in a crowded area (centers of transportation like airports, bus stops and train stations are great for this!) and just observe.

        People are infinitely interesting.

        14. Eat Something You’ve Never Eaten Before

        Bonus points if it’s a random fruit or veggie.

        15. Dance

        You can get your friends together for a night on the town or just pull up a video on YouTube and bust a move from your own living room.

        If you’re feeling extra brave, you can even dance in public and get other people involved.

        16. Go to YOUTUBE and Search “Funny Pets” or “Funny Babies”

        This is also a great quickie ab workout as you will be laughing hysterically.

        17. Pick up a Book and Start Reading

        Check out the NY Times Best Sellers lists and grab a new book you can get lost in.

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        18. Step Away from the Computer and Go Get Some Time with People You Care About in Real Life

        Facebook stalking doesn’t count as real social interaction. You can even share this post with your friends and vote on which one you’d like to do together!

        19. Check out a Museum You’ve Never Been to Before

        OK, depending on your interests, this one might actually be boring. If you love learning, art or different cultures though, this one is for you!

        20. Write a List of Things You Desire and Truly Want

        This is a great way to help you figure out the real reason why you’re feeling bored about your life. Maybe you haven’t really done things that you truly enjoy? Maybe what you’ve wanted to do all the time has been left behind?

        Think about the list of things you really want to do, and ask yourself why you aren’t doing these things (yet). Then start taking your first step to make what you want happen.

        Now go make your life interesting and live your dream life!

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