“Keep your feet on the ground and keep reaching for stars.”
― Casey Kasem
To be human is to dream. We all have hopes and wants for ourselves. Sometimes these dreams may be simple, and other times these dreams can be really big. Some hope for grand fortunes while others dream of a day when they no longer have a bad habit. Keep dreaming. Reach for those stars and then reach for some more.Advertising
While reaching for the stars it is important to keep reality in check. Some stars are not meant for us, and are beyond our reach. Some of those stars may need steps to get to them. If the dream is to make it rich the realistic way to approach making this dream come true is to start with a plan.
Start the plan with things that can be done right now, which means reaching for the immediate goal in the here and now. This can be accomplished by making a budget with a set amount of money to save on each payday. This may be a slow way to make it rich, but it is a much better step toward the goal than the one that was in place yesterday. Yesterday it was a dream. Today, strides are made toward making those dreams come true.Advertising
Mindfulness is simply learning to live in the moment. By living in the moment we learn to enjoy even the smallest things in life. The idea is to pay close attention to everything that is going on in the surrounding environment without interpreting it. This means that we do not allow our emotions to surface as we are observing life. At first, this is difficult as we tend to allow past events and emotions to guide our thoughts on a day to day basis, but with a bit of focus it becomes easier to leave those things in the past and live in the present.
This does not mean that when we stop allowing emotions to run us that we will become detached and cold. By living in the moment we are learning to use cognitive reappraisal, which means we are allowing our brains the chance to scope out the situation that is really happening instead of letting our memory banks decide how to feel about the situation.Advertising
By using mindfulness techniques, we are able to keep our feet grounded in reality, which will help guide us to the stars that we desire. Many people find that when they use mindfulness techniques the dreams that they once had changed, and they are able to see what it is they really do want in this life.
Dream or Not to Dream
Some people have problems taming their imagination. This type of person will often get frustrated when the big dreams they have do not seem to happen. When frustration sets in they will usually toss that dream to the side, and let their imagination conjure up another big, impossible dream. Other people have problems with allowing themselves to dream at all. It takes the middle road between the two to make real dreams come true.Advertising
Allowing ourselves to dream and to hope makes this life worth living, but be sure to keep a mindful check on how big those dreams can be. We cannot dream of becoming a giant butterfly if we were never a caterpillar. If a person does not take the steps toward a dream it will never become reality either. So have dreams, and dream big, but make sure there are steps to reach those dreams.
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Last Updated on August 16, 2018
10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks
The ability to take risks by stepping outside your comfort zone is the primary way by which we grow. But we are often afraid to take that first step.
In truth, comfort zones are not really about comfort, they are about fear. Break the chains of fear to get outside. Once you do, you will learn to enjoy the process of taking risks and growing in the process.
Here are 10 ways to help you step out of your comfort zone and get closer to success:
1. Become aware of what’s outside of your comfort zone
What are the things that you believe are worth doing but are afraid of doing yourself because of the potential for disappointment or failure?
Draw a circle and write those things down outside the circle. This process will not only allow you to clearly identify your discomforts, but your comforts. Write identified comforts inside the circle.
2. Become clear about what you are aiming to overcome
Take the list of discomforts and go deeper. Remember, the primary emotion you are trying to overcome is fear.
How does this fear apply uniquely to each situation? Be very specific.
Are you afraid of walking up to people and introducing yourself in social situations? Why? Is it because you are insecure about the sound of your voice? Are you insecure about your looks?
Or, are you afraid of being ignored?
3. Get comfortable with discomfort
One way to get outside of your comfort zone is to literally expand it. Make it a goal to avoid running away from discomfort.
Let’s stay with the theme of meeting people in social settings. If you start feeling a little panicked when talking to someone you’ve just met, try to stay with it a little longer than you normally would before retreating to comfort. If you stay long enough and practice often enough, it will start to become less uncomfortable.
4. See failure as a teacher
Many of us are so afraid of failure that we would rather do nothing than take a shot at our dreams.
Begin to treat failure as a teacher. What did you learn from the experience? How can you take that lesson to your next adventure to increase your chance of success?
Many highly successful people failed plenty of times before they succeeded. Here’re some examples:
5. Take baby steps
Don’t try to jump outside your comfort zone, you will likely become overwhelmed and jump right back in.
Take small steps toward the fear you are trying to overcome. If you want to do public speaking, start by taking every opportunity to speak to small groups of people. You can even practice with family and friends.
Take a look at this article on how you can start taking baby steps:
6. Hang out with risk takers
There is no substitute for this step. If you want to become better at something, you must start hanging out with the people who are doing what you want to do and start emulating them. (Here’re 8 Reasons Why Risk Takers Are More Likely To Be Successful).
Almost inevitably, their influence will start have an effect on your behavior.
7. Be honest with yourself when you are trying to make excuses
Don’t say “Oh, I just don’t have the time for this right now.” Instead, be honest and say “I am afraid to do this.”
Don’t make excuses, just be honest. You will be in a better place to confront what is truly bothering you and increase your chance of moving forward.
8. Identify how stepping out will benefit you
What will the ability to engage in public speaking do for your personal and professional growth? Keep these potential benefits in mind as motivations to push through fear.
9. Don’t take yourself too seriously
Learn to laugh at yourself when you make mistakes. Risk taking will inevitably involve failure and setbacks that will sometimes make you look foolish to others. Be happy to roll with the punches when others poke fun.
If you aren’t convinced yet, check out these 6 Reasons Not to Take Life So Seriously.
10. Focus on the fun
Enjoy the process of stepping outside your safe boundaries. Enjoy the fun of discovering things about yourself that you may not have been aware of previously.
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