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5 Ways to Get out of a Funk

5 Ways to Get out of a Funk

Do you have big dreams, but find yourself struggling to get out of bed some days? You might be in a funk. The thing is, acknowledging that you’re not happy is half the battle. Despite what most people think, getting stuck in a funk doesn’t have to be a bad thing. Being sad is not a sign of weakness — it’s a sign that there’s room for growth.

The next time you get stuck in a funk, don’t get mad at yourself. Embrace the truth, which is that it’s a blessing in disguise.

1. Acknowledge that it’s up to you to fix it.

When things don’t go your way, it’s easy to put the blame on other people and outside factors.

“My coworker keeps interfering.”
“I always get selected last.”
“I can never catch a break.”

Recently a good friend of mine and I were catching up over dinner. She mentioned how long she’s been struggling to get a job. Interview after interview, and still no callbacks. The reason? She speculated that it’s because she’s overqualified. We could have spent the entire dinner speculating over why. But the “why” isn’t the question we should be asking. It’s “what.” In this case, “What am I doing wrong and what can I do better at?” Only then, by acknowledging there’s room for her own improvement, can we talk about ways she may be able to do things differently.

No matter the situation, you have two choices: you can either spend your time making excuses or acknowledge responsibility and find solutions. You can’t do both.

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2. Disconnect from your norm.

Wake up. Eat. Commute. Work. Eat. Work. Commute. Eat. Sleep.

Chances are you follow an iteration of this same schedule. Oftentimes, we forget that we’re humans and not robots, designed to do one thing over and over again. If you find your days all beginning to look the same, you’re susceptible to falling into a rut.

Incorporating change in small ways can do wonders. Switch up your morning routine. Change elements of your diet. Try a new hobby. Take a different route to work. Change up your social media profile. All of these simple changes can help you get out of a funk.

“The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again, but expecting different results.”

—Albert Einstein

3. Find positive people to be around.

When you become an adult, you take on the responsibility for your own actions and choices. This includes the food you eat, and the types of people you choose to hang out with. If you eat bad food, it’ll impact your health negatively. The same goes if you hang around negative people. They will inevitably rub off on you.

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“I think it’s important to get your surroundings as well as yourself into a positive state — meaning surround yourself with positive people, not the kind who are negative and jealous of everything you do.”

—Heidi Klum

While on a visit to my mom’s, she told me a story about one of her neighbors. She mentioned that the neighbor has been really struggling lately, and has been calling and visiting more often to talk, sometimes at really late hours. I probed further, and my Mom said that she talks about her illnesses, lack of money because she can’t work and a bad relationship she’s in. However when my mom tries to offer solutions or even talk about her own life, the neighbor would get defensive and cut her off right away. The neighbor even called her rude for it.

Although my mom feels like she’s being a shoulder to cry on, this lady is a classic case of being an emotional vampire. She prays on people who are willing to listen, to fuel her own relentless need for negativity.

There are many reasons why you should avoid negative people, but most importantly, recognize that negative thinking is a chosen mindset. If you spend your time with negative people, realize that they’ve made a conscious choice to put excuses above solutions. Remember: it’s their decision not yours. You should decide who to hang out with to become the best version of yourself.

4. Stop fighting reality.

Just because something happens that we don’t like doesn’t mean it wasn’t supposed to happen or that you can’t turn the situation into a positive one. If you put yourself into a mindset that you are exactly where you need to be. Your mindset shifts from reactive to active.

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You have to make a consciousnesses decide whether you want to spend your time reveling in the past, fussing over future problems that haven’t happened yet, or enjoy the journey that is today and now.

“Sometimes when you’ve had a long series of disappointing things happen, you can get into the very bad habit of just expecting more of what you’ve already had.”

—Joyce Meyer

No matter what you decide, the world continues to spin through space at 1,040 mph and your time on the planet continues to count down. Make good use of it.

5. Map your success.

If you’ve ever been on a trip where your GPS ran out of battery or you forgot your map altogether, you know how important navigational tools are. The same goes for goals in your own life. Without a direction in mind, you’ll end up going in circles.

One of my biggest life lessons came to realization when I was deeply unhappy. I was a world traveler. I went to all the coolest parties. I had plenty of friends. But I was the furthest thing from happy. It was hard to wake up because everyday felt the same. I was literally in my biggest funk. Reality finally hit me that I tied my happiness to a world I let others control. I lived on a whim and built my life’s foundation on everyone else’s dreams.

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It took me reaching my unhappiest to recognize I was headed in the wrong direction.

Although starting from square one (rock bottom) was one of the toughest decisions I made, it gave me the opportunity to realize that I have goals and I’m capable to reaching them, including become a writer. It’s my dream to write for LifeHack.org, and here I am!

Without a map, you are simply reacting to road signs and conditions. If my own journey taught me anything, it’s that I didn’t know what my goals and dreams were until I set a course and ended up hating where I arrived. Knowing what you don’t want is as fruitful as knowing what you want. Where are you headed next to reach your goals?

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Last Updated on January 3, 2020

The 10 Essential Habits of Positive People

The 10 Essential Habits of Positive People

Are you waiting for life events to turn out the way you want so that you can feel more positive about your life? Do you find yourself having pre-conditions to your sense of well-being, thinking that certain things must happen for you to be happier? Do you think there is no way that your life stresses can make you anything other than “stressed out” and that other people just don’t understand?  If your answer is “yes” to any of these questions, you might find yourself lingering in the land of negativity for too long!

The following are some tips to keep positive no matter what comes your way. This post will help you stop looking for what psychologists call “positivity” in all the wrong places!  Here are the ten essential habits of positive people.

1. Positive people don’t confuse quitting with letting go.

Instead of hanging on to ideas, beliefs, and even people that are no longer healthy for them, they trust their judgement to let go of negative forces in their lives.  Especially in terms of relationships, they subscribe to The Relationship Prayer which goes:

 I will grant myself the ability to trust the healthy people in my life … 

To set limits with, or let go of, the negative ones … 

And to have the wisdom to know the DIFFERENCE!

 2.  Positive people don’t just have a good day – they make a good day.

Waiting, hoping and wishing seldom have a place in the vocabulary of positive individuals. Rather, they use strong words that are pro-active and not reactive. Passivity leads to a lack of involvement, while positive people get very involved in constructing their lives. They work to make changes to feel better in tough times rather than wish their feelings away.

3. For the positive person, the past stays in the past.

Good and bad memories alike stay where they belong – in the past where they happened. They don’t spend much time pining for the good ol’ days because they are too busy making new memories now. The negative pulls from the past are used not for self-flagellation or unproductive regret, but rather productive regret where they use lessons learned as stepping stones towards a better future.

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4. Show me a positive person and I can show you a grateful person.

The most positive people are the most grateful people.  They do not focus on the potholes of their lives.  They focus on the pot of gold that awaits them every day, with new smells, sights, feelings and experiences.  They see life as a treasure chest full of wonder.

5. Rather than being stuck in their limitations, positive people are energized by their possibilities.

Optimistic people focus on what they can do, not what they can’t do.  They are not fooled to think that there is a perfect solution to every problem, and are confident that there are many solutions and possibilities.  They are not afraid to attempt new solutions to old problems, rather than spin their wheels expecting things to be different this time.  They refuse to be like Charlie Brown expecting that this time Lucy will not pull the football from him!

6. Positive people do not let their fears interfere with their lives!

Positive people have observed that those who are defined and pulled back by their fears never really truly live a full life. While proceeding with appropriate caution, they do not let fear keep them from trying new things. They realize that even failures are necessary steps for a successful life. They have confidence that they can get back up when they are knocked down by life events or their own mistakes, due to a strong belief in their personal resilience.

7. Positive people smile a lot!

When you feel positive on the inside it is like you are smiling from within, and these smiles are contagious. Furthermore, the more others are with positive people, the more they tend to smile too! They see the lightness in life, and have a sense of humor even when it is about themselves. Positive people have a high degree of self-respect, but refuse to take themselves too seriously!

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8. People who are positive are great communicators.

They realize that assertive, confident communication is the only way to connect with others in everyday life.  They avoid judgmental, angry interchanges, and do not let someone else’s blow up give them a reason to react in kind. Rather, they express themselves with tact and finesse.  They also refuse to be non-assertive and let people push them around. They refuse to own problems that belong to someone else.

9. Positive people realize that if you live long enough, there are times for great pain and sadness.

One of the most common misperceptions about positive people is that to be positive, you must always be happy. This can not be further from the truth. Anyone who has any depth at all is certainly not happy all the time.  Being sad, angry, disappointed are all essential emotions in life. How else would you ever develop empathy for others if you lived a life of denial and shallow emotions? Positive people do not run from the gamut of emotions, and accept that part of the healing process is to allow themselves to experience all types of feelings, not only the happy ones. A positive person always holds the hope that there is light at the end of the darkness.  

10. Positive person are empowered people – they refuse to blame others and are not victims in life.

Positive people seek the help and support of others who are supportive and safe.They limit interactions with those who are toxic in any manner, even if it comes to legal action and physical estrangement such as in the case of abuse. They have identified their own basic human rights, and they respect themselves too much to play the part of a victim. There is no place for holding grudges with a positive mindset. Forgiveness helps positive people become better, not bitter.

How about you?  How many habits of positive people do you personally find in yourself?  If you lack even a few of these 10 essential habits, you might find that the expected treasure at the end of the rainbow was not all that it was cracked up to be. How could it — if you keep on bringing a negative attitude around?

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I wish you well in keeping positive, because as we all know, there is certainly nothing positive about being negative!

Featured photo credit: Janaína Castelo Branco via flickr.com

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