These are quick and easy to make and really pack a punch. The crisp pepper goes perfectly with any type of meat, and is sturdy enough to hold as many toppings as you’d like! Cut the pepper in half, take the seeds out, and you’re ready to make your sandwich. Check out this recipe here.
2.) Peanut Butter Chocolate Chip Rasin Sandwich
Via: honeydewyouloveme.blogspot.com
This protein packed sandwich will leave you feeling satisfied for hours. Cut and core the apple, and fill it with peanut butter. The chocolate chips and raisins are optional, but they’re a great choice! Check out this delicious recipe here.
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3.) Koya Tofu Sandwiches
Via: justbento.com
For these, you’re going to need to soak the tofu for 5-10 minutes. You then fry the tofu in a skillet, until golden brown. Choose your toppings and fill your sandwich! Get the recipe here!
4.) Butternut Flatbreads
Via: empoweredsustenance.com
These butternut flatbreads are made with a unique ingredient… Gelatin! Of course, you can skip this if you feel uneasy about putting gelatin into your bread. However, it won’t be as chewy (if that’s what you’re looking for)! You can bake them from 12 to 17 minutes, depending on how crisp you want them. Find the recipe here.
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5.) Cucumber Subs
Via: makethebestofeverything.com
This cucumber sandwich is perfect for any type of meat. You can also use chicken or tuna salad! Cut the cucumber in half, scoop out the seeds and fill it up! Find the recipe here.
6.) Italian Chickpea Sandwiches
Via: allrecipes.com
This gluten-free bread is filled with herbs and is super easy to make. It only requires 8 ingredients and cooks in just 15 minutes. I definitely recommend this recipe, you can find it here!
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7.) Italian Sub Roll-Ups
Via: health-bent.com
This paleo wrap is genius! Use the meat for a sturdier sandwich, instead of the lettuce! Lay out some meat, fill it with your favorite toppings, and wrap it up! You can find this recipe here.
8.) Tomato Burgers
Via: theironyou.com
Tomatoes are moist, juicy, gluten free, and have little to no carbs. It’s no secret why tomatoes make the perfect alternative to hamburger buns. Once you cut the tomatoes in half, scoop out the seeds, and grill them for a few minutes, you’ll be able to stuff your favorite toppings (such as cheese and lettuce) inside the holes so there’s no mess! You can find the recipe here.
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9.) Plantain Tortilla Wraps
Via: zenbellycatering.com
These wraps are amazing. Plantains are healthy, however, you don’t want to eat these raw. They have a very bitter taste, but when you cook them your taste buds will sing with joy. You’ll need a food processor in order to purée the plantains, and then you can add the rest of the ingredients. Did I mention they only take 15 minutes to bake? You can find the recipe here.
10.) Sweet Potato Buns
Via: platedwithstyle.com
These healthy buns are filled with honey, coconut milk, lemon juice, and of course sweet potatoes. They’re easy to make, and the recipe can be adjusted to fit your taste. All you have to do is cook the sweet potato in the oven until it’s soft, then purée it with the other ingredients. Give these a try- find the recipe here.
11.) Buckwheat Flatbread Sandwiches
Via: food.com
This flatbread isn’t considered paleo because it includes some grains. However, it’s packed with flavors and textures that you won’t be able to find anywhere else! It takes about two days to make, considering you have to soak the dry ingredients with water, oil, and apple cider vinegar. When the seeds rise to the top of the bowl, you’ll be ready to bake! You can find the recipe here.
We all have them—those hurtful, frustrating, offensive, manipulative people in our lives. No matter how hard we try to surround ourselves with positive and kind people, there will always be those who will disrespect, insult, berate, and misuse you if we allow them to.
We may, for a variety of reasons, not be able to avoid them, but we can determine how we interact with them and how we allow them to interact with us.
So, how to take control of your life and stop being pushed around?
Learning to set clear firm boundaries with the people in our lives at work and in our personal lives is the best way to protect ourselves from the negative effects of this kind of behavior.
—they are not threats or ultimatums. Boundaries inform or teach. They are not a form of punishment.
Boundaries are firm lines—determined by you—which cannot be crossed by those around you. They are guidelines for how you will allow others to treat you and what kind of behaviors you will expect.
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Healthy personal boundaries help protect you from physical or emotional pain. You may also need to set firm boundaries at work to ensure you and your time are not disrespected. Don’t allow others to take advantage of your kindness and generosity.
Clear boundaries communicate to others that you demand respect and consideration—that you are willing to stand up for yourself and that you will not be a doormat for anyone. They are a “no trespassing” sign that makes it very clear when a line has been crossed and that there will be consequences for doing so.
Boundaries are not set with the intention of changing other people. They may change how people interact with you, but they are more about enforcing your needs than attempting to change the general behavior and attitude of others.
How to Establish Boundaries and Take Control of Your Life
Here are some ways that you can establish boundaries and take control of your life.
You are entitled to respect. You have the right to protect yourself from inappropriate or offensive behavior. Setting boundaries is a way of honoring your needs.
To set appropriate boundaries, you need to be clear about what healthy behaviors look like—what healthy relationships look like.
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You first have to become more aware of your feelings and honest with yourself about your expectations and what you feel is appropriate behavior:
Where do you need to establish better boundaries?
When do you feel disrespected?
When do you feel violated, frustrated, or angered by the behavior of others?
In what situations do you feel you are being mistreated or taken advantage of?
When do you want to be alone?
How much space do you need?
You need to honor your own needs and boundaries before you can expect others to honor them. This allows you to take control of your life.
2. Clear Communication Is Essential
Inform others clearly and directly what your expectations are. It is essential to have clear communication if you want others to respect your boundaries. Explain in an honest and respectful tone what you find offensive or unacceptable.
Many people simply aren’t aware that they are behaving inappropriately. They may never have been taught proper manners or consideration for others.
3. Be Specific but Don’t Blame
Taking a blaming or punishing attitude automatically puts people on the defensive. People will not listen when they feel attacked. It’s part of human nature.
That said, you do not need to overexplain or defend yourself. Boundaries are not open to compromise.
Sample language:
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“You may not…yell or raise your voice to me…”
“I need…to be treated with respect…”
“It’s not okay when…you take things from my desk without asking…”
“I won’t…do your work…cover for you anymore…”
“It’s not acceptable when…you ridicule or insult me…”
“I am uncomfortable when…you use offensive language”
“I will no longer be able to…lend you money…”
Being able to communicate these without sounding accusatory is essential if you want others to respect your boundaries so you can take control of your life.
4. Consequences Are Often Necessary
Determine what the appropriate consequences will be when boundaries are crossed. If it’s appropriate, be clear about those consequences upfront when communicating those boundaries to others.
Follow through. People won’t respect your boundaries if you don’t enforce them.
Standing our ground and forcing consequences doesn’t come easily to us. We want to be nice. We want people to like us, but we shouldn’t have to trade our self-respect to gain friends or to achieve success.
We may be tempted to let minor disrespect slide to avoid conflict, but as the familiar saying goes, “if you give people an inch, they’ll take a mile.”
It’s much easier to address offensive or inappropriate behavior now than to wait until that behavior has gotten completely out of hand.
It’s also important to remember that positive reinforcement is even more powerful than negative consequences. When people do alter the way they treat you, acknowledge it. Let people know that you notice and appreciate their efforts.
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Final Thoughts
Respect is always a valid reason for setting a boundary. Don’t defend yourself or your needs. Boundaries are often necessary to protect your time, your space, and your feelings. And these are essential if you want to take control of your life.
Start with the easiest boundaries first. Setting boundaries is a skill that needs to be practiced. Enlist support from others if necessary. Inform people immediately when they have crossed the line.
Don’t wait. Communicate politely and directly. Be clear about the consequences and follow them through.
The better you become at setting your own boundaries, the better you become at recognizing and respecting the boundaries of others.
Remember that establishing boundaries is your right. You are entitled to respect. You can’t control how other people behave, but you do have control over the way you allow people to treat you.
Learning to set boundaries is not always easy, but with time, it will become more comfortable. You may eventually find that boundaries become automatic and you no longer need to consciously set them.
They will simply become a natural extension of your self-respect.
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