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Discover 3 Ways To Refresh, Relax, and Rest

Discover 3 Ways To Refresh, Relax, and Rest

You need to rest.

You need to take time to be away.

And that is perfectly OK.

We live in a continuous, no break, rapid need for information world. A fast paced, hurried world where the ‘early’ bird is often the most compensated which supports the concept of continuous work.

However, there is a danger that exists with the concept of never slowing down, resting, or relaxing to recalibrate or refresh one’s focus. In addition, the mindset that equates activities (hurried pace) with progress must be avoided at all cost. To anyone, overwhelmed by the sheer pace (madness) of deadlines and deliverables, I have good news for you.

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First, do not panic.
Second, give yourself permission.
Third, go ahead and hit the pause, rest or reset button.

If you practice those steps, you will discover very quickly that: You are your biggest challenge. The greatest obstacle is the individual with the busy schedule, to dos, responsibilities, etc.

Rest

Rest provides solitude.
It is during rest that one’s perspective is renewed.
Rest provides a habitat for the soul and mind to ponder, reflect and recalibrate.

The popular psalm 23, highlights the effect of rest and mentions the role of the good shepherd who makes the sheep lie down in green pastures, beside quiet waters where the soul is refreshed.

Rest provides an escape and this quote sufficiently captures my thought.

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“In order to have focus, we need to escape to focus.”
—  Greg McKeown

The Modem Story

Here’s a brief true story that further highlighted this lesson for me, after numerous attempts to fix my modem a few years ago, I gave in and called the technical support helpline for assistance. It was a call I dreaded because I imagined that the call would be a waste of my time.

Boy, was I so wrong!

This is a fairly simple and common problem, I recalled him stating as he instructed me to turn off the modem, disconnect from the power source, and wait for a few minutes.

That’s it? Seriously??

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Cross roads

That got me thinking… If we are being honest, we will all admit that we’ve been at some crossroads on the journey (career, business, family, etc) and the intent, objective or purpose so articulately defined and readily embraced is often a blur.

For my modem, that re-start was the main difference between success and failure (inability to function). Some of the benefits of restarting include allowing the system to catch up, clearing out hung signals, dead and stale traffic.

Do not forget that even ‘reliable’ machines have a maintenance cycle.

So today and beyond, I want to challenge anyone who is uptight, nervous, pent up, stuck, busy, hung-up, overwhelmed, and troubled to give themselves permission to re-start their system. In essence, hit the restart button and clear out the old, stale remnants of yesterday and the dead weights from the failures, delays, disappointments and missed opportunities. So here are three things to do.

FIRST, UNPLUG
This means learning to turn off devices, gadgets, and everything that easily distracts. The physical process of separating from the routine of the day and life.

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SECOND, DISCONNECT
This is a mental process that engages the mind to slowly unwind. Have a plan and approach for handling distractions such as a simple out of office message or a voice mail directing people during your absence.

THIRD, STEP AWAY
Perhaps the most difficult of the three as it involves a conscious and continuous decision to relax by doing nothing sometimes or something totally unrelated to one’s normal actions such as reading a good book.

Remember, the words of a wise King Solomon who declared the ideal type of rest as being the one that leads to life, contentment and freedom from trouble.

That’s the rest you need.

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Dr. Flo

Executive Director, Hybrid Leadership Institute

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Last Updated on January 18, 2019

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

7 Ways To Deal With Negative People

Some people will have a rain cloud hanging over them, no matter what the weather is outside. Their negative attitude is toxic to your own moods, and you probably feel like there is little you can do about it.

But that couldn’t be farther from the truth.

If you want to effectively deal with negative people and be a champion of positivity, then your best route is to take definite action through some of the steps below.

1. Limit the time you spend with them.

First, let’s get this out of the way. You can be more positive than a cartoon sponge, but even your enthusiasm has a chance of being afflicted by the constant negativity of a friend.

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In fact, negativity has been proven to damage your health physically, making you vulnerable to high levels of stress and even cardiac disease. There’s no reason to get hurt because of someone else’s bad mood.

Though this may be a little tricky depending on your situation, working to spend slightly less time around negative people will keep your own spirits from slipping as well.

2. Speak up for yourself.

Don’t just absorb the comments that you are being bombarded with, especially if they are about you. It’s wise to be quick to listen and slow to speak, but being too quiet can give the person the impression that you are accepting what’s being said.

3. Don’t pretend that their behavior is “OK.”

This is an easy trap to fall into. Point out to the person that their constant negativity isn’t a good thing. We don’t want to do this because it’s far easier to let someone sit in their woes, and we’d rather just stay out of it.

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But if you want the best for this person, avoid giving the false impression that their negativity is normal.

4. Don’t make their problems your problems.

Though I consider empathy a gift, it can be a dangerous thing. When we hear the complaints of a friend or family member, we typically start to take on their burdens with them.

This is a bad habit to get into, especially if this is a person who is almost exclusively negative. These types of people are prone to embellishing and altering a story in order to gain sympathy.

Why else would they be sharing this with you?

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5. Change the subject.

When you suspect that a conversation is starting to take a turn for the negative, be a champion of positivity by changing the subject. Of course, you have to do this without ignoring what the other person said.

Acknowledge their comment, but move the conversation forward before the euphoric pleasure gained from complaining takes hold of either of you.

6. Talk about solutions, not problems.

Sometimes, changing the subject isn’t an option if you want to deal with negative people, but that doesn’t mean you can’t still be positive.

I know that when someone begins dumping complaints on me, I have a hard time knowing exactly what to say. The key is to measure your responses as solution-based.

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You can do this by asking questions like, “Well, how could this be resolved?” or, “How do you think they feel about it?”

Use discernment to find an appropriate response that will help your friend manage their perspectives.

7. Leave them behind.

Sadly, there are times when we have to move on without these friends, especially if you have exhausted your best efforts toward building a positive relationship.

If this person is a family member, you can still have a functioning relationship with them, of course, but you may still have to limit the influence they have over your wellbeing.

That being said, what are some steps you’ve taken to deal with negative people? Let us know in the comments.

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