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Discover 3 Ways To Refresh, Relax, and Rest

Discover 3 Ways To Refresh, Relax, and Rest

You need to rest.

You need to take time to be away.

And that is perfectly OK.

We live in a continuous, no break, rapid need for information world. A fast paced, hurried world where the ‘early’ bird is often the most compensated which supports the concept of continuous work.

However, there is a danger that exists with the concept of never slowing down, resting, or relaxing to recalibrate or refresh one’s focus. In addition, the mindset that equates activities (hurried pace) with progress must be avoided at all cost. To anyone, overwhelmed by the sheer pace (madness) of deadlines and deliverables, I have good news for you.

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First, do not panic.
Second, give yourself permission.
Third, go ahead and hit the pause, rest or reset button.

If you practice those steps, you will discover very quickly that: You are your biggest challenge. The greatest obstacle is the individual with the busy schedule, to dos, responsibilities, etc.

Rest

Rest provides solitude.
It is during rest that one’s perspective is renewed.
Rest provides a habitat for the soul and mind to ponder, reflect and recalibrate.

The popular psalm 23, highlights the effect of rest and mentions the role of the good shepherd who makes the sheep lie down in green pastures, beside quiet waters where the soul is refreshed.

Rest provides an escape and this quote sufficiently captures my thought.

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“In order to have focus, we need to escape to focus.”
—  Greg McKeown

The Modem Story

Here’s a brief true story that further highlighted this lesson for me, after numerous attempts to fix my modem a few years ago, I gave in and called the technical support helpline for assistance. It was a call I dreaded because I imagined that the call would be a waste of my time.

Boy, was I so wrong!

This is a fairly simple and common problem, I recalled him stating as he instructed me to turn off the modem, disconnect from the power source, and wait for a few minutes.

That’s it? Seriously??

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Cross roads

That got me thinking… If we are being honest, we will all admit that we’ve been at some crossroads on the journey (career, business, family, etc) and the intent, objective or purpose so articulately defined and readily embraced is often a blur.

For my modem, that re-start was the main difference between success and failure (inability to function). Some of the benefits of restarting include allowing the system to catch up, clearing out hung signals, dead and stale traffic.

Do not forget that even ‘reliable’ machines have a maintenance cycle.

So today and beyond, I want to challenge anyone who is uptight, nervous, pent up, stuck, busy, hung-up, overwhelmed, and troubled to give themselves permission to re-start their system. In essence, hit the restart button and clear out the old, stale remnants of yesterday and the dead weights from the failures, delays, disappointments and missed opportunities. So here are three things to do.

FIRST, UNPLUG
This means learning to turn off devices, gadgets, and everything that easily distracts. The physical process of separating from the routine of the day and life.

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SECOND, DISCONNECT
This is a mental process that engages the mind to slowly unwind. Have a plan and approach for handling distractions such as a simple out of office message or a voice mail directing people during your absence.

THIRD, STEP AWAY
Perhaps the most difficult of the three as it involves a conscious and continuous decision to relax by doing nothing sometimes or something totally unrelated to one’s normal actions such as reading a good book.

Remember, the words of a wise King Solomon who declared the ideal type of rest as being the one that leads to life, contentment and freedom from trouble.

That’s the rest you need.

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Dr. Flo

Executive Director, Hybrid Leadership Institute

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What Makes People Happy? 20 Secrets of “Always Happy” People

What Makes People Happy? 20 Secrets of “Always Happy” People

Some people just seem to float through life with a relentless sense of happiness – through the toughest of times, they’re unfazed and aloof, stopping to smell the roses and drinking out of a glass half full.

They may not have much to be happy about, but the simplicity behind that fact itself may make them happy.

It’s all a matter of perspective, conscious effort and self-awareness. Listed below are a number of reasons why some people are always happy.

1. They Manage Their Expectations

They’re not crushed when they don’t get what they want – or misled into expecting to get the most out of every situation. They approach every situation pragmatically, hoping for the best but being prepared for the worst.

2. They Don’t Set Unrealistic Standards

Similar to the last point, they don’t live their lives in a constant pursuit towards impossible visions of perfection, only to always find themselves falling short of what they want.

3. They Don’t Take Anything for Granted

Happiness rests with feeling fulfilled – those who fail to stop and appreciate what they have every now and again will never experience true fulfillment.

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4. They’re Not Materialistic

There are arguing viewpoints on whether or not money can really buy happiness; if it can, then we know from experience that we can never be satisfied because there will always be something newer or better that we want. Who has ever had enough money?

5. They Don’t Dwell

They don’t sweat the small things or waste time worrying about things that don’t really matter at the end of the day. They don’t let negative thoughts latch onto them and drain them or distract them. Life’s too short to worry.

6. They Care About Themselves First

They’re independent, care for themselves and understand that they must put their needs first in order to accommodate the needs of others.

They indulge, aim to get what they want, make time for themselves and are extremely self-reliant.

7. They Enjoy the Little Things

They stop to smell the roses. They’re accustomed to find serenity when it’s available, to welcome entertainment or a stimulating discussion with a stranger when it crosses their path. They don’t overlook the small things in life that can be just as important.

8. They Can Adapt

They’re not afraid of change and they work to make the most out of new circumstances, good or bad. They thrive under pressure, are not overwhelmed easily and always embrace a change of pace.

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9. They Experiment

They try new things, experience new flavors and never shy away from something they have yet to experience. They never order twice from the same menu.

10. They Take Their Time

They don’t unnecessarily rush through life. They work on their own schedule to the extent that they can and maneuver through life at their own relaxing pace.

11. They Employ Different Perspectives

They’re not stuck in one perspective; a loss can result in a new opportunity, hitting rock bottom can mean that there’s no where to go but up.

12. They Seek to Learn

Their constant pursuit of knowledge keeps them inspired and interested in life. They cherish information and are on a life-long quest to learn as much as they can.

13. They Always Have a Plan

They don’t find themselves drifting without purpose. When something doesn’t go as planned, they have a plan for every letter in the alphabet to fall back on.

14. They Give Respect to Get It

They are respectful and, in turn, are seen as respectable; the respect they exude earns them the respect they deserve.

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15. They Consider Every Opportunity

They always have their eyes open for a new road, a new avenue worth exploring. They know how to recognize opportune moments and pounce on them to make the most of every situation. Success is inevitable for them.

16. They Always Seek to Improve

Perpetual self-improvement is the key towards their ongoing thirst for success. Whatever it is they do, they take pride in getting better and better, from social interactions to mundane tasks. Their pursuit at being the best eventually materializes.

17. They Don’t Take Life Too Seriously

They’re not ones to get offended easily over-analyze or complicate matters. They laugh at their own faults and misfortunes.

18. They Live in the Moment

They don’t live for tomorrow or dwell on what may have happened yesterday. Every day is a new opportunity, a new chapter. They live in the now, and in doing so, get the most out of every moment.

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19. They Say Yes

Much more often than they say no. They don’t have to be badgered to go out, don’t shy away from new opportunities or anything that may seem inconvenient.

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20. They’re Self-Aware

Most important, they’re wholly aware of themselves. They self-reflect and are conscious of their states of mind. If somethings bothering them, they fix it.

We’re all susceptible to feeling down every now and again, but we are all equipped with the necessary solutions that just have to be discovered.

Lack of confidence, inability to feel fulfilled, and susceptibility to stress are all matters that can be controlled through the way we handle our lives and perceive our circumstances.

Learn about How Self-Reflection Gives You a Happier and More Successful Life.

Final Thoughts

The main philosophy employed by the happiest includes the idea that life’s simply too short: life’s too short to let things get you down, to take things for granted, to pursue absolute and unrealistic perfection.

For some, employing these characteristics is a second nature – they do it without knowing. For others, a conscious effort must be put forth every now and again. Self-Awareness is key.

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