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How This Woman Loses More Than 100 Pounds In A Year

How This Woman Loses More Than 100 Pounds In A Year

Getting over the pain of losing someone is uneasy. Losing over 100 pounds is indeed very difficult. And when these two things are combined, it’s an extremely huge challenge.

Justine McCabe lost her husband who took his own life, then started to indulge and eat a lot more than her body needed. Very soon she gained lots of weight (22 stone in total!), much more than she expected. However, at that time health and appearance were no longer her concerns, because losing the person forever who you love the most is terrible, especially when it’s a suicide. Research has shown that such grief can be overwhelming and long-lasting. The shock, guilt and isolated feelings take a long time to be overcome.

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What’s so amazing is that this woman recovered bravely and realized that was not the way she should continue her life with. She did awesome reflection by herself and decided to make great changes.

She started to change her diet and hit the gym, with tremendous determination and endurance. After a year, she posted a time-lapse video that inspired a lot of people.

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    Things Started To Change

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      It’s A Huge Change Actually

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        Her Most Favorite Fat Picture

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          Many People Asked Her How She Could Make Such A Transformation Possible, Here’s What She Replied

          It is by far my most favorite fat picture. Here is 300+ lbs in all its glory. Everytime I look at this picture from my wedding rehearsal, I can’t help but feel a wide range of emotions. First, I laugh. It is possibly the worst picture of me ever taken. Secondly, I feel sad. It’s difficult to think of that girl as me. It’s hard to succumb to the realization that at one of the “happiest” times in my life, I was completely and utterly miserable. Someone once asked me, what were the parallels between what I went through with my late husband…and my own transformation. I was quick to answer that I wanted to build myself up. I wanted to be unbreakable. I wanted my inner strength and outer strength to be in alignment. But, as I looked through these pictures yesterday, I realized that in the far corners of my hidden emotions…a huge part of my drive to transform myself, is because I want to put as much distance as I can from that girl on the left.
          She was depressed and she was extremely unhealthy. She thrived on excuses and lived for taking care of everyone else but herself. That girl….is no longer me. My transformation isn’t always about weight loss. My mindset keeps evolving. My personal growth is ever changing.
          I snapped my after pic at the gym this morning. I was feeling pretty fly. @jonnystraws told me that…if I walked outta the gym feeling good….then I wasn’t doing my job right.
          So with that in mind…I pushed harder and longer and now can barely move my arms/shoulders as I write this. Sure, the the #motiv8 muscle and strength combo gave me some serious power, but it was my mindset and all these thoughts that pushed me harder during my workout. Adding fuel to my fire! 

          We are truly capable of more than we know!

          Featured photo credit: Justine McCabe via instagram.com

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          The Secret to Effective Conflict Resolution: The IBR Approach

          The Secret to Effective Conflict Resolution: The IBR Approach

          In business, in social relationships, in family… In whatever context conflict is always inevitable, especially when you are in the leader role. This role equals “make decisions for the best of majority” and the remaining are not amused. Conflicts arise.

          Conflicts arise when we want to push for a better quality work but some members want to take a break from work.

          Conflicts arise when we as citizens want more recreational facilities but the Government has to balance the needs to maintain tourism growth.

          Conflicts are literally everywhere.

          Avoiding Conflicts a No-No and Resolving Conflicts a Win-Win

          Avoiding conflicts seem to be a viable option for us. The cruel fact is, it isn’t. Conflicts won’t walk away by themselves. They will, instead, escalate and haunt you back even more when we finally realize that’s no way we can let it be.

          Moreover, avoiding conflicts will eventually intensify the misunderstanding among the involved parties. And the misunderstanding severely hinders open communication which later on the parties tend to keep things secret. This is obviously detrimental to teamwork.

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          Some may view conflicts as the last step before arguments. And they thus leave it aside as if they never happen. This is not true.

          Conflicts are the intersect point between different individuals with different opinions. And this does not necessarily lead to argument.

          Instead, proper handling of conflicts can actually result in a win-win situation – both parties are pleased and allies are gained. A better understanding between each other and future conflicts are less likely to happen.

          The IBR Approach to Resolve Conflicts

          Here, we introduce to you an effective approach to resolve conflicts – the Interest-Based Relational (IBR) approach. The IBR approach was developed by Roger Fisher and William Ury in their 1981 book Getting to Yes. It stresses the importance of the separation between people and their emotions from the problem. Another focus of the approach is to build mutual understanding and respect as they strengthen bonds among parties and can ultimately help resolve conflicts in a harmonious way. The approach suggests a 6-step procedure for conflict resolution:

          Step 1: Prioritize Good Relationships

          How? Before addressing the problem or even starting the discussion, make it clear the conflict can result in a mutual trouble and through subsequent respectful negotiation the conflict can be resolved peacefully. And that brings the best outcome to the whole team by working together.

          Why? It is easy to overlook own cause of the conflict and point the finger to the members with different opinions. With such a mindset, it is likely to blame rather than to listen to the others and fail to acknowledge the problem completely. Such a discussion manner will undermine the good relationships among the members and aggravate the problem.

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          Example: Before discussion, stress that the problem is never one’s complete fault. Everyone is responsible for it. Then, it is important to point out our own involvement in the problem and state clearly we are here to listen to everyone’s opinions rather than accusing others.

          Step 2: People Are NOT the Cause of Problem

          How? State clearly the problem is never one-sided. Collaborative effort is needed. More importantly, note the problem should not be taken personally. We are not making accusations on persons but addressing the problem itself.

          Why? Once things taken personally, everything will go out of control. People will become irrational and neglect others’ opinions. We are then unable to address the problem properly because we cannot grasp a fuller and clearer picture of the problem due to presumption.

          Example: In spite of the confronting opinions, we have to emphasize that the problem is not a result of the persons but probably the different perspectives to view it. So, if we try to look at the problem from the other’s perspective, we may understand why there are varied opinions.

          Step 3: Listen From ALL Stances

          How? Do NOT blame others. It is of utmost importance. Ask for everyone’s opinions. It is important to let everyone feel that they contribute to the discussion. Tell them their involvement is essential to solve the problem and their effort is very much appreciated.

          Why? None wants to be ignored. If one feels neglected, it is very likely for he/she to be aggressive. It is definitely not what we hope to see in a discussion. Acknowledging and being acknowledged are equally important. So, make sure everyone has equal opportunity to express their views. Also, realizing their opinions are not neglected, they will be more receptive to other opinions.

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          Example: A little trick can played here: Invite others to talk first. It is an easy way to let others feel involved and ,more importantly, know their voices are heard. Also, we can show that we are actively listening to them by giving direct eye-contact and nodding. One important to note is that never interrupt anyone. Always let them finish first beforeanother one begins.

          Step 4: Listen Comes First, Talk Follows

          How? Ensure everyone has listened to one another points of view. It can be done by taking turn to speak and leaving the discussion part at last. State once again the problem is nothing personal and no accusation should be made.

          Why? By turn-taking, everyone can finish talking and voices of all sides can be heard indiscriminantly. This can promote willingness to listen to opposing opinions.

          Example: We can prepare pieces of paper with different numbers written on them. Then, ask different members to pick one and talk according to the sequence of the number. After everyone’s finished, advise everyone to use “I” more than “You” in the discussion period to avoid others thinking that it is an accusation.

          Step 5: Understand the Facts, Then Address the Problem

          How? List out ALL the facts first. Ask everyone to tell what they know about the problems.

          Why? Sometimes your facts are unknown to the others while they may know something we don’t. Missing out on these facts could possibly lead to inaccurate capture of the problem. Also, different known facts can lead to different perception of the matter. It also helps everyone better understand the problem and can eventually help reach a solution.

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          Example: While everyone is expressing their own views, ask them to write down everything they know that is true to the problem. As soon as everyone has finished, all facts can be noted and everyone’s understanding of the problem is raised.

          Step 6: Solve the Problem Together

          How? Knowing what everyone’s thinking, it is now time to resolve the conflict. Up to this point, everyone should have understood the problem better. So, it is everyone’s time to suggest some solutions. It is important not to have one giving all the solutions.

          Why? Having everyone suggesting their solutions is important as they will not feel excluded and their opinions are considered. Besides, it may also generate more solutions that can better resolve the conflicts. Everyone will more likely be satisfied with the result.

          Example: After discussion, ask all members to suggest any possible solutions and stress that all solutions are welcomed. State clearly that we are looking for the best outcomes for everyone’s sake rather than battling to win over one another. Then, evaluate all the solutions and pick the one that is in favor of everyone.

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