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Can You Spot What’s Wrong With This Photo? It Carries a Message That Everyone Should Know

Can You Spot What’s Wrong With This Photo? It Carries a Message That Everyone Should Know

We all live glued to our smartphones. We do everything on these devices, from talking to friends and making plans to catching up on the news. Some of us, including myself, even use our phones as a way to keep up with work. In fact, few of us know what happiness is if it doesn’t involve our phones.

But what would be like if we didn’t have our phones? Would we be able to see how disconnected we’ve become?

Photographer Eric Pickersgill, a photographer living and working in North Carolina, endeavored to find out. His impressive project REMOVED highlights what human interaction looks like by just removing smartphones from his pictures.

The results are astonishing. The images are stark, giving us a glimpse into our reality — that we spend more time looking at a screen than each other.

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And it got me to thinking — is my phone that important to me? What could I be doing instead of looking at it? So I tried it for a few days. It was amazing.

Here’s what I learned:

We do almost all of our communication through our phones, making real-world interactions awkward.

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    We’re more interested in the instant gratification of social media than interacting with friends.

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      We’re addicted to our phones and even on special occasions we keep the devices close.

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        We’re not aware of, or present in, our surroundings, leading us to miss out on the beauty of life.

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          Our kids are learning how to avoid important issues rather than learning how to confront them.

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            We spend more time looking at our smartphones than we do looking at each other.

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              We’re teaching our kids that personal interactions aren’t necessary.

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                We’re forgetting how to be bored, and we’re passing that on to the next generation.

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                  The idea that smartphones are replacing most of our interactions and making boredom nearly extinct isn’t exactly new, but it is one we need to confront as a society. Even our kids are being affected, with outdoor play being replaced by games and texting they can do from the comfort of their smartphone. And this is an issue that isn’t going anywhere.

                  But all is not lost. More and more, people are taking a break from their phones to be present in their lives, and it’s leading them to make better choices in their lives. Everyone, from children to adults, is learning that happiness can be found right outside their door.

                  As for me, I now only check my phone a few times a day. I’ve disabled all social media on my device, and I’m surprised to find that I’m much happier this way. It’s also had an effect on my husband, who’s going through a smartphone detox right now.

                  So what about you? Do you think you could live without your phone? Is it possible to find happiness through conversations and activities in the real world? Let us know in the comments below and let’s start a conversation.

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                  To learn more about Eric Pickersgill and the impact his project has had, read this.

                  Featured photo credit: Couple in bed, Friends in Garage, Newlyweds on car, Friends sitting next to each other, Mother and daughter on couch, Couple on couch, Family in kitchen, Children on Couch via Collective Evolution and Eric Pickersgill

                  Featured photo credit: Ashley’s Neighbors by Eric Pickersgill via collective-evolution.com

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                  Last Updated on October 16, 2019

                  5 Powerful Ways for Building Fulfilling Relationships

                  5 Powerful Ways for Building Fulfilling Relationships

                  We all have relationships. We have acquaintances, relatives, colleagues, neighbors and friends. However, for a large percentage of us, many of these relationships are not fulfilling.

                  They are unfulfilling because they lack real strength; and they lack real strength because they lack real depth.

                  Unfortunately, in today’s society, we tend to have shallow, superficial relationships with others, and it’s extremely hard for this kind of relationships to provide anything more than faint satisfaction.

                  I’d like to show you, based on my experience as a communication and confidence coach, how you can add a significant amount of depth, and thus strength, to your relationships and make your social life a whole lot more meaningful.

                  Here’re 5 simple yet powerful ways for meaningful relationships building:

                  1. Meet More People

                  This is an apparent paradox, but the quality of the people you meet has considerably to do with the quantity of people you meet.

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                  If you don’t know a lot of people and you barely meet one or two new people every season of the year, considering the variety of individuals out there, you won’t meet very often people who are a good match with you in terms of personality, interests and values.

                  And since this natural match plays a huge part in building strong relationships, you’ll just as seldom have the opportunity to develop strong relationships.

                  Conversely, if you go out a lot, you meet a lot of new people and you constantly expand your social circle, you’re much more likely to meet people you match up well with, and these people have a tremendous potential to become good friends, reliable partners, etc.

                  This is why it’s important to meet more people.

                  2. Talk about the Things That Matter To You

                  A relationship becomes the strongest when two people discover they believe in the same things and have similar interests. It’s these commonalities regarding values and interests that create the strongest emotional connection.

                  I’ve noticed that many people keep conversations shallow. They talk about trivial stuff such as the weather, what’s on TV, the lives of various movie stars, but they rarely talk about what really matters to them in life. This is a mistake from my perspective, because it’s the perfect method for a relationship to not develop.

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                  Talk about the things that truly matter to you and give others a chance to know what you care about and what you believe in. If they believe in the same things and they care about the same things, they’ll eagerly let you know. Thus you’ll find meaningful common ground and you’ll feel more connected.

                  3. Express Vulnerability

                  Many people try to come off as perfect. They don’t talk about their failures, they hide their shortcomings and they never say anything that could embarrass them.

                  This is all just a facade though. You may appear perfect to some, but you know you’re not perfect and they know that too. You’re only human and humans have flaws.

                  However, by hiding your flaws, what you do succeed in is appearing cold and impersonal. You seem like a marble statue rather than a real person. And this makes it very hard for anyone to connect with you emotionally.

                  Humans connect with other humans, not with ideals. Keep this in mind and don’t be afraid to let your vulnerability and your humanity show. This is what takes a relationship to the next level.

                  Take a look at this article and find out Why Showing Vulnerability Actually Proves Your Strength.

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                  4. Have Integrity

                  Integrity, as I see it, is the alignment between your thoughts, your words and your actions. When you say what you think and you do what you said you’ll do, you have integrity.

                  This is a crucial trait because if you have integrity, people can trust you. They can trust you to give them an honest feedback, even when it’s hard to shallow, and they can trust you to keep your promises.

                  This trust is one of the central pillars of a strong relationship, both in your personal and your professional life. So, as challenging as it can be sometimes, always try to have integrity.

                  Be honest with the people around you, even when this will initially hurt them. It’s more important for them to trust you than to not feel hurt. And always do what you promised. Even better, think twice before you promise anything, and only promise what you really can and you are willing to do.

                  5. Be There for Others

                  Another central pillar of strong relationships is support. Connections between people grow sturdy if they can rely on each other for support when it’s needed, whether that support means a few kind words or several massive actions.

                  Of course, you can’t be there for everybody, all the time. Your time, energy and other resources are limited. But what you can do is identify the genuinely important people in your life and then seek to be there as much as possible, at least for them.

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                  Your support will help them practically, and it will comfort them emotionally; which makes one hell of a difference in a relationship.

                  The Bottom Line

                  With the right mindset and the right behavior, you can strengthen a wide range of relationships in your life and advance them as far as they can be advanced.

                  And with strong relationships, not only that you feel more fulfilled, but you feel more connected to the entire world. You feel that your life has real value, you have more fun and you live in the moment. An entire world of opportunities opens up in front of you.

                  Then your task is to simply walk through the open doors.

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