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5 Ways to Transform From Mediocrity to Excellence

5 Ways to Transform From Mediocrity to Excellence

A shooting star…

Who doesn’t want to be the next “thing” to hit it to the next level; whether it’s in your career, business, finally having 1k followers on Instagram or even the next step with your boo. Many of us have excelled, passed the status quotient in school, and even landed jobs in our field (nowadays that can be a task, all by itself). We always express a promise in whatever we do. Though we have the ability, we may have found that we have hit a glass ceiling; but we may also be surprised that we build it ourselves.

How can we push through our limits in order to reach the full potential that is waiting to burst out of us?

1. Own Up

Our first lesson comes from one of the most popular songs of the 2000’s; Shaggy’s “It wasn’t me.”  After being busted for cheating, Shaggy’s lady runs down a list of reasons that she KNOWS (and evident as hell…) that he is cheating on her. But in typical fashion Shaggy results to …DENY….DENY….DENY…..DENY! Literally finding himself in the girl, looking with her two eyes, and Shaggy continues with….It wasn’t me.

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    Have you ever found that a problem or issue wasn’t your fault, no matter how obvious it all was?

    Hiding (or better yet lying) from the truth in fear of damaging your “image.”

    When we own up to our faults, it then always helps us shift to discover a problem, instead of wasting time finding people to pin it on. It also shows that you are willing to take the initiative. Even though you were wrong, people will respect you more for being real and owning up to it. A weight will be lifted off your chest, as you no longer have to walk on pins and needles waiting for someone to “figure you out.”

    2. Right Time

    When someone is waiting for the “right time” it reminds me of the jumping rope. There you are, catching the rhythm of the rope, to find the perfect time to jump in. But since the variable of the turning rope is not in your hands, it is either too slow or maybe the rope is just a tad short; you wait and wait for the “right time.”  Now everybody is cursing you out because you are taking too long.

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      The fact is that it is never going to happen unless you just jump in.

      Waiting for the perfect opportunity to speak up in a meeting, tell a new project idea to your boss, or starting a new business; will never come. You will never have just the time you need, or even have the guts to say “boss man, this isn’t working.”  Just like the jump rope, you have to jump in and figure it out when you get there.

      Extraordinary only happens when you ACT, good ideas that stay in your head do you no good…

      3. It has to be Perfect

      Let me just look over this one more time. 

      Then ‘one more time’ turns into another week; another week, that you could have been preparing for the next project but you’re too busy making sure that this one is PERFECT. Perfection is just a myth that society has created in order to stall time. We place it on our resumes bragging as if it is a trophy; but in reality it shows signs of low confidence. Another way of saying that “I’m not quite yet ready to be judged by the world, let me continue to work on it.”  Instead of perfectionism, how about we strive for a trait that is obtainable. Excellence! Excellence is giving it your best.  Your superiors will be delighted that you are no longer wasting time but completing work at a higher standard.

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        4. Stand Out

        The crowd. As children, our parents taught us to be leaders and not followers; but somehow when we became adults, that message was lost in translation. What they forget to tell us is that standing out from the crowd can have its downfall. Speaking out for injustice (#BlackLivesMatter), disagreeing with what the majority say in meetings, or even trying something new; could all be ridiculed from ‘the crowd” because it is different.  This alone can cause people to keep their mouths shut and keep it moving with everyone else.

        At times, all it takes is to be different and use your voice, you never know how it may encourage others who were once frightened to follow. It also allows your organization to have those honest conversations about new policies or products they might be launching. In the long run, they will be happy that you opened your mouth.

        5. Feel like it

        There are two times in life that we often complete the task; when we just do it, and when we “feel like doing it.”

        Though we become “doers”, it becomes a habit in who we are as people. Completing tasks when you “feel” like it works, but what happens when you no longer do? It just sits there; the best recipe to become mediocre.

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          While you wait to get the feeling, the “doer” in the office has already completed it, making a name for themselves, while you continue to wait until you “feel” the urge to complete the task. Opportunities present themselves to the ones who are already prepared (they won’t have to get ready because they stay ready).

          If you find yourself hitting this glass window, take a look at these factors and get out of your own way. Uncover the potential that lies within you, and go out to claim all that is meant for your life.

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          Why Do I Have Bad Luck? 2 Simple Things to Change Your Destiny

          Why Do I Have Bad Luck? 2 Simple Things to Change Your Destiny

          Are you one of those people who are always suffering setbacks? Does little ever seem to go right for you? Do you sometimes feel that the universe is out to get you? Do you wonder:

          Why do I have bad luck? Is bad luck real?

          A couple of months ago, I met up with an old friend of mine who I hadn’t seen since last year. Over lunch, we talked about all kinds of things, including our careers, relationships and hobbies.

          My friend told me his job had become dull and uninteresting to him, and despite applying for promotion – he’d been turned down. His personal life wasn’t great either, as he told me that he’d recently separated from his long-term girlfriend.

          When I asked him why things had seemingly gone wrong at home and work, he paused for a moment, and then replied:

          “I’m having a run of bad luck.”

          I was surprised by his response as I’d never thought of him as someone who thought that luck controlled his life. He always appeared to be someone who knew what he wanted – and went after it with gusto.

          He told me he did believe in bad luck because of everything happened to me.

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          It was at this point, that I shared my opinion on luck and destiny:

          While chance events certainly occur, they are purely random in nature. In other words, good luck and bad luck don’t exist in the way that people believe. And more importantly, even if random negative events do come along, our perspective and reaction can turn them into positive things.

          Your luck is no worse—and no better—than anyone else’s. It just feels that way. Better still, there are two simple things you can do which will reverse your feelings of being unlucky and change your luck.

          1. Stop believing that what happens in life is out of your control.

          Stop believing that what happens in your life is down to the vagaries of luck, destiny, supernatural forces, malevolent other people, or anything else outside yourself.

          Psychologists call this “external locus of control.” It’s a kind of fatalism, where people believe that they can do little or nothing personally to change their lives.

          Because of this, they either merely hope for the best, focus on trying to change their luck by various kinds of superstition, or submit passively to whatever comes—while complaining that it doesn’t match their hopes.

          Most successful people take the opposite view. They have “internal locus of control.” They believe that what happens in their life is nearly all down to them; and that even when chance events occur, what is important is not the event itself, but how you respond to it.

          This makes them pro-active, engaged, ready to try new things, and keen to find the means to change whatever in their lives they don’t like.

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          They aren’t fatalistic and they don’t blame bad luck for what isn’t right in their world. They look for a way to make things better.

          Are they luckier than the others? Of course not.

          Luck is random—that’s what chance means—so they are just as likely to suffer setbacks as anyone else.

          What’s different is their response. When things go wrong, they quickly look for ways to put them right. They don’t whine, pity themselves, or complain about “bad luck.” They try to learn from what happened to avoid or correct it next time and get on with living their life as best they can. They have this Motivation Engine, which most people lack, to keep them going.

          No one is habitually luckier or unluckier than anyone else. It may seem so, over the short term (Random events often come in groups, just as random numbers often lie close together for several instances—which is why gamblers tend to see patterns where none exist).

          When you take a longer perspective, random chance is just . . . random. Yet those who feel that they are less lucky, typically pay far more attention to short-term instances of bad luck, convincing themselves of the correctness of their belief.

          Your locus of control isn’t genetic. You learned it somehow. If it isn’t working for you, change it.

          2. Remember that whatever you pay attention to grows in your mind.

          If you focus on what’s going wrong in your life—especially if you see it as “bad luck” you can do nothing about—it will seem blacker and more malevolent.

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          In a short time, you’ll become so convinced that everything is against you that you’ll notice more and more instances where this appears to be true. As a result, you will drown yourself in negative energy and almost certainly stop trying, convinced that nothing you can do will improve your prospects.

          Not long ago, a reader (I’ll call her Kelly) has shared with me about how frustrated she felt and how unlucky she was. Kelly’s an aspiring entrepreneur. She had been trying to find investors to invest in her project. It hadn’t been going well as she was always rejected by the potential investors. And at her most stressful time, her boyfriend broke up with her. And the day after her breakup, she missed an important opportunity to meet an interested investor. She was about to give up because she felt that she’d not be lucky enough to build her business successfully.

          It definitely wasn’t an easy time for her. She was stressful and tired. But it wasn’t bad luck that was playing the role.

          Fatalism feeds on itself until people become passive “victims” of life’s blows. The “losers” in life are those who are convinced they will fail before they start anything; sure that their “bad luck” will ruin any prospects of success.

          They rarely notice that the true reasons for their failure are ignorance, laziness, lack of skill, lack of forethought, or just plain foolishness—all of which they could do something to correct, if only they would stop blaming other people or “bad luck” for their personal deficiencies.

          Your attention is under your control. Send it where you want it to go. Starve the negative thoughts until they die.

          I explained to Kelly that to improve her fortune and have “good luck”, first decide that what happens is nearly always down to her; then try to focus on what works and what turns out well, not the bad stuff.

          Then Kelly tried to review her current situation objectively. She realized that she only needed a short break for herself — from work and her just broken-up relationship. She really needed some time to clear up her mind before moving on with her work and life. When she got her emotions settled down from her heartbreak, she started to work on improving her business’ selling points and looked for new investors that are more suitable.

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          A few months later, she told me that she finally found two investors who were really interested in her project and would like to work with her to grow the business. I was really glad that she could take back control of her destiny and achieved what she wanted.

          Your “fate” really does depend on the choices that you make. When random events happen, as they always will, do you choose to try to turn them to your advantage or just complain about them?

          What’s Next?

          Now that you’ve learned the 2 simple things you can do to take control of your fate and create your own luck. But this isn’t it! These simple techniques you’ve learned here are just part of the essential 7 Cornerstone Skills — a skillset that will give you the power to create permanent solutions to big problems in life — any problem in any area of your life!

          If you think you’re “suffering from bad luck”, you can really change things up and start life over with these 7 Cornerstone Skills. It may even be a lot easier than you thought:

          How to Start Over and Reboot Your Life When It Seems Too Late

          Thomas Jefferson is said to have used these words:

          “I’m a great believer in luck and I find the harder I work, the more I have of it.”

          Your luck, in the end, is pretty much what you choose it to be.

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