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Starting a Business: The “Why?” Is as Big as The “How?”

Starting a Business: The “Why?” Is as Big as The “How?”

In my day job, I coach and mentor digital entrepreneurs. These are individuals who have made the decision to start, and develop, their own businesses operating through the medium of the internet.

The types of business are many and varied. Some work online full time, some part time. But they are all regular people who have one thing in common: they all had a desire to improve their lives, and they acted to make it happen.

I can relate to that. I did the same myself. Now, I talk to a lot of people in the early stages of the process — people with a broad awareness of the possibilities offered by self-employment, who want to know more before they jump. That’s OK. It’s normal. We’re human; we’re cautious by nature, and we’re resistant to change.

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The questions they ask are generally of the “how?” variety. How do I start? How do I find customers? How do I make sales? With respect (and I understand the mindset), they’re asking me, and more importantly they’re asking themselves, the wrong questions. The first question should always be “why?” — as in “why should I be doing this?”

For me, the answer to that was surprisingly easy to find. I worked for other people, training their people in the arts of sales and negotiation. The work was steady, and it was interesting. It was rewarding, financially and emotionally. In short, I had the sort of job most people would think themselves lucky to have and be reluctant to give up. It just didn’t excite me.

Audit Your Life — The Results Won’t Surprise You

Deep down I always knew that I was living a job rather than a lifestyle. The larger part of my time on this Earth was being lived within constraints set by others — others who set both my goals and my limits and who commanded my (almost) every waking hour. I could do the job with my eyes shut but I couldn’t get a buzz and there were no new challenges. I just wasn’t fulfilled.

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So now I work to my own rules. I still work long hours, but I get to choose which hours, and my horizons are much, much broader. I’m a citizen of the world, you see.

For others, the reasons will be different. Some will want to escape a career structure weighted against them; some will see their industry in decline, or their job insecure. Some will want, simply, to earn more and some will recognize a specific opportunity that they just can’t miss. Our choices are grounded in the pursuit of happiness, but we get to define “happiness” however we like.

For those who find a satisfactory answer to the “why” question, we live in the golden age of opportunity. It’s never been easier to take control of your own future. How so? Because the new digital environment offers a universality of opportunity not previously available.

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It does so largely because of inherent flexibilities which are similarly unprecedented. It can be accessed with little or no requirement of capital. For each individual, the pace and degree of involvement is a matter of personal choice.

A digital career can be undertaken part-time, in parallel with an existing career. It can be scaled. Most importantly it offers, but does not demand, significant lifestyle change. The extent, and the effect, of that change is likewise within the control of the individual.

The “old economy” skills are entirely transferable to the new, digital economy. The digital revolution hasn’t changed the market in goods and services. Rather, it has changed the methodologies by which that market is served. And the practical efficiencies of a highly connected world don’t just turbocharge commercial opportunity, they offer enormous scope for lifestyle management. Time freedom was the single most powerful driver of my own choice.

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If You’re Asking Yourself a Question, You Owe Yourself an Answer

The course of our lives is set by the decisions we make. These generally come down to a simple question. Do it or don’t do it. Act or don’t act. If you can make those decisions from a clear understanding of why you’re making them, then the rest is easy. The “hows” can be taught, and learned. And if you decide against, you won’t spend your life regretting an opportunity lost.

It’s a simple truth that if you’re looking for something better in your life, then that of itself means there’s something missing from your life as it currently is. Recognize that, and it’s a natural progression to make the change. Natural, yes, but it doesn’t come naturally. It takes courage — we’re cautious by nature and resistant to change.

We wait for the perfect time, or we wait for a sign. Don’t. The perfect time never comes, and the sign you’re waiting for was there all the time — it’s the fact that you’re looking for something better.

No, if you understand the “why” then do it and do it now. I never met anyone who said “I wish I hadn’t changed my life for the better so soon.” It’s always “I wish I’d done it sooner.”

Featured photo credit: Charlie Marshall via flickr.com

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Last Updated on July 10, 2020

Feeling Stuck in Your Career? How to Break Free and Get Ahead

Feeling Stuck in Your Career? How to Break Free and Get Ahead

Have you ever caught yourself in a daydream where you’ve gone for that upcoming promotion, and you’re now the boss at work? Or how about the one where you’ve summoned up all your courage to quit a job where you’re feeling stuck in your career and live your dream instead? Or when you’ve changed career paths to do what really makes you happy?

Then, you snapped back to reality and realized that you’re not the boss, not living your dream, and not even happy in the career path that you’re on.

Over the years I’ve worked with hundreds of individuals who’ve told me they feel stuck in their careers, that something had to change for them to break free and be happy, but they lacked the confidence to take that step. My mission is to make sure that nobody feels stuck in their career because of a momentary lapse in bravery that’s dragged on for too long.

Read on to find out how you can stop feeling stuck in your career, break free, and get ahead at work. .

Here are my top ten tips for becoming unstuck in your career.

1. Make Time for You

If you’re feeling stuck, frustrated, or unhappy with how your career is panning out, the first step is to work out why.

Maybe you’ve arrived in your current career by accident and haven’t ever made time to deliberately think or plan what you’d love to do and how you’d get there.

Prioritizing time to think is the first step you need to take to stop feeling stuck and start getting ahead. Book some time into your day where you can have an uninterrupted meeting with yourself. This is your thinking time.

Work out what makes you happy at work, what doesn’t, and where you might want to go. Decide on the steps you want to take to progress your career in the direction that you want it to take.

For example, are there training days, evening courses, or online learning that you can do? Have you considered getting a mentor to help you get ahead?

By booking in a meeting with yourself, it signals it’s important (to you and your colleagues) and also stops others spotting a gap in your day and filling it with a meeting.

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2. Grow Your Network Before You Need It

Who you know is more important than what you know for career progression. Don’t wait until you’re feeling stuck in your career to start expanding your networks. Do it now.

Adam Grant, the author of Give and Take, says you’re 58% more likely to get a new job through your weak ties than through your strong ones. Your strong ties are those in your immediate circle whom you interact with often. Your weak ties are your friends of friends. They move in different circles to you, they know different people, make different connections, and are more likely to introduce you to new and different opportunities[1].

When I was thinking about setting up my current company, Lucidity, I turned up to every networking event. I drank a lot of coffees with a lot of different people to understand what they did, to ask for advice, to unpick what their problems were, and to look for opportunities for collaboration and connections.

It paid off because, when I launched my business, I let my network know how I could help them, and soon I had my first clients.

Pay attention to building and nurturing your networks and focus on how you can add value to other. That’s where your next career opportunity is most likely to come from.

3. Surround Yourself With People Who Inspire You

According to Tim Ferriss, “You are the average of the five people you most associate with,” and his associations with different people ebbs and flows depending on what he’s working on and trying to achieve[2].

For example, if you are trying to be fitter, it’s easier if you hang around with people who love doing exercise–they help you to up your game.

If you want that promotion, a career change, or to set up your own business, seek out people who are excelling at it already. They’ll have valuable things to teach you about breaking free and getting ahead.

4. Work on Your Personal Brand

Jeff Bezos defines a personal brand as “what people say about you when you’re not in the room.” People will talk about you when you are not in the room anyway, so you might as well be deliberate about what you’d like people to say!

Your personal brand isn’t about pretending to be something you’re not. That can actually keep you feeling stuck in your career. It’s really about being your best “real you.” It’s about owning your strengths and being purposeful about how you want to be perceived by others.

What do you want to be known for? By being more deliberate about how you want to come across and what you’re looking for in your career, you’ll increase your chance of attracting the right opportunities.

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Once you’ve given your personal brand some thought, make sure that you show up online. Is your LinkedIn profile up to date? And if you don’t have one, get one. Make sure it communicates what you want to be known for and that it’s consistent with your other social media profiles.

Try these 5 Steps to Master Networking Skills and Perfect Your Personal Branding.

5. Be Accountable

Achieve your career goals faster, and grow and learn by making yourself accountable. Tell other people your goals and a timeline. and have them to hold you accountable.

For example, you might want to get a promotion by the end of the year, have decided the sector you want to move to by the end of the month, or have got your new business idea before the next pay day. Whatever your ambitions are, you can tell a friend or a colleague, or share this with a mentor or a mastermind group.

When we tell other people our goals and intentions, they hold us accountable, and we are more likely to make progress faster.

6. Make Sure Your Values Are Aligned With Your Company’s

All the professional development, goal setting, and networks in the world won’t make you happy if you’re working for a company that ultimately has opposing values to yours.

Figure out what’s important to you in a job. For example, does your company’s product help people live a better life? Do you feel strongly about your company’s ethics and social responsibility? Does the company culture allows employees to be themselves and shine? Or maybe flexible working and more holidays for employees with families is where your heart is?

Some companies put their employees well-being at the core of their business; others put profits first. If you feel that your values don’t match the core values of your employer, it could be a reason why you’re feeling stuck in your career and unhappy.

It’s important to work through this and identify whether it’s the job that is not right for you, or if it’s a great job but the organization or sector is wrong for you.

7. Get out of Your Comfort Zone

Your comfort zone is your safe place. For any change to happen, you have to step out of your comfort zone.

It’s actually much easier not to change anything and to keep grumbling on about how you’re stuck and unhappy in your career than to step outside of your comfort zone to address the fearful unknowns associated with change. It’s part of human nature that we’d put up with the devil we know rather than risk the devil we don’t.

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This is true even if the devil we know is a boring, unfulfilling job because we’re wired to think that making a change to find a better option might actually leave us worse off.

If you feel stuck, it might be that your confidence has got the better of you.

To get ahead at work, start taking small steps outside of your comfort zone. Consider what you’re scared of that is stopping you from making a change. Then, tackle that in small steps.

For example, if you know that to move into the job you want, you’ll have to do more public speaking, but public speaking terrifies you so much it’s stopping you from going for the job, then start small to build your confidence. You can speak up more in team meetings, then slowly build from there.

You might also choose to set up or be part of a specific group. One of my clients, who found that confidence was holding her team back in achieving work goals, set up a “get out of your comfort zone club,” where they challenge and support each other to build their confidence by regularly leaving their comfort zones.

8. Learn to Embrace Failure

Failure is part of life. A New York University study found that children learning to walk averaged 2,368 steps and fell 17 times an hour[3]. Failure is simply the natural path to success.

The truth is that we don’t get everything right the first time. We fail, we learn, we pick ourselves up, and we try again.

In my experience, it’s common that whilst the theory of learning from failure is supported, the reality of being open about failures to enable personal learning is much harder to achieve.

We don’t like to admit that we’ve failed. We have a fight or flight response to failure. It’s a normal gut reaction to ask ourselves: “Will I get away with it if I don’t tell anyone?” We are fearful of criticism, of losing face in front of others, or even being fired for failure.

However, if you’re going to stop feeling stuck in your career, you must be open to learning from failure.

Reframe failure by viewing everything as an experiment because you can’t have a failed experiment—you just learn whether something works or not. Think of Edison inventing the lightbulb, when he said:

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“I’ve not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”

9. Build Your Resilience

Resilience is the ability to tackle difficulties and setbacks, to bounce back, regroup, and to keep going.

Getting unstuck in your career, taking a different path, and achieving the results you want will take resilience. Having resilience is also the capacity to choose how you respond to the unexpected things that life throws your way and adapt and thrive in times of complex change.

Given that the world we live in is in constant flux, and the only thing that is certain is uncertainty, the ability to adapt and bounce back is an important life skill, as well as a career skill.

In her book Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance, Angela Duckworth’s research shows that when measuring success, the ability to persevere beats talent every time.

Learn more about how to build resilience in this guide: What Is Resilience and How to Always Be Resilient (Step-By-Step Guide)

10. Ask for Help

It can be hard to ask for help, as it can make us feel vulnerable.

No one person can be expected to have all the answers. That’s why we need a group of people that we can go to for help, people who can pick us up when we have setbacks and also help us to celebrate success.

My advice is to be deliberate about creating your group. You can do that with a tool called a “Me Map”:

  1. Write down all the things that you might need support with, like help with career progression, interview practice, making new connections, talking through business plans, learning from failure, etc.
  2. Next to each thing, write the names of the people you go to when you need that particular thing.
  3. Make sure you get in touch and regularly connect with them.

Final Thoughts

You can stop feeling stuck in your career, break free, and get ahead at work by applying the tips in this article. Start small by incorporating three new things in your first week, and then adding more as your comfort zone and capacity expands.

Remember, no matter how stuck you feel, it’s never too late to make a change and land the career that you truly want.

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