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Psychologists Say Quick Showers Mean You’re Happy With Your Life

Psychologists Say Quick Showers Mean You’re Happy With Your Life

Feeling dirty? Whose up for a quickie?

I’m talking a shower here people. Seriously. How do you feel about taking a shower? Do you view showering as a routine part of your daily hygiene, like brushing your teeth? Are you in and out in less than 5 minutes? Is a shower simply a means to an end rather than some deeply cathartic process in which you take great pleasure and can spend countless hours doing?

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If so, you are one happy individual–literally.

Research shows that the longer and more frequently you shower, the lonelier, and less happy you probably are. Psychologist and Yale researcher, John Bargh, PhD., conducted a study of physical warmth and social connection. He concluded:

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“The lonelier a person is, the more showers and baths they take, the hotter the water, and the longer they stay under the water.”

The study found that people use the physical warmth of a shower or bath to compensate for and replace the social warmth they crave. In addition to finding emotional comfort through the physical warmth of the water, those who like to take extended showers or baths also use that time to daydream. They tend to mull over problems or just let their mind run free. However, this sort of mismatch of thought is another avenue leading to unhappiness.

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Harvard psychologists, Matthew Killingsworth and Daniel Gilbert, conducted a study to determine if mental focus affects happiness. They discovered that a large fraction of our thoughts – almost half – are not related to what we’re doing. An article published in Scientific America puts it this way:

“While you might hope all this mental wandering is taking us to happier places, the data say otherwise. Just like the wise traditions teach, we’re happiest when thought and action are aligned, even if they’re only aligned to wash dishes.”

Those who like to shower quick don’t have this problem.

If you are one of those who only likes the quickie routine, when you shower you are in the zone. Your thoughts are streamlined and focused. You are completely absorbed and engaged in the task at hand–getting clean. The tub is not a think tank for you. Emotionally, you tend to find yourself in a good space. You are most likely well-connected and socially satisfied. You generally feel loved, valued, and appreciated by your family and friends. You are also less likely to feel (or become) isolated, withdrawn, and depressed.

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Last Updated on August 16, 2018

10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

10 Ways To Step Out Of Your Comfort Zone And Enjoy Taking Risks

The ability to take risks by stepping outside your comfort zone is the primary way by which we grow. But we are often afraid to take that first step.

In truth, comfort zones are not really about comfort, they are about fear. Break the chains of fear to get outside. Once you do, you will learn to enjoy the process of taking risks and growing in the process.

Here are 10 ways to help you step out of your comfort zone and get closer to success:

1. Become aware of what’s outside of your comfort zone

What are the things that you believe are worth doing but are afraid of doing yourself because of the potential for disappointment or failure?

Draw a circle and write those things down outside the circle. This process will not only allow you to clearly identify your discomforts, but your comforts. Write identified comforts inside the circle.

2. Become clear about what you are aiming to overcome

Take the list of discomforts and go deeper. Remember, the primary emotion you are trying to overcome is fear.

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How does this fear apply uniquely to each situation? Be very specific.

Are you afraid of walking up to people and introducing yourself in social situations? Why? Is it because you are insecure about the sound of your voice? Are you insecure about your looks?

Or, are you afraid of being ignored?

3. Get comfortable with discomfort

One way to get outside of your comfort zone is to literally expand it. Make it a goal to avoid running away from discomfort.

Let’s stay with the theme of meeting people in social settings. If you start feeling a little panicked when talking to someone you’ve just met, try to stay with it a little longer than you normally would before retreating to comfort. If you stay long enough and practice often enough, it will start to become less uncomfortable.

4. See failure as a teacher

Many of us are so afraid of failure that we would rather do nothing than take a shot at our dreams.

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Begin to treat failure as a teacher. What did you learn from the experience? How can you take that lesson to your next adventure to increase your chance of success?

Many highly successful people failed plenty of times before they succeeded. Here’re some examples:

10 Famous Failures to Success Stories That Will Inspire You to Carry On

5. Take baby steps

Don’t try to jump outside your comfort zone, you will likely become overwhelmed and jump right back in.

Take small steps toward the fear you are trying to overcome. If you want to do public speaking, start by taking every opportunity to speak to small groups of people. You can even practice with family and friends.

Take a look at this article on how you can start taking baby steps:

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The Number One Secret to Life Success: Baby Steps

6. Hang out with risk takers

There is no substitute for this step. If you want to become better at something, you must start hanging out with the people who are doing what you want to do and start emulating them. (Here’re 8 Reasons Why Risk Takers Are More Likely To Be Successful).

Almost inevitably, their influence will start have an effect on your behavior.

7. Be honest with yourself when you are trying to make excuses

Don’t say “Oh, I just don’t have the time for this right now.” Instead, be honest and say “I am afraid to do this.”

Don’t make excuses, just be honest. You will be in a better place to confront what is truly bothering you and increase your chance of moving forward.

8. Identify how stepping out will benefit you

What will the ability to engage in public speaking do for your personal and professional growth? Keep these potential benefits in mind as motivations to push through fear.

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9. Don’t take yourself too seriously

Learn to laugh at yourself when you make mistakes. Risk taking will inevitably involve failure and setbacks that will sometimes make you look foolish to others. Be happy to roll with the punches when others poke fun.

If you aren’t convinced yet, check out these 6 Reasons Not to Take Life So Seriously.

10. Focus on the fun

Enjoy the process of stepping outside your safe boundaries. Enjoy the fun of discovering things about yourself that you may not have been aware of previously.

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