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Psychologists Say Quick Showers Mean You’re Happy With Your Life

Psychologists Say Quick Showers Mean You’re Happy With Your Life

Feeling dirty? Whose up for a quickie?

I’m talking a shower here people. Seriously. How do you feel about taking a shower? Do you view showering as a routine part of your daily hygiene, like brushing your teeth? Are you in and out in less than 5 minutes? Is a shower simply a means to an end rather than some deeply cathartic process in which you take great pleasure and can spend countless hours doing?

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If so, you are one happy individual–literally.

Research shows that the longer and more frequently you shower, the lonelier, and less happy you probably are. Psychologist and Yale researcher, John Bargh, PhD., conducted a study of physical warmth and social connection. He concluded:

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“The lonelier a person is, the more showers and baths they take, the hotter the water, and the longer they stay under the water.”

The study found that people use the physical warmth of a shower or bath to compensate for and replace the social warmth they crave. In addition to finding emotional comfort through the physical warmth of the water, those who like to take extended showers or baths also use that time to daydream. They tend to mull over problems or just let their mind run free. However, this sort of mismatch of thought is another avenue leading to unhappiness.

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Harvard psychologists, Matthew Killingsworth and Daniel Gilbert, conducted a study to determine if mental focus affects happiness. They discovered that a large fraction of our thoughts – almost half – are not related to what we’re doing. An article published in Scientific America puts it this way:

“While you might hope all this mental wandering is taking us to happier places, the data say otherwise. Just like the wise traditions teach, we’re happiest when thought and action are aligned, even if they’re only aligned to wash dishes.”

Those who like to shower quick don’t have this problem.

If you are one of those who only likes the quickie routine, when you shower you are in the zone. Your thoughts are streamlined and focused. You are completely absorbed and engaged in the task at hand–getting clean. The tub is not a think tank for you. Emotionally, you tend to find yourself in a good space. You are most likely well-connected and socially satisfied. You generally feel loved, valued, and appreciated by your family and friends. You are also less likely to feel (or become) isolated, withdrawn, and depressed.

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Last Updated on August 12, 2019

13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do

13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do

Mentally strong people have healthy habits. They manage their emotions, thoughts, and behaviors in ways that set them up for success in life.

Take a look at these 13 things that mentally strong people don’t do so that you too can become mentally stronger.

1. They Don’t Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves

Mentally strong people don’t sit around feeling sorry about their circumstances or how others have treated them. Instead, they take responsibility for their role in life and understand that life isn’t always easy or fair.

2. They Don’t Give Away Their Power

They don’t allow others to control them, and they don’t give someone else power over them. They don’t say things like, “My boss makes me feel bad,” because they understand that they are in control over their own emotions and they have a choice in how they respond.

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3. They Don’t Shy Away from Change

Mentally strong people don’t try to avoid change. Instead, they welcome positive change and are willing to be flexible. They understand that change is inevitable and believe in their abilities to adapt.

4. They Don’t Waste Energy on Things They Can’t Control

You won’t hear a mentally strong person complaining over lost luggage or traffic jams. Instead, they focus on what they can control in their lives. They recognize that sometimes, the only thing they can control is their attitude.

5. They Don’t Worry About Pleasing Everyone

Mentally strong people recognize that they don’t need to please everyone all the time. They’re not afraid to say no or speak up when necessary. They strive to be kind and fair, but can handle other people being upset if they didn’t make them happy.

6. They Don’t Fear Taking Calculated Risks

They don’t take reckless or foolish risks, but don’t mind taking calculated risks. Mentally strong people spend time weighing the risks and benefits before making a big decision, and they’re fully informed of the potential downsides before they take action.

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7. They Don’t Dwell on the Past

Mentally strong people don’t waste time dwelling on the past and wishing things could be different. They acknowledge their past and can say what they’ve learned from it.

However, they don’t constantly relive bad experiences or fantasize about the glory days. Instead, they live for the present and plan for the future.

8. They Don’t Make the Same Mistakes Over and Over

Mentally strong people accept responsibility for their behavior and learn from their past mistakes. As a result, they don’t keep repeating those mistakes over and over. Instead, they move on and make better decisions in the future.

9. They Don’t Resent Other People’s Success

Mentally strong people can appreciate and celebrate other people’s success in life. They don’t grow jealous or feel cheated when others surpass them. Instead, they recognize that success comes with hard work, and they are willing to work hard for their own chance at success.

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10. They Don’t Give Up After the First Failure

Mentally strong people don’t view failure as a reason to give up. Instead, they use failure as an opportunity to grow and improve. They are willing to keep trying until they get it right.

11. They Don’t Fear Alone Time

Mentally strong people can tolerate being alone and they don’t fear silence. They aren’t afraid to be alone with their thoughts and they can use downtime to be productive.

They enjoy their own company and aren’t dependent on others for companionship and entertainment all the time but instead can be happy alone.

12. They Don’t Feel the World Owes Them Anything

Mentally strong people don’t feel entitled to things in life. They weren’t born with a mentality that others would take care of them or that the world must give them something. Instead, they look for opportunities based on their own merits.

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13. They Don’t Expect Immediate Results

Whether they are working on improving their health or getting a new business off the ground, mentally strong people don’t expect immediate results. Instead, they apply their skills and time to the best of their ability and understand that real change takes time.

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