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10 Things Men Do That Women Find Unattractive

10 Things Men Do That Women Find Unattractive

What if I told you that there are a whole bunch of things that you might be doing in your day-to-day life to turn women off, without even realizing it?

Now you’re probably thinking, “Great, it’s hard enough as it is to attract quality women when I’m making an effort, and now I have to pay even more attention to this aspect of my life?” Well, unless you want to keep losing out on your chances to enjoy the company of nice women, you better listen up. Here are 10 things that you might be doing to turn women off:

Being too clingy and needy

This might sound like old advice but you’d be surprised at how many men turn from aloof and devil-may-care to ‘I need to hear from you every three hours or Imma die’ needy and clingy after just a couple of dates. Or even before asking her out. Keep yourself busy, focus on developing your passions and simple give her time to miss you. Being always available for her is a real turn off.

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Being a mummy’s boy

There’s nothing less attractive than a 30+ year old man that looks to his mum for approval on his choices in women, underwear and everything in between. Just don’t be that guy. Women don’t want to be with that guy.

Being rude to service staff

There’s a saying that the worth of a man can be judged by how he treats his inferiors, not his equals or betters. If a person is constantly rude to waiters, bellboys and other service staff it’s usually a sign of low self esteem and frustration, and women pick up on this.

Trying obvious PUA tactics

OK, to be honest a few of those PUA guys actually are onto something. I’ve read Neil Strauss’s The Game and that dude taught me some really valuable stuff. But the problem now is that the lid has been blown off the whole subculture and women are onto most of the clichéd PUA tactics like negging* and DHVing**.  And they’ll probably just roll their eyes and have a laugh about it with their friends if they hear you trying these tactics on them.

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*negging – offering a backhanded compliment designed to take a woman’s self-esteem a few notches

** DHVing – trying to slip in a cool story about you saving your cousin’s puppy into normal conversation

Cussing all the time

Don’t get me wrong, there are always occasions where a well-placed curse word will be called for, but if 60% of your vocabulary revolves around cussing and swearing, you might want to reign in your potty mouth a bit. Women are attracted to men who have a mastery over their vocabulary, and constant cussing is just an indicator of a shortcoming in this department.

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Being a fratboy drunk

Don’t get me wrong, it’s important to be able to let loose and have a great time. But there is nothing more unattractive than a man who can’t hold his liquor and turns into a 21-year-old fratboy drunk after just a few beers.

Being a pushover

Women want a man who can stand their ground, take care of themselves and their loved ones. Not men that let themselves get pushed around by others all the time.

Complaining about your ex

I don’t care if your ex was a lying, cheating, gold-digging, best-friend-banging medusa, saying negative things about her constantly is only going to make women a) think that you’re not over her, or b) worry that they’re going to end up being talked about in such a way somewhere in the future. Mentioning that you are still into your ex won’t help you either!

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Lack of foreplay in the bedroom

Here’s the thing, us men can go from 0-60 in three seconds, but a woman’s engine takes far longer to heat up. So if you don’t spend enough time with foreplay in the bedroom she’s going to end up frustrated, bored and irreversibly turned off.

Not caring about your family and friends

It doesn’t matter if you treat her like a princess if you’re a constant douche to your family members. She’s going to know that sooner or later she’s going to be treated the same way and be turned off majorly.

This is the most important point. Take care thoroughly of your relations with other people, because the connections we build may be the most valuable experiences we have in our lives.

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Last Updated on July 18, 2019

What Makes People Happy? 20 Secrets of “Always Happy” People

What Makes People Happy? 20 Secrets of “Always Happy” People

Some people just seem to float through life with a relentless sense of happiness – through the toughest of times, they’re unfazed and aloof, stopping to smell the roses and drinking out of a glass half full.

They may not have much to be happy about, but the simplicity behind that fact itself may make them happy.

It’s all a matter of perspective, conscious effort and self-awareness. Listed below are a number of reasons why some people are always happy.

1. They Manage Their Expectations

They’re not crushed when they don’t get what they want – or misled into expecting to get the most out of every situation. They approach every situation pragmatically, hoping for the best but being prepared for the worst.

2. They Don’t Set Unrealistic Standards

Similar to the last point, they don’t live their lives in a constant pursuit towards impossible visions of perfection, only to always find themselves falling short of what they want.

3. They Don’t Take Anything for Granted

Happiness rests with feeling fulfilled – those who fail to stop and appreciate what they have every now and again will never experience true fulfillment.

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4. They’re Not Materialistic

There are arguing viewpoints on whether or not money can really buy happiness; if it can, then we know from experience that we can never be satisfied because there will always be something newer or better that we want. Who has ever had enough money?

5. They Don’t Dwell

They don’t sweat the small things or waste time worrying about things that don’t really matter at the end of the day. They don’t let negative thoughts latch onto them and drain them or distract them. Life’s too short to worry.

6. They Care About Themselves First

They’re independent, care for themselves and understand that they must put their needs first in order to accommodate the needs of others.

They indulge, aim to get what they want, make time for themselves and are extremely self-reliant.

7. They Enjoy the Little Things

They stop to smell the roses. They’re accustomed to find serenity when it’s available, to welcome entertainment or a stimulating discussion with a stranger when it crosses their path. They don’t overlook the small things in life that can be just as important.

8. They Can Adapt

They’re not afraid of change and they work to make the most out of new circumstances, good or bad. They thrive under pressure, are not overwhelmed easily and always embrace a change of pace.

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9. They Experiment

They try new things, experience new flavors and never shy away from something they have yet to experience. They never order twice from the same menu.

10. They Take Their Time

They don’t unnecessarily rush through life. They work on their own schedule to the extent that they can and maneuver through life at their own relaxing pace.

11. They Employ Different Perspectives

They’re not stuck in one perspective; a loss can result in a new opportunity, hitting rock bottom can mean that there’s no where to go but up.

12. They Seek to Learn

Their constant pursuit of knowledge keeps them inspired and interested in life. They cherish information and are on a life-long quest to learn as much as they can.

13. They Always Have a Plan

They don’t find themselves drifting without purpose. When something doesn’t go as planned, they have a plan for every letter in the alphabet to fall back on.

14. They Give Respect to Get It

They are respectful and, in turn, are seen as respectable; the respect they exude earns them the respect they deserve.

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15. They Consider Every Opportunity

They always have their eyes open for a new road, a new avenue worth exploring. They know how to recognize opportune moments and pounce on them to make the most of every situation. Success is inevitable for them.

16. They Always Seek to Improve

Perpetual self-improvement is the key towards their ongoing thirst for success. Whatever it is they do, they take pride in getting better and better, from social interactions to mundane tasks. Their pursuit at being the best eventually materializes.

17. They Don’t Take Life Too Seriously

They’re not ones to get offended easily over-analyze or complicate matters. They laugh at their own faults and misfortunes.

18. They Live in the Moment

They don’t live for tomorrow or dwell on what may have happened yesterday. Every day is a new opportunity, a new chapter. They live in the now, and in doing so, get the most out of every moment.

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19. They Say Yes

Much more often than they say no. They don’t have to be badgered to go out, don’t shy away from new opportunities or anything that may seem inconvenient.

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20. They’re Self-Aware

Most important, they’re wholly aware of themselves. They self-reflect and are conscious of their states of mind. If somethings bothering them, they fix it.

We’re all susceptible to feeling down every now and again, but we are all equipped with the necessary solutions that just have to be discovered.

Lack of confidence, inability to feel fulfilled, and susceptibility to stress are all matters that can be controlled through the way we handle our lives and perceive our circumstances.

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Final Thoughts

The main philosophy employed by the happiest includes the idea that life’s simply too short: life’s too short to let things get you down, to take things for granted, to pursue absolute and unrealistic perfection.

For some, employing these characteristics is a second nature – they do it without knowing. For others, a conscious effort must be put forth every now and again. Self-Awareness is key.

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