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10 Things Men Do That Women Find Unattractive

10 Things Men Do That Women Find Unattractive

What if I told you that there are a whole bunch of things that you might be doing in your day-to-day life to turn women off, without even realizing it?

Now you’re probably thinking, “Great, it’s hard enough as it is to attract quality women when I’m making an effort, and now I have to pay even more attention to this aspect of my life?” Well, unless you want to keep losing out on your chances to enjoy the company of nice women, you better listen up. Here are 10 things that you might be doing to turn women off:

Being too clingy and needy

This might sound like old advice but you’d be surprised at how many men turn from aloof and devil-may-care to ‘I need to hear from you every three hours or Imma die’ needy and clingy after just a couple of dates. Or even before asking her out. Keep yourself busy, focus on developing your passions and simple give her time to miss you. Being always available for her is a real turn off.

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Being a mummy’s boy

There’s nothing less attractive than a 30+ year old man that looks to his mum for approval on his choices in women, underwear and everything in between. Just don’t be that guy. Women don’t want to be with that guy.

Being rude to service staff

There’s a saying that the worth of a man can be judged by how he treats his inferiors, not his equals or betters. If a person is constantly rude to waiters, bellboys and other service staff it’s usually a sign of low self esteem and frustration, and women pick up on this.

Trying obvious PUA tactics

OK, to be honest a few of those PUA guys actually are onto something. I’ve read Neil Strauss’s The Game and that dude taught me some really valuable stuff. But the problem now is that the lid has been blown off the whole subculture and women are onto most of the clichéd PUA tactics like negging* and DHVing**.  And they’ll probably just roll their eyes and have a laugh about it with their friends if they hear you trying these tactics on them.

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*negging – offering a backhanded compliment designed to take a woman’s self-esteem a few notches

** DHVing – trying to slip in a cool story about you saving your cousin’s puppy into normal conversation

Cussing all the time

Don’t get me wrong, there are always occasions where a well-placed curse word will be called for, but if 60% of your vocabulary revolves around cussing and swearing, you might want to reign in your potty mouth a bit. Women are attracted to men who have a mastery over their vocabulary, and constant cussing is just an indicator of a shortcoming in this department.

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Being a fratboy drunk

Don’t get me wrong, it’s important to be able to let loose and have a great time. But there is nothing more unattractive than a man who can’t hold his liquor and turns into a 21-year-old fratboy drunk after just a few beers.

Being a pushover

Women want a man who can stand their ground, take care of themselves and their loved ones. Not men that let themselves get pushed around by others all the time.

Complaining about your ex

I don’t care if your ex was a lying, cheating, gold-digging, best-friend-banging medusa, saying negative things about her constantly is only going to make women a) think that you’re not over her, or b) worry that they’re going to end up being talked about in such a way somewhere in the future. Mentioning that you are still into your ex won’t help you either!

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Lack of foreplay in the bedroom

Here’s the thing, us men can go from 0-60 in three seconds, but a woman’s engine takes far longer to heat up. So if you don’t spend enough time with foreplay in the bedroom she’s going to end up frustrated, bored and irreversibly turned off.

Not caring about your family and friends

It doesn’t matter if you treat her like a princess if you’re a constant douche to your family members. She’s going to know that sooner or later she’s going to be treated the same way and be turned off majorly.

This is the most important point. Take care thoroughly of your relations with other people, because the connections we build may be the most valuable experiences we have in our lives.

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Last Updated on November 15, 2018

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

Success In Reaching Goals Is Determined By Mindset

What do you think it takes to achieve your goals? Hard work? Lots of actions? While these are paramount to becoming successful in reaching our goals, neither of these are possible without a positive mindset.

As humans, we naturally tend to lean towards a negative outlook when it comes to our hopes and dreams. We are prone to believing that we have limitations either from within ourselves or from external forces keeping us from truly getting to where we want to be in life. Our tendency to think that we’ll “believe it when we see it” suggests that our mindsets are focused on our goals not really being attainable until they’ve been achieved. The problem with this is that this common mindset fuels our limiting beliefs and shows a lack of faith in ourselves.

The Success Mindset

Success in achieving our goals comes down to a ‘success mindset’. Successful mindsets are those focused on victory, based on positive mental attitudes, empowering inclinations and good habits. Acquiring a success mindset is the sure-fire way to dramatically increase your chance to achieve your goals.

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The idea that achieving our goals comes down to our habits and actions is actually a typical type of mindset that misses a crucial point; that our mindset is, in fact, the determiner of our energy and what actions we take. A negative mindset will tend to create negative actions and similarly if we have a mindset that will only set into action once we see ‘proof’ that our goals are achievable, then the road will be much longer and arduous. This is why, instead of thinking “I’ll believe it when I see it”, a success mindset will think “I’ll see it when I believe it.”

The Placebo Effect and What It Shows Us About The Power of Mindset

The placebo effect is a perfect example of how mindset really can be powerful. In scientific trials, a group of participants were told they received medication that will heal an ailment but were actually given a sugar pill that does nothing (the placebo). Yet after the trial the participants believed it’s had a positive effect – sometimes even cured their ailment even though nothing has changed. This is the power of mindset.

How do we apply this to our goals? Well, when we set goals and dreams how often do we really believe they’ll come to fruition? Have absolute faith that they can be achieved? Have a complete unwavering expectation? Most of us don’t because we hold on to negative mindsets and limiting beliefs about ourselves that stop us from fully believing we are capable or that it’s at all possible. We tend to listen to the opinions of others despite them misaligning with our own or bow to societal pressures that make us believe we should think and act a certain way. There are many reasons why we possess these types of mindsets but a success mindset can be achieved.

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How To Create a Success Mindset

People with success mindsets have a particular way of perceiving things. They have positive outlooks and are able to put faith fully in their ability to succeed. With that in mind, here are a few ways that can turn a negative mindset into a successful one.

1. A Success Mindset Comes From a Growth Mindset

How does a mindset even manifest itself? It comes from the way you talk to yourself in the privacy of your own head. Realising this will go a long way towards noticing how you speak to yourself and others around you. If it’s mainly negative language you use when you talk about your goals and aspirations then this is an example of a fixed mindset.

A negative mindset brings with it a huge number of limiting beliefs. It creates a fixed mindset – one that can’t see beyond it’s own limitations. A growth mindset sees these limitations and looks beyond them – it finds ways to overcome obstacles and believes that this will result in success. When you think of your goal, a fixed mindset may think “what if I fail?” A growth mindset would look at the same goal and think “failures happen but that doesn’t mean I won’t be successful.”

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There’s a lot of power in changing your perspective.

2. Look For The Successes

It’s really important to get your mind focused on positive aspects of your goal. Finding inspiration through others can be really uplifting and keep you on track with developing your success mindset; reinforcing your belief that your dreams can be achieved. Find people that you can talk with about how they achieved their goals and seek out and surround yourself with positive people. This is crucial if you’re learning to develop a positive mindset.

3. Eliminate Negativity

You can come up against a lot of negativity sometimes either through other people or within yourself. Understanding that other people’s negative opinions are created through their own fears and limiting beliefs will go a long way in sustaining your success mindset. But for a lot of us, negative chatter can come from within and these usually manifest as negative words such as can’t, won’t, shouldn’t. Sometimes, when we think of how we’re going to achieve our goals, statements in our minds come out as negative absolutes: ‘It never works out for me’ or ‘I always fail.’

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When you notice these coming up you need to turn them around with ‘It always works out for me!’ and ‘I never fail!’ The trick is to believe it no matter what’s happened in the past. Remember that every new day is a clean slate and for you to adjust your mindset.

4. Create a Vision

Envisioning your end goal and seeing it in your mind is an important trait of a success mindset. Allowing ourselves to imagine our success creates a powerful excitement that shouldn’t be underestimated. When our brain becomes excited at the thought of achieving our goals, we become more committed, work harder towards achieving it and more likely to do whatever it takes to make it happen.

If this involves creating a vision board that you can look at to remind yourself every day then go for it. Small techniques like this go a long way in sustaining your success mindset and shouldn’t be dismissed.

An Inspirational Story…

For centuries experts said that running a mile in under 4 minutes was humanly impossible. On the 6th May 1954, Rodger Bannister did just that. As part of his training, Bannister relentlessly visualised the achievement, believing he could accomplish what everyone said wasn’t possible…and he did it.

What’s more amazing is that, as soon as Bannister achieved the 4-minute mile, more and more people also achieved it. How was this possible after so many years of no one achieving it? Because in people’s minds it was suddenly possible – once people knew that it was achievable it created a mindset of success and now, after over fifty years since Bannister did the ‘impossible’, his record has been lowered by 17 seconds – the power of the success mindset!

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