What if I told you that there are a whole bunch of things that you might be doing in your day-to-day life to turn women off, without even realizing it?
Now you’re probably thinking, “Great, it’s hard enough as it is to attract quality women when I’m making an effort, and now I have to pay even more attention to this aspect of my life?” Well, unless you want to keep losing out on your chances to enjoy the company of nice women, you better listen up. Here are 10 things that you might be doing to turn women off:
Being too clingy and needy
This might sound like old advice but you’d be surprised at how many men turn from aloof and devil-may-care to ‘I need to hear from you every three hours or Imma die’ needy and clingy after just a couple of dates. Or even before asking her out. Keep yourself busy, focus on developing your passions and simple give her time to miss you. Being always available for her is a real turn off.
Being a mummy’s boy
There’s nothing less attractive than a 30+ year old man that looks to his mum for approval on his choices in women, underwear and everything in between. Just don’t be that guy. Women don’t want to be with that guy.
Being rude to service staff
There’s a saying that the worth of a man can be judged by how he treats his inferiors, not his equals or betters. If a person is constantly rude to waiters, bellboys and other service staff it’s usually a sign of low self esteem and frustration, and women pick up on this.
Trying obvious PUA tactics
OK, to be honest a few of those PUA guys actually are onto something. I’ve read Neil Strauss’s The Game and that dude taught me some really valuable stuff. But the problem now is that the lid has been blown off the whole subculture and women are onto most of the clichéd PUA tactics like negging* and DHVing**. And they’ll probably just roll their eyes and have a laugh about it with their friends if they hear you trying these tactics on them.
*negging – offering a backhanded compliment designed to take a woman’s self-esteem a few notches
** DHVing – trying to slip in a cool story about you saving your cousin’s puppy into normal conversation
Cussing all the time
Don’t get me wrong, there are always occasions where a well-placed curse word will be called for, but if 60% of your vocabulary revolves around cussing and swearing, you might want to reign in your potty mouth a bit. Women are attracted to men who have a mastery over their vocabulary, and constant cussing is just an indicator of a shortcoming in this department.
Being a fratboy drunk
Don’t get me wrong, it’s important to be able to let loose and have a great time. But there is nothing more unattractive than a man who can’t hold his liquor and turns into a 21-year-old fratboy drunk after just a few beers.
Being a pushover
Women want a man who can stand their ground, take care of themselves and their loved ones. Not men that let themselves get pushed around by others all the time.
Complaining about your ex
I don’t care if your ex was a lying, cheating, gold-digging, best-friend-banging medusa, saying negative things about her constantly is only going to make women a) think that you’re not over her, or b) worry that they’re going to end up being talked about in such a way somewhere in the future. Mentioning that you are still into your ex won’t help you either!
Lack of foreplay in the bedroom
Here’s the thing, us men can go from 0-60 in three seconds, but a woman’s engine takes far longer to heat up. So if you don’t spend enough time with foreplay in the bedroom she’s going to end up frustrated, bored and irreversibly turned off.
Not caring about your family and friends
It doesn’t matter if you treat her like a princess if you’re a constant douche to your family members. She’s going to know that sooner or later she’s going to be treated the same way and be turned off majorly.
This is the most important point. Take care thoroughly of your relations with other people, because the connections we build may be the most valuable experiences we have in our lives.