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10 Things Men Do That Women Find Unattractive

10 Things Men Do That Women Find Unattractive

What if I told you that there are a whole bunch of things that you might be doing in your day-to-day life to turn women off, without even realizing it?

Now you’re probably thinking, “Great, it’s hard enough as it is to attract quality women when I’m making an effort, and now I have to pay even more attention to this aspect of my life?” Well, unless you want to keep losing out on your chances to enjoy the company of nice women, you better listen up. Here are 10 things that you might be doing to turn women off:

Being too clingy and needy

This might sound like old advice but you’d be surprised at how many men turn from aloof and devil-may-care to ‘I need to hear from you every three hours or Imma die’ needy and clingy after just a couple of dates. Or even before asking her out. Keep yourself busy, focus on developing your passions and simple give her time to miss you. Being always available for her is a real turn off.

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Being a mummy’s boy

There’s nothing less attractive than a 30+ year old man that looks to his mum for approval on his choices in women, underwear and everything in between. Just don’t be that guy. Women don’t want to be with that guy.

Being rude to service staff

There’s a saying that the worth of a man can be judged by how he treats his inferiors, not his equals or betters. If a person is constantly rude to waiters, bellboys and other service staff it’s usually a sign of low self esteem and frustration, and women pick up on this.

Trying obvious PUA tactics

OK, to be honest a few of those PUA guys actually are onto something. I’ve read Neil Strauss’s The Game and that dude taught me some really valuable stuff. But the problem now is that the lid has been blown off the whole subculture and women are onto most of the clichéd PUA tactics like negging* and DHVing**.  And they’ll probably just roll their eyes and have a laugh about it with their friends if they hear you trying these tactics on them.

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*negging – offering a backhanded compliment designed to take a woman’s self-esteem a few notches

** DHVing – trying to slip in a cool story about you saving your cousin’s puppy into normal conversation

Cussing all the time

Don’t get me wrong, there are always occasions where a well-placed curse word will be called for, but if 60% of your vocabulary revolves around cussing and swearing, you might want to reign in your potty mouth a bit. Women are attracted to men who have a mastery over their vocabulary, and constant cussing is just an indicator of a shortcoming in this department.

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Being a fratboy drunk

Don’t get me wrong, it’s important to be able to let loose and have a great time. But there is nothing more unattractive than a man who can’t hold his liquor and turns into a 21-year-old fratboy drunk after just a few beers.

Being a pushover

Women want a man who can stand their ground, take care of themselves and their loved ones. Not men that let themselves get pushed around by others all the time.

Complaining about your ex

I don’t care if your ex was a lying, cheating, gold-digging, best-friend-banging medusa, saying negative things about her constantly is only going to make women a) think that you’re not over her, or b) worry that they’re going to end up being talked about in such a way somewhere in the future. Mentioning that you are still into your ex won’t help you either!

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Lack of foreplay in the bedroom

Here’s the thing, us men can go from 0-60 in three seconds, but a woman’s engine takes far longer to heat up. So if you don’t spend enough time with foreplay in the bedroom she’s going to end up frustrated, bored and irreversibly turned off.

Not caring about your family and friends

It doesn’t matter if you treat her like a princess if you’re a constant douche to your family members. She’s going to know that sooner or later she’s going to be treated the same way and be turned off majorly.

This is the most important point. Take care thoroughly of your relations with other people, because the connections we build may be the most valuable experiences we have in our lives.

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Last Updated on July 3, 2020

30 Small Habits To Lead A More Peaceful Life

30 Small Habits To Lead A More Peaceful Life

In today’s world, true peace must come from within us and our own actions. Here are 30 small things you can do on a regular basis to increase your overall sense of harmony, peace, and well-being:

1. Don’t go to every fight you’re invited to

Particularly when you’re around those who thrive on chaos, be willing to decline the invitation to join in on the drama.

2. Focus on your breath

Throughout the day, stop to take a few deep breaths. Keep stress at bay with techniques such as “square breathing.” Breathe in for four counts, hold for four counts, then out for four counts, and hold again for four counts. Repeat this cycle four times.

3. Get organized and purge old items

A cluttered space often creates a cluttered spirit. Take the time to get rid of anything you haven’t used in a year and invest in organizational systems that help you sustain a level of neatness.

4. Stop yourself from being judgmental

Whenever you are tempted to have an opinion about someone else’s life, check your intentions. Judging others creates and promotes negative energy.

5. Say ‘thank you’ early and often

Start and end each day with an attitude of gratitude. Look for opportunities in your daily routine and interactions to express appreciation.

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6. Smile more

Even if you have to “fake it until you make it,” there are many scientific benefits of smiling and laughing. Also, pay attention to your facial expression when you are doing neutral activities such as driving and walking. Turn that frown upside down!

7. Don’t worry about the future

As difficult as this sounds, there is a direct connection between staying in the present and living a more peaceful life. You cannot control the future. As the old proverb goes, “Worry is like a rocking chair. It gives you something to do, but it won’t get you anywhere.” Practice gently bringing your thoughts back to the present.

8. Eat real food

The closer the food is to the state from which it came from the earth, the better you will feel in eating it. Choose foods that grew from a plant over food that was made in a plant.

9. Choose being happy over being right

Too often, we sacrifice inner peace in order to make a point. It’s rarely worth it.

10. Keep technology out of the bedroom

Many studies, such as one conducted by Brigham and Women’s Hospital, have connected blue light of electronic devices before bed to adverse sleep and overall health. To make matters worse, many people report that they cannot resist checking email and social media when their cell phone is in reach of their bed, regardless of the time.

11. Make use of filtering features on social media

You may not want to “unfriend” someone completely, however you can choose whether you want to follow their posts and/or the sources of information that they share.

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12. Get comfortable with silence

When you picture someone who is the ultimate state of peace, typically they aren’t talking.

13. Listen to understand, not to respond

So often in conversations, we use our ears to give us cues about when it is our turn to say what we want to say. Practice active listening, ask questions, process, then speak.

14. Put your troubles in a bubble

Whenever you start to feel anxious, visualize the situation being wrapped in a bubble and then picture that sphere floating away.

15. Speak more slowly

Often a lack of peace manifests itself in fast or clipped speech. Take a breath, slow down, and let your thoughtful consideration drive your words.

16. Don’t procrastinate

Nothing adds stress to our lives like waiting until the last minute.

17. Buy a coloring book

Mandala coloring books for adults are becoming more popular because of their connection to creating inner peace.

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18. Prioritize yourself

You are the only person who you are guaranteed to live with 24 hours a day for the rest of your life.

19. Forgive others

Holding a grudge is hurting you exponentially more than anyone else. Let it go.

20. Check your expectations

Presumption often leads to drama. Remember the old saying, “Expectations are premeditated resentments.”

21. Engage in active play

Let your inner child come out and have some fun. Jump, dance, play, and pretend!

22. Stop criticizing yourself

The world is a hard enough place with more than enough critics. Your life is not served well by being one of them.

23. Focus your energy and attention on what you want

Thoughts, words, and actions all create energy. Energy attracts like energy. Put out what you want to get back.

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24. Assign yourself “complaint free” days.

Make a conscious decision not to complain about anything for a whole day. It might be harder than you think and the awareness will stick with you.

25. Surround yourself with people you truly enjoy being in the company of

Personalities tend to be contagious, and not everyone’s is worth catching. Be judicious in your choices.

26. Manage your money

Financial concerns rank top on the list of what causes people stress. Take the time each month to do a budget, calculate what you actually spend and sanity check that against the money you have coming in.

27. Stop trying to control everything

Not only is your inner control freak sabotaging your sense of peace, it is also likely getting in the way of external relationships as well.

28. Practice affirmations

Repeat positive phrases that depict the life and qualities you want to attract. It may not come naturally to you, but it works.

29. Get up before sunrise

Personally witnessing the dawn brings a unique sense of awe and appreciation for life.

30. Be yourself

Nothing creates more inner discord than trying to be something other than who we really are. Authenticity breeds happiness.

Featured photo credit: man watching sunrise via stokpic.com

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