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Last Updated on August 24, 2020

Your Words Have POWER – Use Them Wisely

Your Words Have POWER – Use Them Wisely

Powerful, positive, and beautiful words can heal and uplift. When spoken with truth, your words have the ability to change lives.Think about how you communicate. Your words can encourage people to achieve greatness. Your words can support and even heal someone’s suffering. Your words can nurture, nourish, and inspire your children.

Sadly, emotions like hatred, fear, anger, frustration, and resentment can be expressed and fueled by words. Whether words are written or spoken, they have the power to break and destroy healthy environments, as well as relationships.

It is vital to always speak your truth, but we must be mindful about what we say and how we say it. Your words can change everything.

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React or respond

If you react and then respond to a situation with really destructive words, the implications can be overwhelming and soul destroying for the recipient. It’s very easy to put voice to our feelings and thoughts; however, it takes control, strength, and absolute integrity to express ourselves in a positive way no matter the situation. Stop and take a breath before you speak when you are stressed.

Be responsible for your words

Really think about the fact that your words hold incredible power both positively and negatively. Everything that is expressed verbally has the power to influence and change the lives of all you share your world with. It is your choice to use words that inspire or destroy. Once said, your words cannot be retracted.

Mind your language

Choose to speak only words that are positive, loving, healing, inspiring, and uplifting. Positive words will transform your life and the lives of those around you. You can create an environment of positive energy right now. Pay attention to your language.

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Positive self-talk

Positive self-talk is a vital step in building self esteem. It is a phenomenal strategy for change. Some of the greatest athletes in the world use positive self-talk to help them achieve their biggest goals. The thing is, you don’t actually need to be a gold medalist to use this strategy. Anyone  can do it!

More often than not, it is so routine to speak negatively about yourself that you are completely unaware of how frequently you do it. You may not even be aware that you are doing it. I wonder if, for the next twenty-four hours, you would take the time to pay attention to your thoughts and also take notice of how you speak about yourself?

What kind of internal dialogue are you running? Furthermore, are you verbalizing it?

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Your inner critic

Pay attention to how often your inner critic is active. By taking note of any negative self talk, this will begin the necessary process of interrupting this destructive habit.

If you speak negatively about yourself, and as you pay more attention to how often this is happening, start asking yourself the following questions:

  • Would I speak to my best friend like this?
  • Would I speak to someone I loved like this?
  • Can I change the situation that is making me feel so down?
  • Am I actively taking positive steps towards feeling better?
  • What resulted from saying something so negative to myself?

Take notice of your self-talk. If your inner critic is loud and out of control, it’s time to silence that negative voice in your head. Negative self-talk can influence your self-esteem, your outlook on life, your energy levels, your relationships, and even your health.

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Quit

Make a commitment to quit the negative self-talk. Just like any toxic bad habit, you can decide to stop this behavior. It may take time, perseverance, attention, and strength to quit negative self-talk completely because for many of us it has become so deeply ingrained, it is almost second nature. Once you are aware that you are doing it, understand that you will need to keep interrupting yourself and your thoughts to stop it altogether. Becoming aware of this behavior is the key to quitting.

Positive words are good for your health

Positive self-talk will:

  • Boost your confidence
  • Improve your mood
  • Eliminate stress
  • Improve heart health and well-being

Your mind is like a garden bed, if you plant powerful and positive seeds your whole being will flourish.

It is your choice. What will you plant: flowers or weeds? Your words have power. Use them wisely.

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Jo Ettles is a published self help author, international writer, speaker and extremely gifted intuitive life coach.

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Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

How often have you said something simple, only to have the person who you said this to misunderstand it or twist the meaning completely around? Nodding your head in affirmative? Then this means that you are being unclear in your communication.

Communication should be simple, right? It’s all about two people or more talking and explaining something to the other. The problem lies in the talking itself, somehow we end up being unclear, and our words, attitude or even the way of talking becomes a barrier in communication, most of the times unknowingly. We give you six common barriers to communication, and how to get past them; for you to actually say what you mean, and or the other person to understand it as well…

The 6 Walls You Need to Break Down to Make Communication Effective

Think about it this way, a simple phrase like “what do you mean” can be said in many different ways and each different way would end up “communicating” something else entirely. Scream it at the other person, and the perception would be anger. Whisper this is someone’s ear and others may take it as if you were plotting something. Say it in another language, and no one gets what you mean at all, if they don’t speak it… This is what we mean when we say that talking or saying something that’s clear in your head, many not mean that you have successfully communicated it across to your intended audience – thus what you say and how, where and why you said it – at times become barriers to communication.[1]

Perceptual Barrier

The moment you say something in a confrontational, sarcastic, angry or emotional tone, you have set up perceptual barriers to communication. The other person or people to whom you are trying to communicate your point get the message that you are disinterested in what you are saying and sort of turn a deaf ear. In effect, you are yelling your point across to person who might as well be deaf![2]

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The problem: When you have a tone that’s not particularly positive, a body language that denotes your own disinterest in the situation and let your own stereotypes and misgivings enter the conversation via the way you talk and gesture, the other person perceives what you saying an entirely different manner than say if you said the same while smiling and catching their gaze.

The solution: Start the conversation on a positive note, and don’t let what you think color your tone, gestures of body language. Maintain eye contact with your audience, and smile openly and wholeheartedly…

Attitudinal Barrier

Some people, if you would excuse the language, are simply badass and in general are unable to form relationships or even a common point of communication with others, due to their habit of thinking to highly or too lowly of them. They basically have an attitude problem – since they hold themselves in high esteem, they are unable to form genuine lines of communication with anyone. The same is true if they think too little of themselves as well.[3]

The problem: If anyone at work, or even in your family, tends to roam around with a superior air – anything they say is likely to be taken by you and the others with a pinch, or even a bag of salt. Simply because whenever they talk, the first thing to come out of it is their condescending attitude. And in case there’s someone with an inferiority complex, their incessant self-pity forms barriers to communication.

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The solution: Use simple words and an encouraging smile to communicate effectively – and stick to constructive criticism, and not criticism because you are a perfectionist. If you see someone doing a good job, let them know, and disregard the thought that you could have done it better. It’s their job so measure them by industry standards and not your own.

Language Barrier

This is perhaps the commonest and the most inadvertent of barriers to communication. Using big words, too much of technical jargon or even using just the wrong language at the incorrect or inopportune time can lead to a loss or misinterpretation of communication. It may have sounded right in your head and to your ears as well, but if sounded gobbledygook to the others, the purpose is lost.

The problem: Say you are trying to explain a process to the newbies and end up using every technical word and industry jargon that you knew – your communication has failed if the newbie understood zilch. You have to, without sounding patronizing, explain things to someone in the simplest language they understand instead of the most complex that you do.

The solution: Simplify things for the other person to understand you, and understand it well. Think about it this way: if you are trying to explain something scientific to a child, you tone it down to their thinking capacity, without “dumbing” anything down in the process.[4]

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Emotional Barrier

Sometimes, we hesitate in opening our mouths, for fear of putting our foot in it! Other times, our emotional state is so fragile that we keep it and our lips zipped tightly together lest we explode. This is the time that our emotions become barriers to communication.[5]

The problem: Say you had a fight at home and are on a slow boil, muttering, in your head, about the injustice of it all. At this time, you have to give someone a dressing down over their work performance. You are likely to transfer at least part of your angst to the conversation then, and talk about unfairness in general, leaving the other person stymied about what you actually meant!

The solution: Remove your emotions and feelings to a personal space, and talk to the other person as you normally would. Treat any phobias or fears that you have and nip them in the bud so that they don’t become a problem. And remember, no one is perfect.

Cultural Barrier

Sometimes, being in an ever-shrinking world means that inadvertently, rules can make cultures clash and cultural clashes can turn into barriers to communication. The idea is to make your point across without hurting anyone’s cultural or religious sentiments.

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The problem: There are so many ways culture clashes can happen during communication and with cultural clashes; it’s not always about ethnicity. A non-smoker may have problems with smokers taking breaks; an older boss may have issues with younger staff using the Internet too much.

The solution: Communicate only what is necessary to get the point across – and eave your personal sentiments or feelings out of it. Try to be accommodative of the other’s viewpoint, and in case you still need to work it out, do it one to one, to avoid making a spectacle of the other person’s beliefs.[6]

Gender Barrier

Finally, it’s about Men from Mars and Women from Venus. Sometimes, men don’t understand women and women don’t get men – and this gender gap throws barriers in communication. Women tend to take conflict to their graves, literally, while men can move on instantly. Women rely on intuition, men on logic – so inherently, gender becomes a big block in successful communication.[7]

The problem: A male boss may inadvertently rub his female subordinates the wrong way with anti-feminism innuendoes, or even have problems with women taking too many family leaves. Similarly, women sometimes let their emotions get the better of them, something a male audience can’t relate to.

The solution: Talk to people like people – don’t think or classify them into genders and then talk accordingly. Don’t make comments or innuendos that are gender biased – you don’t have to come across as an MCP or as a bra-burning feminist either. Keep gender out of it.

And remember, the key to successful communication is simply being open, making eye contact and smiling intermittently. The battle is usually half won when you say what you mean in simple, straightforward words and keep your emotions out of it.

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