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6 Great Movies To Help Your Kid Fight Bullying

6 Great Movies To Help Your Kid Fight Bullying

Not long ago, I stumbled upon a very cool article – Cinematography Comes To The Aid: What Movies Can Help Your Teen Go Through Bullying. As a mom, I was very curious about this topic and I realized that I could come up with my own list of such movies.

My kid is only nine but he has already experienced some bullying. Knowing how many kids face this problem every day, parents should be aware of this issue and talk about it regularly. Even if your kid is not bullied, it is important to teach them about the phenomenon and its possible consequences. The following movies can be a great way to start such a conversation.

Harry Potter (2001)

If by some magical coincidence, your kids haven’t seen the Harry Potter series, you cannot but introduce this world to them. They will not only be fascinated by the wizards, extraordinary creatures, and magical spells but can also learn some valuable lessons.

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Harry Potter was bullied by his family and other kids at Hogwarts. He suffered a great deal of pranks, humiliation, and rejection. Nevertheless, he stays strong, fights all the enemies and finds comfort in his true friends. That is the best way to fight bullying and every kid should see and understand that.

Cyberbully (2015)

Cyberbullying is a modern way of bullying that involves no physical harm, but is as dangerous and hurtful. Cyberbully movie shows all the serious consequences that cyberbullying can lead to. This is a story of Casey who is harassed by unknown hacker online. This hacker threats her with posting her nude pictures online and shaming her.

Casey doesn’t know why it is happening to her until this person says that he helps victims of cyberbullying. She is confused, but then he shows her all the things that she has said and done online and how they influenced other people and even brought one girl to suicide. The movie is very important to see for both sides – bullies and bullied. It shows that an ostensibly innocent comment can hurt people’s feelings and bring to serious troubles.

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The Duff (2015)

This one is a teen comedy about school hierarchy. Bianca finds out one day that she is labeled The Duff – ‘designated ugly fat friend’ to her beautiful girlfriends. Her world changes and she decides to do something about it.

On her way to becoming cool and popular (while her friends actually turn their back on her and bully her), she realizes that the most important thing is to be yourself and not to pay attention to all the stereotypes and myths. This movie is great for kids and teens who have self-esteem and bullying problems.

Odd Girl Out (2005)

This is another teen movie telling about teenage conflicts and intrigues. The main character, Vanessa, is rejected by all of her friends after they find out that she has a crush on the same boy as the most popular girl in school. She suddenly becomes an outcast and everybody calls her names and seems to hate her. It goes even further when they create a website and post humiliating pictures of Vanessa.

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After a big amount of humiliation, pranks, name calling and a suicide attempt, Vanessa realizes that her desire to be friends with those people again doesn’t make any sense. She realizes that popularity is not everything and being a “cool kid” is not that important.

This movie proves how easily kids get into bullies and how cruel they can be. Kids who bully their classmates at school need to see this movie to realize that it’s wrong. And those kids who are being bullied can see that they are not alone and there are ways out.

The Karate Kid (1984)

This is a fun movie to watch with the whole family. It’s about a bullied teen Daniel who decides to learn Karate to be able to defend himself. His wise teacher, Miyagi, teaches him not only how to fight, but how to be powerful and strong mentally, too. Eventually, Daniel gets stronger and defeats his bullies at the karate tournament. The movie teaches kids not to run away from problems, but to face them.

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The Craft (1996)

If you have an older teen who’s into rock music and dark things, The Craft can be a great way to start a bullying conversation. It’s about a girl who enters a new school and befriends three girls involved in occult things. They three are being bullied for different reasons and after the new girl gets hurt, too, they all get together, cast a spell and acquire witch powers.

They decide to get revenge and hurt the ones who have been hurting them. It all goes the wrong way leading girls to much different results than they expected. The movie can teach your teens that revenge is not the way to get things done and it only makes you the same as your offenders.

Bullying is among the most urgent problems in schools all over the world. Many kids have to deal with it on a regular basis and many then suffer from major psychological issues. Parents have to pay a lot of attention to teaching their kids about the wrong of bullying. And these movies can be a great way to start.

Featured photo credit: Girls with popcorn/Flickr via flickr.com

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Published on September 21, 2018

11 Smart Pieces of Advice to Help You Thrive as a Single Mother

11 Smart Pieces of Advice to Help You Thrive as a Single Mother

Becoming a mother is one of the most difficult challenges a woman can take on in her life. Whether this happens the “natural” way, with the help of science, or through adoption, being in charge of nurturing another human being is a herculean task to take on.

Typically, when we think about parenthood, we imagine two parents sharing the responsibility and having each other to lean on. However, according to the 2016 U.S. Census Bureau, 1 in 4 children under the age of 18 are being raised by a single mother.[1] This is a significant portion of the population that often gets overlooked.

If you are one of these mothers raising your children on your own, you are undoubtedly aware of the additional challenges that motherhood has placed upon you, including the constant struggle to find sufficient time, energy, money, and support.

For single mothers who find themselves bogged down by their daily responsibilities and struggle to stay afloat, don’t be fooled by the belief that you have to do all. It is possible to thrive and live as a single mother if you take advantage of all available resources and adjust your priorities based on your situation.

1. Find your community and ask for help

As the sole caretaker of your kids, going through the successes and struggles of parenthood can feel isolating and lonely. You have probably developed a strong sense of independence because you’ve had to go at it alone.

Being self-reliant is necessary in many situations that you have to face, but do not fool yourself into thinking that you don’t need support from others. If you have family nearby, strengthen your relationship with them by visiting and talking more often. Find time to catch up with old friends or co-workers, and don’t assume they don’t want to hang out if they are not parents themselves.

Would you prefer finding mom friends[2] who have more in common with you? Use resources like apps, Facebook groups, and community events to meet local moms in your area.

After you have established a support group that you can depend on, don’t be afraid to ask for help. It is NOT a sign of weakness or incompetency to admit you can’t do it all, and others are probably more willing to lend a hand than you think.

If you feel uncomfortable burdening others, suggest trading favors such as taking turns babysitting. Because after all, helping is each other is what community is all about.

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2. Make peace with the past

Before you can move forward, you must make peace with your past and not let it define you or rule your life. Whether your journey to single motherhood was through divorce, death, or never having a relationship the father, it is crucial that you leave behind the feelings of abandonment or betrayal you may be struggling with.

You cannot change the past and the hurt you had to endure, but you can use the strength that you gained from overcoming those obstacles to work towards making the best life for yourself and your child. Learn from the past but live in the present and look towards the future.

3. Make plans and set goals

The daily repetition of trying to balance work and home life can make you feel like you are on operating on autopilot. However, it is imperative to set goals for yourself and to keep working towards self-improvement.

In your personal life, you can set a fitness goal (train for a 5k), a reading goal (read 20 books in a year), or a travel goal (take a trip to Europe). At your job, you can set career goals such as gain leadership experience, get a promotion, or earn a degree or certificate.

Spend time creating a realistic plan to on how you can go about achieving these goals. Not only will working towards these goals make you a more well-rounded and successful person, they will bring more purpose and fulfillment to your life.

4. Look for role models

A great way to jump start your plans for the future is to find a role model or mentor who is further along in their life or career experience. This person can be a great resource when you need guidance on what types of goals to set for yourself and how to achieve them.

It’s also important to have people to turn to for encouragement during difficult seasons of life. Someone who has been through it before can provide the most genuine reassurance that tough times will get better and that staying positive is best approach.

5. Rethink your priorities

Single parents have twice as many responsibilities to take care of, so priorities and expectations must be adjusted accordingly.

Know that you are not superwoman and striving for a perfectly clean home, no dirty laundry, and home-cooked meals for your kids every day is not a reasonable expectation. It’s okay to take shortcuts sometimes, like serving your kids cereal for dinner or waiting until the next day to wash the dishes.

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Don’t compare yourself to anyone else and let go of the guilt that you feel for being the only parent that your kids can count on. Give yourself a break and don’t sweat the small stuff.

6. Make time for me time

Even though it can be difficult to find, making time for yourself is critical to maintaining your sanity and well-being. Without a built-in partner to take over, finding time to be away from the kids must be done intentionally and planned in advance.

If you are sharing custody, use the time away from your kids not only doing productive things but also making sure you are taking care of yourself. Sleep, exercise, and balanced diet are not things that can get pushed to the bottom of the priority list. Also make time for fun activities, such as hobbies and creative outlets.

Even though being a mother is the most important job you have, don’t let it be the only thing that defines you. Time for yourself is more difficult to find if you are the sole caretaker of your kids.

Use the resources that you have to devote time to self-care, and you and your kids will thank you for it in the long run.

7. Stay organized

With so many things to juggle, great organizational skills are an absolute must in order to keep everything moving smoothly. Use apps such as Mint for your finances, Mealime for meal planning, and Cozi as a family organizer for everything from appointments and shopping lists to after school activities.

Maintain constant contact if you are sharing custody so that it is clearly communicated who will be responsible for what when it comes to your kids. Follow consistent routines in the morning and nighttime so that your kids also know what to expect on a daily basis.

8. Be flexible (Don’t be a control freak)

Although it is important to be prepared and stay organized, things don’t always go according to plan.

When kids get sick and have to stay home or babysitters cancel at the last minute, allow for flexibility by having a contingency plan for childcare and with your employer.

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For example, make a list of people you can call when you need last minute childcare, or talk to your boss in advance about working from home when emergencies come up.

Most of all, don’t let unexpected changes stress you out and ruin your day.

9. Learn to say no (Don’t feel guilty)

Single mothers have limitations in time, energy and resources that families with two parents wouldn’t be able to understand. Because of these circumstances, it’s important you let go of feelings of guilt and stop trying to do everything and be everywhere.

You don’t have to say yes to every single birthday party your child is invited to. Your kids don’t have to be involved in sports and extracurricular activities every night of the week.

Limit the things you do to only the ones that are the most enjoyable and meaningful for you and your family. Doing more things does not make you a better mother; simply a more tired one.

10. Live within your means

When you have to raise your family on a single income, budgeting and spending within your means becomes more important than ever.

If you have outstanding debt that is accruing interest, make it a priority to pay those off as soon as possible. Outlining a budget is the best way to visualize how much money is being spent every month on various things and what is left over.

Find ways to save money on the necessities by looking for sales at the grocery store, buying some things secondhand, planning out meals.

After the necessary bills are paid, determine how much can be spent on luxury items such as eating out, vacations, and going to the movies.

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Don’t let finances be a source of anxiety for you and your family. Keep your bank account in good shape while teaching your kids how to spend money responsibly at the same time.

11. Spend quality time with your kids

The time you spend with your kids is so precious and much more limited as a single mother. Make the time that you spend with your kids count.

Rather than sitting in front of the TV, take them on fun and budget-friendly outings to the park, the playground, or a museum. Use meal times as the perfect excuse to ask them about what they are learning in school and the friends they spend time with.

When your kids ask you to play with them, look at it as a privilege and an opportunity to bond with them, rather than a distraction or waste of time. Be present when you are with them, with no work or multitasking on your mind. Your relationship with your kids will absolutely reap the benefits.

Final thoughts

Being a single mother is not an easy job. That’s why it’s important to use all the resources available to you in order to make this job a little bit easier.

Using technology, an organization system and a supportive community are just a few examples of things you should utilize to your benefit. It’s also important to shift your mindset and be more practical when it comes to things like priorities and finances.

Most of all, don’t forget about your own self care. Only when you take care of yourself can you best take care of the people you love.

Single mothers are some of the most hard-working people out there, and you deserve to have a happy and fulfilling life.

Featured photo credit: Alvaro Reyes via unsplash.com

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