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Divergence: An Amazing Law Of Attraction

Divergence: An Amazing Law Of Attraction

Sigmund Freud said people could be categorized by the bodily orifice which gave them most pleasure. If you didn’t already know that, you may be going “Wait, WHAT!?”

Sir Albert Einstein’s concepts of relativity were ridiculed by certain prominent universities who said his theory was more in the realm of art and imagination rather than science. He was really laughed at when he dared to challenge Newton’s theory and said light had a dual nature (wave particle duality).

Johnny Depp said in an interview that he does not like to watch his movies. He said: “It’s my job to be behind the camera and give my best. And then… there’s that guy out there!!” He said he has not watched any of his own movies!

I know a celebrity singer, composer, and lyricist who says: “Love is nothing but a game of logic, it’s all in the pituitary gland, It’s a game where everyone wants to win!“

You may have your opinions on the people above. You may hate them or you may love them. But one thing is for sure: you cannot ignore them.

They are what I will call the “Divergents” of our society, as opposed to the many “Conformists” we have around us. They shock us with their concepts, their actions, and their attitudes.

It’s not always a good thing, but it always attracts attention!

The Attraction

I know a girl who fell in love with a guy the first time he spoke to her.

He never thought about approaching her because she was somehow always “way out of his league” — or so he thought. He drew a remarkable pencil sketch of the girl just to be able to talk to her one day. Well, he did talk to her, and she could not help but resist that gesture.

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For time immemorial, people have felt that enormous inherent attraction towards wonderful weirdness, towards divergence, towards things that do not seem normal.

If I told you that Thailand is a beautiful place, you would probably think of going for a visit one day. However, if I said that Thailand has a monk who died 300 years ago and his body has still not decayed, that it’s a place where men and tigers have learned to live together, you would think “Really? I must go see that right now!”

If I told you that anger is a bad emotion, you would say “Yeah, I agree.” On the other hand, if I said that “Anger can be extremely productive for you,” You would say “Wait a minute — how?”

People with ways of thinking that do not match up with the crowd become incredibly attractive. They stand out.

You cannot help but be interested. You find yourself wondering “What is he like? Why does he think that way?”

This curiosity makes you want to know them more, to stick around, to go deeper.

Desire for the forbidden

“Even the sweetest meat will seem nauseating if served on a full belly, you need to wait till they ask for it.” — Socrates.

In an experiment in the United States, it was shown that cookies taken from a jar which has only two cookies in it seem to taste more delicious than when taken from a jar full of cookies.

This and other experiments have proven over time that things which are scarcely available or extinct seem more desirable — regardless of their usefulness. Think of the online gimmicks telling you: “Last day of sale!” or “Grab yours before it goes out of stock!” They poke your interest by creating a want in your mind that is due to scarcity. Even if you don’t actually want it, you are forced to think: “I’d better grab it before someone else does!”

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Most of us are attracted to the forbidden, the mysterious, the scarcely available, even if subconsciously. People who are divergent seem somehow mysterious. Some admit it, others don’t, and some do not realize this. But the attraction is real.

The point is that having a mysterious exterior can make you immensely attractive. Even a twister, no matter how bad it really is, can seem attractive from a distance.

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    How to use this law of attraction

    So, is this just a lecture on psychology or is it useful information? We need to know what’s in it for us!

    Well, I am a sailor. As a group, we usually do not deal in useless theories. So, how do you use this concept to your advantage?

    This is one of the lesser-known secrets, and it can give you a fresh start to your life. If you understand how we are subconsciously attracted to that madness, the attraction behind that weirdness which we apparently keep getting amazed or maybe even annoyed by, you can use this to change your world.

    How do you start a conversation? The classic “How do you do?” with a handshake and a shoulder shrug for an adult and the even more cliché “Hey, what’s your name?” for a kid?

    This time, try things differently.

    I once started a conversation with a girl by saying “Let’s talk about love is a great album! Have you heard of it? Celine Dion is simply awesome!” I was told later that this unusual introduction made me highly attractive.

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    Meeting a girl for a brief moment and need to create an impression? Ask her which chocolate she likes. Tell her that this will help you understand her.

    When you meet a kid, ask him “Hey — where did you get that wonderful shirt? I love it!”

    These may seem like weird conversation starters, but they really work! They have the ability to generate instant attraction.

    Instead of starting your presentation with something cliché like “The topic of my discussion will be global warming…” start with something that catches everyone’s attention in a single shot, like: “If you were on top of Mount Kilimanjaro 50 years back, you would have seen ice all around you. Right now, only 10 percent of that remains. As we speak, a large Glacier in Greenland is breaking off in parts and joining the waves of the North Atlantic. With these things in mind, I wish to talk about global warming today.”

    I have to address various mass audiences, and I find that it is actually quite easy to keep an audience glued to your words if you know how to create an impression and if you clearly have a hold on what you are saying.

    Remember: your first impression is a make-or-break deal. The audience is going to have a clear view etched in their subconscious mind about 10 to 30 seconds into seeing you, and they will try and hold on to that view for as long as they can.

    How can you assess yourself on the first impression you make?

    Here are a few things you can check to judge the the first impression you’ve made on your audience:

    • Are people laughing out loud or are they nodding their heads? This is a good sign.
    • Are they changing their posture to pay more attention to you, such as bending towards you and not looking around the room? If so, you’ve done quite well.
    • If they shift body positions, look down to indicate their discomfort, or they shift to a completely separate topic altogether, you’re not doing so well.

    The Endgame

    Needless to say, the impression you create can fall flat on the ground if you do not back it up with enough substance.

    There was a restaurant in my part of town. It was a huge place. There were several sections and it incorporated a wide array of cuisines from different parts of the world. If you walked into this place, you could literally walk into different stalls serving food from all over the globe.

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    This was a tremendous hit… for a few days. People were attracted to the idea and they flocked in by the hundreds to see how this worked. The ambiance was every bit as amazing as the concept.

    There was only one problem: the food was not great. The people who visited did not return for another meal. Soon, the place closed down.

    The fact is that people come to a restaurant because they want to eat. Food is the heart of a restaurant. The attraction or gimmick can bring people in, but it cannot keep them there.

    I have seen some really amazing couples in my day. These guys and girls were coveted by all, loved by everyone because they were remarkably attractive — not only because of their looks, but also because of their attitudes. We all thought they were meant to be together forever.

    However, the only couple who remained together after college was the one no one paid attention to. There was nothing remarkable about them except that they were with each other through thick and thin. It seems they had the soul of a true relationship. The heart of a relationship is in the bond that you share — that’s the endgame!

    In these and other countless examples, you can see that it’s easy to create the impression, to induce an attraction. You can impress anyone you want if you know the right methods. However, to stay for the long term, you need real stuff — to have substance. If you do not have substance to offer, your impression will fall flat on the ground in no time.

    If you start your seminar with a round of applause, you have done great to create a tremendous first impression. This attraction will help you a lot. Now, you have to follow it up with true substance so that at the end of your speech, when you are stepping down from the podium, the audience is equally mesmerized and clapping even harder.

    In the end, the true message is this: The start is very important, but no matter how well you start, what really matters in the long run is your endgame.

    Photo Credit: Twister at Sea by Captain D

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    10 Reasons Why You Should Get Naked More Often

    10 Reasons Why You Should Get Naked More Often

    Getting naked is often thought of as an act that should only be reserved for intimacy—and even then some get squirmy! Many people are more comfortable believing that the more clothes you are wearing the better. However, getting naked more often can have great benefits for you. Here are 10 great reasons to get naked more often:

    1. It burns more fat.

    Your body’s main supply of brown adipose tissue (BAT), or good fat cells, are located around your shoulder blades and neck. When your body is exposed to the elements and is cooler, the BAT proliferates and essentially kills the white adipose tissue, aka bad fat cells. So, not wearing any clothes helps promote this and makes you healthier.

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    2. You’ll become comfortable with who you are.

    Self-acceptance is hard to come by today. Ask anyone you know and see if they are happy with themselves. Chances are they will say they are too fat, not pretty, and find all of the flaws that they can. In reality, others do not see this. They see that you are beautiful. When you begin to get naked, you learn to appreciate your body and realize how beautiful you really are.

    3. It saves you money.

    Being naked more often saves on buying new clothing since you are wearing nothing a lot of the time. Be careful when you are in public, though—you may have to put on some clothes!

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    4. It increases your immune system.

    Being naked and getting exposure to the sun’s rays actually increases your body’s vitamin D levels. Vitamin D is directly related to your immune system. When you have optimal levels of vitamin D, your body’s immune system is impeccable, and you will be better equipped to ward off viruses, including the common cold and flu. So go lay outside naked on your private balcony or in your yard.

    5. It makes you face your fears head on.

    People cringe today when you mention the words “get naked.” They are so afraid of it—and today’s children are so ingrained with this—that they must wear layer upon layer to deal with their body image. However, when you are naked, you face your fears of body image and self-acceptance, experiencing some of the best moments of your life.

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    6. You will feel better in your clothes.

    When you do wear clothes (because not everyone has yet accepted being naked in public), you will start to choose clothing that accentuates the parts of your body that you love. You will begin to notice that maybe that muumuu does not flatter your beautiful curves and start wearing clothes that you love.

    7. You will embrace vulnerability.

    When you put yourself out there, it is a natural reaction to have fear and worry. However, this is an opportunity to embrace being vulnerable. It allows you to think and get down to the core of what really matters and what is of importance to you. When you strip away all of the excess, you are 100% you and willing to take on anything that comes your way.

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    8. You will show the world the real you.

    Today, we have many ways of altering our appearance from our true body image when we wear clothing. Some people alter their image so much that they fear getting naked with the person they love. It seems crazy that this could even happen; however, the rise in use of breast-enhancing bras and Spanx products has put this idea into people’s minds. This all goes back to being comfortable with your true body image. If a person really does love you, then they should not love you based upon your image. If they do, then you may even decide that the ever-so-uncomfortable leggings that go up above your waist to hold in all of the imperfections may not be worth it after all.

    9. You will have fun.

    Well, this could go in all sorts of directions. But when you are comfortable with your naked body and see it as being flattering, then life is more fun. You start realizing that you are beautiful and are willing to do more things that you probably would not have done otherwise—with and without your clothes on.

    10. You can have intercourse with the lights on.

    Many people are self-conscious about the way they look and decide that the less lighting the better when they are intimate with their partner. It’s nothing new. If you survey your best friends, you will probably come to this conclusion too. They may say that it even gets awkward, because they are more concerned with what their partner thinks of their body than just having and enjoying amazing intercourse. When you love the way you look naked, you will also want to have your partner see you at your best.

    What are you waiting for? Start spending more time in the buff today and begin to change the way you think about your body.

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