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Sad Signs You’re Getting Old (Mentally)

Sad Signs You’re Getting Old (Mentally)

There’s a new kid at work. He’s probably 10 years your junior; tall, dashing but stern looking. HR’s introducing him to everyone in the office and as they introduce him to you, you’re taken aback and quite appalled to know that he’s your new manager.

With that stinging sense of betrayal from your own company that you have shed blood and sweat for during the past 10 years and only to be let down by seemingly poor judgement by management of hiring younger people to take up senior roles, you finally say, “pfft, i’m not taking instructions from this guy”.

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Sadly, signs like these are proof that you might be getting old. It’s also probably the first sign of a crack which management are trained to look for and maybe that is why “Mr. Fresh Face” has set foot in the office. Harsh but very realistic, here are some signs that you can avoid so that you can stay ahead of your peers and stop becoming old:

1. You Can’t Be Bothered With The Basics Skills Anymore

A good scenario of this could be that you started out as a skilled animator and then have risen to division director after 10 years of hard work. However, being so caught up with managing your team, you have neglected the basic skills that got you where you are in the first place. By neglecting your basic foundations, you lose track of the technology advances now required to get the basic job done. And the last thing a boss would want to face is admitting to their staff, that you have lost track of today’s technology advances.

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2. You Are Paranoid About Everything

When we get older, it is natural to be wary of potential problems as life long experiences have chiselled us into a hardy bunch. But it becomes a problem when it turns into paranoia. For example, when you’re travelling, not being open to new adventures for fear of all the possible bad scenarios that can happen is just a sign that you are not willing to experience new things anymore and definitely one of the signs you’re getting old.

3. You Don’t Listen To Anyone Anymore

By ditching the art of listening, you are entirely missing out on chances to learn new information. By tuning people down, not only do we send a message that we are selfish, we are also lying to ourselves about how much we already know about the world we live in (of which, in fact, we know very little) and thus, we omit the opinions of others.

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4. There Aren’t Anymore Goals to Pursue

At the top of your mind, state a current goal that you are pursuing. If the answer is that there aren’t any, it’s a good sign that you have allowed your mind to degenerate and wither.

Like Steve Jobs had mentioned before, “We are here to put a dent in the universe. Otherwise why else even be here?”

Without a goal or purpose in life at a later age, our minds will turn less sharp, making it harder for us to change our mindset.

5. You Are Unable to Control Your Emotions

Having control over our emotions is the single most important factor of having a healthy social life and in turn a happier life. If we are unable to keep our emotions in check, it’s a sign that we are on a downward spiral to “lonely-ville” where people tend to avoid us due to our inability to acknowledge that our short fuse is keeping everyone at bay.

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By keeping our emotions in check with different methods such as taking a step back and thinking postively, taking a deep breath or even meditating instead of losing our temper quickly, we will avoid going into pointless heated arguments with our loved ones. Just remember, that our emotions can affect the rest who we rely on to have a happy and fulfilling life.

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Last Updated on September 12, 2019

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

Even the most charismatic people you know, whether in person or celebrities of some sort, experience days where they feel lost in life and isolated from everyone else.

While it’s good to know we aren’t alone in this feeling, the question still remains:

What should we do when we feel lost and lonely?

Here are 12 things to remember:

1. Recognize That It’s Okay!

The truth is, there are times you need to be alone. If you’ve always been accustomed to being in contact with people, this may prove difficult.

However, learning how to be alone and comfortable in your own skin will give you confidence and a sense of self reliance.

We cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to become self reliant when we look for constant companionship.

Learn how to embrace your me time: What Your Fear of Being Alone Is Really About and How to Get over It

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2. Use Your Lost and Loneliness as a Self-Directing Guide

You’ve most likely heard the expression: “You have to know where you’ve been to know where you’re going.”

Loneliness also serves as a life signal to indicate you’re in search of something. It’s when we’re in the midst of solitude that answers come from true soul searching.

Remember, there is more to life than what you’re feeling.

3. Realize Loneliness Helps You Face the Truth

Being in the constant company of others, although comforting sometimes, can often serve as a distraction when we need to face the reality of a situation.

Solitude cuts straight to the chase and forces you to deal with the problem at hand. See it as a blessing that can serve as a catalyst to set things right!

4. Be Aware That You Have More Control Than You Think

Typically, when we see ourselves as being lost or lonely, it gives us an excuse to view everything we come in contact with in a negative light. It lends itself to putting ourselves in the victim mode, when the truth of the matter is that you choose your attitude in every situation.

No one can force a feeling upon you! It is YOU who has the ultimate say as to how you choose to react.

5. Embrace the Freedom That the Feeling of Being Alone Can Offer

Instead of wallowing in self pity, which many are prone to do because of loneliness, try looking at your circumstance as a new-found freedom.

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Most people are in constant need of approval of their viewpoints. Try enjoying the fact that  you don’t need everyone you care about to support your decisions.

6. Acknowledge the Person You Are Now

Perhaps you feel a sense of loneliness and confusion because your life circumstances have taken you away from the persona that others know to be you.

Perhaps the new you differs radically from the old. Realize that life is about change and how we react to that change. It’s okay that you’re not who you used to be.

Take a look at this article and learn to accept your imperfect self: Accept Yourself (Flaws and All): 7 Benefits of Being Vulnerable

7. Keep Striving to Do Your Best

Often those who are feeling isolated and unto themselves will develop a defeatist attitude. They’ll do substandard work because their self esteem is low and they don’t care.

Never let this feeling take away your sense of worth! Do your best always and when you come through this dark time, others will admire how you stayed determined in spite of the obstacles you had to overcome.

And to live your best life, you must do this ONE thing: step out of your comfort zone.

8. Don’t Forget That Time Is Precious

When we’re lost in a sea of loneliness and depression, it’s all too easy to reflect on regrets of past life events. This does nothing but feed negativity and perpetuate the situation.

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Instead of falling prey to this common pitfall, put one foot in front of the other and acknowledge every positive step you take. By doing this, you can celebrate the struggles you overcome at the end of the day.

9. Remember, Things Happen for a Reason

Every circumstance we encounter in our life is designed to teach us and that lesson is in turn passed on to others.

Sometimes we’re fortunate enough to figure out the lesson to be learned, while other times, we simply need to have faith that if the lesson wasn’t meant directly for us to learn from, how we handled it was observed by someone who needed to learn.

Your solitude and feeling of lost, in this instance, although painful possibly, may be teaching someone else.

10. Journal During This Time

Record your thoughts when you’re at the height of loneliness and feeling lost. You’ll be amazed when you reflect back at how you viewed things at the time and how far you’ve come later.

This time (if recorded) can give you a keen insight into who you are and what makes you feel the way you feel.

11. Remember You Aren’t the First to Feel This Way

It’s quite common to feel as if we’re alone and no one else has ever felt this way before. We think this because at the time of our distress, we’re silently observing others around us who are seemingly fine in every way.

The truth is, we can’t possibly know the struggles of those around us unless they elect to share them. We ALL have known this pain!

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Try confiding in someone you trust and ask them how they deal with these feelings when they experienced it. You may be surprised at what you learn.

12. Ask for Help If the Problem Persists

The feeling of being lost and lonely is common to everyone, but typically it will last for a relatively short period of time.

Most people will confess to, at one time or another, being in a “funk.” But if the problem persists longer than you feel it should, don’t ignore it.

When your ability to reason and consider things rationally becomes impaired, do not poo poo the problem away and think it isn’t worthy of attention. Seek medical help.

Afraid to ask for help? Here’s how to change your outlook to aim high!

Final Thoughts

Loneliness and a sense of feeling lost can in many ways be extremely painful and difficult to deal with at best. However, these feelings can also serve as a catalyst for change in our lives if we acknowledge them and act.

Above anything, cherish your mental well being and don’t underestimate its worth. Seek professional guidance if you’re unable to distinguish between a sense of freedom for yourself and a sense of despair.

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