Advertising
Advertising

4 Easy Steps to Becoming a Morning Person (And Making It Stick)

4 Easy Steps to Becoming a Morning Person (And Making It Stick)

On what felt like just another Sunday morning, it finally hit me. In the five minutes I spent trying to make out the outline of my take-away coffee, my girlfriend at the time had changed out of her running clothes, bounced up next to me and finished listing her favourite moments of the morning.

She had proudly completed a personal best run, the rose bushes were now blooming, she’d picked up some fruit for breakfast and the new girl at the cafe had finally remembered her name. As she recalled the memories, her skin glowing in the warm morning light, it all finally clicked.

At that exact moment it suddenly hit me how much life I was missing out on.

Advertising

There’s a common myth that we are born a night owl or an early bird, but as I soon realised, this is simply not true. Drawing on techniques from visualisation, fitness and mindfulness you can teach your body to wake up early and transform your schedule in the space of a few weeks.

If you follow these 4 easy steps you will soon be feeling like a brand new person and have more energy than you ever thought possible.

1. Write Down Why You Want To Become a Morning Person

Maybe you would love to be more productive, have time for a nutritious breakfast or simply feel more alive during the day. Whatever it is, write it all down on a piece of paper. How would having these things make you feel? Healthy? Full of energy? More fulfilled? Get everything down. When it’s finished, place the paper next to your bed or pin it where you can see it easily when waking up.

Advertising

2. Choose a Morning Routine

Next you need to choose some activities to kick start your morning. Studies show that repeating physical and mental tasks help strengthen the habit-forming part of your brain. In other words, the more you repeat the same tasks in the same order, the better you will get at doing it without thinking!

I start my mornings with a gym session or a morning walk, meditation and preparing a healthy breakfast. You could try things like writing in a journal, brewing coffee, reading or even studying. Make sure you choose 1-3 activities that you find uplifting or useful, that take anywhere from 20 minutes to 2 hours to complete. It’s completely up to you.

Don’t worry too much about getting it ‘right’ the first time – as long as you have a pre-decided routine, that’s half the battle won.

Advertising

3. Visualise Your Morning Routine At Night

In the final moments before drifting off to sleep, imagine yourself waking up the next morning and performing your routine in the right order. To make it more effective, focus on the little things – the feeling of dragging yourself off your mattress, how your coffee smells, or the cool fabric of gym clothes on your skin. Breathe in the air, and remind yourself that you’re becoming a morning person (and nothing will stop you!).

Run through this several times before you go to sleep, until it feels comfortable. After one or two weeks, your body will actually remember your routine as a habit and you won’t even have to put effort into getting up.

4. Practice Mindfulness

Every morning, as you’re going through your routine, try to stay present and focus on how alive (or un-alive) your body feels. When your mind starts telling you things like ‘it’s too cold!’ or ‘it’s way too early for this!’ try to focus back on your body’s sensations. If you catch yourself deep in thought, accept that it’s a thought, and reconnect your concentration on your current activity, or your breath.

Advertising

When you’ve completed your routine each morning, take a moment to smile and congratulate yourself. As the days and weeks go past, remember to savour all of those feelings you wrote down on that paper, so when you have a difficult morning it will be easy to get back on track.

Try it And You Won’t Go Back

I challenge you to give it a shot and experience the difference. It might seem hard at first, but you’re stronger than that. If you keep at it for a week your brain will have already made it up to three times easier than day 1.

Then you will look back on all those years of wallowing under the sheets that could have been spent enjoying the serenity, energy and vitality that comes from truly becoming a morning person.

Featured photo credit: Viktor Hanacek via picjumbo.com

More by this author

This Is How Negative Emotions Cause Pain On Different Body Parts girl with hood 4 Easy Steps to Becoming a Morning Person (And Making It Stick) girl in quarter-life crisis 10 Signs You Are Having A Quarter-Life Crisis (But It’s Perfectly Fine)

Trending in Health

1 How to Get Deep Sleep in 5 Steps Naturally 2 The Ultimate Exercises to Improve Posture (Simple and Effective) 3 Does Keto Weight Loss Diet Plan Actually Work? 4 9 Best Blood Pressure Monitors You Can Use at Home 5 How to Control Your Thoughts and Be the Master of Your Mind

Read Next

Advertising
Advertising
Advertising

Last Updated on July 10, 2020

How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

How to Take Control of Your Life with Better Boundaries

We all have them—those hurtful, frustrating, offensive, manipulative people in our lives. No matter how hard we try to surround ourselves with positive and kind people, there will always be those who will disrespect, insult, berate, and misuse you if we allow them to.

We may, for a variety of reasons, not be able to avoid them, but we can determine how we interact with them and how we allow them to interact with us.

So, how to take control of your life and stop being pushed around?

Learning to set clear firm boundaries with the people in our lives at work and in our personal lives is the best way to protect ourselves from the negative effects of this kind of behavior.

What Boundaries Are (And What They’re Not)

Boundaries are limits

—they are not threats or ultimatums. Boundaries inform or teach. They are not a form of punishment.

Boundaries are firm lines—determined by you—which cannot be crossed by those around you. They are guidelines for how you will allow others to treat you and what kind of behaviors you will expect.

Advertising

Healthy personal boundaries help protect you from physical or emotional pain. You may also need to set firm boundaries at work to ensure you and your time are not disrespected. Don’t allow others to take advantage of your kindness and generosity.

Clear boundaries communicate to others that you demand respect and consideration—that you are willing to stand up for yourself and that you will not be a doormat for anyone. They are a “no trespassing” sign that makes it very clear when a line has been crossed and that there will be consequences for doing so.

Boundaries are not set with the intention of changing other people. They may change how people interact with you, but they are more about enforcing your needs than attempting to change the general behavior and attitude of others.

How to Establish Boundaries and Take Control of Your Life

Here are some ways that you can establish boundaries and take control of your life.

1. Self-Awareness Comes First

Before you can establish boundaries with others, you first need to understand what your needs are.

You are entitled to respect. You have the right to protect yourself from inappropriate or offensive behavior. Setting boundaries is a way of honoring your needs.

To set appropriate boundaries, you need to be clear about what healthy behaviors look like—what healthy relationships look like.

Advertising

You first have to become more aware of your feelings and honest with yourself about your expectations and what you feel is appropriate behavior:

  • Where do you need to establish better boundaries?
  • When do you feel disrespected?
  • When do you feel violated, frustrated, or angered by the behavior of others?
  • In what situations do you feel you are being mistreated or taken advantage of?
  • When do you want to be alone?
  • How much space do you need?

You need to honor your own needs and boundaries before you can expect others to honor them. This allows you to take control of your life.

2. Clear Communication Is Essential

Inform others clearly and directly what your expectations are. It is essential to have clear communication if you want others to respect your boundaries. Explain in an honest and respectful tone what you find offensive or unacceptable.

Many people simply aren’t aware that they are behaving inappropriately. They may never have been taught proper manners or consideration for others.

3. Be Specific but Don’t Blame

Taking a blaming or punishing attitude automatically puts people on the defensive. People will not listen when they feel attacked. It’s part of human nature.

That said, you do not need to overexplain or defend yourself. Boundaries are not open to compromise.

Sample language:

Advertising

  • “You may not…yell or raise your voice to me…”
  • “I need…to be treated with respect…”
  • “It’s not okay when…you take things from my desk without asking…”
  • “I won’t…do your work…cover for you anymore…”
  • “It’s not acceptable when…you ridicule or insult me…”
  • “I am uncomfortable when…you use offensive language”
  • “I will no longer be able to…lend you money…”

Being able to communicate these without sounding accusatory is essential if you want others to respect your boundaries so you can take control of your life.

4. Consequences Are Often Necessary

Determine what the appropriate consequences will be when boundaries are crossed. If it’s appropriate, be clear about those consequences upfront when communicating those boundaries to others.

Follow through. People won’t respect your boundaries if you don’t enforce them.

Standing our ground and forcing consequences doesn’t come easily to us. We want to be nice. We want people to like us, but we shouldn’t have to trade our self-respect to gain friends or to achieve success.

We may be tempted to let minor disrespect slide to avoid conflict, but as the familiar saying goes, “if you give people an inch, they’ll take a mile.”

It’s much easier to address offensive or inappropriate behavior now than to wait until that behavior has gotten completely out of hand.

It’s also important to remember that positive reinforcement is even more powerful than negative consequences. When people do alter the way they treat you, acknowledge it. Let people know that you notice and appreciate their efforts.

Advertising

Final Thoughts

Respect is always a valid reason for setting a boundary. Don’t defend yourself or your needs. Boundaries are often necessary to protect your time, your space, and your feelings. And these are essential if you want to take control of your life.

Start with the easiest boundaries first. Setting boundaries is a skill that needs to be practiced. Enlist support from others if necessary. Inform people immediately when they have crossed the line.

Don’t wait. Communicate politely and directly. Be clear about the consequences and follow them through.

The better you become at setting your own boundaries, the better you become at recognizing and respecting the boundaries of others.

Remember that establishing boundaries is your right. You are entitled to respect. You can’t control how other people behave, but you do have control over the way you allow people to treat you.

Learning to set boundaries is not always easy, but with time, it will become more comfortable. You may eventually find that boundaries become automatic and you no longer need to consciously set them.

They will simply become a natural extension of your self-respect.

Featured photo credit: Thomas Kelley via unsplash.com

Read Next