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10 Handy Tips for Effectively Talking to Your Teen About Heroin Use

10 Handy Tips for Effectively Talking to Your Teen About Heroin Use

Let’s face it, talking to teenagers about nearly anything—let alone drug use—is far from easy. The last thing they want is their parents confronting them about using heroin.

Whether you found a heroin kit in your child’s bedroom or you recognized the physical and behavioral symptoms, it’s time to have a serious talk. But how do you approach your teen without getting a door slammed in your face?

1. Create A Defensive-Free Zone

Threats or rants will get you tuned out in the blink of an eye. Choose a time when you’re not stressed or rushed, and if your teen is open to the idea, consider spending some quality time watching a movie or eating out. After the credits roll, express your concern and ask what’s been going on. Pick a place that’s private and out of earshot of siblings or other family members.

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2. Map Out A Plan

Decide who’s going to talk with your teen—you, your spouse, or both of you. Plan what you’re going to say. Write it out. Practice it in front of the mirror. Anticipate different scenarios from your angst-ridden teen. Prepare responses for 1) vehement denials about using heroin, 2) claims of experimentation or a passing phase, and/or 3) admitting to needing help.

3. Keep Emotions In Check

It’s easy for the conversation to go from telling your teen you’re worried to shouts, arguments, and hurt feelings. This may be one of the toughest conversations you’ll ever have with your child, and your emotions are bound to go haywire. It’s okay for your teen to see the concern in your face, but if you’re so emotional that you can’t hold your composure, you won’t make headway.

4. Tell Your Teen What You See

Let your teen know you’ve found blatant evidence, like syringes, burnt spoons, or the drug itself. Explain any signs and symptoms you’ve noticed, like a change in appearance, failing grades, or needle tracks. Teens using drugs often cut ties with good friends and drop out of sports or activities they used to love. Point out that all of these things make you suspicious. Whether your child admits to using or not, he or she at least needs to know you know what’s up.

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5. Be Prepared For Denial

It’s a fact: drug users lie. They’ll say anything to convince others they’re not using drugs. Even if you’re holding a bag of heroin you found in a dresser drawer, your teen will slap the blame on someone else. If your child becomes agitated and you’re not getting anywhere, table the conversation for later. Show your teen that actions have consequences, like grounding, removal of a cell phone, or freezing the weekly allowance.

6. Anticipate Teenage Rage

When teens discover their parents have gone through their rooms, personal belongings, or phones, they might fire back with accusations like “You’re violating my privacy,” or “You don’t trust me!”. Acknowledge that you love your teen and that you did what you did out of concern, but don’t get sucked into an argument. You’re doing what you can to help your child.

7. Present The Facts

Heroin use isn’t pretty. Give your teen the cold, hard facts—don’t sugarcoat them. Research the effects and dangers of heroin, including fatal overdose. Let them read about it. Show them pictures of long-term heroin users. Point out no one is immune to the dangers of heroin use, not even idolized celebrities who have ruined their careers or died from drug addiction. Heroin doesn’t discriminate—anyone can become addicted and any user risks overdosing, especially when users take bigger doses to get the same high as their bodies develop tolerance over time.

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8. Show Unconditional Love

Many teens reject parental affection, but they need to recognize that they’re loved unconditionally. Don’t accept or excuse your teen’s drug use, but let your loved one know that you’ll always be there to talk and that you’re willing to help your teen however you can.

9. Listen Compassionately

Your talk may lead to a conversation about drug use or related problems, from school and friends to issues with you. Come up with a plan to tackle any concerns. Teens need empathy from people who won’t dismiss their problems.

10. Get Support

You’ve taken an important step by reading up on how to talk to your teen about heroin use. You don’t have to go through it alone! Contact your child’s doctor or look into family counseling or rehab facilities. There are professionals who can help you and your teen.

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Talking to your teen about using drugs is challenging, but with your support, your loved one can get back on the right path.

Featured photo credit: HighwayStarz via bigstockphoto.com

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Published on November 7, 2018

How to Homeschool in the 21st Century (For All Types of Parents & Kids)

How to Homeschool in the 21st Century (For All Types of Parents & Kids)

In 2016, it was estimated that 1.7 million children were being homeschooled in the U.S, roughly 3.3% of all school-aged children.[1] Although this may not sound like a big portion of the population, the growth rate of homeschooling has been 7 to15% per year for the last two decades.

The burgeoning numbers are not a coincidence. There are tremendous benefits to homeschooling, including one-on-one teaching, adaptability to individual needs and learning styles, a safe learning environment, encouraging learning for knowledge rather than grades, and tailoring a curriculum to the child’s interests.

Is homeschooling something that you have been considering for your family? With all of the tools and resources available for homeschoolers in the 21st century, it may be easier than you think.

How to Homeschool (Getting Started)

After thinking it through, you’ve decided that homeschooling is the right step for you and your family. Now what? Here are the first things you should do to get your homeschooling journey started on the right track.

Figure Out the Laws

Homeschooling is regulated by the state, not the federal government. The first step is to find the current and accurate legal requirements mandated by your state in order to educate your child legally.[2]

The regulations can vary widely, from strict guidelines to no guidelines at all. However, don’t be overwhelmed by the legal jargon. There are many resources and local communities for homeschooling families that can help you figure out the logistics.

Decide on an Approach

Every child’s needs are different. This is your chance to choose the homeschooling style or combination of styles that best fits your child’s learning style and interests. A brief description of seven different homeschooling methods are listed below.

Supplies/Resources

Often times, purchasing a homeschooling curriculum is done too early in the planning process, resulting in buyer’s remorse.

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A curriculum is not always needed for homeschooling, and other types of free or less structured resources are readily available.

Find a Community

Getting connected with a community of homeschoolers is one of the most important parts of building a successful and thriving homeschool environment for your kids.

Look for communities online for virtual support or a local group that you and your kids can interact with. Partnering with others fosters better socialization skills for the students and provides opportunities for field trips, classes, and outings that wouldn’t have otherwise been a part of the homeschooling experience.

7 Different Homeschooling Methods

1. School-At-Home

Also known as Traditional homeschool, School-At-Home uses essentially the same curriculum as the local private or public school but at home.

The lessons can be completed independently, but more commonly, they are administered by a parent or a teacher-facilitated online school.

  • Benefits: formal standards, wide selection of curricula, same pace as peers, short-term friendly
  • Drawbacks: expensive, inflexible, time consuming, parent can get easily burnt out
  • Resources: K12, Time4Learning, Abeka

2. Classical

One of the most popular homeschooling methods used, it borrows educational practices from Ancient Greece and Rome. Subject areas are studied chronologically so that students can understand the consequence of ideas over time.

Socratic dialogue fosters effective discussions and debate to achieve beyond mere comprehension. There is often a strong emphasis on Great Books[3] as well as Greek and Latin.

3. Unit Studies

Rather than breaking up education into subjects, unit studies approach each topic as a whole, studying it from the perspective of each subject area.

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For example, a unit study about animals could include reading books about animals, learning about the classification of animals, figuring out which animals live on which continents, etc. This method is often used as a technique in other more comprehensive educational methodologies.

  • Benefits: promotes thinking about concepts as a whole, not monotonous or redundant, student-directed, bolsters weaker subject areas, beneficial for teaching multi-age students
  • Drawbacks: incomplete, knowledge gaps, curriculum-dependent
  • Resources: Unit Study, Unit Studies, Unit Studies Made Easy, Konos

4. Charlotte Mason

This Christian homeschooling style utilizes shorts periods of study (15-20 minute max for elementary, 45 minute max for high school), along with nature walks and history portfolios.

Students are encouraged to practice observation, memorization, and narration often. With a focus on “living books” (stories with heroes, life lessons, socio-ethical implications), reading plays a big role in this student-paced teaching style.

5. Montessori

Maria Montessori developed this method through working with special needs children in the early 20th century.

With a primary focus on the student setting the pace and indirect instruction from the teacher, this approach includes free movement, large unstructured time blocks (up to 3 hours), multi-grade classes, and individualized learning plans based on interests.

6. Unschooling

Unschooling is a learning model largely based on the work of John Holt.[4] The teaching style focuses mainly on the students’ interests, putting priority on experiential, activity-based, and learn as you go approaches.

For basic skills such as reading, writing, and math, a systematic technique is employed, but testing and evaluations are typically not utilized. Teachers, in general, play more of a facilitator role.

7. Eclectic/Relaxed

As the most popular method of homeschool, eclectic homeschooling is child-directed, resourceful, and non-curriculum based.

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Parents can sample any combination of homeschooling methods and styles or resources. One growing sector of eclectic homeschooling combines part homeschooling with part traditional schooling.

How to Facilitate Homeschooling with Technology

One of the reasons homeschooling is more feasible than ever before is due to the accessibility of tools and resources to enhance the learning process.

Email

Email is a tool that has really stood the test of time. Invented in 1972, it is still used today as a primary means of communicating on the Internet.

It is a great way to share assignments, links, and videos between parent and student.

Google Drive/Calendar

Google Drive offers a multitude of essential programs that can come in handy for homeschoolers, such as Docs, Sheets, Slides, and more.

With its sharing capabilities, easy accessibility, and auto-save ability, it’s easier than ever to organize and complete assignments. It will improve students’ writing and typing skills, as well as eliminate the need for paper.

Google Calendar is an excellent tool for tracking assignment due dates, planning field trips and activities, and developing time management skills.

Ebooks

Rather than invest in physical copies of books, ebooks are a wonderful option for saving money and space. There are plenty of places that offer a free or paid subscription to a wide selection of ebooks:

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E-Courses

When a structured curriculum is necessary for teaching a certain topic, an e-course is the way to go.

From watercolors to calculus, there are e-courses available about almost everything. Including different teaching styles that vary from the parents will encourage students to learn in different ways.

The visual and auditory stimulation will also be beneficial in helping students understand and retain the concepts being taught.

Some recommendations:

Youtube

Youtube is not just a platform for music videos and cats doing funny things. There are a number of Youtube channels that produce quality educational videos, free of charge.

Creating a playlist of videos for various topics is a great way to supplement a homeschool education.

Some recommendations:

Final Thoughts

Homeschooling in the current age looks much different than it did ten years ago. There are more options and more flexibility when it comes to educating kids at home.

Don’t be overwhelmed by the idea of homeschooling your children if it could make a positive impact on your family.

Featured photo credit: Hal Gatewood via unsplash.com

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