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Alcoholics Tell Us How They Feel And Think About Drinking

Alcoholics Tell Us How They Feel And Think About Drinking

Being an alcoholic can be a lonely and frustrating experience. Often, you feel like no one else has gone through what you are going through. The fun and buzz that you may have experienced when you first started drinking is long gone, and often all that is left is a feeling of despair and helplessness.

But there are many who have gone through the hard process of quitting. For them, it has been a long and difficult road.

For those of you who manage to reach sobriety, there can often be mixed feelings. Below are some comments made by alcoholics. They are divided into three categories based on how it feels to be an alcoholic, how hard it is to quit drinking, and how good it feels when you do manage to quit.

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How it feels to be an alcoholic

1. Alcoholism is lonely

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    source: https://www.quora.com/What-is-it-like-to-be-an-alcoholic

    2. The fun is lost

    Screen Shot 2016-03-04 at 5.40.48 pm
      source: https://www.quora.com/What-is-it-like-to-be-an-alcoholic

      3. The misery only becomes more horrible after I wake up

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      its shit
        source: https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/3j4ukp/what_does_alcoholism_look_and_feel_like/

        4. I hate the whole human race when I was drunk

        mrhyde
          source: https://www.quora.com/What-is-it-like-to-be-an-alcoholic

          5. I felt like I was a failure

          looks like
            source: https://www.reddit.com/r/AskMen/comments/3j4ukp/what_does_alcoholism_look_and_feel_like/

            It’s hard to quit drinking

            6. It can take years. But it pays off in the end

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              source: http://www.iflscience.com/brain/what-happens-alcoholics-brains-when-they-quit-drinking

              7. I can never have another drink

              people still
                source: https://www.quora.com/What-is-it-like-to-be-an-alcoholic

                8. The worst and longest nightmare

                nightmare
                  source: http://www.drugfreeworld.org/real-life-stories/alcohol.html

                  9. Talking to other alcoholics helps

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                  its been over six years
                    source: https://www.quora.com/What-is-it-like-to-be-an-alcoholic

                    It feels great after quitting drinking

                    10. It’s miraculous to be a recovering alcoholic

                    buried mother
                      source: https://www.quora.com/What-is-it-like-to-be-an-alcoholic

                      11. I’m giving my health, looks and reputation a chance to get better

                      first day
                        source: http://soberistas.com/page/personal-stories

                        12. Great thanks to the friend who helped

                        fast-forward again
                          source: http://soberistas.com/page/personal-stories

                          13. Busy work can help

                          i realise i am incredilbly strong
                            source: http://soberistas.com/page/personal-stories

                            If you have experienced being an alcoholic and have managed to become sober, then the feeling of a life regained is a reward in itself. If you are still drinking, quitting may seem like a daunting task. It may feel like you are beyond help or too far gone, but as you can see from other people’s comments, there is a way forward. It is possible to take that step and embark on the road towards recovery.

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                            Last Updated on January 21, 2020

                            The Best Way to Create a Vision for the Life You Want

                            The Best Way to Create a Vision for the Life You Want

                            Creating a vision for your life might seem like a frivolous, fantastical waste of time, but it’s not: creating a compelling vision of the life you want is actually one of the most effective strategies for achieving the life of your dreams. Perhaps the best way to look at the concept of a life vision is as a compass to help guide you to take the best actions and make the right choices that help propel you toward your best life.

                            your vision of where or who you want to be is the greatest asset you have

                              Why You Need a Vision

                              Experts and life success stories support the idea that with a vision in mind, you are more likely to succeed far beyond what you could otherwise achieve without a clear vision. Think of crafting your life vision as mapping a path to your personal and professional dreams. Life satisfaction and personal happiness are within reach. The harsh reality is that if you don’t develop your own vision, you’ll allow other people and circumstances to direct the course of your life.

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                              How to Create Your Life Vision

                              Don’t expect a clear and well-defined vision overnight—envisioning your life and determining the course you will follow requires time, and reflection. You need to cultivate vision and perspective, and you also need to apply logic and planning for the practical application of your vision. Your best vision blossoms from your dreams, hopes, and aspirations. It will resonate with your values and ideals, and will generate energy and enthusiasm to help strengthen your commitment to explore the possibilities of your life.

                              What Do You Want?

                              The question sounds deceptively simple, but it’s often the most difficult to answer. Allowing yourself to explore your deepest desires can be very frightening. You may also not think you have the time to consider something as fanciful as what you want out of life, but it’s important to remind yourself that a life of fulfillment does not usually happen by chance, but by design.

                              It’s helpful to ask some thought-provoking questions to help you discover the possibilities of what you want out of life. Consider every aspect of your life, personal and professional, tangible and intangible. Contemplate all the important areas, family and friends, career and success, health and quality of life, spiritual connection and personal growth, and don’t forget about fun and enjoyment.

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                              Some tips to guide you:

                              • Remember to ask why you want certain things
                              • Think about what you want, not on what you don’t want.
                              • Give yourself permission to dream.
                              • Be creative. Consider ideas that you never thought possible.
                              • Focus on your wishes, not what others expect of you.

                              Some questions to start your exploration:

                              • What really matters to you in life? Not what should matter, what does matter.
                              • What would you like to have more of in your life?
                              • Set aside money for a moment; what do you want in your career?
                              • What are your secret passions and dreams?
                              • What would bring more joy and happiness into your life?
                              • What do you want your relationships to be like?
                              • What qualities would you like to develop?
                              • What are your values? What issues do you care about?
                              • What are your talents? What’s special about you?
                              • What would you most like to accomplish?
                              • What would legacy would you like to leave behind?

                              It may be helpful to write your thoughts down in a journal or creative vision board if you’re the creative type. Add your own questions, and ask others what they want out of life. Relax and make this exercise fun. You may want to set your answers aside for a while and come back to them later to see if any have changed or if you have anything to add.

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                              What Would Your Best Life Look Like?

                              Describe your ideal life in detail. Allow yourself to dream and imagine, and create a vivid picture. If you can’t visualize a picture, focus on how your best life would feel. If you find it difficult to envision your life 20 or 30 years from now, start with five years—even a few years into the future will give you a place to start. What you see may surprise you. Set aside preconceived notions. This is your chance to dream and fantasize.

                              A few prompts to get you started:

                              • What will you have accomplished already?
                              • How will you feel about yourself?
                              • What kind of people are in your life? How do you feel about them?
                              • What does your ideal day look like?
                              • Where are you? Where do you live? Think specifics, what city, state, or country, type of community, house or an apartment, style and atmosphere.
                              • What would you be doing?
                              • Are you with another person, a group of people, or are you by yourself?
                              • How are you dressed?
                              • What’s your state of mind? Happy or sad? Contented or frustrated?
                              • What does your physical body look like? How do you feel about that?
                              • Does your best life make you smile and make your heart sing? If it doesn’t, dig deeper, dream bigger.

                              It’s important to focus on the result, or at least a way-point in your life. Don’t think about the process for getting there yet—that’s the next stepGive yourself permission to revisit this vision every day, even if only for a few minutes. Keep your vision alive and in the front of your mind.

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                              Plan Backwards

                              It may sound counter-intuitive to plan backwards rather than forwards, but when you’re planning your life from the end result, it’s often more useful to consider the last step and work your way back to the first. This is actually a valuable and practical strategy for making your vision a reality.

                              • What’s the last thing that would’ve had to happen to achieve your best life?
                              • What’s the most important choice you would’ve had to make?
                              • What would you have needed to learn along the way?
                              • What important actions would you have had to take?
                              • What beliefs would you have needed to change?
                              • What habits or behaviors would you have had to cultivate?
                              • What type of support would you have had to enlist?
                              • How long will it have taken you to realize your best life?
                              • What steps or milestones would you have needed to reach along the way?

                              Now it’s time to think about your first step, and the next step after that. Ponder the gap between where you are now and where you want to be in the future. It may seem impossible, but it’s quite achievable if you take it step-by-step.

                              It’s important to revisit this vision from time to time. Don’t be surprised if your answers to the questions, your technicolor vision, and the resulting plans change. That can actually be a very good thing; as you change in unforeseeable ways, the best life you envision will change as well. For now, it’s important to use the process, create your vision, and take the first step towards making that vision a reality.

                              Featured photo credit: Matt Noble via unsplash.com

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