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5 Top Things To Experience In Life (To Have No Regrets)

5 Top Things To Experience In Life (To Have No Regrets)

We all want to live our lives to the fullest, have meaningful and fulfilling experiences, meet great people, learn useful things and ultimately die without any regrets. But of course, our dreams rarely ever match reality and most of us simply and passively accept what we get, without pushing ourselves out of our comfort zones and ‘Carpe Diem’-ing the day.

But it doesn’t have to be that way. You don’t have to settle for a 9 to 5 workaholic lifestyle, you don’t have to keep adding items in your bucket list without crossing them out. Your life is in YOUR hands and you can turn it around any time you want, by the power of your will.

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Here’s a small list of 5 must-do things before you die.

1. Travel to 4 places that none of your friends have been to, and travel like a local instead of a tourist

We all would like to travel, but we keep making excuses. Either we don’t have time or we convince ourselves that we can’t afford it. The truth is travel doesn’t have to mean expensive cruises, luxury hotels and the standard sightseeing spots. You don’t need to vacation where your friends just did. You don’t need to book flight tickets halfway across the world.

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No matter where you live, there’s always places to see, things to do. Explore some offbeat places near your place and where no one you know has been to. And once you’re there, don’t book the most pricey hotel rooms and throw tantrums like a spoilt child. Instead, try to see it from the perspective of the natives and mingle among them. Not only will it save you from over-spending, it will offer a refreshing and vastly different point-of-view and teach you some invaluable life lessons.

2. Read 5 books you can comprehend but aren’t highly interested in within a year

Don’t stick to your favourite genres, but branch out. Say you’ve always had a vague passing interest in astronomy and the nature of the universe. Instead of turning to science fiction, try Stephen Hawking’s A Brief History of Time.

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Similarly, let’s suppose you love going to art galleries but don’t really understand the hype about avante garde art. In that case, pick up an encyclopedia on art history. Not only will you find that these topics can be quite interesting but this will also push you out of your comfort zone and expand your interests, thereby enriching your life.

3. Live abroad alone for at least 3 months

Sign up for an exchange programme or summer school or if you’re really up for it, rent a place like it’s something out of Eat Pray Love. It’ll work wonders. You’ll know more about yourself, have different world views, be exposed to varied cultures and understand how people are simultaneously so similar and different from each other.

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4. Make friends with someone you’ve never expected to be friends with

If you’ve always admired or liked someone from afar, now’s the time to show it. Instead of being afraid, do little things to befriend them. Offer to buy them coffee, say a few nice words and if it’s online, go ahead and send a friend request. You can even take it a step further and a send a message about what it is it about them that impressed you the most and how it helped you. Here’s a secret: people love sincere compliments!

5. Remove someone toxic from your life completely, with great determination

We all have negative people in our lives, who suck our energies like vampires. But really, it’s OUR fault for putting up with them. If you’re facing troubled times, it’s time to say goodbye to those toxic people and assert yourself. Once you cut them off from your life you’ll discover an exhilarating kind of freedom – like you’re the boss of your own life and can do anything you choose. And that’s exactly the life you deserve to live.

So what are you waiting for? Change your life NOW!

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Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

Easily Misunderstood by Others? 6 Barriers You Should Overcome to Make Communication Less Frustrating

How often have you said something simple, only to have the person who you said this to misunderstand it or twist the meaning completely around? Nodding your head in affirmative? Then this means that you are being unclear in your communication.

Communication should be simple, right? It’s all about two people or more talking and explaining something to the other. The problem lies in the talking itself, somehow we end up being unclear, and our words, attitude or even the way of talking becomes a barrier in communication, most of the times unknowingly. We give you six common barriers to communication, and how to get past them; for you to actually say what you mean, and or the other person to understand it as well…

The 6 Walls You Need to Break Down to Make Communication Effective

Think about it this way, a simple phrase like “what do you mean” can be said in many different ways and each different way would end up “communicating” something else entirely. Scream it at the other person, and the perception would be anger. Whisper this is someone’s ear and others may take it as if you were plotting something. Say it in another language, and no one gets what you mean at all, if they don’t speak it… This is what we mean when we say that talking or saying something that’s clear in your head, many not mean that you have successfully communicated it across to your intended audience – thus what you say and how, where and why you said it – at times become barriers to communication.[1]

Perceptual Barrier

The moment you say something in a confrontational, sarcastic, angry or emotional tone, you have set up perceptual barriers to communication. The other person or people to whom you are trying to communicate your point get the message that you are disinterested in what you are saying and sort of turn a deaf ear. In effect, you are yelling your point across to person who might as well be deaf![2]

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The problem: When you have a tone that’s not particularly positive, a body language that denotes your own disinterest in the situation and let your own stereotypes and misgivings enter the conversation via the way you talk and gesture, the other person perceives what you saying an entirely different manner than say if you said the same while smiling and catching their gaze.

The solution: Start the conversation on a positive note, and don’t let what you think color your tone, gestures of body language. Maintain eye contact with your audience, and smile openly and wholeheartedly…

Attitudinal Barrier

Some people, if you would excuse the language, are simply badass and in general are unable to form relationships or even a common point of communication with others, due to their habit of thinking to highly or too lowly of them. They basically have an attitude problem – since they hold themselves in high esteem, they are unable to form genuine lines of communication with anyone. The same is true if they think too little of themselves as well.[3]

The problem: If anyone at work, or even in your family, tends to roam around with a superior air – anything they say is likely to be taken by you and the others with a pinch, or even a bag of salt. Simply because whenever they talk, the first thing to come out of it is their condescending attitude. And in case there’s someone with an inferiority complex, their incessant self-pity forms barriers to communication.

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The solution: Use simple words and an encouraging smile to communicate effectively – and stick to constructive criticism, and not criticism because you are a perfectionist. If you see someone doing a good job, let them know, and disregard the thought that you could have done it better. It’s their job so measure them by industry standards and not your own.

Language Barrier

This is perhaps the commonest and the most inadvertent of barriers to communication. Using big words, too much of technical jargon or even using just the wrong language at the incorrect or inopportune time can lead to a loss or misinterpretation of communication. It may have sounded right in your head and to your ears as well, but if sounded gobbledygook to the others, the purpose is lost.

The problem: Say you are trying to explain a process to the newbies and end up using every technical word and industry jargon that you knew – your communication has failed if the newbie understood zilch. You have to, without sounding patronizing, explain things to someone in the simplest language they understand instead of the most complex that you do.

The solution: Simplify things for the other person to understand you, and understand it well. Think about it this way: if you are trying to explain something scientific to a child, you tone it down to their thinking capacity, without “dumbing” anything down in the process.[4]

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Emotional Barrier

Sometimes, we hesitate in opening our mouths, for fear of putting our foot in it! Other times, our emotional state is so fragile that we keep it and our lips zipped tightly together lest we explode. This is the time that our emotions become barriers to communication.[5]

The problem: Say you had a fight at home and are on a slow boil, muttering, in your head, about the injustice of it all. At this time, you have to give someone a dressing down over their work performance. You are likely to transfer at least part of your angst to the conversation then, and talk about unfairness in general, leaving the other person stymied about what you actually meant!

The solution: Remove your emotions and feelings to a personal space, and talk to the other person as you normally would. Treat any phobias or fears that you have and nip them in the bud so that they don’t become a problem. And remember, no one is perfect.

Cultural Barrier

Sometimes, being in an ever-shrinking world means that inadvertently, rules can make cultures clash and cultural clashes can turn into barriers to communication. The idea is to make your point across without hurting anyone’s cultural or religious sentiments.

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The problem: There are so many ways culture clashes can happen during communication and with cultural clashes; it’s not always about ethnicity. A non-smoker may have problems with smokers taking breaks; an older boss may have issues with younger staff using the Internet too much.

The solution: Communicate only what is necessary to get the point across – and eave your personal sentiments or feelings out of it. Try to be accommodative of the other’s viewpoint, and in case you still need to work it out, do it one to one, to avoid making a spectacle of the other person’s beliefs.[6]

Gender Barrier

Finally, it’s about Men from Mars and Women from Venus. Sometimes, men don’t understand women and women don’t get men – and this gender gap throws barriers in communication. Women tend to take conflict to their graves, literally, while men can move on instantly. Women rely on intuition, men on logic – so inherently, gender becomes a big block in successful communication.[7]

The problem: A male boss may inadvertently rub his female subordinates the wrong way with anti-feminism innuendoes, or even have problems with women taking too many family leaves. Similarly, women sometimes let their emotions get the better of them, something a male audience can’t relate to.

The solution: Talk to people like people – don’t think or classify them into genders and then talk accordingly. Don’t make comments or innuendos that are gender biased – you don’t have to come across as an MCP or as a bra-burning feminist either. Keep gender out of it.

And remember, the key to successful communication is simply being open, making eye contact and smiling intermittently. The battle is usually half won when you say what you mean in simple, straightforward words and keep your emotions out of it.

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