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5 Top Things To Experience In Life (To Have No Regrets)

5 Top Things To Experience In Life (To Have No Regrets)

We all want to live our lives to the fullest, have meaningful and fulfilling experiences, meet great people, learn useful things and ultimately die without any regrets. But of course, our dreams rarely ever match reality and most of us simply and passively accept what we get, without pushing ourselves out of our comfort zones and ‘Carpe Diem’-ing the day.

But it doesn’t have to be that way. You don’t have to settle for a 9 to 5 workaholic lifestyle, you don’t have to keep adding items in your bucket list without crossing them out. Your life is in YOUR hands and you can turn it around any time you want, by the power of your will.

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Here’s a small list of 5 must-do things before you die.

1. Travel to 4 places that none of your friends have been to, and travel like a local instead of a tourist

We all would like to travel, but we keep making excuses. Either we don’t have time or we convince ourselves that we can’t afford it. The truth is travel doesn’t have to mean expensive cruises, luxury hotels and the standard sightseeing spots. You don’t need to vacation where your friends just did. You don’t need to book flight tickets halfway across the world.

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No matter where you live, there’s always places to see, things to do. Explore some offbeat places near your place and where no one you know has been to. And once you’re there, don’t book the most pricey hotel rooms and throw tantrums like a spoilt child. Instead, try to see it from the perspective of the natives and mingle among them. Not only will it save you from over-spending, it will offer a refreshing and vastly different point-of-view and teach you some invaluable life lessons.

2. Read 5 books you can comprehend but aren’t highly interested in within a year

Don’t stick to your favourite genres, but branch out. Say you’ve always had a vague passing interest in astronomy and the nature of the universe. Instead of turning to science fiction, try Stephen Hawking’s A Brief History of Time.

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Similarly, let’s suppose you love going to art galleries but don’t really understand the hype about avante garde art. In that case, pick up an encyclopedia on art history. Not only will you find that these topics can be quite interesting but this will also push you out of your comfort zone and expand your interests, thereby enriching your life.

3. Live abroad alone for at least 3 months

Sign up for an exchange programme or summer school or if you’re really up for it, rent a place like it’s something out of Eat Pray Love. It’ll work wonders. You’ll know more about yourself, have different world views, be exposed to varied cultures and understand how people are simultaneously so similar and different from each other.

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4. Make friends with someone you’ve never expected to be friends with

If you’ve always admired or liked someone from afar, now’s the time to show it. Instead of being afraid, do little things to befriend them. Offer to buy them coffee, say a few nice words and if it’s online, go ahead and send a friend request. You can even take it a step further and a send a message about what it is it about them that impressed you the most and how it helped you. Here’s a secret: people love sincere compliments!

5. Remove someone toxic from your life completely, with great determination

We all have negative people in our lives, who suck our energies like vampires. But really, it’s OUR fault for putting up with them. If you’re facing troubled times, it’s time to say goodbye to those toxic people and assert yourself. Once you cut them off from your life you’ll discover an exhilarating kind of freedom – like you’re the boss of your own life and can do anything you choose. And that’s exactly the life you deserve to live.

So what are you waiting for? Change your life NOW!

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Last Updated on September 12, 2019

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

12 Things You Should Remember When Feeling Lost in Life

Even the most charismatic people you know, whether in person or celebrities of some sort, experience days where they feel lost in life and isolated from everyone else.

While it’s good to know we aren’t alone in this feeling, the question still remains:

What should we do when we feel lost and lonely?

Here are 12 things to remember:

1. Recognize That It’s Okay!

The truth is, there are times you need to be alone. If you’ve always been accustomed to being in contact with people, this may prove difficult.

However, learning how to be alone and comfortable in your own skin will give you confidence and a sense of self reliance.

We cheat ourselves out of the opportunity to become self reliant when we look for constant companionship.

Learn how to embrace your me time: What Your Fear of Being Alone Is Really About and How to Get over It

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2. Use Your Lost and Loneliness as a Self-Directing Guide

You’ve most likely heard the expression: “You have to know where you’ve been to know where you’re going.”

Loneliness also serves as a life signal to indicate you’re in search of something. It’s when we’re in the midst of solitude that answers come from true soul searching.

Remember, there is more to life than what you’re feeling.

3. Realize Loneliness Helps You Face the Truth

Being in the constant company of others, although comforting sometimes, can often serve as a distraction when we need to face the reality of a situation.

Solitude cuts straight to the chase and forces you to deal with the problem at hand. See it as a blessing that can serve as a catalyst to set things right!

4. Be Aware That You Have More Control Than You Think

Typically, when we see ourselves as being lost or lonely, it gives us an excuse to view everything we come in contact with in a negative light. It lends itself to putting ourselves in the victim mode, when the truth of the matter is that you choose your attitude in every situation.

No one can force a feeling upon you! It is YOU who has the ultimate say as to how you choose to react.

5. Embrace the Freedom That the Feeling of Being Alone Can Offer

Instead of wallowing in self pity, which many are prone to do because of loneliness, try looking at your circumstance as a new-found freedom.

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Most people are in constant need of approval of their viewpoints. Try enjoying the fact that  you don’t need everyone you care about to support your decisions.

6. Acknowledge the Person You Are Now

Perhaps you feel a sense of loneliness and confusion because your life circumstances have taken you away from the persona that others know to be you.

Perhaps the new you differs radically from the old. Realize that life is about change and how we react to that change. It’s okay that you’re not who you used to be.

Take a look at this article and learn to accept your imperfect self: Accept Yourself (Flaws and All): 7 Benefits of Being Vulnerable

7. Keep Striving to Do Your Best

Often those who are feeling isolated and unto themselves will develop a defeatist attitude. They’ll do substandard work because their self esteem is low and they don’t care.

Never let this feeling take away your sense of worth! Do your best always and when you come through this dark time, others will admire how you stayed determined in spite of the obstacles you had to overcome.

And to live your best life, you must do this ONE thing: step out of your comfort zone.

8. Don’t Forget That Time Is Precious

When we’re lost in a sea of loneliness and depression, it’s all too easy to reflect on regrets of past life events. This does nothing but feed negativity and perpetuate the situation.

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Instead of falling prey to this common pitfall, put one foot in front of the other and acknowledge every positive step you take. By doing this, you can celebrate the struggles you overcome at the end of the day.

9. Remember, Things Happen for a Reason

Every circumstance we encounter in our life is designed to teach us and that lesson is in turn passed on to others.

Sometimes we’re fortunate enough to figure out the lesson to be learned, while other times, we simply need to have faith that if the lesson wasn’t meant directly for us to learn from, how we handled it was observed by someone who needed to learn.

Your solitude and feeling of lost, in this instance, although painful possibly, may be teaching someone else.

10. Journal During This Time

Record your thoughts when you’re at the height of loneliness and feeling lost. You’ll be amazed when you reflect back at how you viewed things at the time and how far you’ve come later.

This time (if recorded) can give you a keen insight into who you are and what makes you feel the way you feel.

11. Remember You Aren’t the First to Feel This Way

It’s quite common to feel as if we’re alone and no one else has ever felt this way before. We think this because at the time of our distress, we’re silently observing others around us who are seemingly fine in every way.

The truth is, we can’t possibly know the struggles of those around us unless they elect to share them. We ALL have known this pain!

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Try confiding in someone you trust and ask them how they deal with these feelings when they experienced it. You may be surprised at what you learn.

12. Ask for Help If the Problem Persists

The feeling of being lost and lonely is common to everyone, but typically it will last for a relatively short period of time.

Most people will confess to, at one time or another, being in a “funk.” But if the problem persists longer than you feel it should, don’t ignore it.

When your ability to reason and consider things rationally becomes impaired, do not poo poo the problem away and think it isn’t worthy of attention. Seek medical help.

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Final Thoughts

Loneliness and a sense of feeling lost can in many ways be extremely painful and difficult to deal with at best. However, these feelings can also serve as a catalyst for change in our lives if we acknowledge them and act.

Above anything, cherish your mental well being and don’t underestimate its worth. Seek professional guidance if you’re unable to distinguish between a sense of freedom for yourself and a sense of despair.

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