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Why Starting A Blog Could Change Your Life

Why Starting A Blog Could Change Your Life

I started blogging regularly six months ago and it has truly changed my life for the better. My social calendar is full, I feel like I have a real place in the blogging community, and most importantly, I’m having fun. If you’re thinking about starting a blog but are not sure, here’s why starting a blog could change your life.

1. You’ll make new friends

It gets harder to make meaningful friendships as we grow older and we no longer have the consistency of a school environment to grow relationships. Luckily, the blogging community is full of lovely people ready to welcome you into their group. Once you start blogging, you already have a hobby in common with hundreds of others; and by visiting other blogs you can find people who share your secret love for existential literature or dancing around in your underwear to Beyonce (although that last one is all of us, ammiright?).

Most of the bloggers I have met, whether in person or online, have been really nice people and the community is very welcoming as a whole.

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2. You’ll learn things about yourself

Before I started blogging, I had no idea that I could truly engage people through my writing. I didn’t know that there were plenty of other young women out there who felt as lost as I did, or that there were so many of us who wanted to peek into each others’ make up bags and talk about how hard it is to get a job you love these days.

Your confidence will grow, and you’ll have the chance to do things you never thought you could, whether that be write about a personal subject, attend blogging events or to interview someone you look up to.

3. It’s a great hobby

Before I started blogging, I was always thinking about needing a hobby. I wanted to do something creative in my spare time that could become my ‘thing’. I bought a painting set but never got round to opening it; I signed up for guitar lessons but then I missed the bus and never went again. It wasn’t going very well.

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Then I found blogging. Blogging is such an exciting hobby to have; it can be done from home, it’s free and you can be as creative as you like. You can also blog about anything you like, whether that’s movies, beauty reviews, mental health or your family.

You can start out blogging for free on sites such as WordPress or Blogger, or you can pay for your own domain name and have your very own dot com. Those who are particularly creative can play around with theme designs and headers; and social media savvy bloggers can have fun building their brand online.

4. You’ll become a better writer

The key to getting better at something is practice, and blogging enables you to practice your written communication skills. You’ll get better naturally as time goes on, and you’ll find your voice.

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5. You could make money

Now, if you are going into blogging purely to make money then blogging is not for you. There are opportunities to make money from blogging, but it should not be your biggest priority. Making money from your hobby is a nice added bonus though.

6. It could even land you a new career

Not only is blogging a great hobby, but many bloggers have made a career out of it and now blog full time. This is not easy, though, and many bloggers who do it for a living have to supplement their income in other ways.

If you don’t fancy blogging full time, your blog could still land you a new career whether it’s in copywriting, social media, SEO, fashion or working in beauty. Your blog is a public medium for you to showcase your skills, and as you learn, you’ll gain new skills that could land you the job of your dreams. Many bidding journalists studying at university choose to blog in their spare time, gaining experience and getting their name out there; giving them an advantage when it comes to applying for their first, ever so competitive, entry-level role.

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I recently wrote an article on how blogging can help you get a job in marketing and PR at A Literary Cocktail.

Blogging is an ever-growing industry and as print media diminishes, blogging will only become more popular. What are you waiting for? Sign up, start writing and change your life!

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10 Powerful Ways to Influence People Positively

10 Powerful Ways to Influence People Positively

Most discussions on positively influencing others eventually touch on Dale Carnegie’s seminal work, How to Win Friends and Influence People. Written more than 83 years ago, the book touches on a core component of human interaction, building strong relationships. It is no wonder why.

Everything that we do hinges on our ability to connect with others and formulate deep relationships. You cannot sell a house, buy a house, advance in most careers, sell a product, pitch a story, teach a course, etc. without building healthy relationships. Managers get the best results from their teams, not through brute force, but to careful appeals to their sensibilities, occasional withdrawals from the reservoir of respect they’ve built. Using these tactics, they can influence others to excellence, to productivity, and to success.

Carnegie’s book is great. Of course, there are other resources too. Most of us have someone in our lives who positively influences us. The truth is positively influencing people is about centering the humanity of others. Chances are, you know someone who is really good at making others feel like stars. They can get you to do things that the average person cannot. Where the requests of others sound like fingernails on a chalkboard, the request from this special person sounds like music to your ears. You’re delighted to not only listen but also to oblige.

So how to influence people in a positive way? Read on for tips.

1. Be Authentic

To influence people in a positive way, be authentic. Rather than being a carbon copy of someone else’s version of authenticity, uncover what it is that makes you unique.

Discover your unique take on an issue and then live up to and honor that. Once of the reasons social media influencers are so powerful is that they have carved out a niche for themselves or taken a common issue and approached it from a novel or uncommon way. People instinctually appreciate people whose public persona matches their private values.

Contradictions bother us because we crave stability. When someone professes to be one way, but lives contrary to that profession, it signals that they are confused or untrustworthy and thereby, inauthentic. Neither of these combinations bode well for positively influencing others.

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2. Listen

Growing up, my father would tell me to listen to what others said. He told me if I listened carefully, I would know all I needed to know about a person’s character, desires and needs.

To positively influence others, you must listen to what is spoken and what is left unsaid. Therein lies the explanation for what people need in order to feel validated, supported and seen. If a person feels they are invisible, and unseen by their superiors, they are less likely to be positively influenced by that person.

Listening meets a person’s primary need of validation and acceptance.

Take a look at this guide on how to be a better listener: How to Practice Active Listening (A Step-By-Step Guide)

3. Become an Expert

Most people are predisposed to listen to, if not respect, authority. If you want to positively influence others, become an authority in the area in which you seek to lead others. Research and read everything you can about the given topic, and then look for opportunities to put your education into practice.

You can argue over opinions. You cannot argue, or it is unwise to argue, over facts and experts come with facts.

4. Lead with Story

From years of working in the public relations space, I know that personal narratives, testimonials and impact stories are incredibly powerful. But I never cease to be amazed with how effective a well-timed and told story can be.

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If you want to influence people, learn to tell stories. Your stories should be related to the issue or concept you are discussing. They should be an analogy or metaphor that explains your topic in ordinary terms and in vivid detail. To learn more about how to tell powerful stories, and the ethics of storytelling, take a look at this article: How To Tell An Interesting Story In 4 Simple Steps

5. Lead by Example

It is incredibly inspiring to watch passionate, talented people at work or play. One of the reasons a person who is not an athlete can be in awe of athletic prowess is because human nature appreciates the extraordinary. When we watch the Olympics, Olympic trials, gymnastic competitions, ice skating, and other competitive sports, we can recognize the effort of people who day in and day out give their all. C

ase in point: Simone Biles. The gymnast extraordinaire won her 6TH all-around title at the U.S. Gymnastics Championships after doing a triple double. She was the first woman to do so. Watching her gave me chills. Even non-gymnasts and non-competitive athletes can appreciate the talent required to pull off such a remarkable feat.

We celebrate remarkable accomplishments and believe that their example is proof that we too can accomplish something great, even if it isn’t qualifying for the Olympics. To influence people in a positive way, we must lead by example, lead with intention and execute with excellence.

6. Catch People Doing Good

A powerful way to influence people in a positive way is to catch people doing good. Instead of looking for problems, look for successes. Look for often overlooked, but critically important things that your peers, subordinates and managers do that make the work more effective and more enjoyable.

Once you catch people doing good, name and notice their contributions.

7. Be Effusive with Praise

It did not take me long to notice a remarkable trait of a former boss. He not only began and ended meetings with praise, but he peppered praise throughout the entire meeting. He found a way to celebrate the unique attributes and skills of his team members. He was able to quickly and accurately assess what people were doing well and then let them and their colleagues know.

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Meetings were not just an occasion to go through a “To Do” list, they were opportunities to celebrate accomplishments, no matter how small they are.

8. Be Kind Rather Than Right

I am going to level with you; this one is tough. It is easy to get caught up in a cycle of proving oneself. For people who lack confidence, or people who prioritize the opinions of others, being right is important. The validation that comes with being perceived as “right” feeds one’s ego. But in the quest to be “right,” we can hurt other people. Once we’ve hurt someone by being unkind, it is much harder to get them to listen to what we’re trying to influence them to do.

The antidote to influencing others via bullying is to prioritize kindness above rightness. You can be kind and still stand firm in your position. For instance, many people think that they need others to validate their experience. If a person does not see the situation you experienced in the way you see it, you get upset. But your experience is your experience.

If you and your friends go out to eat and you get food poisoning, you do not need your friends to agree that the food served at the restaurant was problematic for you. Your own experience of getting food poisoning is all the validation you need. Therefore, taking time to be right is essentially wasted and, if you were unkind in seeking validation for your food-poison experience, now you’ve really lost points.

9. Understand a Person’s Logical, Emotional and Cooperative Needs

The Center for Creative Leadership has argued that the best way to influence others is to appeal to their logical, emotional and cooperative needs. Their logical need is their rational and educational need. Their emotional need is the information that touches them in a deeply personal manner. The cooperative need is understanding the level of cooperation various individuals need and then appropriately offering it.

The trick with this system is to understand that different people need different things. For some people, a strong emotional appeal will outweigh logical explanations. For others, having an opportunity to collaborate will override emotional connection.

If you know your audience, you will know what they need in order to be positively influenced. If you have limited information about the people whom you are attempting to influence, you will be ineffective.

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10. Understand Your Lane

If you want to positively influence others, operate from your sphere of influence. Operate from your place of expertise. Leave everything else to others. Gone are the days when being a jack of all trades is celebrated.

Most people appreciate brands that understand their target audience and then deliver on what that audience wants. When you focus on what you are uniquely gifted and qualified to do, and then offer that gift to the people who need it, you are likely more effective. This effectiveness is attractive.

You cannot positively influence others if you are more preoccupied by what others do well versus what you do well.

Final Thoughts

Influencing people is about centering your humanity. If you want to influence others positively, focus on the way you communicate and improve the relationship with yourself first.

It’s hard to influence others if you’re still trying to figure out how to communicate with yourself.

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