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6 Keys to Winning an Argument

6 Keys to Winning an Argument

“That’s the beauty of argument, if you argue correctly, you’re never wrong.” ― Christopher Buckley

Everyone loves to discuss and argue about different topics, but oftentimes such argument leads to insulting each other with no conclusions determined. Debating is always a part of life, but quarreling up a storm is going to lead you no where and this is where the art of winning an argument comes in handy.

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Though it’s always best to keep the relationship with the opponent on top of your mind, you might want to do everything it takes to win the argument. If it is so, here are 5 keys to winning an argument you’d love to know.

1. Attack the basic assumption of your opponents

Once upon a time in ancient China, there was a great warrior. He won battles after battles with one simple trick: He attacked the feet of the opponents’ horses. So no matter how strong or fierce his opponents were, once their horses were hurt, they fell to the ground and became helpless.

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Same with arguments. Every argument has its own basic assumption. Once you identify and attack your opponents’ basic assumption, their whole argument would automatically collapse. Having said that, of course, you have to be sure that the basic assumption of your argument stands as well.

2. Know the facts

Information is power and if you’ve knowledge, you can provide absolute proof that you are right and are on top. Always make sure that you know the facts before you get involved in an argument. This way, you can make sure that you let no-errors and half-truths get in between your argument.

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Also make sure to not state something “true” unless you know about it. If you lie, chances are your opponent will get hold of it and you might not have anything to prove it. It’s also distressing to argue with someone who makes points on the fly and has no idea about it.

3. Stay on the point

The most difficult part during an argument is sticking to the subject you were debating on. If you or your opponent brings in a new theory completely unrelated to the topic, you’ll be discussing on a entirely different topic and you develop myriad of unnecessary viewpoints. There are times when a clever opponent will try to bring you on knees by changing the subject. If so, consider it a sign that he’s feeling threatened and is finding it hard to get back to the original subject.

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4. Stay calm and be soft

Raising your voice is never going to win you an argument and this is possibly the worst practice if you’re learning how to debate. You need to stay calm and focused all the time. The more you raise your voice, the louder you opponent will talk and it’ll turn out to be a yelling session without a conclusion. Staying calm will give you a lot of time to think and make good points to strengthen your argument. Remember, it’s not the person with the loudest voice who wins the argument, it’s the one with the most compelling points.

5. Don’t attack or play dirty

The key to winning an argument is by presenting good counter-arguments rather than blatantly telling that your opponent is wrong. Going straight and telling them it is wrong will only raise anger and the argument might turn dirty. If it’s your friend who attacks you, stay calm and never resort to name-calling or going on personal level. Social and racial slurs reflects that you are not confident and that you lack knowledge on the argument’s subject. Stay calm and play it easy so that your opponent can understand it was worth getting involved in the argument.

6. Stay silent

Right after you complete your point and make a strong argument, stop speaking and give your opponent some time to do all the talking. This will ensure that you get time to think on what your opponent blusters and fumbles which will help you to think of different other arguments to make. Many arguments are won by not arguing at all because silence is golden. It’ll make your opponent nervous and in an uncomfortable situation which puts you in an upper-hand to win the argument.

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Last Updated on November 5, 2018

8 Powerful Reasons to Love Your Enemies

8 Powerful Reasons to Love Your Enemies

We’ve all got our enemies; people who take pleasure in causing us pain and misery. Sometimes, the development of an enemy is due to certain differences in your characters and events have led to that. Other times, some people end up hating you for apparently no reason at all.

Regardless of how you got this enemy, as opposed to the paradigm of fighting fire with fire, consider the following reasons and see why you should actually appreciate your enemies. This article will show you not only how to not be bothered by your enemies, but how to actually foster love for them.

Read on to learn the secret.

1. It’s a practical lesson in anger management

To be honest, your enemies are the best people to help you understand your sense of anger management. When it might be true that your enemies have a way of bringing out the worst in you as regards anger, it is also true that they can help you in your quest to have that anger managed. You can’t get truly angry at someone you love and it is only in that time when you get truly annoyed that you learn how to manage it.

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Anger management is more effective when it is in practice and not in theory

Your enemies are like the therapists who you need, but actually don’t want. Inasmuch as you might want to hate them, they provide you an opportunity to control the anger impulse that you have.

2. It’s an opportunity for healthy competition

You might not know it, but your enemies make for great rivals as they help harness the competitor in you (sometimes, you might not even know or bee conversant with this competitive side until you come across an adversary). You get the right motivation to compete and this can go a long way to spur you to victory.

However, while doing so, it is also essential that you remember not to become a worse version of yourself while competing. Working against an adversary is tricky, and you need to ensure that you don’t cause harm to yourself or your morals in the process. Healthy competition is all you need to get out of this.

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3. Their negative comments can help you make a breakthrough

It is true that your enemies never really have much good to say about you. However, in as much as they might be talking out of a place of hate, there might be some truth to what they’re saying.

To wit, whenever you hear something mean or nasty from an enemy, you might want to take a step back and evaluate yourself. There is a chance that what this enemy is saying is true and coming to face that fact is a major step in helping you to become a better person overall. This is another testament to the fact that enemies can be therapists in their own way.

4. Enemies can also be powerful allies

Loving your enemies can also mean making an effort to interact and make peace with them. In the end, if you are able to establish some common ground and patch things up, you’ll have succeeded in making another friend. And who doesn’t need friends?

This can also help you in working with people in the long run. You get to hone your inter-personal skills, and that can be a big plus to your ledger.

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5. It gives you the ability to realize positivity

In a multitude of negativity, a speck of positivity always seems to find its way through.

Sometimes, a knowledge of the fact that you have enemies will also help you to focus on the many positives and good things that are in your life. A lot of times, we neglect what really matters in life. This can be due to being overly concerned with the enemies we have.

However, it is also possible for this acknowledgement to spur you to take a step back and appreciate the goo things (and people who surround you).

6. There might just be a misunderstanding

Sometimes, the reason why you have an enemy might be something very innocuous. You might not have known the cause of this fractured relationship and your enemy will help complete the picture.

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Simply approaching them will help you to understand the reason for the fracture. This, in turn, can help you to work towards healing your relationship moving forward. Misunderstandings happen, and you need to be able to work around them.

7. You learn to appreciate love as well

A constant reminder of the fact that there are enemies will also help you not to take those who love you for granted. Love and hate are two opposing emotions and it is possible for one to momentarily overshadow the other.

However, while you’ll always have enemies, there will also always be people who love you. These people need to be appreciated for what they do for you. Never let the hate projected to you from your enemies take the place of that.

8. Do you really need the hate?

The truth is that enemies bring only toxic emotions and generate bad reactions from you. If you’re truly to live a prosperous life, you can’t really be carrying all this baggage around.

Hate is bad and you should try all you can to get rid of it. It is a well-known fact that nobody can get really far in life while carrying a lot of emotional baggage. Well, hate is the biggest form of emotional baggage there is.

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