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8 Ways To Turn Stress Into Your Friend

8 Ways To Turn Stress Into Your Friend

We all face stress at one time or another. But, have you ever imagined taking stress and turning it in your favor? Wouldn’t it be great if you could cope with the all of the stressful challenges you’re put through in life by using that stress to thrive?

Stress comes in different forms. Sometimes it’s minor, like a flat tire or being late for work. Other times it’s major, and is caused by life-changing events such as the death of a relative, a divorce, or a large personal loss. However, the best thing to do is not to overthink things but to shift the way you handle stress and move forward. Check out these eight ways to turn stress into your friend:

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1. Unplug yourself

Everything in our lives seems to keep us connected or holds us back. If you are stressed, all you need to do is unplug yourself from your daily routine and live your life. Get out of your house for a day, but leave behind your cell phone and don’t check your email. Give yourself a break and see how it can do wonders in your life. Disconnecting yourself from all the daily activities you’ve been doing will give you time to ‘re-charge’ and be yourself.

2. Share

Stress can make you feel weak, and if you feel burnt out you need to talk about it. It can be with your partner, your parents, your boss, or anyone you are comfortable with. It’s also been said that sharing a problem is like cutting it in half. Talking to your closest friends will help you with motivation and will generate ideas on how you can move forward. It will also clarify your problem and open doors for different opportunities that you may not have noticed before.

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3. Sleep

In order to keep yourself healthy both physically and mentally, you need to get good sleep. Make sure you rest for at least 8 hours a day so that you can take the time to reflect and relax. There’s no need to rush. A proper rest will also clear out any negative thoughts that have been bothering you as well.

4. Keep moving

Lying around while you are stressed out is only going to make you feel worse. You need to get up and move in order to reduce your stress level and keep yourself calm. Make a daily exercise routine or join a gym. You need to push yourself in order to achieve what you desire.

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5. Focus

Stress drains your energy and destroys your desire to work. All you need to do is focus on different aspects of your problem and take your time to work through it. If stress gives you trouble, think about your life differently and concoct new ways on how you can deal with it. Focus on different issues that you are going through, make a checklist, and start finding ways on how you can solve them.

6. Accept that some things can’t be changed

It’s often best to accept the conventional wisdom that there’s no way to change the past. The best thing to do is accept the fact that everything happens for a reason and that some things are unchangeable. Learn to stop wasting time and energy fretting over past mistakes. What’s gone is never going to come back, so start living with what you have and seek new opportunities in life.

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7. Develop a positive attitude

Hanging on to your mistakes and feeling guilty all the time creates negative energy that can decimate your confidence. If you are stressed because of the mistakes that you’ve made, you don’t need to feel drained and frustrated. Seek help if you can’t make things right alone. Develop a positive attitude and try to let go of negative emotional anchors that simply drag you down. Learn new skills and do things that make you happy.

8. Create a new perspective

Stress can help you see life differently. For example, if you had a divorce and are stressed out by loneliness, go to parties, make new friends, and try to find people who you can enjoy life with. Maybe you and your previous partner were not meant to be together, and chances are you can find your true north if you move on. Learn from your mistakes and improve yourself; success is not far away if you change and start seeing things differently.

“You must learn to let go. Release the stress. You were never in control anyway.” ― Steve Maraboli

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Last Updated on May 21, 2019

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

How to Communicate Effectively in Any Relationship

For all our social media bravado, we live in a society where communication is seen less as an art, and more as a perfunctory exercise. We spend so much time with people, yet we struggle with how to meaningfully communicate.

If you believe you have mastered effective communication, scan the list below and see whether you can see yourself in any of the examples:

Example 1

You are uncomfortable with a person’s actions or comments, and rather than telling the individual immediately, you sidestep the issue and attempt to move on as though the offending behavior or comment never happened.

You move on with the relationship and develop a pattern of not addressing challenging situations. Before long, the person with whom you are in relationship will say or do something that pushes you over the top and predictably, you explode or withdraw completely from the relationship.

In this example, hard-to-speak truths become never- expressed truths that turn into resentment and anger.

Example 2

You communicate from the head and without emotion. While what you communicate makes perfect sense to you, it comes across as cold because it lacks emotion.

People do not understand what motivates you to say what you say, and without sharing your feelings and emotions, others experience you as rude, cold or aggressive.

You will know this is a problem if people shy away from you, ignore your contributions in meetings or tell you your words hurt. You can also know you struggle in this area if you find yourself constantly apologizing for things you have said.

Example 3

You have an issue with one person, but you communicate your problem to an entirely different person.

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The person in whom you confide lacks the authority to resolve the matter troubling you, and while you have vented and expressed frustration, the underlying challenge is unresolved.

Example 4

You grew up in a family with destructive communication habits and those habits play out in your current relationships.

Because you have never stopped to ask why you communicate the way you do and whether your communication style still works, you may lack understanding of how your words impact others and how to implement positive change.

If you find yourself in any of the situations described above, this article is for you.

Communication can build or decimate worlds and it is important we get it right. Regardless of your professional aspirations or personal goals, you can improve your communication skills if you:

  • Understand your own communication style
  • Tailor your style depending on the needs of the audience
  • Communicate with precision and care
  • Be mindful of your delivery, timing and messenger

1. Understand Your Communication Style

To communicate effectively, you must understand the communication legacy passed down from our parents, grandparents or caregivers. Each of us grew up with spoken and unspoken rules about communication.

In some families, direct communication is practiced and honored. In other families, family members are encouraged to shy away from difficult conversations. Some families appreciate open and frank dialogue and others do not. Other families practice silence about substantive matters, that is, they seldom or rarely broach difficult conversations at all.

Before you can appreciate the nuance required in communication, it helps to know the familial patterns you grew up with.

2. Learn Others Communication Styles

Communicating effectively requires you to take a step back, assess the intended recipient of your communication and think through how the individual prefers to be communicated with. Once you know this, you can tailor your message in a way that increases the likelihood of being heard. This also prevents you from assuming the way you communicate with one group is appropriate or right for all groups or people.

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If you are unsure how to determine the styles of the groups or persons with whom you are interacting, you can always ask them:

“How do you prefer to receive information?”

This approach requires listening, both to what the individuals say as well as what is unspoken. Virgin Group CEO Richard Branson noted that the best communicators are also great listeners.

To communicate effectively from relationship to relationship and situation to situation, you must understand the communication needs of others.

3. Exercise Precision and Care

A recent engagement underscored for me the importance of exercising care when communicating.

On a recent trip to Ohio, I decided to meet up with an old friend to go for a walk. As we strolled through the soccer park, my friend gently announced that he had something to talk about, he was upset with me. His introduction to the problem allowed me to mentally shift gears and prepare for the conversation.

Shortly after introducing the shift in conversation, my friend asked me why I didn’t invite him to the launch party for my business. He lives in Ohio and I live in the D.C. area.

I explained that the event snuck up on me, and I only started planning the invite list three weeks before the event. Due to the last-minute nature of the gathering, I opted to invite people in the DMV area versus my friends from outside the area – I didn’t want to be disrespectful by asking them to travel on such short notice.

I also noted that I didn’t want to be disappointed if he and others declined to come to the event. So I played it safe in terms of inviting people who were local.

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In the moment, I felt the conversation went very well. I also checked in with my friend a few days after our walk, affirmed my appreciation for his willingness to communicate his upset and our ability to work through it.

The way this conversation unfolded exemplified effective communication. My friend approached me with grace and vulnerability. He approached me with a level of curiosity that didn’t put me on my heels — I was able to really listen to what he was saying, apologize for how my decision impacted him and vow that going forward, I would always ask rather than making decisions for him and others.

Our relationship is intact, and I now have information that will help me become a better friend to him and others.

4. Be Mindful of Delivery, Timing and Messenger

Communicating effectively also requires thinking through the delivery of the message one intends to communicate as well as the appropriate time for the discussion.

In an Entrepreneur.com column, VIP Contributor Deep Patel, noted that persons interested in communicating well need to master the art of timing. Patel noted,[1]

“Great comedians, like all great communicators, are able to feel out their audience to determine when to move on to a new topic or when to reiterate an idea.”

Communicating effectively also requires thoughtfulness about the messenger. A person prone to dramatic, angry outbursts should never be called upon to deliver constructive feedback, especially to people whom they do not know. The immediate aftermath of a mass shooting is not the ideal time to talk about the importance of the Second Amendment rights.

Like everyone else, I must work to ensure my communication is layered with precision and care.

It requires precision because words must be carefully tailored to the person with whom you are speaking.

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It requires intentionality because before one communicates, one should think about the audience and what the audience needs in order to hear your message the way you intended it to be communicated.

It requires active listening which is about hearing verbal and nonverbal messages.

Even though we may be right in what we say, how we say it could derail the impact of the message and the other parties’ ability to hear the message.

Communicating with care is also about saying things that the people in our life need to hear and doing so with love.

The Bottom Line

When I left the meeting with my dear friend, I wondered if I was replicating or modeling this level of openness and transparency in the rest of my relationships.

I was intrigued and appreciative. He’d clearly thought about what he wanted to say to me, picked the appropriate time to share his feedback and then delivered it with care. He hit the ball out of the park and I’m hopeful we all do the same.

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