“What is a friend? A single soul dwelling in two bodies.”
Are you reminiscing about the days of your bygone youth with your friends and feeling nostalgic? Maybe the times you spent with your friends together during your college years, bunking classes and going to watch movies is all passing before your eyes. I know how much you miss the days when you were happily drunk together, or the moment you secretly lit that first joint in your dorm room. You feel the need to reconnect and share the same joy and ecstasy with your friends and you don’t know how to go about it, right?
Life is a journey and a lot of things change. You change. You take your own course in life and lose contact with old friends. Your friends finish school and take their own ways in life. However, the bond that existed between you and your friends makes you want you to rekindle the same relationship again.Advertising
Technology has made the world a small place to live in. Check out these 5 simple ways to reconnect with your old friends.
1. Join the alumni association
If you are looking to reconnect with your friends or your lab partner in high school or college, joining the alumni association is one of the easiest ways to do so. Most high schools keep track of their students even after their graduation and keep detailed information about their workplace, phone number, and current address. Try contacting them and, if you’re in luck, you are sure to find your friends. However, some schools and colleges might not be able to share information over the phone due to privacy issues which will require you to visit the institution and get the details in person.
Everyone has an email today and it’s almost certain that you have your friends’ email addresses somewhere in your old diaries or notes from your college years. Perfect. All you need to do is find the email of your friends that you want to get connected to and start hitting the keyboard.Advertising
Confused on how to start the email? Pick a subject like “Hey Dan, It’s Mark” and start writing the message saying that you’ve been trying to reconnect for a while and just wanted to say hi. Easy!
3. Facebook Message
Facebook is the world’s biggest form of social media today, with over 728 million daily users. Everyone’s on Facebook and it’s one of the easiest places you can find people to connect with. Even if you don’t know the email of your friend, you can find them just with their name. Even though you might get a lot of search results for the same name, you can find your friend through their profile picture. All you need to do next is add them or shoot them a message saying that you wanted to know what they’ve been doing lately.
Not just that, you can also keep updated with the progress of your friends by seeing their status updates, images, and videos that they’ve shared (if any).Advertising
4. Phone Call
Another option that you have to reconnect with your old friends is the telephone. All you need to do is pick up the phone, dial the number, and speak to them. If you don’t have their number, try calling their office (if you know where they work) or you can also use search engines like Google to figure out their current digits.
This might be an old school idea, but the voice of your friend, even if you leave a message, will keep you boosted and energized — and more likely to continue pursuing this reconnection.
5. Find a public database
A lot of information regarding people is available in public records and database that are available to access online for free. Sites listing Free Public Records allow you to find details regarding addresses, places of work, and relations for free. You can also call the city hall or the municipal government of the place your friend last lived to get details regarding their phone number and address, though it might take a lot of time.Advertising
Another free and simple-to-use database is a site called Pipl.com, which gives you information about the place of residence of your friend, with just his or her name, in a matter of seconds.
Getting in touch with your old friends can bring in a lot of excitement and nostalgia, all at the same time. Make sure to reminisce about the old moments while also planning to connect with them further and make new memories in the future.
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Last Updated on November 26, 2020
How Relationships Building Helps Achieve Career Success
As playwright Wilson Mizner supposedly said all the way back in the 1930s,
“Be kind to everyone on the way up; you will meet the same people on the way down.”
The adage is the perfect prototype for relationship building in 2020, although we may want to expand Mizner’s definition of “kind” to include being helpful, respectful, grateful, and above all, crediting your colleagues along the way.
5 Ways to Switch on Your Relationship Building Magnetism
Relationship building does not come easily to all. Today’s computer culture makes us more insular and less likely to reach out—not to mention our new work-from-home situation in which we are only able to interact virtually. Still, relationship building remains an important part of career engagement and success, and it gets better with practice.
Here are five ways you can strengthen your relationships:
1. Advocate for Other’s Ideas
Take the initiative to speak up in support of other team members’ good ideas. Doing so lets others know that the team’s success takes precedence over your needs for personal success. Get behind any colleague’s innovative approach or clever solution and offer whatever help you can give to see it through. Teammates will value your vote of confidence and your support.
2. Show Compassion
If you learn that someone whom you work with has encountered difficult times, reach out. If it’s not someone you know well, a hand-written card expressing your sympathy and hopes for better times ahead could be an initial gesture. If it’s someone with whom you interact regularly, the act could involve offering to take on some of the person’s work to provide a needed reprieve or even bringing in a home-cooked dish as a way to offer comfort. The show of compassion will not go unnoticed, and your relationship building will have found a foothold.
3. Communicate Regularly
Make an effort to share any information with team members that will help them do their jobs more effectively. Keeping people in the loop says a lot about your consideration for what others need to deliver their best results.
Try to discover the preferred mode of communication for each team member. Some people are fine relying on emails; others like to have a phone conversation. And once we can finally return to working together in offices, you may determine that face-to-face updates may be most advantageous for some members.
4. Ask for Feedback
Showing your willingness to reach out for advice and guidance will make a positive impression on your boss. When you make it clear that you welcome and can accept pointers, you display candor and trust in what opinions your superior has to offer. Your proclivity towards considering ways of improving your performance and strengthening any working interactions will signal your strong relationship skills.
If you are in a work environment where you are asked to give feedback, be generous and compassionate. That does not mean being wishy-washy. Try always to give the type of feedback that you wouldn’t mind receiving.
5. Give Credit Where It’s Due
Be the worker who remembers to credit staffers with their contributions. It’s a surprisingly rare talent to credit others, but when you do so, they will remember to credit you, and the collective credit your team will accrue will be well worth the effort.
How Does Relationship Building Build Careers?
Once you have strengthened and deepened your relationships, here are some of the great benefits:
Work Doesn’t Feel So Much Like Work
According to a Gallup poll, when you have a best friend at work, you are more likely to feel engaged with your job. Work is more fun when you have positive, productive relationships with your colleagues. Instead of spending time and energy overcoming difficult personalities, you can spend time enjoying the camaraderie with colleagues as you work congenially on projects together. When your coworkers are your friends, time goes by quickly and challenges don’t weigh as heavily.
You Can Find Good Help
It’s easier to ask for assistance when you have a good working relationship with a colleague. And with office tasks changing at the speed of technology, chances are that you are going to need some help acclimating—especially now that work has gone remote due to the COVID-19 pandemic.
Much of relationship building rests on your genuine expressions of appreciation toward others. Showing gratitude for another’s help or for their willingness to put in the extra effort will let them know you value them.
Mentors Come Out of the Woodwork
Mentors are proven to advance your professional and career development. A mentor can help you navigate how to approach your work and keep you apprised of industry trends. They have a plethora of experience to draw from that can be invaluable when advising you on achieving career success and advancement.
Mentors flock to those who are skilled at relationship building. So, work on your relationships and keep your eyes peeled for a worthy mentor.
You Pull Together as a Team
Great teamwork starts with having an “abundance mentality” rather than a scarcity mentality. Too often, workers view all projects through a scarcity mentality lens. This leads to office strife as coworkers compete for their piece of the pie. But in an abundance mentality mode, you focus on the strengths that others bring rather than the possibility that they are potential competitors.
Instead, you can commit relationship building efforts to ensure a positive work environment rather than an adversarial one. When you let others know that you intend to support their efforts and contribute to their success, they will respond in kind. Go, team!
Your Network Expands and So Does Your Paycheck
Expand your relationship building scope beyond your coworkers to include customers, suppliers, and other industry stakeholders. Your extra efforts can lead to extra sales, a more rewarding career, and even speedy professional advancement. And don’t overlook the importance of building warm relationships with assistants, receptionists, or even interns.
Take care to build bridges, not just to your boss and your boss’s boss but with those that work under you as well. You may find that someone who you wouldn’t expect will put in a good word for you with your supervisor.
Building and maintaining good working relationships with everyone you come in contact with can pay off in unforeseen ways. You never know when that underling will turn out to be the company’s “golden child.” Six years from now you may be turning to them for a job. If you have built up a good, trusting work relationship with others along your way, you will more likely be considered for positions that any of these people may be looking to fill.
Your Job Won’t Stress You Out
Study shows that some 83 percent of American workers experience work-related stress. Granted, some of that stress is now likely caused by the new pandemic-triggered workplace adjustments, yet bosses and management, in general, are reportedly the predominant source of stress for more than one-third of workers.
Having meaningful connections among coworkers is the best way to make work less stressful. Whether it is having others whom to commiserate with, bounce ideas off, or bring out your best performance, friendships strengthen the group’s esprit de corps and lower the stress level of your job.
Your Career Shines Bright
Who would you feel better about approaching to provide a recommendation or ask for promotion: a cold, aloof boss with whom you have only an impersonal relationship or one that knows you as a person and with whom you have built a warm, trusting relationship?
Your career advancement will always excel when you have a mutual bond of friendship and appreciation with those who can recommend you. Consider the plug you could receive from a supervisor who knows you as a friend versus one who remains detached and only notices you in terms of your ability to meet deadlines or attain goals.
When people fully know your skills, strengths, personality, and aspirations, you have promoters who will sing your praises with any opportunity for advancement.
At the end of the day, it is “who you know” not “what you know.” When you build relationships, you build a pipeline of colleagues, work partners, team members, current bosses, and former bosses who want to help you—who want to see you succeed.
At its core, every business is a people business. Making a point to take the small but meaningful actions that build the foundation of a good relationship can be instrumental in cultivating better relationships at work.
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